31: Which of the 4 Ego Archetypes Is Secretly Running Your Life?

Find the Fear to FLOW Quiz and guide in The Abundance & FLOW Community for helpers and healers.In this episode, you'll learn what nervous system dysregulation really looks like, how it blocks healing and creativity, why many high-achieving women stay stuck in survival mode, and how to use a “sensory diet” to return to ease and flow.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:50] Why helpers often sacrifice their well-being[01:35] Your nervous system is the key to thriving[02:15] What dysregulation means and how to spot it[03:28] Why helpers often come from pain and burnout[04:10] Building your work on a dysregulated foundation[04:52] The power of curiosity and presence[05:40] How the body keeps the score[06:05] What causes nervous system dysregulation[06:38] Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn explained[07:10] Getting stuck in sympathetic mode[08:00] Chronic stress and overgiving as triggers[08:40] How screen time impacts your nervous system[09:10] Signs of being stuck in survival mode[10:00] How dysregulation affects creativity[10:32] From symptoms to system failure[11:26] Impact on relationships and business[12:40] What happens when you regulate your system[13:20] Creating from inspiration instead of push[13:55] Blocking miracles by staying in fear[14:30] Four types of dysregulation[15:05] Signs you’re in fight or flight[15:50] Light sleep and constant tension[16:20] Signs you’re in freeze[17:05] Functional freeze in high achievers[18:00] Freeze patterns like binge-watching and scrolling[18:40] Bursts of energy followed by shutdown[19:10] Procrastination and disconnection in freeze[19:35] Signs you’re in fawn[20:10] People pleasing and lack of boundaries[20:38] Overcommitting and fear of rejection[21:05] How dysregulation disrupts flow[21:45] Goal of flexible nervous system response[22:10] Why a sensory diet matters[22:35] Structure and intention in nervous system healing[23:00] Grounding and nature as regulation tools[23:40] Other sensory tools for healing[24:20] Using scent to signal safety[24:55] Music and sound baths for regulation[25:20] Movement and cross-body practices[26:00] Why walking soothes the nervous system[26:35] Stillness and peace in everyday life[27:20] Yoga, dance, and somatic work[27:50] Breathwork and slow breathing[28:50] Reiki and energy work for downregulation[30:20] Mirroring and self-awareness in healing[30:50] Achievement as a mask for dysregulation[31:20] Returning to ease and joy[31:55] Choosing healing without self-judgmentResources Mentioned:A Course in Miracles | ProgramMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Find the Unlocking the Energetic Codes meditation and guide in The Abundance & FLOW Community for helpers and healers.In this episode, you'll learn how chakra imbalances can impact your health, relationships, business, and energy levels, how each energy center is connected to physical and emotional symptoms, and how to start decoding those messages through a practical meditation and the RISE method.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:00] How chakras impact health, business, and relationships[02:00] Unexplained symptoms that doctors can't fix[04:00] What chakra means and where they're located[05:00] Chakras as 360-degree energy centers[06:00] Chakras and the nervous and endocrine systems[07:00] Root chakra themes of safety and nervous system regulation[09:00] Financial insecurity and root chakra healing practices[10:00] Physical symptoms of a blocked root chakra[14:00] Root chakra patterns in relationships[15:00] Signs of jumpiness and fear-based life approach[17:00] Sacral chakra and reproductive system[19:00] Emotional disassociation and creative blocks[20:00] Expressing emotions and receiving pleasure[21:00] Shame and emotional repression[22:00] Creativity and pleasure as healing tools[25:00] Creative force vs forced productivity[26:00] Mental avoidance through distraction[28:00] Business burnout and lack of creative spark[29:00] Emotional codependency in relationships[31:00] Dance and movement as sacral healing[33:00] Solar plexus chakra and digestive system[34:00] Developmental stage of self-identity and autonomy[36:00] Imposter syndrome and self-doubt[40:00] Heart chakra and nervous regulation[41:00] Immune system and heart rate connection[42:00] Grief, love, and emotional intimacy[43:00] Physical symptoms like upper back pain[44:00] Mental self-judgment and lack of self-love[45:00] Heart as the bridge between physical and spiritual[46:00] Fear of receiving love despite giving it[48:00] Letting go of past pain and judgment[49:00] Love languages and survival strategies[51:00] Throat chakra and communication[52:00] Vagus nerve connection to expression[53:00] Speaking your truth and fear of judgment[54:00] Over-talking and validation-seeking[55:00] Authentic expression and repression[56:00] Thyroid issues and speaking blocks[58:00] Repression of truth and fear of visibility[59:00] Struggling with clear content creation[60:00] Saying yes when you mean no[62:00] Third eye chakra and the brain-body connection[63:00] Pituitary gland and nervous system regulation[64:00] Intuition and trust of inner wisdom[65:00] Insomnia and hormonal disruption[66:00] Seeing through fear and illusion[67:00] Reclaiming clarity and spiritual vision[68:00] Physical symptoms like headaches and confusion[69:00] Emotional overwhelm and paranoia[71:00] Disconnection from spiritual intuition[72:00] Strategy hopping and lack of trust in instincts[74:00] Crown chakra and connection to a higher source[75:00] Brain as the central processing system[76:00] Spiritual disconnection and lack of purpose[77:00] Existential dread and spiritual bypassing[78:00] Trusting in divine timing and guidance[79:00] Sensitivity to sound, light, and sleep issues[80:00] Hopelessness, apathy, and loneliness[82:00] Losing meaning and questioning your pathMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Find out more in this FREE Universal Law Cheat Sheet in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool.In this episode, you'll learn how hiding parts of yourself drains your energy, how fear of judgment keeps you stuck, how suppressed emotions impact your well-being, and how to reclaim your power by embracing your authentic self.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:50] The hidden cost of hiding yourself[02:10] Why exhaustion isn't just from overdoing[03:45] The weight of suppressed emotions[05:00] How fear of being seen keeps you small[06:20] The masks we wear and why we hide[07:45] The truth about fear of judgment[09:10] Why high achievers struggle with admitting desires[10:40] The subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck[12:05] Avoidance and how it drains energy[13:30] The role of limiting beliefs in your daily life[14:55] How hiding your actions leads to guilt and shame[16:20] Suppressing emotions and the energy cost[17:45] The connection between emotions and past experiences[19:10] Why other people’s reactions aren’t your responsibility[20:35] How past generational patterns affect your emotions[22:00] The impact of fear on personal growth[23:25] Why resisting emotions makes them stronger[24:50] How small fears turn into major energy blocks[26:15] Why hiding your desires limits your potential[27:40] The power of self-acceptance and reframing beliefs[29:05] Why letting go of self-judgment is freeing[30:30] How to uncover what you’re hiding from yourself[31:55] The importance of speaking your truth[33:20] How to break free from limiting narratives[34:45] Why admitting your fears reduces their power[36:10] The connection between showing up authentically and attracting abundance[37:35] How self-expression increases energy and flow[39:00] The mindset shift that leads to deeper fulfillment[40:25] Practical steps to stop hiding and start thrivingResources Mentioned:A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson | BookMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Join our A Course in Miracles Book Study course in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool. In this episode, you’ll learn how the ego keeps you stuck in fear, overthinking, and burnout and how shifting into your higher self can bring ease and abundance. Discover the four ego archetypes, how they show up in your life, and simple ways to break free from limiting patterns.Timestamps:[0:00] Introduction[00:45] Why you feel stuck in patterns of fear and self-doubt[01:22] Your ego is running the show—here’s why[01:48] The journey from ego to flow[02:10] Four ego archetypes that keep you trapped[02:38] How shifting into your higher self creates ease and abundance[03:36] The desire to serve from overflow instead of exhaustion[04:27] The ego’s role in survival mode[05:15] How childhood beliefs shape your work ethic[05:43] The turning point: Recognizing the critical parent voice[06:39] How to identify where ego is running your life[07:28] Resistance and struggle as indicators of ego[08:13] Why we cannot resist or eliminate the ego[09:01] The four ego archetypes explained[09:56] Adolescent: Resists structure and avoids commitment[10:21] Critical parent: Perfectionist, rigid, and burnout-prone[10:47] Mature adult: Logical but overthinks and fears flow[11:42] Inner child traits in business and relationships[12:36] The fear of abandonment and people-pleasing[13:55] The adolescent archetype in business[14:45] The adolescent’s resistance to leadership[15:37] The adolescent’s impact on health and wellness[16:28] Perfectionism and the pressure to “do it all”[17:18] The struggle to delegate and release control[18:06] Overworking and guilt around rest[18:32] The toll of stress on health and energy[19:49] Recognizing the ego’s grip on your life[20:39] How to let go of your pain story[21:28] Why the ego believes in separation[22:20] The scarcity mindset vs. abundance mindset shift[23:11] Defending pain stories and living in illusion[24:01] How ego clings to struggle while spirit flows with ease[24:52] How intuition leads to better decision-making[25:18] Experiencing effortless abundance[26:07] A guided meditation to connect with unconditional love[26:58] Expanding the feeling of love throughout your body[27:48] How to use this awareness to navigate ego moments[28:38] How to lovingly observe your ego without judgment[29:28] How to shift from fear-based decisions to love-based choices[30:42] Building trust in yourself and divine guidance[31:31] Setting alarms to reset your mindset throughout the day[33:12] Burnout, scarcity, and disconnection from intuition[34:26] Experiencing more joy, flow, and ease in life[35:39] How to integrate this transformation into daily life[36:26] Trusting in divine timing and flowResources Mentioned:A Course in Miracles | WebsiteMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Find out more in this FREE Universal Law Cheat Sheet in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool.In this episode, you'll learn how to identify and clear limiting beliefs, nourish your inner world to support growth, and cultivate habits that align with your goals for a more balanced and energized life.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:34] The importance of tending to your inner garden[03:34] How limiting beliefs create mental clutter[05:40] Steps to replenish your energy[08:03] How to clear the weeds in your life[10:06] Shifting from victim to creator mindset[12:13] Releasing emotions like guilt and fear[13:56] Basic needs your body requires for energy[15:12] Reprogramming limiting beliefs[17:14] Being intentional with your energy[18:39] New beliefs to support your goals[20:36] The problem with fixing others’ gardens[24:12] How inner work affects your outer world[29:58] Identifying limiting beliefs to release[32:06] Planting new beliefs for self-care[34:28] Revisiting your garden dailyMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Find out more in this FREE Universal Law Cheat Sheet in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool.Jan Reed is a certified Life Mastery coach specializing in helping individuals navigate grief, loss, and life transitions.In this episode, you're going to learn how Jan reframed her grief after losing her husband and mother in quick succession, strategies to recognize and move through different stages of grief, how connecting to universal laws and reframing beliefs can shift your perspective on loss, actionable tips to identify and overcome emotional blocks caused by grief, and how to choose daily thoughts and actions that foster joy and healing.As a Certified Life Mastery Coach, Jan Reed can help you design and manifest a life that’s in harmony with your purpose. She is a Certified Life Mastery Consultant and was trained at the Brave Thinking Institute In Los Angeles, California instructed by Mary Morrissey and her team. As a life coach and speaker, she offers inspiring workshops as well as transformational in-depth coaching programs that help clients achieve new heights of success, meaning, and spiritual aliveness, including helping people, who, after a big loss, get stuck in emotional overwhelm. Her DreamBuilder coaching program helps them release the pain of the past so they can welcome a future of joy and happiness. For the past seven years, Jan has worked with people, helping them build their dreams, accelerate their results, and create richer, more fulfilling lives, living a life they would love. Jan is a recently retired educator of 30 years with a Masters degree in Elementary Education. Jan currently lives in Byron, MN. She has two grown children and three amazing grandchildren and enjoys spending time with her family and friends and traveling to new places.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[04:26] How coaching helped Jan navigate grief[05:39] The shock and denial of unexpected loss[06:59] Grieving small and big losses every day[08:23] The emotional weight of lost hopes and dreams[09:11] Viewing grief as a journey instead of a negative[10:24] Befriending sadness and finding moments of joy[11:56] Feeling the presence of loved ones after loss[13:21] The impact of emotional codependency in grief[14:41] Recognizing signs of being stuck in grief[15:28] The challenges of letting go and guilt in grief[17:50] Accepting loss as a way to find peace[20:59] Designing a new life after loss[22:31] Permission to grieve in your own way[25:26] Using universal laws to shift beliefs in grief[26:56] Reconnecting with self and others to heal[28:02] Maintaining connection with loved ones through rituals[30:13] Avoiding the victim mindset after loss[31:57] Taking 100% responsibility for your life[33:37] Choosing joy and fun during difficult times[35:13] The importance of feeling emotions fully[37:08] Reflecting on grief as a personal growth journey[39:01] Recognizing how thinking impacts feelings[41:16] Interrupting subconscious thoughts to shift results[43:01] Observing thoughts without judgment[45:30] Using coaching to uncover hidden beliefs[47:49] How fear and control affect the grief process[49:31] Balancing laughter and despair during griefAre you seeking to find joy and purpose amidst life’s ups and downs? Book a complimentary Dream-Builder Discovery Call with Jan.Learn more about Jan's work through her Website.More From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Find out more in this FREE Universal Law Cheat Sheet in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool.In this episode, you'll learn how to use the law of energy to shift your mindset, create positive outcomes, improve your relationships, and attract abundance.Timestamps:[03:00] Understanding the law of perpetual transmutation of energy  [04:00] Everything is energy and vibrates at specific frequencies  [05:30] How emotions and thoughts carry their own vibrations  [06:45] The impact of higher vibrational beliefs on reality  [08:15] Aligning thoughts with love to attract abundance  [09:40] Why time feels different depending on your mindset  [11:00] How to expand time by aligning with flow  [12:30] Breaking free from the illusion of busyness  [14:00] The law of attraction and how it works  [15:30] Why inspired action is crucial for manifesting dreams  [17:00] Common misconceptions about the law of attraction  [18:15] Staying in the vibration of what you want  [20:00] Recognizing and shifting stuck energy  [21:30] Practical ways to move energy in your body  [23:00] Using gratitude to change your vibration  [24:30] How anger can help you move out of apathy  More From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Find out more in this FREE Universal Law Cheat Sheet in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool.In this episode, you'll learn how to use the law of cause and effect to create the outcomes you want, take full responsibility for your life, make conscious decisions, and break free from limiting beliefs.Timestamps:[03:47] Understanding how actions create outcomes  [04:36] Taking 100 percent responsibility for your life  [05:39] Shifting from victim mindset to creator mindset  [06:49] Letting go of past mistakes and moving forward  [07:35] Avoiding decision paralysis and making conscious choices  [08:12] How judgment impacts your decision-making  [09:24] Bringing unconscious beliefs to conscious awareness  [10:24] Breaking cycles of negative thought patterns  [11:56] Using repetition to reinforce new beliefs  [12:50] Creating momentum with new actions and effects  [13:56] How universal laws operate in the background  [14:30] Recognizing stories that hold you back  Resources Mentioned:Creating Flow Episode 23: Why You’re Stuck in the Drama Triangle | Spotify or AppleMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Is your body sending you messages, but you’re not sure what they’re saying?  Schedule a 15 minute Complimentary Clarity Call with Joni for help understanding these messages.Find out more in this FREE Universal Law Cheat Sheet in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool.In this episode, you'll learn how to tap into the Law of One to enhance self-awareness, build healthier boundaries, and foster a mindset of abundance, helping you serve others without burnout.Timestamps:[01:14] Understanding the Law of One  [02:06] How helping others reflects your own healing  [03:38] Co-creating with universal energy  [04:29] What the word universe means  [06:01] Consequences of forgetting the Law of One  [06:33] The impact of feeling disconnected  [07:40] Exploring ego and separation  [08:50] How ego leads to competition and fear  [09:43] Making decisions based on fear  [11:14] Signs of ego-driven attachment  [12:32] Shifting from lack to love  [13:42] Seeing life as an opportunity to grow  [14:56] Challenges in shifting beliefs for healing  [16:38] Responsibility to others as a business owner  [17:46] When letting someone go may be best  [18:59] Creating boundaries as a healer  [19:47] Benefits of setting personal boundaries  [20:34] How independence benefits children  [21:54] Recognizing support in all decisions  [23:44] Identifying and releasing energy blocks  [24:52] How universal law shapes daily life  [25:09] Taking action to reclaim energy  Resources Mentioned:Creating Flow episode on Forgiveness is the Key to Flow and Happiness | Spotify or AppleCreating Flow episode on Why You’re Stuck in the Drama Triangle (And How to Get Out Fast) | Spotify or AppleMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website

Find out more in this FREE Universal Law Cheat Sheet in The Abundance and Flow Community in Skool. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use universal laws to enhance your energy, gain clarity in relationships, and improve health, along with practical ways to bring abundance into your life and business.Timestamps: [02:30] Joni’s background with religion and spirituality [04:18] Joni’s experience with illness and disconnection[05:23] Finding universal law as a way to connect spiritually  [06:36] Explanation of universal law as guiding principles[07:51] Different spiritual traditions referencing universal law  [08:32] Using universal law for healing and empowerment[09:56] Overview of the law of vibration and its impact[10:43] How the law of transmutation affects healing[11:58] The law of polarity in relation to scarcity and abundance[13:44] Using universal law to bring order to life and business[15:03] Joni’s journey to spiritual growth and self-connection Resources Mentioned:Universal Law Cheat Sheet | SkoolThe Abundance And FLOW Community | SkoolMore From Joni Francisco:Joni Francisco | InstagramJoni Francisco | FacebookJoni Francisco | LinkedInJoni Francisco | Website