Train for the Trigger

“Am I overreacting, or is something really wrong?”“How do I protect my peace without starting a fight?”Many women second-guess their own warning bells—especially when others don’t understand their sensitivity. Whether it’s emotional triggers, past trauma, or just needing quiet in a loud world, you know when something feels off.In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we explore the subtle intrusion of what Maurice calls “the third person in the room”—the influence that turns moments upside down without warning. Learn how to recognize those intrusions, build deliberate responses, and stop labeling your instincts as overreactions.Topics include:How to identify spiritual vs. fear-based reactionsWhy your first impulse to “talk it out” might backfireWhat it really means to defend your personal space with loveThe importance of rehearsing your response before the momentWhy unique triggers (even “uncommon” ones) still deserve respectHow honoring your spiritual space sets the tone for your homeThis episode is your reminder: your alarm isn’t broken. It’s trying to protect you.You’re not “too sensitive”—you’re learning how to stand strong in your sacred space.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/finding-balance-managing-stress-and-apathy-in-life/Rather Watch Something? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgKC-_nHGmECheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“Why do I fall apart when I thought I was ready?”“Why can’t I stay calm when things go sideways?”If you’ve ever been caught off guard in a moment that felt normal seconds ago…If your heart pounds, your thoughts scramble, and suddenly the conversation is over before it begins…You’re not failing—you’re just under-trained.In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we dive deep into the overlooked truth: self-mastery in relationships isn’t just about belief or insight—it’s about training. Just like a dancer drills her moves or a musician repeats scales, you must rehearse how you’ll respond to chaos, triggers, and miscommunication.Inside, we discuss:Why the "Holy Ghost" doesn’t use panic as a communication toolThe real reason you feel like the problem—even when you’re notWhat it means when your first thought is “he did something wrong”Why discernment is a drilled skill, not a magical momentThe fire drill method for responding to sudden conflictAnd how to reclaim your confidence with practiced spiritual courageYour mind, like your muscles, can be trained.But weeds grow by default—peace doesn’t.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/going-deeper-addressing-the-full-continuum-of-change-with-the-chemical-scale/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EoiexO35i_sCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“Why does it feel like even my best efforts get misread?”“Why do innocent moments suddenly feel contaminated or chaotic?”If you've ever tried to create peace, set a boundary, or have a good-hearted conversation—only to watch it unravel into confusion, hurt, or misunderstanding—you are not alone. You're not crazy. And you’re not imagining it.In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we explore how spiritual sabotage happens in real time:Why the “third person in the room” often hijacks what should be a calm or loving momentHow Satan blends good things with harmful ones—on screens and inside your thoughtsWhy your home and mind must be sacred spaces with clear boundariesHow to build a personal protocol to regain control over your thoughtsWhat to do when the voice in your head isn’t yours—and how to reclaim clarityReal examples from everyday women dealing with triggers, confusion, and spiritual battlesHow to act with confidence without being reactiveThis episode will help you identify spiritual interference, sort truth from lies, and stay grounded when your environment—or even your own brain—feels like enemy territory.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/reverence-for-your-partners-growth/Rather Watch Something? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uW0bf9TdzXwCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“Why do I feel unsafe, even when nothing is happening?”“How do I know which voice in my head to trust?”When your relationship has been painful, broken, or on edge for too long, your inner world can get louder than your outer one. And not all voices in your mind are actually you. Some are fear. Some are pain. And some are… something far more deceptive.In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we dive deep into:How to tell when fear and trauma are driving your reactionsWhat it really means to “know your own mind” before reconnectingWhy spiritual sabotage often follows progress—and how to recognize itThe danger of assigning meaning to dreams or triggers without discernmentHow Satan inserts himself into your relationships with soothing lies and subtle distortionsWhat to do when it feels like there’s a “third person in the room”This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever asked:“Is this me… or something else?”“Why do I feel crazy even when I’m trying to grow?”“Why do I spiral when things start getting better?”It’s time to reclaim your clarity. And your voice.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/your-brain-works-like-a-presidential-cabinet/Rather Watch Something? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVorKPxxTkUCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“I look in the mirror and don’t even recognize myself.”“How did I become this version of me?”“Is my marriage dead… or just dormant?”When a relationship breaks down—or you find yourself in a season of emotional numbness—it’s easy to blame the other person, the marriage, or even life itself. But this episode invites a deeper question: Who have you become… and who are you meant to be?In this powerful and grounding conversation, we unpack:How stress, fear, and emotional survival mode (fight, flight, freeze, or fawn) distort our true identityWhat it means to enter Season Four—a sacred time of dormancy, reflection, and personal rebirthWhy spiritual growth can’t happen while you’re pretending everything’s fineHow to place your struggling relationship “on the altar” while becoming your best selfWhat Christ’s example of being “unshaken” in Gethsemane teaches us about identity in hard seasonsThis episode isn’t about fixing your marriage overnight—it’s about becoming someone who can walk back into a relationship with clarity, strength, and peace.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-battle-of-perspectives-laman-nephi-and-the-power-of-faith/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybqzJ039vw4&t=5s⁠Check out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“Why does she still feel unsafe—even when I do what she says?”“Why do I feel attacked when she disagrees?”“What’s the difference between reacting and actually leading?”In this episode, we confront a hard truth for many men: doing what your wife says doesn’t build trust—leading with purpose does. If you're feeling unsure, aimless, or overly sensitive to disagreement, this conversation will challenge and equip you.Inside, you’ll learn:Why following your wife’s words isn’t the same as taking her seriouslyHow to respond with spiritual authority rather than people-pleasingThe truth about being “psychologically lazy” at home—and how to fix itWhy your wife watches how you adapt your goals, not just whether you complete themHow confidence, spiritual purpose, and consistency build emotional safetyWe’ll also explore how misinterpreting your wife’s strength leads to confusion—and how embracing your stewardship can restore clarity, direction, and unity.This episode is a wake-up call for any man who wants to be more than a passive partner. It’s time to lead with wisdom—not just reaction.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/reacting-to-toxic-people/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWJ3rS21Hmw&t=1sCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“What if I don’t remember what I felt back then?”“What if she asks a question I’m not ready to answer?”“What if I say something wrong and it comes back years later?”This episode tackles one of the most terrifying moments in a man's healing journey: being caught off guard by a question he should have an answer to—but doesn’t. When your wife brings up something from years ago, and you can’t recall your thoughts, feelings, or even the situation… what do you do?Inside this episode:The “Rough Draft Protocol” that protects both of you from jumping to conclusions too fastWhy writing things down—even when you don’t understand them—can be a spiritual disciplineHow to include God in your reflection so you don’t avoid the hard stuffThe danger of saying anything while emotionally or chemically compromisedWhy women often cling to old words—and how to avoid making haunting statementsWhat consistency in your spiritual habits tells her (even more than your words)This episode is not about being perfect. It’s about being intentional—even when your memory fails you, your confidence falters, or your timing is off. It’s about growing into a man who wants to get it right, and is learning how.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-chemical-scale/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIGKTWRqqvQ&t=5sCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“Why is she asking about something from five years ago?”“Why does she want to talk about something I barely remember?”“Why won’t she just drop it?”If these questions echo in your mind during hard conversations with your wife, you’re not alone. This episode tackles the psychological and spiritual disconnect men often feel when their wives want to revisit confusing or distant emotional topics—and why engaging anyway may be the most loving thing you ever do.Inside this episode:Why her questions might not be about fear—or betrayal at allHow emotional intimacy works differently for her than it does for youWhat it means to be “doing it right when it doesn’t make sense”Why shutting down, avoiding, or saying “I don’t remember” causes more damage than you thinkHow to use DARs (Divine-Assisted Reflection) to uncover what you didn’t even realize was going on back thenHow staying connected—even in discomfort—is an act of strength, not weaknessIf you want to stop being defensive and start being dependable—especially when you're confused, embarrassed, or unsure—this episode is for you.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/the-chemical-scale/Rather Watch Something? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znVmbVCdVdsCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“Why does she keep asking questions about things I barely remember?”“Why does she want to know every little detail from years ago?”“Haven’t I already told her enough?”If you’ve ever felt exhausted or confused by your wife’s need for details, this episode will change how you see her questions—and how you see emotional intimacy.In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice and the group explore:Why your wife’s need for information isn’t always about betrayalHow trauma, fear, and connection each drive different kinds of questionsWhy being available for the conversation matters more than the answers themselvesThe emotional parallel between a wife’s desire to “see inside your life” and a husband’s desire for physical closenessWhy details are not just facts—they are shared experiencesWhat to do when she’s overwhelmed one day and asking deep questions the nextThis episode offers a powerful reframing: her questions aren’t about interrogation—they’re about intimacy. And when you handle them with patience and curiosity, it builds the trust you’ve both been starving for.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/make-a-record-of-your-proceedings/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QpSepSlsOo8Check out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

“Why do I feel like I’m still being lied to—even when he says he’s being honest?”“Why do I need so many details to feel safe?”“Why does he think saying ‘I didn’t lie’ is enough?”In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, we explore one of the most misunderstood pillars of healing: radical honesty. But not the kind of “honesty” that just checks a box or avoids technical lies.We’re talking about a whole new level of masculine responsibility:➡️ The transfer of accurate information➡️ The intentional sharing of details she needs (not just the ones you’re comfortable with)➡️ The difference between honesty and transparency➡️ Why “I didn’t lie” is a dangerous excuse➡️ How to use daily reflection tools (like DARs) to create trust➡️ Why women feel unsafe when information is vague, generalized, or withheld—even by accidentAnd for those struggling with memory loss, disclosure fears, or wondering if there's a “statute of limitations” on what must be shared—this conversation is filled with grace and clarity.If you’ve ever felt like you were being open, but she still didn’t feel safe, this episode explains why—and what to do about it.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/embracing-our-divine-sexual-nature/Rather Watch Something? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WKjJtzTrk74Check out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/