How to Avoid Burnout at Work: The 4-Step SNAP Method for Saying No

To get a raise at work, prepare your facts and metrics, email your boss for a coffee meeting before reviews, and state the raise you expect.Take the free AI Gap Assessment: ericaandersonrooney.com/ai-gap-scoreOn this episode of Glass Ceilings & Sticky Floors, Harvard Business School faculty member Christina Wing shares the exact steps for asking for a raise, what to say when your boss says it is not in the budget, and the one detail to leave out of the conversation. You will also learn why money, ambition and estate planning are some of the most avoided conversations, and how to start them.CHAPTERS0:00 Why is money so hard to talk about?0:51 What is the book Unspeakable about?4:05 What topics do people avoid talking about at work?7:20 What is the difference between a taboo topic and a difficult conversation?8:05 Why is money a taboo topic for women?9:58 How do you prepare to ask for a raise?12:35 How do you negotiate a raise at your current job?13:55 What email should you send your boss to ask for a raise?14:55 What do you say when your boss says a raise is not in the budget?17:55 Should you tell your boss why you need a raise?18:40 Why is female ambition still a taboo topic?20:55 How do you talk about maternity leave without hurting your career?24:25 What is the difference between your salary and your worth?27:50 Why should you talk to your parents about estate planning?32:25 What advice would you give your 40-year-old self?ABOUT THE GUESTChristina Wing is a faculty member at Harvard Business School, founder of Wingspan Legacy Partners, and author of Unspeakable: The Taboo Topics We Avoid and How to Talk About Them.Connect with Christina: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-r-wing/ABOUT ERICAI am a former Chief People Officer, keynote speaker, and author of The AI Gap and Glass Ceilings & Sticky Floors. Book me to speak or train your team: [email protected]#getpromoted #womeninleadership #askforaraise ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

To avoid burnout at work, stop chasing every new idea and use the SNAP method to decide what gets your time.Take the free AI Gap Assessment: ericaandersonrooney.com/ai-gap-scoreErica Anderson Rooney shares how one weekend at the Maison Summit left her with six new projects and a tight chest, and how she used her SNAP method (Stop, Name, Ask and answer, Pivot) to set most of them aside. You will learn how to tell inspiration from panic, the hidden cost of chasing shiny objects, and the one question to ask before you add anything to your plate this Q4.ABOUT ERICAI am a Chief People Officer, keynote speaker, and author of The AI Gap and Glass Ceilings & Sticky Floors. Book me to speak or train your team: [email protected]#impostersyndrome #womeninleadership #burnoutERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if the reason women are not being featured in mainstream AI coverage is not an oversight but a design choice? Anne Cantera has been building on the internet since 2001, went all in on AI before most people had heard of it, and left corporate when she realized the multi-agent systems she was building would be used as an excuse to fire people en masse. Today she runs Elementyl Intelligence, a responsible AI consultancy for small and mid-sized businesses, and she is building a movement to unite a million women in AI. She has a lot to say. And she is not afraid to say it.SUMMARY & GUEST INTROErica wrote the book on the AI gap - literally. And today she sits down with a woman who got there before she did. Anne Cantera has been building on the internet since 2001. A few years ago she had what she describes as a divine moment, saw a single post, and pivoted her entire career track overnight. She went all in on AI before most people knew what to call it. While others were sending out applications, she was the one getting called by recruiters nonstop. Now she is the founder and CEO of Elementyl Intelligence, a responsible AI consulting firm working with small and mid-sized businesses - a lot of them women-owned - to implement AI in ways that are honest, ethical, and actually fit the operation. She also created voiceofai.io, a free nonprofit platform with over 20 modules teaching AI fundamentals to anyone who wants to understand what is actually happening. And she is currently building Agent Modus, a visualization platform that helps businesses map how their AI systems work before any code is ever written. She has a lot to say. She is not afraid to say it. And the women in this audience are exactly the people who need to hear it.INSIDE THE EPISODEThe Lies About Women and AI. Anne is on her 31st podcast in six weeks - because the big mainstream media will not tell the truth about women in the space. They bring in celebrities who will follow the script. The script is that women are weak, absent, not in the space. What women actually want - security, child safety, governance, environmental accountability - flies in the face of the AI CEOs. Anne calls it suppression by design.AI as an Excuse to Fire People. One of the reasons Anne left corporate was the realization that the multi-agent systems she was building would not replace people - they would be used as an excuse to fire people en masse. She did not want that on her conscience. So she pivoted to use AI as an equalizer for the underserved instead. The Klarna story is exhibit A: they laid off 800 customer service agents, the AI went sideways, they hired them back within months.The Technology Is Fetal. Anne's read on where AI actually is: it is not in its infancy, it is fetal. The hubris-fueled, ego-driven corporate rush to deploy AI is setting teams up to fail and then blaming them. The design team using all their tokens by Wednesday instead of Friday. The chief AI officers drooling over whittling 20-person teams down to two. None of it is built on a realistic understanding of what the technology can and cannot do.Governance and Education: The First Step. For small and mid-sized businesses implementing AI responsibly, Anne starts with governance and education. Create your AI constitution. Decide what you will and will not do. Get clear on what the founder is about before any technology gets touched. If a founder wants to use AI to fire everyone, she does not take them as a client.The Million Women in AI March. Anne belongs to 50, 60, 70 women in AI groups. Hundreds of members here, thousands there. All disjointed. Her vision: unite a million women strong. Not to disband the existing groups - to create a union, a Jedi Council of women leading the movement with political and economic power behind them.People Are Starving for Companies That Are Decent. Anne's pattern recognition superpower - the same thing that got her into AI early - now tells her that a market shift is coming. People are done with unethical companies. They are looking for somewhere else to go. The decency gap is a business opportunity, and the companies that fill it are going to win.Don't Be Quiet. Anne's closing advice for the woman who has concerns but feels like she cannot opt out: state your needs. Companies respond to what customers tell them they want. If they know you will spend more with them when they provide what you are asking for, they will listen. Your needs will not get met if you do not say them out loud.RESOURCES & LINKSElementyl Intelligence: https://www.elementylintelligence.com/Voice of AI (free AI education platform): https://voiceofai.io/Designathon Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/designathon/id1668183487Anne Cantera on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annecantera/ ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if you spent years clawing your way into the executive room - watching SportsCenter every night just to have something to talk about with the men above you - and then got there and pulled back the curtain and realized nobody knows what they are doing? Stephanie Davis Smith was at GQ, Self, Modern Luxury. She worked in some of the most prestigious magazine brands in the country. She got to the rooms where decisions were made. And then she realized it was a puppet show. This conversation is about what she built instead.SUMMARY & GUEST INTROIf you have been climbing the corporate ladder and wondering whether the view from the top is going to be worth it, today's guest has some news for you. Stephanie Davis Smith is the former Chief Marketing Officer of The N2 Company, an eight-time Inc. 5000 honoree that has built a portfolio of 850 hyper-local magazines distributed to affluent homeowner communities across the country. She spent 25 years in luxury magazine publishing - GQ, Self, Modern Luxury - before a headhunter called and she asked the very reasonable question: is N2 Company a scam? It was not. And now she watches 65% of the franchise owners coming into their network be women - most of them making the move as a second career after deciding the corporate ladder was no longer aligned with the life they actually wanted to build. This is the conversation for every woman who has been playing the game and starting to wonder if the game is worth playing.INSIDE THE EPISODETrading 40-Hour Weeks for 60 - in a Colder Room. Stephanie's inflection point: somewhere around 40, she realized she was working more, earning the prestige she had chased, and feeling less than she ever had. The VP world delivered the title and stripped away the meaning. She was selling luxury handbags to people who did not need them, in rooms where she had to earn her seat every single day.She Watched SportsCenter Every Night to Fit In. At GQ, everyone above her was a man. She started watching SportsCenter to be able to talk sports in the morning conversations that were really gatekeeping conversations. It did not work - men have a decade of back knowledge she could never replicate in months. The lesson: she was trying to become someone she was not to access rooms that were not built for her.The Room Where It Happens Is a Puppet Show. When Stephanie finally got to the executive level, she pulled back the curtain and found what Erica confirms from her CPO days: nobody knows what they are doing. The people who got there got there through timing, ego, and proximity, not through preparation or merit. And the experience of realizing that is either crushing or liberating, depending on what you do next.Is N2 Company a Scam? When a headhunter called Stephanie about The N2 Company, her very first move was to Google 'is N2 Company a scam.' She is telling you that. Because the be-your-own-boss, MLM-adjacent energy is real and she felt it. Everything checked out - eight Inc. 5000 appearances, Entrepreneur's number one franchise, transparent compensation. She took the role. Now she is the CMO.65% of New Franchise Owners Are Women. And most of them made the move as a second career. The woman who was a stay-at-home mom for a decade and is now running two magazines and making six figures. The woman laid off from The CW during the Discovery merger who moved to Florida and is hosting Mahjong night for her neighborhood. The model gives women something corporate rarely does: control over their time, income tied to their effort, and community as the actual product.We Don't Hire Brilliant Jerks. One of the things that sealed Stephanie's decision to join N2 was a conversation during the interview process: we do not hire brilliant jerks. If you lead with ego, we do not want you. After 25 years in environments where brilliant jerks ran everything, she was done.Marketing in the Age of Taste. Stephanie is a CMO thinking seriously about AI and what it means for marketing creativity. Her argument: the marketing world is waking up from its AI binge with a collective hangover. Automated content does not make an impression. Taste - the human ability to know what is culturally resonant before a spreadsheet can prove it - is the thing AI cannot replicate. That is where the human competitive advantage lives.RESOURCES & LINKSThe N2 Company: https://n2co.com/Explore N2 Franchise Ownership: https://n2co.com/joinStephanie Davis Smith on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-smith-cmo/ ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if the thing nobody prepares you for is not the hard climb to the top - but the moment you get there and realize there is no next rung? You have done everything right. You have the title, the track record, the team. And you look up and the ladder ends. Today's guest built an entire network for the woman in that exact moment - and she is here to tell you that the ladder running out is not the end of the story. It is the beginning of the most interesting chapter you have ever written.SUMMARY & GUEST INTROIf you have ever looked up after decades of climbing and realized the ladder you have been on does not go where you thought it would, Natalie Benamou built HerCSuite for you. She is the founder and CEO of HerCSuite, a portfolio career network for women leaders in the second half of their careers. She has driven over $110 million in revenue as a business strategist and rainmaker. She is the CEO and president of HerHealthX, a nonprofit using agentic AI to bridge the care communication gap for women. And she hosts one of the top-ranked women's leadership podcasts, Women Leaders on the Move. In this conversation, Natalie and Erica compare notes on what the second half of a career actually looks like, what a portfolio career means in practice, how boards work and why women need to stop waiting to be tapped, and what AI is doing to the opportunity landscape for senior women right now.INSIDE THE EPISODEThe Titanic Moment. March 2020. Natalie was leading a division in trade shows - hundreds of events on a giant whiteboard - when everything stopped. She was the conductor keeping everyone playing while the ship was going down. By October of that year she knew it was time to fly through the open window. HerCSuite was born from that moment and the Zoom calls with girlfriends that followed.Multi-Hyphenate Is the New Career Path. Women in the second half of their careers are not looking for one next thing. They are building portfolio careers - board roles, entrepreneurship, advisory work, thought leadership, all at once. Natalie's Love/Like/Capable framework helps women figure out what they actually want to spend their time on before they jump into anything new.Women Don't Have the Luxury of Happy Hours. Erica on the networking gap: women are not building the informal connections that men build over drinks and dinners after work because they are home running households. The connections that get women into rooms and onto boards are the ones that have to be built deliberately - and that is exactly why communities like HerCSuite and HER Collective exist.The S&P Board Numbers Went Backwards. Women on S&P boards went from 38% to 25%. That is not progress, that is a reversal. Natalie's response: you gotta open your own doors. Board seats are the highest, hardest position in any company, and nobody is going to tap you on the shoulder. You have to build the visibility, the strategic narrative, and the relationships that get you there.CoLab3: The 90-Day Sprint That Builds Revenue and Community at the Same Time. HerCSuite's CoLab3 matches three members into 90-day sprint pods to solve a problem together and generate collaborative revenue. The first cohort built everything from an M&A assessment tool to a cybersecurity business checklist to an AI readiness survey. The model is built on the idea that the right three people in a room for 90 days can generate what none of them could alone.Skipping the AI Fundamentals. Erica on the AI gap she keeps seeing: people want to jump straight to autonomous AI workflows without learning how to actually communicate with the machine. It is like skipping vocabulary and grammar and trying to write a novel. The women who will close the AI gap are the ones who do the foundational work first.Identify Your Values Before Your Next Move. Natalie's most practical advice: before you make any next career move, know what matters most to you. Family, freedom, title, impact - whatever it is, get clear on it first, because every decision you make will either align with it or cost you something. The women who skip this step are the ones who land in the next chapter and realize it does not fit.RESOURCES & LINKSHerCSuite Network: https://hercsuite.com/HerCSuite Membership: https://hercsuite.com/hercsuite-network-where-women-lead-the-future/Board Ready Summit: https://hercsuite.com/board-ready-summit/Women Leaders on the Move Podcast: https://hercsuite.com/podcast/Natalie Benamou on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nataliebenamou/ ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if the reason your brand feels scattered, your referrals are misaligned, and you keep attracting clients that drain you is not a marketing problem - but an identity problem? Robyn Young has spent eight years building brands for Google, UCLA, and founders across every industry while quietly hiding from her own. When the business she thought was her exit strategy collapsed, she finally put herself through her own framework. One income stream became five. And what she built - the Brand Universe - is the framework that changed everything. This episode is for the woman who has been putting it off long enough.SUMMARY & GUEST INTROIf you have ever walked away from a brand strategy session with a mission statement, a vision, a set of values, and a content calendar - and still felt like nothing had actually changed - Robyn Young has a name for what happened to you. You got a box. Not a brand. Robyn is the founder of Young and Co, a brand strategy and creative studio based in Los Angeles. She has worked with Google, UCLA, Verishop, and Industrious, and her framework - the Brand Universe - is built on a single idea: your brand is built from the inside out around a point of view so specific and so true that competitors can copy your tactics but they can never copy your conviction. She is also the author of Build Your Brand Universe. And yes, she spent eight years building brands for everyone else before she finally built one for herself. This conversation is the one she spent eight years earning the right to have.INSIDE THE EPISODEYour Company Is Not Your Brand. For the corporate woman who has built her entire professional identity around where she works and who she has worked with - Robyn's opening reframe is the most important thing in the episode. If you are only ever depending on who you have worked with, you are in the shallowest, noisiest part of the pool. The day that company's name gets ripped away, who are you?She Was Hiding Behind Her Own Agency for Eight Years. Robyn was hitting consistent six figures and still stuck. She started a second business as an exit strategy. It collapsed. She was bleeding cash and wondering whether she would have to rebuild a resume for the first time in nearly a decade. The moment she put herself through her own Brand Universe framework, everything changed.Saying Yes to Everything Hurt Her Brand. Most people think saying yes is safe. Robyn says it is how you end up invisible. When she said yes to everything out of fear, the referrals that came in were misaligned. People did not know where to place her. A brand with a real point of view gives you permission to say no - and the referrals it attracts are the ones that actually fit.Demographics Pigeonhole You. Psychographics Set You Free. Erica has wrestled for years with the pull to 'go bigger' and market to everyone beyond women. Robyn's reframe: the problem is not that Erica's audience is too narrow. It is that she has been defining it by a demographic instead of a mindset. Who you are not for is often the clearest path to understanding who you are for.What Are You Fighting? One of the eight components of Robyn's Brand Point of View framework is the monster: what convention, wrong, or idea in your industry are you standing against? This is not political. It is about finding the thing your brand has a real stake in - the hill you are willing to die on. That stake is what makes a brand distinct.Do the Exact Opposite of Trends. For every Jessie Jane, there are a million people who have been yapping into a camera for years and are nowhere. Trends are about fitting in. Brands are built by standing out. The best move is to look at what everyone in your field is doing and do the exact opposite. At least you would be an original.AI Cannot Give You Your Brand Identity. If you go to AI without a brand point of view, it will give you something - but you will never have conviction in it. You cannot outsource identity. Once you have the strength and identity, AI can compound it. But the deep work has to come first.RESOURCES & LINKSBook: Build Your Brand Universe: https://www.thisisyoung.co/bookBrand Universe Accelerator: https://www.thisisyoung.co/acceleratorYoung and Co Website: https://www.thisisyoung.co/Substack: Yes& Newsletter: https://yesandnewsletter.substack.com/Robyn on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robyn-young/ ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if the people telling you AI is going to end the world are the same people selling you the AI that could end the world - and they are doing both at the same time? Erica has been lying awake reading the headlines, thinking about her eight-year-old sleeping down the hall. And today she is naming names, bringing receipts, and taking explicit positions on the AI fear machine, what happens when women are not in the rooms where this technology gets built, and exactly what she thinks we owe the next generation right now.ABOUT THIS EPISODEThis is the spiciest solo episode Erica has ever recorded, and she knew it when she sat down at her kitchen counter to make it. She covers the extinction statement signed by the CEOs of OpenAI, Google DeepMind, and Anthropic - and the fact that they went back to the office and raced each other to build faster. She covers the $140 million super PAC with AI industry money pouring into midterms. She covers NVIDIA, China, and the contradiction at the center of the 'we can't let China win' argument. She covers the Grok image scandal - 4.4 million generated images in nine days, 41% sexualized images of women - and what it tells us about who is not in the product meetings. And she covers the stat that stops her cold: women are 57% of the workers in jobs most likely to be disrupted by AI, and 13% of the C-suite leaders at AI companies. Then she gives you three moves to make this week.INSIDE THE EPISODEShould I Actually Be Concerned About AI? Erica holds both: the AI nerd who sees what this technology can do, and the mom who wants to throw every device in the lake. She sorts the real risks from the manufactured ones and calls out the people making money off of our fear.Who Benefits When We're Scared? When the CEOs selling the product tell you it could end the world, ask one question: who benefits? Fear makes you feel small and leaves it to the tech geniuses. Fear makes them look like the only ones smart enough to save us from the very thing they are selling. That is a damn good business model.The $140 Million Super PAC. Leading the Future has reportedly raised $140 million for the midterms. Its mission: electing people who want AI rules light and one national standard that overrides tougher state laws. Donors include Andreessen Horowitz and the president of OpenAI. The industry warns about extinction. The industry's money builds a nine-figure war chest to keep the rules light.NVIDIA, China, and the Contradiction. For years the rallying cry was that we cannot let China win the AI race - so we have to move fast and keep the rules light. Then the administration said NVIDIA could sell its most powerful chips to Chinese companies, including ByteDance and Tencent, as long as the US gets a 25% cut. The first shipments landed in China this summer.Grok and What Happens When Women Aren't in the Room. xAI rolled out an image editing feature and people immediately used it to digitally undress women and girls from photos found online. In nine days: 4.4 million images generated, 41% sexualized images of women. Any woman in that product meeting could have told them that was coming. Any mom could have told them that.57% Disrupted, 13% in the Room. Women are 57% of the workers in jobs most likely to be disrupted by generative AI. Women hold 13% of C-suite AI roles at AI companies. At the rate we are going, it will take 90 years to reach equal representation in leadership. A girl born today may never see that in her lifetime.Three Moves You Can Make This Week. Start using AI and let people see you use it. Parent it loudly - have the talk with your kids, use it together, tell them what happened with Grok. Follow the money and use your voice - midterms are coming, AI money is pouring into races, opensecrets.org makes it easy. If there is no woman on your company's AI council, get yourself into that room. ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if the reason you are still exhausted - even though you clean up your diet, you exercise, you sleep seven or eight hours - is not a willpower problem but a biology problem? And what if the labs that told you everything is fine were actually comparing you to the average of an unhealthy population? Jessica Van Antoine was working 90-hour weeks inside a wellness company, masking everything with caffeine, until one day in the middle of a meeting she had to excuse herself, go to her office, and curl up under her desk and cry. Functional lab testing changed everything. And now she helps high-achieving female founders do the same.SUMMARY & GUEST INTROY'all know Erica is the woman who does all the things. The diet. The sleep. The Peloton. The red light therapy mat. The crystals on the floor. And is still dragging herself through the afternoon. If that sounds like you, Jessica Van Antoine is here to tell you it is not because you are not trying hard enough. It is because you have been guessing instead of testing. Jessica is the founder of Phoenix Functional Health, a performance health practice built specifically for high-achieving female founders. She has spent nearly two decades in health and wellness - as a massage therapist, Shiatsu practitioner, yoga and Qigong instructor - and now applies functional diagnostic nutrition to help women understand the root cause of what their body is actually doing and why. The conversation covers hormones, fatigue, the D.R.E.S.S. framework, why your doctor keeps telling you everything looks fine, and the one thing she wants every exhausted woman to do this week.INSIDE THE EPISODESomething Just Snapped. Jessica was working 90-hour weeks at a wellness company - studying Chinese medicine, building a 500-hour Shiatsu certification program, and doing it all simultaneously. In a meeting, she felt like glass was cracking inside her body. She excused herself, went to her office, and cried on the floor under her desk. Functional lab testing revealed the biological imbalances predisposing her to overwhelm, fragility, and irritability. And once she resourced her body, everything felt different - not because her workload changed, but because she felt bigger than her responsibilities.Why Your Doctor Keeps Saying You're Fine. The normal ranges your traditional doctor uses are taken from the average of everyone who has ever taken that test - including a very unhealthy general population. Functional health uses a much narrower range of what actually constitutes optimal function. If you are not a significant outlier in one direction, you get told you are fine. Even if you are operating at 70% capacity instead of 95%.Your Hormones Are Downstream of Something Else. Most people treat hormone imbalance as the root cause. Jessica treats it as the signal. What is actually causing the hormonal imbalance? Is it blood sugar? Gut inflammation? Adrenal exhaustion? The systems of the body don't operate in silos - and treating only the symptom without finding the source is exactly why so many approaches don't stick.The D.R.E.S.S. Framework and Why Timing Matters. Diet, rest, exercise, stress reduction, supplementation - but personalized to what your labs actually show. One client was doing hour-long Peloton rides at 5pm and couldn't sleep. Moving the workout to the morning so her cortisol had time to come down was the only change. Now she sleeps. Jessica breaks down why this approach is completely different from generic wellness advice.You're the Asset. The reason the grinding is working against you is that you are the main asset through which everything else runs. When you show up at your kid's soccer game physically present but mentally depleted - avoiding small talk because the idea is exhausting - everyone in your life gets less of you. Including yourself. Jessica's reframe: investing in yourself is not self-care. It is protecting the asset.Stop Stacking Wellness Habits. High-achieving women do what they know to do when they have a problem. They buy the machine, the crystal, the supplement, the app. Without knowing what your body actually needs, you are just guessing and stacking habits that may not be moving the needle. The Founder Capacity Audit is how you find out what your body is actually asking for.RESOURCES & LINKSPhoenix Functional Health: https://phoenixfunctionalhealth.com/Book a Founder Capacity Audit: https://phoenixfunctionalhealth.com/contact/Jessica Van Antoine on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-van-antoine-fdnp/ ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if the advice you have been given your entire career - just be more confident, push through the imposter syndrome, act like you belong - is not just unhelpful but actually backwards? Aoife O'Brien has spent 20 years inside corporate organizations, done over 300 podcast episodes, and written a bestselling book, and she has arrived at one very specific conclusion: we have been asking the wrong person to fix the problem. Confidence is not the starting point. It is the output of working in an environment that actually creates the conditions for it. And if your confidence is gone, the first question to ask is not what is wrong with you. It is what is wrong with your workplace.SUMMARY & GUEST INTROIf you have ever been told to just be more confident and wondered why that advice never actually works, Aoife O'Brien has spent years researching the answer - and it is not what most people want to hear. She started her career thriving, working for companies that invested in their people and recognized their contributions. She thought every company was like that. She was wrong. Her last few corporate roles left her hollow and burnt out, passed over for promotions, experiencing misogyny, and watching her confidence erode so completely that it started affecting her life outside of work too. She spent the next several years getting her MSc in Organizational Behaviour, founding Happier at Work, building a top 2% globally ranked podcast (and Business Podcast of the Year winner), and writing Thriving Talent - an Irish Times bestseller that makes the case that the problem with work is almost never the people. It is the environment in which they are asked to perform.INSIDE THE EPISODEThe Moment She Knew She Had to Leave. Aoife was passed over for a promotion that had been promised to her - and found out when a colleague, who had become her new boss without anyone telling her, pulled her into a meeting to ask about her clients. She turned into what she calls a petulant child. She was overloaded with work, finding quiet offices to cry in at night. And then she handed in her resignation letter on the train on the way to work one morning.The Organizational Culture Hangover. A toxic boss does not just affect you in the job you are in. You carry it into the next one. Aoife describes taking a decade to recover from the impact of her first bad experience, and how the doubts it planted followed her into her next role - where she was promoted to senior leadership and told herself every story possible about why she did not really deserve it.We Fix the People Instead of Fixing the Environment. Resilience training. Imposter syndrome workshops. Confidence coaching. All of these put the work on the individual while leaving the environment that created the problem completely untouched. Aoife makes the case for looking at both - what individuals need and what organizations are responsible for creating - at the same time.The Thriving Talent Framework: Psychological Safety, Culture, Drivers, Capabilities, Leadership. Aoife walks through her framework for what organizations actually need to get right. The foundation is psychological safety - without it, nothing else works. Above that: creating cultures that don't just survive but actually enable people to do their best work, understanding what truly motivates each individual, building on real capabilities rather than ego-driven promotions, and leadership that develops people rather than leaving them alone or micromanaging them.86% of People Are Not Fulfilling Their Potential at Work. Aoife ran a LinkedIn survey. Not scientific, she acknowledges, but 86% of respondents said they did not feel like they were fulfilling their potential at work. She breaks down why - including the fact that most people cannot articulate what they are actually good at or what value they bring that is genuinely different from everyone else.If You Can't Leave Yet - Start Planning the Exit. For the woman in a toxic situation who does not have the financial means to just walk out: start making the plan. Stop tolerating it and grinding through quarters hoping it will change. It almost never does. Reach out to your people. Activate your network. And in the meantime, shift the mindset from 'I have to be here' to 'I am choosing to be here so I can fund my exit.'It Was Not Your Fault. The final question Erica asks: what would you tell the woman who is in the toxic situation and wondering if she caused it? Aoife's answer: it is not your fault. This is how the system was built. You did not choose this environment. It just happened to be where you landed.RESOURCES & LINKSBook: Thriving Talent - Aoife O'Brien: https://thrivingtalentbook.com/Happier at Work Website: https://happieratwork.ie/Happier at Work Podcast: https://happieratwork.ie/happier-at-work-podcast/Aoife O'Brien on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aoifemobrien/ ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney

What if the internet already showed us exactly what AI is about to do - and most of us missed the warning? Seema Alexander did not miss it. Her parents ran the first Indian vegetarian restaurant in DC. Muhammad Ali ate there. It grew to multiple locations. And then the internet happened, and they were so focused on running the business that they never saw it coming. Seema connected those dots years later - and decided she was not going to let the same thing happen to the next generation of business leaders. This is the conversation she has been building toward for four years.SUMMARY & GUEST INTROY'all know that Erica is obsessed with AI. So when she gets to sit down with someone who has been living and breathing this space from the business side - not the tech side, not the theory side, but the actual how do you rewire a real company side - she nerds out. Seema Alexander spent over two decades helping CEOs and founders grow at the intersection of brand, innovation, and community. She saw AI coming before most people were paying attention, went all in, and built Disruptive AI - a strategy and development studio helping companies rethink, reimagine, and rewire for the era we are already living in. She hosts The AI CEO Podcast, co-chairs DC Startup and Tech Week, and her keynote 'Why AI Is Bigger Than the Internet' has been delivered on stages across the country and internationally. Her mission is to equip one million CEOs with the fluency, strategy, and confidence to lead boldly into the AI era - and she is building a conference around it: AI BusinessCon, March 2-3, 2027, in the DC metro area.INSIDE THE EPISODEThe Aha, Oh Sh*t Moment. Seema calls it her 'aha, oh sh*t moment' - the day she was advising an early agentic AI company, listening to a cinematographer describe cutting his six-month storyboard process down to a click of a button, and realized: this is not about automation. This is rewiring the way business gets done. And this is the weakest the technology will ever be.AI BusinessCon: The Conference for Business Leaders, Not Builders. Most AI conferences are built for CTOs and developers. Seema is building one for the C-suite, founders, and investors who need to understand what is happening without needing a computer science degree to follow it. AI BusinessCon, March 2-3, 2027, DC metro area. Two days: big picture reality check, then practical and tactical. Come out knowing what to do next.Women and AI: Conviction Is the Strategy. Do women face an AI gap? Seema's answer is sharp: yes, there is a gender divide in most tech spaces. But the play for women is not to wait for permission. Pick your lane, go deep in it, stay on top of it, and own your conviction. Women connect dots differently - and that is exactly what this moment needs.The Great Business Rewiring: Rethink, Reimagine, Rewire. Seema's framework is not a PowerPoint. It is a three-stage process: rethink (build real fluency, understand AI like Lego pieces), reimagine (design what your business could look like with a layer of intelligence, proprietary data, and agents marketing to agents), and rewire (actually do the work). And do not AI-enable a broken workflow - fix the workflow first.Your Proprietary Data Is the New Moat. The models are commoditizing. What is not commoditizing is what you uniquely know about your customers, your industry, and your operations. Seema breaks down why proprietary data and domain expertise are the real competitive advantage - and why 'we use AI' is not a differentiator.My Parents' Restaurant and the Rise of the Internet. The most personal moment in the conversation. Seema's parents ran the first Indian vegetarian restaurant in DC - Muhammad Ali ate there. It grew to multiple locations. And then the internet happened. They were operators. They were not watching the technology. And they lost nearly everything. This is the story behind everything Seema is building.Go Deep, Go Fast, Go Quick. Seema's advice to her pre-AI self - and to every woman listening who has been putting off getting serious about this. The more you know, the more impact, profit, and community. Do not be afraid to talk. This stuff is moving fast. Go deep, go fast, go quick.RESOURCES & LINKSAI BusinessCon (March 2-3, 2027, DC Metro): https://businesscon.ai/Disruptive AI: https://getdisruptive.ai/Seema Alexander Speaker Site: https://seemaalexander.com/The AI CEO Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ai-ceo-with-seema-alexander/id1676444315Seema on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/seemaalexander/ ERICA'S RESOURCES & LINKSStart small with me inside HER Jumpstart:https://her-collective.mn.co/plans/1985289?bundle_token=60b2c61d62213cdbd16d437cdc0e4204&utm_source=manual🤖 Grab your copy of THE AI GAP: https://amzn.to/3OAXAdL📚 Get my first book, Glass Ceilings and Sticky Floors: https://amzn.to/4uvjbE5💼 Follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericarooney/📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericaandersonrooney/🎵 Check out my TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ericaandersonrooney