176: Are We Coaching Our People Too Much?

In this episode, Kul Mahay explores whether leaders really need to be liked. He examines how the desire for popularity can lead to avoided conversations, softened feedback and difficult decisions being delayed. Kul argues that effective leadership isn't about winning approval, but about building trust while maintaining responsibility, fairness and integrity.Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

In this episode, Kul Mahay challenges the assumption that your best performers should automatically become leaders. He explores why technical excellence doesn't necessarily translate into people leadership, and the cost of promoting talented specialists into roles they may never have wanted. Kul argues for a more human approach to career progression, where expertise, creativity and contribution are valued alongside management - creating fewer accidental managers and more fulfilled people.Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

Can leaders become so supportive that they unintentionally hold their people back? In this thought-provoking episode, Kul explores the fine line between coaching and creating dependency. Drawing on leadership psychology, real-world examples, and years of coaching experience, he challenges leaders to rethink when to guide, when to step back, and how to build genuine confidence through challenge.Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

In this episode, Kul explores whether modern workplaces have become too afraid of discomfort. He challenges the idea that psychological safety means avoiding difficult conversations, disagreement, or failure, arguing instead that growth depends on facing challenge with support and respect. Drawing on leadership research and practical examples, Kul explains how compassionate leaders balance empathy with accountability, creating cultures where people feel safe enough to be challenged, learn from mistakes, and reach their full potential. Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

In this episode, Kul challenges the popular advice to "just be yourself" and explores when authenticity can become self-indulgence. He explains why effective leadership requires more than honesty - it demands self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and the discipline to manage your impact on others. Through practical examples and thought-provoking insights, Kul reveals how the best leaders balance authenticity with responsibility, choosing not simply to express how they feel, but to show up in the way their people need most. Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

In this special episode, Kul is joined by Vidusha Nathavitharana to explore how leadership is shaped by culture, humility, and collective responsibility. Together, they challenge traditional views of leadership as a position of power and discuss why true leadership requires collaboration, self-awareness, and the ability to let others shine. From competition and hierarchy to the future of human-centred organisations, this thought-provoking conversation examines what it takes to build leaders who create impact through people - not at the expense of them.Connect with Vidusha: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vidushanathavitharana/Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

 Why do highly intelligent leadership teams sometimes make poor decisions? In this episode, Kul explores the hidden impact of uncertainty, pressure, and group dynamics on executive decision-making. Drawing on psychology, neuroscience, and real-world leadership examples, discover how trust, psychological safety, and honest challenge influence team performance. Learn the warning signs that your leadership team may be drifting into reactive thinking - and how to stay curious, collaborative, and effective when navigating change. Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

In this episode, Kul explores why reflection is the discipline that separates good leaders from great ones. He challenges the idea that experience alone creates better leaders, revealing how intentional reflection transforms everyday moments into opportunities for growth. Drawing on research, real-world leadership experiences, and examples from the military and elite sport, he explains how self-awareness, humility, and learning from experience create lasting leadership impact.Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

In this episode, Kul explores why reflection is one of the most powerful yet overlooked disciplines in leadership. Drawing on research, real-world leadership experiences, and examples from the military, policing, and elite sport, he reveals how intentional reflection drives learning, self-awareness, and continuous improvement. Kul challenges the belief that experience alone creates great leaders, arguing instead that growth comes from learning from experience.Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/

In this episode, Kul explores how leadership language shapes culture, behaviour, and performance. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and real-world leadership experiences, he reveals how words influence trust, motivation, psychological safety, and even decision-making. From crisis communication to everyday conversations, he highlights the emotional impact leaders have through tone, framing, and intent.Kul Mahay has over 3 decades experience in the leadership space.  He works with organisations and leaders to develop powerful cultures of high value, and performance which is built all around their people._____________________________ABOUT THE PODCAST SERIESDuring these shows, you‘ll hear Kul chatting with fellow leaders from around the world, who are recognised as being at the top of their game.  Together they‘ll explore what emotional intelligence in practice actually looks like, and the benefits it could bring to your teams.It‘s a movement to transform the way we see leadership, and to create powerful cultures where people feel seen, heard, valued and appreciated.Please join the movement and FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE to this Podcast.FOLLOW ► https://www.linkedin.com/in/kulmahay-leadership/