4167: When You Feel Purposeless and Fear You're Wasting Time by Lori Deschene on Purpose

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Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 4163: Rose Lounsbury describes the someday/maybe life, the imagined future we quietly keep possessions for even though it is never the life we are actually living. Drawing on her work as a minimalism coach, she shows how that imagined version of ourselves justifies clutter and unspent purchases alike. She offers three questions that make letting go far less fraught than the fear surrounding it suggests. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://roselounsbury.com/myth-someday-maybe-life/ Quotes to ponder: "We often hang on to items out of fear." "If you haven't used an item in the last year, are you really ever going to use it?" "the worst-case scenario is usually not all that bad" Optimal Living Daily is a daily personal development and self-improvement podcast where we narrate the best self-help articles on minimalism, productivity, and intentional living, read to you by a professional narrator so you can live your best life a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 4162: Lisa Avellan explains why the feeling of no longer recognizing yourself is so often a sign of a life built to be safe rather than true. She describes burying her own dream of writing under excuses and distractions for twelve years, and how simplifying her schedule, spending, and expectations finally cleared enough room to hear it again. She offers five steps for personal growth that start with subtraction rather than another new pursuit. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/yourself/ Quotes to ponder: "I created a life that allowed me to hide the very thing I was looking for." "Busyness is no badge of honor we should hope to achieve." "Simplifying is a practice of evaluating our external and internal lives." Optimal Living Daily is a daily personal development and self-improvement podcast where we narrate the best self-help articles on minimalism, productivity, and intentional living, read to you by a professional narrator so you can live your best life a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 4161: Meagan Drillinger walks through four common foods that research links to worse anxiety symptoms: alcohol, caffeine, added sugars, and refined carbohydrates. She explains the mechanism behind each one, from shifting neurotransmitter levels to the blood sugar highs and lows that leave the body scrambling. Each is paired with a practical swap, so a more intentional approach to eating becomes one more everyday lever for mental wellbeing. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/surprising-foods-trigger-anxiety Quotes to ponder: "If anxiety is affecting your life, it might be worth considering what's on your plate." "Believe it or not, the beverage often used to quell social anxiety is actually making it worse." "But added sugar is a contributor to overall anxiety." Optimal Living Daily is a daily personal development and self-improvement podcast where we narrate the best self-help articles on minimalism, productivity, and intentional living, read to you by a professional narrator so you can live your best life a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 4160: Jay Harrington explains why gratitude, not accumulation, is what makes a life feel full. He traces how comparison and a scarcity mentality quietly drain contentment, while empathy and an abundance mindset feed each other in a virtuous cycle. The takeaway is that happiness is not a destination waiting to be reached but a practice of appreciating what is already here. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.lifeandwhim.com/first-moments-blog/practicing-gratitude Quotes to ponder: "Comparison robs us of contentment." "Empathy awakens gratitude. But comparison and judgement of others suppresses it." "It's easy to believe that happiness lies in something more. But if you have gratitude? Well, then you have everything that you'll ever need." Optimal Living Daily is a daily personal development and self-improvement podcast where we narrate the best self-help articles on minimalism, productivity, and intentional living, read to you by a professional narrator so you can live your best life a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 4159: Derek Sivers describes the three things he has done with his son since birth, cultivating a long attention span, entering his world, and broadening his inputs, then realizes he has been doing every one of them for himself as much as for the child. In the second piece, a coach tells him that saying something matters does not make it true, and that actions are the only honest record of what a person values. Together the two essays argue that attention and behavior, not intentions, show what a life is actually built on. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://sive.rs/pahttps://sive.rs/arv Quotes to ponder: By cultivating his long attention span, I'm cultivating my own. I thought I was being selfless. But actually, like most things we consider selfless, they benefit me as much as him. No matter what you tell the world or tell yourself, your actions reveal your real values. Optimal Living Daily is a daily personal development and self-improvement podcast where we narrate the best self-help articles on minimalism, productivity, and intentional living, read to you by a professional narrator so you can live your best life a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 4158: Marc Chernoff continues with the remaining four phrases that quietly work against happiness: declaring hate, insisting you can't, deciding your chance has passed, and swallowing the thing you needed to say. He explains why holding on to resentment costs the holder most, and why forgiveness is less about deserving than about being able to move forward. The closing argument is that unspoken words carry a heavier regret than spoken ones. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.marcandangel.com/2013/12/15/8-things-happy-successful-people-never-say/ Quotes to ponder: You will never get ahead of anyone as long as you try to get even with them. It is never too late to become what you might have been. There's no greater sadness than holding on to the words you never had the courage to speak. Optimal Living Daily is a daily personal development and self-improvement podcast where we narrate the best self-help articles on minimalism, productivity, and intentional living, read to you by a professional narrator so you can live your best life a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices