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Unpacking Your Business Journey: Overcoming Shame, Guilt, and Blame to Thrive

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Welcome to Episode 123, where we embark on a heartfelt journey into the realms of shame, guilt, and personal transformation.

We'll explore why it's often so challenging to open up and seek help when it comes to changing the trajectory of your life, especially in relation to money and abundance.

Our mission is to empower you to take control of your financial narrative, recognize your patterns, and ultimately move yourself forward toward a life of richness and fulfillment.

The Mental Struggles of Generational Financial Trauma

"Because how do you tell or describe any of this to any one of your peers or your siblings when all you feel is shame and disgust and confusion and you don't even know how you ended up there?" - Victim 1, Jeffrey Epstein

These words, though spoken in a different context, echo the emotional turmoil so many individuals face when dealing with financial traumas.

"I keep asking myself when did it happen? When did I turn right, instead of left? What choice was it that decided? What exactly did it, the thing - the one thing. The one step. The one flap of the butterfly's wings that brought me to this moment? How did I get here? Because I can't seem to retrace my steps. I'm scared." - Olivia Pope, Scandal

In this quote from Olivia Pope, we find a brilliant description of the mental struggle we all encounter when untangling the complexities of our unique stories and striving not to repeat past mistakes.

Feeling Shame about Your Finances

Shame is a powerful emotion that can be closely tied to our financial well-being. When someone asks you about your financial situation, do you feel a sense of pride and worthiness, or do you sense a tinge of shame and inadequacy? Many of us have experienced the latter, questioning our self-worth and decision-making when it comes to money.

Shame is not logical, easy to understand, or easy to escape, even for experts like Brené Brown. It can persist at a different level from your self-confidence, making it a complex emotion to address.

Money Guilt: What is it and How to Get Rid of It

Guilt, on the other hand, is the result of something we did or didn't do, said or didn't say, which violated our values. It's that inner voice whispering that we should have done better, and it can escalate if left unaddressed.

Both embarrassment and humiliation are more superficial and temporary emotions, easier to overcome and not usually associated with lasting self-worth issues.

Why Smart People Make Dumb Mistakes with Their Money

Recognizing patterns in our lives is like holding the golden ticket to transforming our financial situations. Just as with tracking your spending in your online bank app, patterns offer valuable insights into our behaviors and habits.

For example, when I analyzed my spending on fast food, it became clear that I was not only overspending but also harming my health. I had hidden shame about my body that stemmed from childhood beliefs, and it was influencing my choices.

Exploring the Path of Least Resistance

I decided to take the Path of Least Resistance and experimented with meal delivery services. This simple change helped me regain control of my portion sizes and led to significant improvements in my health and financial well-being.

Your journey may involve experimenting with different aspects of your life, whether it's your eating habits, spending patterns, or other behaviors. The key is to be open to change and willing to explore new paths.


You can take control of your financial narrative by identifying and challenging the invisible scripts that have shaped your beliefs about money. Awareness is the first step toward making lasting changes in your life.

So, are you ready to uncover your patterns? Are you inspired to take a closer look at your financial categories and make positive changes?

Join us on this transformative journey as we empower you to become a Value-Earner, unlocking your true potential, and moving toward a life of richness and abundance.

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