477: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships Part 1: Is It a Red Flag or Is It Just Human?

What nobody tells you about baby sleep, mom guilt, or your postpartum body || ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2R1q3RqAa5g You’ve been asking for an update on Monica’s life as a new mum, so here it is, unfiltered! In this episode, she shares exactly how she approached transitioning her 11-month-old son away from co-sleeping, how sleep deprivation forced a major shift in how she runs her business, and what she’s been doing postpartum to feel hot in a bikini again. What’s inside: 🍋 The mom-on-mom judgment around sleep choices🍋 Why babies can't actually self-soothe—and what really happens when they "cry it out" 🍋 The exact method she used to get her son to sleep better on his own🍋 The mindset shift that made the new sleeping routine sti🍋 Why nervous system regulation kept her from spiraling during the hard moments🍋 How she called in extra support for herself during this sleep transition🍋 Exactly what she’s doing to feel like a hot mum (hint: the energetic piece is key!) 🍋 Why energetic alignment does more for your postpartum body than any diet or exercise routine +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the waitlist — Juicy New Signature Program: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/waitlist2026 ⇢ Check out the classes — Gut & Skin Healing: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/gut-skin ⇢ Join the program — Be a Lover, Not a Mother: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/blnm ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/newsletter ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/book ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/podcasts Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://go.monicayateshealth.com/disclaimer

The burnout no one talks about, and the feminine way out of it || ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndGIGCNhtdI If you're a high-achieving woman who leads teams, runs a business, or carries the mental load at home (or all three), leadership and visibility fatigue are likely draining you. Monica dives into how to operate like a woman instead of like a man, and how doing so will help you become the healthiest, wealthiest, and happiest version of yourself. In this episode: 🦢 What leadership and visibility fatigue actually is (and why it's not what you think) 🦢 The so-called "healthy habits" that are making your burnout worse, not better 🦢 The stats about men in the workplace that nobody is talking about, and how knowing them changes everything for your career 🦢 The real reason AI isn't buying you back time🦢 Why the most valuable women in the workplace five years from now will have this one thing in common 🦢 Is rest productive?🦢 Big news: after 16 highly successful rounds, Monica’s Queen Alchemy program is no longer available, but the new, elevated version is coming soon—get on the waitlist below! +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the waitlist — Juicy New Signature Program: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/waitlist2026 ⇢ Watch the free live masterclass replay — From Roommates to Ravished: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/r2r ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/newsletter ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/book ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://go.monicayateshealth.com/podcasts Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://go.monicayateshealth.com/disclaimer

What he's not telling you, but desperately needs you to know || ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYQmN89ary8 We talk a lot about what being in your feminine does for us, but what does it actually give our men? In this episode, Monica dives into the biological, hormonal, and emotional impact your feminine energy has on him and shares real messages from her husband on what it’s like when she’s fully in hers (and when she’s not). If you’ve ever needed a reason beyond yourself to embody your feminine, this is the episode. What’s inside: 💋 How your relationship is either boosting or tanking his testosterone every single day💋 A man's #1 emotional need, and how you may be unknowingly blocking it💋 Why men and women need completely different things to feel loved, and what those actually are 💋 Why your joy is rocket fuel to his masculinity—and how most women strip themselves of it💋 The dynamic that makes good men quietly stop trying, and what actually motivates them to step up💋 Why criticism makes men retreat, not improve (and exactly what to say to him instead)💋 What it actually looks like to trust him, receive him, and let him lead💋Why "I can do it myself" is a trauma response, and what it's costing you and your man +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the program — BLNM LIVE: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/be-a-lover-not-a-mother?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Watch the free live masterclass replay — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=kit&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86  ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Listen next — Episode 477: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships Part 1: Is It a Red Flag or Is It Just Human?: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/477-healthy-vs-unhealthy-relationships-part-1-is-it-a-red-flag-or-is-it-just-human ⇢ Listen next — Episode 478: Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships Part 2: Fighting Is a Green Flag & Hallmarks of Healthy Love: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/fighting-is-a-green-flag-hallmarks-of-healthy-love-part-2  ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

Hotter after baby than before—and exactly how she did it. || ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1muLPn83INw In this episode, Monica sits down with Jacqui Kingswell, a former professional dancer turned co-founder of The Pilates Class and The Birthing Class, a leading voice in modern wellness, and a mum of two, to unpack what it really takes to feel like yourself again after having a baby—from healing your body the right way postpartum, to navigating the identity shift that comes with motherhood, to running a business alongside your husband without losing your mind or your self-trust. Also inside the conversation: 🪞 How Jacqui got more toned (and honestly sexier!) after becoming a mum🪞 Ab separation: what it is, why most women are fixing it wrong, and how to actually heal it 🪞 The 5-minute rule that gets you on the mat even on your worst days 🪞 Why working out needs to feel like self-love, not punishment 🪞 Your feminine intuition is your greatest business asset🪞 What really happened when Jacqui's husband went from breadwinner to her business partner 🪞 How becoming a mum completely shifted the direction of Jacqui's brand 🪞 Why outsourcing your decisions to AI is ruining your self-trust (and what to tune into instead) +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Connect with Jacqui: https://www.instagram.com/jacquikingswell/ ⇢ Join The Pilates Class — Use code MONICA20 for 20% off a month (for both new and existing members): https://thepilatesclass.com/ ⇢ Check out The Birthing Class: https://thebirthingclass.co/  ⇢ Join the free live masterclass — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86  ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

Control got you here, but it's also what's keeping you stuck. ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbENttKi0Jg In this episode, Monica breaks down why control has been your biggest asset AND your biggest block, what it’s actually costing you, and how to start releasing it without feeling like your whole life is going to fall apart. She talks about: 🪞 How control is a trauma response, and how it’s holding you back🪞 Why your 34-step morning routine is setting you up for massive failure🪞 The difference between conscious control and control as a trauma response🪞 Why discipline and structure are good—until they turn you into a control freak🪞 How your hyper-independence is blocking you from feeling how good your life already is🪞 The impossibility of being in a flow state and in control at the same time🪞 Why control freaks get addicted to stress and create drama when life is calm +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the free live masterclass — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Grab one of the last tickets — The Immersion 2026 in Paris: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/immersion?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=immersion-2026  ⇢ Listen next — 475: Why Your Inner Control Freak Is Ruining Your Life and Relationships (And How to Finally Let Go): https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/475-why-your-inner-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life-and-relationships-and-how-to-finally-let-go  ⇢ Listen next — 465: The Trauma Cycle Explained: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/465-the-trauma-cycle-explained-why-you-keep-repeating-the-same-patterns?_pos=7&_psq=trauma+cycle&_ss=e&_v=1.0&_gl=1*1w6juc5*_ga*MTIxOTI3NDA1OS4xNzQ4NTM0MjE2*_ga_XEFT8KE3Z9*czE3Nzc1NzEzNjUkbzYzJGcxJHQxNzc3NTc4NDQzJGo1OSRsMCRoMA..  ⇢ Watch the reel — Your Morning Routine is Ruining Your Life: https://www.instagram.com/p/DXsMETPD3d1/  ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86  ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directoryRemember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

Part two of this juicy convo is here, and Monica’s diving straight in. ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/19sNR5gwNVUIf you haven't listened to Part One yet, go back and do that first. These two episodes together are basically a whole masterclass on healthy vs. unhealthy relationships, and that foundation will help this land so much better.In Part Two, Monica is cutting through the fear-mongering, black-and-white relationship content flooding your feed and getting into what a healthy relationship actually looks and feels like.She gets into:💛 The red flag from Part One she forgot to mention (it’ll surprise you!)💛 Dr. John Gottman's Love Lab and the 5-to-1 ratio💛 What predicts relationship health more than compatibility or conflict style💛 The real truth about couples who never fight💛 How you can rewire his patterns without dragging him to therapy💛 Why co-regulation is the cherry on top, not the cupcake itself💛 What a healthy relationship actually looks like in practice💛 Permission to stop holding yourself to a standard that isn't real +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the free live masterclass — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Keep an eye out for the upcoming program — Be a Lover, Not a Mother LIVE: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/be-a-lover-not-a-mother?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=BLNM ⇢ Join the waitlist — Juicy New Signature Program: monicayateshealth.typeform.com/waitlist2026 or DM “new era” on Instagram ⇢ Listen to Part 1 of this conversation — https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/477-healthy-vs-unhealthy-relationships-part-1-is-it-a-red-flag-or-is-it-just-human ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries:  https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86 ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

Social media is flooding women's feeds with content telling them their man is dangerous, their relationship is toxic, and every uncomfortable moment is a red flag. And it's doing real damage. ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: ⁠https://youtu.be/Z5UaiSM1nYE In this episode, Monica breaks down the actual difference between an unhealthy relationship and a real, human one. This is the nuanced, no-BS conversation your algorithm doesn't want you to have. What’s inside: 🔥 Why "we never fight" is not the flex you think it is 🔥 Dr. John Gottman's Love Lab: the 4 communication patterns that predict divorce 🔥 Criticism vs. expressing your needs—are they the same thing?🔥 Actual gaslighting vs. your partner just explaining himself 🔥 How outsourcing your relationship decisions to Instagram is slowly ruining your intuition 🔥 The real relationship red flags that may be hiding in plain sight🔥 Part 2 is next week, and will dive into healthy relationships, secure attachment, and red flags that look like green flags +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the upcoming live masterclass — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Apply now — 1:1 Coaching: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/womens-coaching?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=evergreen ⇢ Watch the reel — Monica’s Reaction to the “Rape Academy” Article: https://www.instagram.com/p/DXXh59bD0bg/  ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86  ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Listen to the episode — 285: Are they a narcissist?: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/285-are-they-a-narcissist?_pos=1&_psq=narcissism&_ss=e&_v=1.0&_gl=1*1pbg2ei*_ga*MTIxOTI3NDA1OS4xNzQ4NTM0MjE2*_ga_XEFT8KE3Z9*czE3NzczOTc2MzIkbzczJGcxJHQxNzc3NDA0ODM1JGo1NiRsMCRoMA..  ⇢ Listen to the episode — 341: Trauma Bonds: How Do I Know If I'm In One? Plus, How Do I Get Out & Stop Attracting Them!?: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/341-trauma-bonds-how-do-i-know-if-im-in-one-plus-how-do-i-get-out-stop-attracting-them?_pos=1&_psq=trauma+bond&_ss=e&_v=1.0&_gl=1*jptulp*_ga*MTIxOTI3NDA1OS4xNzQ4NTM0MjE2*_ga_XEFT8KE3Z9*czE3NzczOTc2MzIkbzczJGcxJHQxNzc3NDA0ODQ5JGo0MiRsMCRoMA..  ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

Monica sits down to answer the juicy questions you left her on Instagram!⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/Q7JhDbZSiYsFrom baby sleep advice to maintaining polarity, healing trauma, getting started as an entrepreneur, cycle tracking after having a baby, and more, she really goes there with each question, as she always does.Questions answered:💛 How is your baby’s sleep going? Could you share tips for other mums?💛 How has cycle tracking been going since postpartum, like tracking ovulation and fertility?💛 How to live in polarity with being the breadwinner?💛 Why do men want you more as soon as you start to set more boundaries?💛 How do you let go of the non-toxic obsessing 100%?💛 Was it important to you to be married and have a house before having a baby?💛 Advice for 20-year-old women wanting to try out entrepreneurship, but have no idea how or what.💛 How to heal trauma without getting stuck in a loop?💛 Is there such a thing as too ambitious for a woman?Part two of this Q&A is coming soon, so stay tuned for more of Monica’s insights, tips, and honest advice for women balancing motherhood and ambition.+++++  As Mentioned In The Episode:⇢ Join the waitlist — Juicy New Signature Program: https://monicayateshealth.pro.typeform.com/waitlist2026⇢ Shop Monica’s favorite herbs (and use code MONICA20 for 20% off) — Peekay’s: https://peekaysherbs.com/ ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

Learn why you can't let go of control, how controlling behavior blocks your intuition and destroys the polarity in your relationship, and the path back to trusting yourself again.⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kG5NTlO3kHsHere’s what Monica gets into…🍯 The importance of trusting yourself over anything outside of you🍯 How your need for control blocks the connection to your intuition🍯 Scientific insights on the body’s second brain and trauma responses🍯 How to build safety within through vulnerability, trust, and somatic healing🍯 Tips for shifting from control to trust in your life and relationships🍯 The importance of embracing dysregulation as part of healing🍯 The power of surrender and living amidst uncertainty🍯 Her plans to host highly intimate, curated, and luxurious retreats designed to reset your nervous system and intuition (seriously excited about this!)+++++  As Mentioned In The Episode:⇢ Grab one of the final tickets to the final Immersion — Paris 2026: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/immersion?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=immersion-2026⇢ Listen next — Podcast Episode 426: NUGGET: What You’ve Been Getting Wrong About Nervous System Regulation: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/426-nugget-what-you-ve-been-getting-wrong-about-nervous-system-regulation⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86 ⇢ Work with Monica — 1:1 Coaching Application: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/womens-coaching?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=evergreen⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

In this episode, Monica vulnerably shares about the major ego death she’s moving through in her business, feminine intuition, letting go of your business identity, and why she ended her signature program, Queen Alchemy, after 7 years, 16 rounds, hundreds of lives changed, and thousands of glowing testimonials. This is the program that built her empire and that made her millions—and she’s letting it go. Here’s why…⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE:  https://youtu.be/GIY5PnhPohYYou’ll hear:🌸 The importance of trusting your intuition during major transitions🌸 The emotional process of ego death and identity shifts🌸 The personal growth and success that comes from letting go🌸 Why intuition as a superpower for women, both in life and in business🌸 How to use your intuition to guide major transformations🌸 Exciting upgrades coming to her business🌸 A taste of her new, high-level, nine-month signature program+++++  As Mentioned In The Episode:⇢ Join the waitlist — Juicy New Signature Program: https://monicayateshealth.pro.typeform.com/waitlist2026⇢ Read the blog post — Ego Death, Identity Shifts, and What's Next: My Biggest Business Pivot Yet: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/business/ego-death-identity-shifts-and-whats-next-my-biggest-business-pivot-yet ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86 ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer