480: Onyx A. revisits

🔸 Hazy speaks, avalanche, notes on MDMA-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Keep whipping, she might get it right eventually-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 My life's work: A safe haven inside my Self-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 I don’t excel in this area | (New_Job * (ADHD - medication))-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Legalize it. (The enthusiast turned up)🛌 See my tips for ⁠How to Go To Bed On Time⁠🎓 What I'd like to do differently: I sound low and unfocused, but didn't notice at the time. I had just returned from a couple days camping, thought I was recharged. I guess there was a lot involved in packing up camp, the drive home, unpacking etc. Or I'm depleted from MDMA. I only shared the more practical tips about “how to be more self led”; parts concerned anything more would be discouraging. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 The critic: You see them, dont you?-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Bringing the love forward. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸IBS & a desire covered by happiness🔹 Parts: Part feels stuck/lonely. Lonely forever. A grey clay ball. Memories of 4yo, doing stuff on my own. Sadness. Scared to try new things scared to be exposed scared of judgement.🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Too much hypothesizing. Listening back, trying to figure out what else was going on for me, and I see this was my first call since being back in America, and also I went to a (disappointing) concert out of state the night before. Otherwise, perhaps to do with a 1.5 year interim between this call and last, I might have had parts telling me to be cautious, uncertainty in me translating into making lots of guesses. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 What is it like to have a safe place to share?🔹 Parts: E: Lost. ill equipped. 12 yrs oldP: Disassociate: a dark black wall. A protective layer. "Poof!"P: the manager: skeletal form, "been around for ever". trying not to be lost🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Talk less, guide less, stay out of the way!-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire

🔸 Is Self actually genuinely connecting?🎓 What I'd like to do differently: If this is a self-like part or Sally, I'm trying not to pull the rug out from under it. I'm standing back, observing, keeping my responses more neutral / hypothetical like “I can imagine, *if* a part is hearing that ‘bring it on’, it might not trust...” I'm seeking input from the target, with the assumption that their potential pushback would verify my own. I could have gone deeper into “feel towards?”, sticking with the method of using the feelings to indicate Self's presence. Not as confident with working backwards from "Self feels x, Self feels y".Also checking my own bias, don't wanna assume *my* Self will have the same verbiage / pace as caller's Self. I have some crude metrics to use, but if I meet the Buddha, can I say for certain I would recognize him? I can only guide from where I am.Perhaps (more simply) all of this is just coming from my own protectors. After all, I’ve seen approaches by pros that, were I the client, I know my system would reject as pushy. As a guide, I'm not in a hurry. I'm to serve as a parts-detective, not the parts-police. Maybe I'm just lacking the courage / compassion (or experience) to confidently speak for my concerns. -----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire