249. Can You Really Rewire Belief Without 10,000 Affirmations?

Affirmations alone won’t rewire your subconscious and that’s exactly why so many high level business owners feel frustrated when they’ve been “doing the work” but still feel stuck.In this episode, I break down why affirmations by themselves don’t create lasting change, how the self-development industry has sold us a half truth, and what actually rewires your subconscious to believe a new level of success.If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m abundant, I’m confident, I’m ready” only to launch and feel the opposite, this episode will show you why, and what to do instead.Topics Covered in This Episode:Why affirmations alone don’t work for business ownersThe three elements your subconscious needs to adopt a new belief (repetition, emotion, safety)How identity drives behaviour and makes belief automaticPractical prompts to start rewiring your subconscious todayConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

Ever bought that perfect planner thinking THIS time you'll finally follow through? Let me tell you exactly why you can't stay consistent – and gorgeous, it's not what you think. I'm about to blow your mind with something that goes way deeper than discipline or willpower.You know that frustrating pattern where you're perfect for a week, maybe a month, then suddenly you're back to square one? There's a hidden reason your subconscious keeps sabotaging you, and it has NOTHING to do with being lazy.I'm exposing the three invisible loops that control every single behaviour in your business (and why 99% of entrepreneurs are trying to fix the wrong one). Plus, I'll reveal why those colour-coded calendars and habit trackers are actually keeping you stuck. What if I told you there's a completely backwards approach that makes consistency automatic – no forcing, no negotiating with yourself, just obvious action?This goes against everything you've been taught about building habits, but once you hear it, you'll never look at your business behaviours the same way again.Topics covered on The Real Reason Why You Can’t Stay Consistent:Why does forcing behaviour change feel like holding a beach ball underwater (and always pop back up)?Why can't you stay consistent – is it really about your willpower?Why does your subconscious sabotage you even when you know all the right strategies?What are the three subconscious loops that keep entrepreneurs stuck on repeat?How can you flip the script and start with identity first to make consistency automatic?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/the-real-reason-why-you-cant-stay-consistent

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you do, there’s never enough time? Your to do list grows, launches feel rushed, and even when you technically have space in your calendar, you still feel behind.In this episode, I reveals why time isn’t really the problem, your subconscious relationship with time is. I explains how your beliefs about time were formed, why “time scarcity” keeps showing up in business and the practical shifts you can make today to start feeling more spacious, in control, and intentional with your hours.If you’re tired of chasing the clock and want to finally change how you experience time as a business owner, this episode will be a game changer.Topics covered on Why You Always Feel Like There’s Never Enough Time (and How to Change It):Why more hours never solve the “not enough time” problemHow your subconscious beliefs shape the way you experience timeWhere time scarcity patterns come from (family, school, hustle culture)The hidden link between identity and always “feeling behind”Three logical shifts you can make to start changing your relationship with time today"Time isn’t the problem. Hours aren’t the problem. Your wiring is the problem." Rebecca HaydonConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

Are you sitting there waiting for proof before you raise your prices, launch that bigger offer, or actually show up at the size of your goddamn vision? Your internal movie is the exact reason you're stuck seeking evidence that will never fricking come. You might be telling yourself you're ready for bigger, ready for those 100K clients, ready to play at the level that matches your vision, but something keeps pulling you back to the familiar. You test things once, see no big reaction from your community, and shelve them before they can take off. You map out the higher price point but hold off until you get "signs" your audience is ready. You create that new offer but mention it so lightly that no one even knows it exists. Sound familiar? There's a sophisticated form of stalling happening in your subconscious right now, dressed up as being strategic or cautious. So today we're going deep into why your brain works this way, how it's keeping you looking for proof that won't come, and exactly how to build a new internal movie that makes your next level feel like the most natural thing in the world.Topics covered on Internal Movie:What exactly is an "internal representation," and how is it controlling your results?How does your subconscious fill empty files when you haven't experienced something yet?How can you build a new internal movie that your subconscious treats as already lived?What specific anchoring techniques lock in the feelings from your new internal movie?The three steps to rewiring your subconscious before the external proof arrives.Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/your-internal-movie-is-keeping-you-stuck

If you’ve been beating yourself up for procrastinating on the big moves in your business, this episode is your reframe.Procrastination isn’t laziness. It’s proof. Proof that your subconscious doesn’t fully agree with the goal you’ve set. In this episode of The Subconscious Expert, Rebecca breaks down why procrastination is actually a parts conflict in your subconscious, the hidden “secondary gain” you’re getting from avoiding action, and how to rewire your mind so every part of you is aligned with your next level.You’ll walk away seeing procrastination in a whole new light, not as a flaw, but as feedback. And once you know how to clear that conflict, taking bold action becomes inevitable.Topics covered on Why You Procrastinate:Why procrastination is proof your subconscious doesn’t agree with your conscious goalsThe parts conflict that keeps you circling instead of moving forwardThe hidden “secondary gain” you get from procrastination (and how to spot it)Why high level women procrastinate differently than beginnersHow to rewire procrastination into natural momentumRelated episodes you may enjoy:Why Waiting for Proof is Blocking You From Your Next LevelLetting It Be Easier Doesn’t Mean You’re Losing Your DriveThe Hidden Pressure of Being ‘The One Who Has It All Together’When the Business is Working But You’re NotQuote:"Procrastination isn’t laziness, it’s your subconscious saying it doesn’t fully agree with the goal yet. When every part of you aligns, procrastination disappears." - Rebecca HaydonConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

What if I told you that you won't let your business be easy because you're terrified it means you'll lose your edge? Today I'm calling out the dirty little secret every high-achieving woman shares – you've built your success on struggle and now you're addicted to it. It's time to stop gripping your business like it's about to fall apart, even if you are hitting 50K, 70K months. I see you creating chaos the second things calm down. Adding seven launches to one. Leaving everything to the last bloody minute. Learning new strategies instead of using what's already working. You have trained your subconscious to believe that pressure equals purpose. So when things feel good? You panic. But what if the pressure isn't the fuel anymore? What if it's actually slowing you down? Tune in to learn my exact three-step process I use with my clients to break this pattern, plus the one-word shift that changed everything about how I work. Because you can be driven, ambitious, and passionate without being drained by the end of every day.Topics covered on Let Your Business Be Easy:How to tell if you’re addicted to creating problems in your business?How did your nervous system get so addicted to stress that letting your business be easy feels like a threat?How did switching from “working hard” to “working intentionally” completely change my relationship with my business?The difference between being driven versus being drained.Why do so many women achieve huge launches then disappear, and how can you avoid that pattern?The 3-step process to break free from your addiction to struggle and start letting your business be easy whilst smashing your goals.Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/letting-your-business-be-easy-doesnt-mean-youre-losing-your-ambition

You’re the one who always shows up, the one who handles everything, the one who has it all together but what happens when you’re holding so much… there’s no space left for you?In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the subconscious identity of “the strong one” - the pattern high achieving women subconsciously adopt to stay safe, in control, and on top of it all.We’ll explore how this pattern forms, how it silently costs you in business and leadership, and most importantly, how to rewire it so you can expand your capacity without breaking under the pressure.Topics covered on the pressure to always have it together:How subconscious identities like “the strong one” form (and why they feel so familiar)The hidden cost of always holding it all - emotionally, energetically, and strategicallyHow this pattern sabotages your business behind the scenesFour rewiring practices to build safety in support, softness, and being heldThe role of parts work, repetition, and identity anchoring in shifting this pattern for goodConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-high-achieving-women-feel-the-pressure-to-always-hold-it-together

Join the 'This Is Who I Am Challenge' - In this episode, I’m taking you behind the filtered Instagram stories and right into what it actually looked like to continuing scaling a multi-6 figure business, launch a second company, give birth to my daughter Ivy, and still keep expanding not because I had more time (can confirm I did not), but because I built a different identity. One that could hold it all.Topics covered on Two Businesses, One Baby, and a Whole New Identity:Why identity, not time, is what creates real evolutionThe exact mindset & movement that helped me build while in postpartumDaily/weekly practices that lock in your next level selfThe truth about subconscious rehearsal (and how I still use it every day)How to lead and launch from subconscious certaintyThe reason you’re not behind you’re just unrehearsedConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/two-businesses-one-baby-and-a-whole-new-identity

You’ve journaled. You’ve visualised. You’re more self aware than ever…So why do you still feel stuck in the same patterns?In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reason you’re not acting like your next level self, even though you know what to do. We’re diving into the neuroscience and subconscious psychology behind self sabotage, resistance, and why insight alone won’t shift your identity.This is a wake up call and if you’re ready to move from awareness to ACTION, this is the episode you need.Want in on the challenge that helps you actually lock in that next-level identity?DM me "WHO I AM" on Instagram before Wednesday 23rd to join us inside This Is Who I Am Now.Topics covered on Why Awareness Alone Isn’t Enough:Why awareness isn’t integrationHow your subconscious keeps you stuck in “familiar” patternsThe myth of motivation and why it always fadesWhat subconscious resistance really looks likeHow to actually rewire your identity through repetition, not just journalingTangible daily actions to train your brain to become her nowConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/the-real-reason-youre-still-not-acting-like-your-next-level

Why do you always leave things to the last minute, even when you swear you wouldn’t this time? I’m not here to give you productivity hacks or tell you to set the bloody deadline earlier. I’m going to show you what’s really happening in your brain. You’re not lazy or have poor time management skills – it’s your nervous system survival strategy! You’ve trained your brain to only take action when adrenaline spikes, creating a five-phase loop: pressure, avoidance, panic, hyper-focus, and relief. Your brain is protecting you from potential judgement, failure, or even success by delaying until the fear of missing the deadline outweighs your deeper fears.I’ve been there – I was literally called the "last minute Haydon"! But I broke free, and so can you! So today I’m going to walk you through three specific steps to interrupt this pattern: catching your protective story early, making safety your starting point, and breaking the urgency loop with micro actions. Ready? Let me show you how!Topics covered on Always Leave Things to the Last Minute:Why do so many high-achieving women always leave things until the last minute?How does the behavioural loop of leaving things until the last minute keep reinforcing your procrastination habits?What’s really happening in your brain when you avoid important tasks until the deadline looms?What specific steps can you take to retrain your brain to start tasks before the deadline?How can you build a new identity beyond the “last minute” persona?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-you-always-leave-things-to-the-last-minute