Stop performing for love.

In this week's episode, we discuss how much social media influences our thoughts and actions. It is very easy to be influenced by social media as we are constantly consuming it, and we can often find ourselves believing everything we see on the internet. This episode talks about why it is so important to desensitize ourselves to social media and remember that a large majority of it is an opinion and others deflecting their own insecurities onto the internet. Just because someone states something to be true when it comes to friendships or relationships does not mean you should apply it to yourself. It is much more likely that it is a reflection of their own experiences and there is no one rule that will apply to everyone. Live your life the best way you can inform by your own experiences and think carefully about how much of social media you believe to be true. Support the show

In this week's episode we talk about how important it is to understand the differences we have with others. So many confrontations and problems arise when we find someone acting in a way we wouldn't ourselves. It is very easy to misinterpret this as feeling as though they're doing something wrong just because they're not doing it our way. Learning that others being different doesn't necessarily mean they are wrong will help you navigate a lot of your relationships in a much healthier way. The only way we can apply this to our life is by making the effort to understand our own behaviour and why we do the things we do in order to try and understand others. This episode helps to advise how you can go about understanding yourself better. Support the show

In this week's episode we talk about learning how to respond rather than react to a situation. Often we can find ourselves reacting in the moment to a situation and when we do this we can often come to regret the way we have acted based on emotions. Although it is not always possible it will help you so much if you learn how to take the time to process a situation and consider what the best way is to respond. Many arguments escalate and don't lead to a resolution as easily and calmly as they should because we are acting off emotions, when we take the time to respond in a healthy way we will find that problems are solved a lot easier and in a less harmful way. Have a listen to this episode if you'd like some advice with how to do this. Support the show

In today's episode we talk about the way in which our anxiety can often negatively affect the way we view the relationships we have in our life. This episode hopes to help anyone acknowledge that the way they think or feel about certain things may be irrational. Learning to acknowledge when a thought is irrational or is due to our anxiety, can help us to challenge these thoughts and feel better our relationships. This episode also goes through some healthy coping techniques for times when we feel like this. It is very common for our anxiety to try and convince us that people are out to get us or that we can't trust them, but it is important to acknowledge when it is our anxiety causing these thoughts rather than somebody else's actions. Support the show

In today's episode we talk about not being a passive receiver of all the negative things that happen in our lives. People can mistreat us and we can get hurt but unfortunately we are the only person that can resolve these issues for ourselves. Sometimes we may find ourselves in a rut, feeling unmotivated or miserable but yet make no attempt to feel better. Sometimes we have to realise when enough is enough, don't be a victim to your emotions or to the bad things that happen. Life can be cruel and unfair at times but we are the only one responsible for how we deal with it. Make the effort to improve your current situation and be proactive about being happy. Support the show

This week's episode is about learning how to truly value your own opinion of yourself and the decisions you make. We tend to do so much for others or avoid doing things in fear others wont approve. If we spend our lives avoiding scary decisions and taking risks in fear of what other's will say, it is only us inevitably that will suffer. You need to remind yourself who you are making these decisions for and who has to live with the consequences of your actions. And a scary truth we all have to accept is that people will say things, people aren't going to like you and you will be judged but this isn't something that can be avoided. The very least you can do is ensure you're happy with your life.Support the show

In today's episode we talk about motivation and being productive. Motivation tends to fluctuate a lot and so it is important not to rely your productivity solely on how motivated you are. The reality is sometimes you don't have the motivation to do something but you still have to get up and do it. Focus on discipline, better managing your time and becoming okay with the fact that nothing ever goes exactly to plan. If something falls off course or doesn't go exactly to plan don't use that as an excuse to give up altogether. Doing something as best as you can on that day is better than not doing it at all. Support the show

Today's episode marks one year of The High Life Podcast! This episode talks about learning to say no, setting boundaries and learning that we don't need to prove to anyone that we are worthy of their love. This episode is dedicated to my mum who has always taught me about the importance of saying no and who is someone that is very firm in her boundaries. A lot of us tend to avoid saying no in fear of not being liked, yet my mum is so widely liked and loved and doesn't sacrifice her own boundaries in attempt to 'prove herself' to anyone. Listen to this episode if you struggle with being a people pleaser and learn how to be secure in yourself. Support the show

In today's episode we talk about why it is unhealthy to put celebrities, the people we date and friends on a pedestal. We create an idealised version of this person in our head and set unrealistic expectations for them to meet. Doing this often tends to be due to our own insecurities, we see in someone what we don't see in ourselves or we feel as though is 'too good' for us. Putting some on a pedestal is not only unhealthy for you but it is also incredibly unhealthy and unfair on the individual you idolise. Listen to this episode if you need reminding that we are all equal and no person is 'too good, pretty or smart' for you. Support the show

In today's episode we talk about conditional happiness. Something a lot of us tend to do is give ourselves requirements for when we can be and will feel happiness.  We spend so much of our lives looking forward to the time when we have the job, the house, the kids and when we have it 'all figured out' but something we have to come to terms with is there will never be a time where we have it 'all figured out'. Problems will continue to present themselves and our lives will continue to change, stop waiting to be happy and feeling as though this isn't possible until everything in your life is sorted because you are inevitably setting yourself up to fail. Stop chasing this feeling and instead embrace the good days and get through the hard ones, you deserve happiness at all times, at all ages. Happiness is not a reward we have to work for to deserve. Support the show