Growing Our Capacity for Grief with Alexis Sabatino

In the circles that I weave in, there is a lot of talk about death. And not only the end-of-life kind of death, but the death of culture, ways of relating, identities, and ways of being, too.

Ironically, I find this conversation to be so life-giving. As more and more people are shifting from the “concept” that something is wrong and into hands-in-the-soil style investigating, Death, Grief, Change begin to be more present topics in conversation.

From the lens of my own lineage of learning, I see the work of restoring and re-storying our grief rites as intercession and prayer work. Grief is not just sadness. It is a complex abiding. It is prayer. It is acceptance. It is the work of holding change. I call on Adrienne Marie Brown’s framework in her book, Holding Change: a book about facilitation and mediation in the emergent strategy way.

She says, “It is time to move towards ways of being that are focused on listening to each other deeply and accepting each other, whole. We need to learn ways of being in space together that help us see beyond false constructs of superiority and inferiority without asking us to sacrifice what has shaped us. We need to study being receptive and nonjudgmental with each other, letting the earth and community hold us until we remember we already belong.

I believe holding change can be sacred work, and I’ll admit it is most satisfying to me when the sacred is palpable in the room.”

I feel humbled and receptive to this way of being with our stories, our lives, and our bodies. There is so much to learn from grief. There is so much to learn from change. There is so much to learn about how to hold the realities that are unpeeling before us while also holding the futures and potentials that are ready to be brought forth.

This work of re-storying our grief rites and the ways we hold death is our culture is slow work. It’s presence work. And I’m so thankful for this powerful conversation with Alexis Sabatino who has committed her life’s work to support the collective in recalibrating the ways we hold ourselves through change.

About Alexis Sabatino

She is the Founder of the global women’s movement, She Heals Collective. She is a Healer, Mystic Teacher, Storyteller, Intuitive Coach, Rebirth Midwife, and "Rites" Facilitator. She guides women through sacred rites of passage into wild soul embodiment. Her passion is in resurrecting the wild self within by returning women to their ancient roots, original language, womb wisdom, alchemical bodies, and authentic soul essence. The She Heals community is in devotion to the evolution and rewilding of Womankind.

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