Dr Tara Swart - What Science Says About Non Monogamy

What is the truth behind delaying sex in the early days of your relationship? Dive deep into the neuroscience of love, trust, and connection with Dr. Tara Swart, a renowned neuroscientist and psychiatrist. Explore the role of oxytocin and learn how neuro-plasticity is reshaping our brains and revolutionising our relationships. Dr. Swart provides practical tips on reigniting passion and maintaining closeness in relationships. Discover a neuroscientist’s secrets to sustaining a deep emotional connection with others and ensure your relationships thrive. Follow Dr Tara here: https://g2ul0.app.link/xkHuM1JgWPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Intro 01:57 How Brain Function Influences Relationships 04:44 Dr. Tara's Definition of Love Explained 09:00 Oxytocin: The Key Chemical in Relationships 12:24 The Crucial Role of Dopamine in Emotional Health 13:17 Understanding the Importance of Vasopressin in Human Bonds 14:14 Ideal Timing for Intimacy in New Relationships 24:30 The Impact of Brain Chemistry on Fatherhood 28:19 Effects of Pornography on the Brain 28:55 Brain Changes from Attending Sex Parties 33:33 The Science Behind Attraction and Scent 35:46 Factors That Shape Our Perception of Attractiveness 40:03 Tinder Advertising Insights 40:51 Insights from the 'Baby Girl' Ad Campaign 41:51 Exploring 'The Source': How to Access Your Inner Power 43:22 Manifesting Desires: Practical Steps to Bring Dreams to Reality 52:33 The Tetris Effect: How Activities Shape Our Brains 58:16 How to Align Actions With Your Manifestation Goals 1:04:01 Social Contagion: Understanding Its Influence 1:07:25 Modern Strategies to Manage Cortisol 1:13:53 The Impact of Cortisol on Brain Function 1:20:58 Two Surprising Facts You Didn't Know 1:23:39 Most Memorable Conversations: A Look Back 1:24:42 Key Takeaways from Paul's Discussion 1:28:34 Adobe Advertising Review Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Baby Girl: https://www.bgfilm.co.uk/ Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/

First Date Mistakes To Avoid in 2025! Join Paul as he explores the real-life dating from three remarkable guests: Jo, who at 44, has never been in a relationship; Heather who, as a single parent, is navigating the dating world after the tragic loss of her partner; and Emmalee, who recently lost her leg and is finding dating to be challenging. Also - stay tuned to meet Paul’s special guest - someone who many Married at First Sight fans will know all too well! Whether you're starting afresh, or looking for love under unique circumstances, this episode offers practical tools and invaluable insights to help you on your journey. Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Introduction 02:13 Meet Jo 02:44 Self-Love Challenges 03:48 Finding Love: Challenges and Solutions 04:00 Living in the Moment: Techniques and Benefits 04:19 Family Dynamics: Understanding Relationship Impacts 07:12 Exploring Attachment Styles with Jo 11:11 Jo's Love Life 12:21 Has Jo Truly Been in Love? 14:48 Modern Dating Tips with Jo 18:44 Reconnecting with Fathers 21:00 The Power of Letter Writing in Healing 24:51 Changing Negative Beliefs 30:13 Baby Girl Ad 31:14 Adobe Ad 32:11 Introducing Heather: New Beginnings 32:50 Why Heather Chose Therapy with Paul 33:23 Inside Heather's Love Life: Current Status 35:25 Relationship Analysis: Heather and Dave 38:46 Is Heather Ready for Dating? Expert Assessment 40:53 Are You Ready to Date? Paul's Test Explained 44:45 Tips for Dating Again: Openness and Preparedness 51:50 Creating a Vision Board: Steps and Benefits 56:47 Dealing with Guilt: Effective Strategies 57:39 Paul's Parting Advice: Lasting Thoughts 59:27 Intro to Emmalee: A Soldier's Story 01:00:03 Relationship Lessons from Military Life with Emmalee 01:01:07 Healthy Relationships in the Military: Emmalee's Experience 01:01:36 Coping with Injury and Military Exit: Emmalee's Story 01:03:39 Dealing with Trauma: Emmalee's Leg Amputation Story 01:04:24 Dating as an Amputee: Challenges and Insights 01:05:58 Emmalee's Dating Life 01:06:42 Emmalee Discusses Love 01:07:30 Introducing Jay from Married at First Sight 01:08:00 Why Emmalee Follows Jay 01:08:36 Jay's Experience on MAFS as an Amputee 01:09:52 Building Dating Confidence 01:10:36 Addressing Fetishization in Disabled Dating 01:14:08 Vulnerability in Dating: Amputee Experiences 01:17:23 Tackling Anxiety in Social Situations: Emmalee's Techniques 01:18:15 Confidence Building for Dating: Paul's Guidance 01:23:00 Creating a Supportive Friend Network 01:26:30 The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Relationships 01:26:56 Emmalee's Revealing Conversations 01:28:18 Memorable Conversations 01:28:21 Paul's Key Takeaways 01:31:40 Tinder Ad Sponsored by: Baby Girl: https://www.bgfilm.co.uk/ Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/

“I Sleep with a Knife!” This second episode in a two-part series reveals Tulisa's honest reflections on her time in the spotlight during her stint on 'I’m A Celebrity’. We also dive into the shocking details of the drug sting that threatened to derail Tulisa’s career and life, and speak of the profound impact it had on her mental health. Hear directly from Tulisa as she recounts the intense anxiety and prescription drug dependence that followed, before leading to her courageous steps toward recovery. Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including addiction. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below: MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPb Follow Tulisa Here: Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Intro 02:30 'The Sting' Explained: A Detailed Analysis 19:49 Resolving The Case: What Happened? 22:47 Psychological Effects of 'The Sting' on Tulisa: An In-Depth Look 25:51 Tulisa's Life Post-Trial: A Comprehensive Overview 31:41 BBC Documentary Review: Tulisa’s Path to Redemption 32:55 Legal Battle: The Controversy Behind 'Scream & Shout' 36:44 Scandal Breakdown: The "Homewrecker" Story 38:46 Tulisa’s Resilience in Showbiz: Secrets to Overcoming Adversity 40:46 Huel Ad 41:45 Tinder Ad 42:36 The Success of N-Dubz: A Deep Dive 46:10 Tulisa's Battle with Medication: A Personal Journey 48:35 Tulisa on 'I'm A Celeb': Behind The Scenes Insights 01:01:04 The Mystery of Tulisa’s Absence at the 'I'm A Celeb' Final 01:05:25 Exploring Tulisa’s Demi-Sexuality: What Does It Mean? 01:07:08 Tulisa and Celibacy: A Period of Self-Discovery 01:11:00 Does Tulisa Still Believe in Love? Insights Revealed 01:13:38 What Is Tulisa Looking for in a Partner? Dating Preferences Unveiled 01:15:53 Exploring Tulisa's 'Fantasy Land': Dreams and Aspirations 01:19:29 Paul’s Takeaways Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Huel: https://huel.com/paul use code PAUL

This first episode in a two-part series explores Tulisa's inspiring journey, through a turbulent childhood with family mental health challenges, to achieving widespread fame through her career with N-Dubz and X-Factor. This powerful conversation explores Tulisa's personal encounters with trauma and sexual assault, while highlighting her incredible resilience and self-belief, offering a path of empowerment and hope for those in similar situations. Please be aware that this episode discusses sensitive topics, including sexual assault and self-harm. If you or someone you know needs support, please see the charities below: The Survivors Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/sqvZqaAesPb MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb Follow Tulisa Here: Tulisa's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Cv7G7DkesPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Introduction to the Series 02:22 Growing Up in Camden: A Personal Journey 05:20 Family Life in Camden: Tulisa’s Childhood Explored 07:14 The Complex Relationship Between Tulisa and Her Mother 10:34 Tulisa's Role as a Caregiver: Personal Stories 13:16 Mental Health Struggles in the Family: Tulisa's Insights 14:50 Advice to My Younger Self: Tulisa Reflects 16:47 Tulisa’s Father and Mungo Jerry: A Musical Legacy 21:35 Understanding Attachment Styles with Tulisa 25:27 First Love: Tulisa’s Early Romantic Experiences 26:58 Tulisa’s Initial Sexual Encounters: A Candid Discussion 29:09 Exploring Spirituality with Tulisa 32:22 Addressing Sexual Assault: Tulisa's Harrowing Experience 36:15 True Love in Relationships: Has Tulisa Experienced It? 39:16 Wishing for a Different First Time: Tulisa's Regrets 41:31 Adobe Express Advertisement 42:29 Tinder Advertisement 43:26 Paul’s Love for N-Dubz: A Fan’s Perspective 47:39 The Impact of Dappy on Tulisa’s Life 51:03 Coping with Uncle B’s Death: Tulisa’s Experience 55:07 Celebrating Platinum Records: Tulisa’s Achievements 57:47 Tulisa Discusses Her History with Self-Harm 01:01:54 Class and Music: How It Shaped N-Dubz's Reception 01:08:30 Starting on X-Factor: Tulisa's Initial Impressions 01:12:36 Reality TV Exposed: The Fakeness Behind the Scenes 01:14:12 Support Among X-Factor Judges: Tulisa’s Experience 01:16:42 The Controversial 'Tape' Incident: Tulisa's Story 01:27:57 Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts 01:28:26 Teaser for Episode 2: What's Next? Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/ Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL

“I Thought Therapy Couldn’t Help” - Join us in this powerful episode featuring Daniel Middleton, better known as DanTDM, the UK’s most-followed YouTuber with over 29 million subscribers. Dan shares the untold story behind his rise to fame — from navigating childhood challenges such as social anxiety and the divorce of his parents, to his struggle with severe postnatal depression during early fatherhood. Learn how Dan overcame his mental health struggles through therapy and his advice on how to protect ones mental health through difficult times. If you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support: Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/1CRhatR7mPb CALM - https://g2ul0.app.link/YvmzhM17mPb MIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb Follow Dan here: YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/tjSbVHz7mPb Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MEkgFAI7mPb X - https://g2ul0.app.link/341f8KC7mPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sections: 00:00 Introduction To The Episode 02:16 Being Compared To Michael Jackson 02:46 The Origin Of The Name “Dan TDM" Explained 03:34 Balancing Two Personalities 04:33 A Look Back At Dan's Childhood 05:27 How Divorce Shaped Dan's Childhood 07:46 Surviving Secondary School 12:53 How Dan Started His YouTube Career 16:43 What Is Minecraft? A Beginner’s Guide 18:32 How Minecraft Transformed Dan's Life 21:18 When Dan Realized YouTube Could Be A Career 22:49 Transitioning To Full-Time YouTube 27:07 Why Dan Is One Of YouTube's Most Successful Creators 34:48 Breaking Down The 2017 Forbes Article On Dan 37:56 How Dan Coped With Sudden Fame 42:33 Managing Fame As An Introvert 44:06 Why Dan Is A Positive Role Model For Fans 44:59 Dan’s Impact On His Young Audience 47:39 Behind The Scenes Of Dan's Live Show 51:17 Inside Dan's Relationship With His Wife 54:20 Why Dan Got Married At 21 55:26 How Dan's Wife Influenced His Success 58:43 How Becoming A Father Changed Dan's Life 01:01:26 Huel Sponsorship 01:02:28 Tinder Ad Spot 01:03:24 Dan Advocates For Men’s Mental Health 01:06:16 Struggling With Mental Health During Lockdown 01:09:18 Hitting Rock Bottom 01:10:55 Dan's Honest Experience With Anti-Depressants 01:12:05 Dan Opens Up About Suicidal Thoughts 01:15:21 How Dan Shared His Feelings With His Wife 01:17:45 Exploring Why Dan Felt The Way He Did 01:20:01 What Early Fatherhood Taught Dan 01:24:10 How Therapy Helped Dan Overcome His Struggles 01:27:11 Creating YouTube Content While Battling Depression 01:31:06 How Being A Man Shapes Dan’s Views On Mental Health 01:34:18 Dan’s Advice For Those Struggling With Mental Health 01:36:38 What’s Next For Dan? Future Plans Revealed 01:41:38 Is Being A YouTuber A Sustainable Career? 01:44:07 Dan’s Top Tips For Growing A Successful YouTube Channel 01:46:43 How Many Subscribers Does Dan Have Today? 01:47:02 Dan’s Most Memorable Conversation Ever 01:49:48 Key Takeaways From This Episode 01:52:33 Adobe Sponsorship Sponsored by: Adobe: https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL

“If he upsets me - I get gifts!” In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth. Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships.  With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power. Follow Chidera Here: https://g2ul0.app.link/T3GIV2Y0bPb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Intro 00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower' 00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos' 00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy 00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father 00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships 00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence? 00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat 00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time 00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women 00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera? 00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance 00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic 00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage? 00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance? 00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego 00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work' 00:55:10 Huel Ad 00:56:12 Tinder Ad 00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy 00:59:40 4B Movement 01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual' 01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix 01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start? 01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego 01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux' 01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera 01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation 01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways 01:49:10 Fiver Ad Sponsored by: Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB/ Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul/

Appearance Was A Big Part Of My Childhood: Join Megan Barton-Hanson, a former Love Island finalist and one of the top creators on OnlyFans, where she shares her incredible journey from being severely bullied in her younger years, to becoming a global advocate for sex positivity and empowerment.  Megan opens up about the challenges she’s faced, from overcoming societal misconceptions about sex work to building a multi-million-dollar career rooted in authenticity and resilience.  With candid reflections on love, self-worth, and breaking free from judgment, Megan’s story is a powerful reminder of the strength it takes to own your narrative and defy outdated norms. Follow Megan here: Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ep1wbj4jJOb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod If you’re affected by anything discussed in this episode, please contact the below organisations and charities who can provide support: Women's Aid https://g2ul0.app.link/WyCdvWWjJOb Refuge https://g2ul0.app.link/pmZkBsOjJOb NUM https://g2ul0.app.link/sosyTb1jJOb MIND https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb 00:00 Intro 2:11 Megan’s Childhood: Growing Up In Southend-On-Sea 3:20 Megan’s Relationship With Her Parents During Her Youth 4:19 Megan’s Brother: Their Bond And Memories 5:39 Highlights Of School Life And Living In Southend 6:59 Megan’s Struggles With Bullying At School 10:30 Who Supported Megan Through Her Bullying Experiences? 12:23 Megan’s Early Views On Intimacy And Self-Worth 13:55 When Did Megan First Experience Sexual Intimacy? 15:22 Megan’s Journey To Realizing Her Sexual Orientation 16:30 Megan’s First Lesbian Relationship: A Personal Story 21:46 Megan’s Cosmetic Surgery Experience: Why She Did It 24:02 How Megan Started Her Career: A Look Back 25:18 Megan’s Experience Working As A Stripper 27:59 Defining ‘Sex Work’: Megan’s Perspective 29:43 Was Megan Truly Happy While Working As A Stripper? 30:40 Megan’s Journey To Becoming A Love Island Contestant 32:47 Lessons Megan Learned About People From Her Time At The Strip Club 35:42 What Megan Discovered About Herself During Her Early Career 37:26 How Megan Got Cast On Love Island 39:31 How Megan Earned Money Before Joining Love Island 40:36 Why Megan Decided To Go On Love Island 41:43 Did Megan Have A Game Plan For Love Island? 42:52 Life After Love Island: Megan’s Story 44:21 Finding Love On Love Island: Megan’s Experience 46:12 Navigating Fame: Megan’s Life In The Public Eye 54:00 Megan’s Brother’s Mental Health Struggles 56:15 Why Megan Joined Celebs Go Dating 58:11 Facing Skepticism About Her Sexuality: Megan’s Response 1:00:22 When Paul Realized Megan Had Feelings For Demi 1:03:19 How Megan And Demi’s Relationship Ended 1:05:41 Adobe Ad 1:06:36 Tinder Ad 1:07:39 Megan’s Current Dating Life: What’s Happening Now? 1:10:48 What Megan Wants In An Ideal Partner 1:12:48 Inside Megan’s Hinge Profile: Dating In The Digital Age 1:15:19 Megan’s Worst Experiences With Men: Lessons Learned 1:20:19 Megan’s Charity Work And Giving Back 1:29:33 Challenges Megan Has Faced In Relationships With Men 1:36:12 Megan’s Journey As A Successful Businesswoman 1:41:51 Why Megan Is A Top Creator On OnlyFans 1:43:12 The Most Unusual Requests Megan Has Received On OnlyFans 1:44:44 Funny And Unexpected OnlyFans Stories 1:46:32 Is OnlyFans Considered Pornography? Megan’s Take 1:52:27 Is Megan Truly Happy Now? A Reflection 1:55:27 Megan’s Most Memorable Conversations 1:57:21 Key Takeaways From Megan’s Journey 2:01:11 Huel Ad Sponsored by: Adobe https://www.adobe.com/uk/express/  Tinder https://tinder.com/en-GB  Huel https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL

Do younger partners make you happier? In this episode, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, shares her bold perspective on living authentically and challenging societal norms. From rejecting pressures to marry or have children to embracing the joy of dating younger men, Cindy redefines intimacy and celebrates individuality. Drawing on her successful advertising career and groundbreaking work in reshaping conversations about sex and relationships, she offers insights on breaking free from conventional expectations to live a uniquely fulfilling life. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that encourages you to rethink what it means to live on your own terms. Follow Cindy Here: Cindy's Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/neknglRJJOb MakeLoveNotPorn Instagram https://g2ul0.app.link/ANV19lVJJOb MakeLoveNotPorn Fundraiser https://g2ul0.app.link/3nwgfqdMJOb Support MakeLoveNotPorn Here: https://www.wefunder.com/makelovenotporn Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Introduction: Who Is Cindy Gallop? 02:02 What Does "Cindy’s Brand" Really Mean? 03:45 How Cindy Views Herself vs. How The World Sees Her 04:25 How Cindy’s Background Shaped Her Authentic Self 06:28 Steps To Embracing Your Authentic Self 09:00 Breaking Down The Most Harmful Societal Norms 12:07 Has Cindy Ever Experienced True Romantic Love? 13:47 Why Cindy Isn’t Focused On Finding Romantic Love 15:44 Why Young Men Are Choosing To Date Older Women 17:51 What’s The Age Gap Between Cindy And The Men She Dates? 20:56 Why Cindy Gallop’s Relationships Are Different From Love 24:53 Will Traditional Ideas About Love And Family Ever Change? 25:47 How To Stop External Pressures From Influencing Your Choices 27:19 The Dangerous Myth Of “The One” In Relationships 28:44 How Cindy Maintains Successful Relationships With Younger Men 35:25 Debunking The Myth Of The “Nuclear Family” 37:58 Advertising’s Misrepresentation Of Age And Its Impact 42:34 Is “Make Love Not Porn” Competing With Mainstream Porn? 46:26 Why Cindy Created “Make Love Not Porn” And Its Mission 53:16 What Is The Social-Sexual Revolution “Make Love Not Porn” Aims To Spark? 58:49 How “Make Love Not Porn” Differs From Mainstream Porn’s Addictive Traits 01:02:18 Cindy Gallop’s Definition Of True Consent 01:05:23 Can Sharing Your Sex Life Help Correct Misconceptions About Sex? 01:08:11 A Look At Paul’s Research On “Make Love Not Porn” 01:11:21 Cindy’s Innovative Approach To Educating Young People About Sex 01:13:42 How And When Parents Should Talk To Kids About Sex And Porn 01:16:15 Inside The “Make Love Not Porn” Academy 01:22:03 Cindy Gallop’s Most Memorable Conversations Sponsored by: Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Huel: https://huel.com/paul/ use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB

Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction. From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment. Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. Follow Dr Karen Here: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxOb Karen's Book 'Mind The Gap' https://g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxOb Karen's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' https://g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxOb Follow us here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod -- 00:00 Introduction   1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life   1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?   3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know   5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?   7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?   10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference   15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios   18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations   21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters   27:32 1st PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?   31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size   34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?   36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?   37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?   40:49 2nd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?   45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond   47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad   48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad   49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?   52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships   1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship   1:01:58 3rd PTC (Post Topic Commentary)   1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting   1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life   1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?   1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?   1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life   1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships   1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?   1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship   1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important   1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?   1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex   1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex   1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad   -- Sponsored by: Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Fiverr: https://fvrr.co/paul Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB

Toni Tone and Taiwo Ogebule share the transformative journey that has redefined their approach to love and relationships.Through overcoming personal challenges, cultural pressures, and managing a long-distance romance, they reveal how a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and deep emotional connection has kept their bond strong. Together, they challenge conventional narratives around attachment, masculinity, and "struggle love," showing how self-discovery and resilience create a partnership that goes beyond expectations. Follow Toni Here: Toni's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/JazIAMKurOb Toni's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/sFCGcJOurOb Follow Taiwo Here: Taiwo's TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/0wuUp8WurOb Taiwo's Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/pUhyd2SurOb Follow Me Here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod 00:00 Introduction to the Episode 03:04 Dating Culture Differences: USA vs. UK 05:15 Toni and Taiwo’s Relationship Histories 06:18 How Relationships Can Impact Attachment Styles 11:06 How Toni and Taiwo Met: Their Love Story 16:22 Toni’s Viral Tweet After Their First Call 16:53 Understanding Demisexuality: What Does It Mean? 18:23 Tips for Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship 20:46 Managing Conflict Across Borders: Toni and Taiwo’s Approach 25:49 The Biggest Misconceptions About Our Relationship 29:51 What Makes a “Good Man” in Modern Dating? 30:55 Shopify Ad 31:54 Huel Ad 33:25 What Is Gut Instinct and Why It’s Important in Love 35:37 Breaking Down “Struggle Love” and Its Impact 38:51 Can a Strong Woman Really Intimidate Men? 49:00 Our Most Memorable Conversations Together 54:24 Key Takeaways from Paul 56:59 Tinder Ad Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk  Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB