The Need for Sexual Novelty: Toxic Boy vs. Sacred Man

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Ep. #814 | There is a core part of how you approach breaking a porn addiction that most guys get exactly wrong... unknowingly keeping themselves hooked, rather than leaving it behind. Discover what this critical switch it, and how it changes everything.Inquiries: [email protected]

Ep. #813 | Many men believe developing real sexual stamina is complex, or maybe even unattainable. On the other hand, some fall into the trap of thinking it's just about doing some kegels. The reality is that there are 3 simple dials - three "buckets" - that all the possible techniques and approaches boil down to. Understand and practice managing these three dials... and you can have the kind of ultimate control you desire and deserve.Inquiries: [email protected]

Ep. #812 | One of the most critical habits for improving erections, and a simple mental approach to help you get it done.Inquiries: [email protected] M, Bhattacharyya S, Miller LE. (2023). Effect of aerobic exercise on erectile function: Systematic review and meta-analysis of randomized controlled trials. Journal of Sexual Medicine.https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article/20/12/1369/7301709https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37814532/Gerbild H, Larsen CM, Graugaard C, Areskoug Josefsson K. (2018). Physical activity to improve erectile function: A systematic review of intervention studies. Sexual Medicine.https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5960035/Silva AB, Sousa N, Azevedo LF, et al. (2017). Physical activity and exercise for erectile dysfunction: Systematic review and meta-analysis. British Journal of Sports Medicine.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27707739/Esposito K, Giugliano F, Di Palo C, et al. (2004). Effect of lifestyle changes on erectile dysfunction in obese men: A randomized controlled trial. JAMA.https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/198993Begot I, Peixoto TC, Gonzaga LR, et al. (2015). A home-based walking program improves erectile dysfunction in men with an acute myocardial infarction. American Journal of Cardiology.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25727080/Maio G, Saraeb S, Marchiori A. (2010). Physical activity combined with PDE5 inhibitor therapy improves erectile function more than medication alone.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20367777/Bacon CG, Mittleman MA, Kawachi I, Giovannucci E, Glasser DB, Rimm EB. (2006). A prospective study of risk factors for erectile dysfunction. Journal of Urology.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16753404/Feldman HA, Goldstein I, Hatzichristou DG, Krane RJ, McKinlay JB. (2000). Impotence and its medical and psychosocial correlates: Results of the Massachusetts Male Aging Study. Journal of Urology.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10731462/Dorey G, Speakman M, Feneley R, Swinkels A, Dunn C. (2004). Randomized controlled trial of pelvic floor muscle exercises and biofeedback for erectile dysfunction. BJU International.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15527607/Chen Z, et al. (2024). Effect of different physical activities on erectile dysfunction: A systematic review and network meta-analysis. Andrology.https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/andr.13682

Ep. #811 | Sometimes referred to as the "Coolidge Effect", there is a biological need to have a sense of novelty in our sex life to keep our drive strong. Let's talk about the low vibration approach to this need vs. the high vibration approach - which will lift up your life and deepen your relationship.Inquiries: [email protected]

Ep. #810 | Most men approach masturbation on autopilot. Even guys who've moved into a mindful edging practice often skip the one step that can have a big impact what they actually get out of it: setting an intention.In this episode, I break down two distinct paths your edging practice can take... and why understanding the difference is a game changer.Edge for power, and you build libido, strengthen erections, and transmute serious energy into the rest of your life.Edge for stamina, and you build the control that transforms what's possible with a partner.The mechanics for each are almost opposite. Most guys are unknowingly doing some hybrid that effectively delivers neither.We get into:Why intention is one of the most underused tools in a man's life — and how your automatic mechanism is always working, with or without your directionThe specific stroke, pelvic floor engagement, and awareness placement for edging for powerWhy relaxation (not control) is the real key to stamina — and the stimulation shift that actually translates to lasting longer with a partnerThe small change to how you stroke that more closely mirrors partner sex (and why it matters more than you'd think)How to test your edges without going over themWhether you're brand new to mindful edging or refining a practice you've had for years, this one will sharpen how you show up to every session.Inquiries: [email protected]

Ep. #809 | Ask yourself: what turns you on?Now ask: did you choose those things, or are they just there?For most men, what turns them on feels fixed. Automatic. Just the way it is.It's not.What turns you on is one of the most powerful forces in your life. It shapes the depth of your relationship, the energy you send out into the world, and your power to create and manifest what you actually want. And it's far more programmable than you think.In this episode, we get into the two mechanisms running underneath what turns you on, why most men are leaving this force on autopilot to their own detriment, and exactly how to start tuning it to your advantage.If you've never considered that you can change what turns you on, press play.Inquiries: [email protected]

Ep. #808 | I share two recent experiences…switching to left-handed golf after 35 years of playing right-handed, and returning to yoga after a seven-year break (which has now led me into teacher training).Both moves came from the same place: a quiet call from underneath the conditioning. We’re conditioned in countless ways - through what we inherit, through our upbringing, through patterns we’ve reinforced for decades. Underneath all of that, there’s a softer, quieter signal pulling us toward our highest self.This applies in every domain, but especially in sexuality - where most men are running patterns they learned young and never questioned. The invitation is to listen to those little calls, even when they ask you to be a beginner again, and have the courage to follow them.Inquiries: [email protected]

Ep. #807 | Porn, alcohol, anger, compulsive thought, defensive reaction; different surface expressions, often the same deeper pattern...Something rises, and part of you immediately leans toward giving it action.This episode explores how to interrupt that momentum without force, how to stop feeding what does not serve you, and how small moments of pause gradually reshape self-trust, behavior, and identity.A simple practice, two words, big implications.Contact: [email protected]

Ep. #806 | What if your focus is shaping your sexual energy far more than you realize?In this episode, I break down one of the main levers to mastering your sexual flame: focus.We get into how focus directs energy, why so many men get stuck in a narrow hotspot of arousal, how to begin expanding pleasure into the rest of the body, and why this changes not only control and stamina, but the depth of connection you can experience with yourself and with a partner.Inquiries: [email protected]