100: How to Stop Repeating Toxic Relationship Patterns

Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset.Dr. Joe Dispenza is a New York Times bestselling author, researcher, and lecturer known for his work on neuroscience, epigenetics, and personal transformation.In this episode, you're going to learn how emotions shape your health, why chronic stress can keep you stuck in illness, the process of rewiring your brain to create real physical change, the role of belief in healing and how people have regrown lost organs. You will also learn why most people struggle to change their habits and identity, plus the surprising way that brainwaves and meditation influence the body’s ability to repair itself.A New York Times best-selling author, researcher, lecturer, and corporate consultant, Dr. Joe Dispenza has developed a practical formula to help people transform their lives. Dr. Joe’s mission unifies complex branches of science in an approachable way – focused on proven research, “Stories of Transformation” testimonials, and the scientific data behind spontaneous remissions. Inspired by the latest findings in neuroscience, psychoneuroimmunology, epigenetics, and quantum physics, his work integrates essential knowledge about the mind-body connection – which teaches people how to heal various health conditions and make significant changes in their lives. Since 2010, he has partnered with renowned scientists and universities – including the University of California San Diego, Harvard University, Stanford University, and others – to perform extensive research on the effects of meditation on the brain and body.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:45] Why people start seeking alternatives when medicine fails[06:12] How beliefs influence healing[08:45] Regrowing tissue after surgery[11:00] The role of emotions in healing[13:20] How meditation changes the body[16:05] Why most people stay stuck in old habits[18:30] Overcoming emotional addiction[21:15] How stress keeps you sick[23:40] Changing your personality to change your reality[26:55] The impact of subconscious programming[29:20] The process of breaking old patterns[32:05] How meditation rewires the brain[34:40] Why most people struggle with change[37:10] Emotional addiction and the body’s response[39:55] The power of elevated emotions[42:30] What happens in the brain during deep meditation[44:50] The connection between energy and healing[47:15] How trauma is stored in the body[50:05] The role of belief in long-term healing[53:20] Group healing and collective consciousness[56:45] How Dr. Joe Dispenza’s events create measurable change[59:30] The future of healing beyond traditional medicineLearn more about Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work on his website, Youtube and Instagram.Resources Mentioned:Calm Body, Clear Mind Masterclass with Dr. Kelly Brogan | YouTubeDr. Joe Dispenza’s Progressive Online Course | WebsiteDr. Joe Dispenza’s Retreats | WebsiteDr. Joe Dispenza’s Books | WebsiteThe ‘Four-Minute Mile’ – She Regenerated Rectal Tissue After Cancer Surgery | YouTubeInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.This episode is sponsored by Samadhi Moss. Use code KELLY10 for 10% off your sea moss!

Ask Kelly your burning questions in our monthly Vital Life Project membership.In this episode, you'll learn how to support a friend stuck in a victim mindset, how to create agreements in friendships that encourage growth, how to recognize when storytelling keeps you stuck, and how to reframe victim narratives for empowerment.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[00:42] Agreements in friendships for growth[01:08] No longer speaking negatively about men[01:31] How agreements shape personal identity[01:54] Breaking the cycle of toxic relationship stories[02:12] Using humour to reframe negative narratives[02:38] The importance of self-awareness in conversation[02:53] How to support a friend in a victim mindset[03:15] Understanding personal communication preferences[03:38] Asking for consent before giving feedback[03:59] Recognizing when someone is stuck in their story[04:21] The emotional attachment to victim narratives[04:42] When validating past experiences is necessary[05:04] How to shift from venting to problem-solving[05:26] Creating a supportive friendship dynamic[05:48] Rejecting the culture of powerlessnessWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

Join Kelly's sovereignty-minded community, Vital Life Project.In this episode, you'll learn how Family Constellation Therapy can reshape your perception of men, how early conditioning affects your relationships, how to cultivate emotional self-mastery, and how to create a sense of safety within yourself.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:10] Understanding Family Constellation Therapy[02:45] How beliefs about men are shaped in childhood[04:12] The impact of mother’s influence on father perception[05:30] Healing phrases that shift perspectives[06:42] Seeing your father through your own eyes[08:05] The role of nervous system regulation in perception[09:18] How unresolved emotions affect relationships[10:25] Projecting past wounds onto partnersWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned:Family Constellations | WebsiteAnother Self | NetflixInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

Join Kelly's sovereignty-minded community, Vital Life Project.Mark Gober is a researcher and author known for questioning mainstream scientific and societal narratives.In this episode, you're going to learn why Mark believes the shape and motion of Earth might not be what we've been told, how mainstream physics relies on unproven assumptions like dark matter and dark energy, why the heliocentric model of the solar system has major inconsistencies, how NASA's imagery and space missions raise serious questions, and what rethinking cosmology means for understanding our place in the universe.Mark Gober is an award-winning author of 7 books spanning the topics of consciousness, politics, economics, medicine, cosmology, and more. He is also a former New York investment banker, a former partner in a Silicon Valley strategy firm, and a magna cum laude graduate from Princeton University.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[06:18] Why dark matter and dark energy might not exist[08:45] Problems with Einstein's relativity and gravity[11:02] Why physics struggles to unify its theories[13:26] The role of assumptions in modern cosmology[15:14] Why the Copernican principle might be flawed[17:08] Does the cosmic microwave background prove geocentrism?[19:42] Why Earth’s motion has never been conclusively proven[22:19] The Michelson-Morley experiment and its implications[24:06] Issues with how gravity is explained[26:34] Density, buoyancy, and electromagnetism as alternatives to gravity[28:57] The problem with the vacuum of space next to Earth’s atmosphere[31:21] Why mainstream explanations for planetary motion are questionable[33:10] Earth’s supposed speed and why we feel no motion[35:48] How time zones and magnetic declination challenge the globe model[38:12] Why Antarctica is heavily restricted from private exploration[40:29] Issues with NASA’s official images and CGI use[42:15] The moon landing telemetry data mysteriously missing[44:03] The International Space Station and zero gravity inconsistencies[46:11] Why Earth’s curvature calculations don’t match real-world observations[48:35] Examples that contradict the globe model[50:42] Why airplane emergency landings don’t align with globe projections[52:17] The problem with eclipses and mainstream explanations[54:09] Why history and mainstream science might be deeply flawed[56:45] What Mark believes about the earth’s shape and the nature of reality[59:12] How questioning cosmology leads to bigger philosophical questions[61:30] The implications of being misled about where we live[63:18] Why mainstream institutions suppress certain lines of inquiryWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereConnect with Mark on Telegram, Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube, X, Facebook and his website.Mark’s Books:An End to the Upside Down Cosmos | Book or AudiobookAn End to Upside Down Medicine | Book or AudiobookAn End to the Upside Down Reset | Book or AudiobookAn End to Upside Down Contact | Book or AudiobookAn End to Upside Down Liberty | Book or AudiobookAn End to Upside Down Living | Book or AudiobookAn End to Upside Down Thinking | Book or AudiobookResources Mentioned:A Fool’s Wisdom by Steve Young | Book or AudiobookThe Principle | DocumentaryMagnetic Declination | WebsiteThe Blue Marble | WikipediaInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

Let’s alchemize our shame and have an exquisite time doing it! Get ready to experience your body as a divine container and wholeheartedly accept yourself in Audacious Embodiment.Om Rupani is a teacher and practitioner in the realm of BDSM and conscious kink, known for his work on power dynamics, trauma, and erotic healing.In this episode, you're going to learn how BDSM can be used to revisit past trauma and reshape personal narratives, why jealousy and abandonment fears can be worked through in a controlled scene, how body shame can be addressed through role-play and worship dynamics, what parent-child scene design looks like in BDSM and how it helps people heal childhood wounds, and why cultural misconceptions about kink limit its potential as a tool for self-awareness and empowerment.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:05] How BDSM intersects with trauma, pleasure, and healing[05:12] Understanding the father-daughter dynamic in relationships[06:08] How childhood experiences shape adult desires[07:20] Why reenacting childhood wounds can be healing[08:14] Common father-daughter wounds and their emotional impact[09:05] Revisiting painful childhood memories in a controlled way[10:18] How a dom can rewrite past trauma[12:02] How reenacting childhood wounds changes self-perception[13:15] The role of psychodrama in BDSM[14:09] How women can relive and heal rejection from their fathers[15:30] Why BDSM scene design is structured like a play[16:22] Examples of how childhood wounds show up in adult relationships[19:02] The impact of revisiting parental rejection in scene play[20:10] The emotional release that comes from reenacting past pain[21:04] The psychological effects of feeling preferred or not preferred[22:15] The deep-rooted nature of childhood wounds in adult life[23:09] How re-experiencing childhood emotions can reframe memories[24:03] The importance of acknowledging that parents are human[25:12] Using BDSM to address self-worth issues rooted in childhood[26:08] Why people carry childhood pain into adulthood[27:00] The difference between memory, narrative, and reality[28:15] The role of the dom in guiding emotional catharsis[29:05] How the body holds onto past trauma[30:10] The connection between physical sensations and emotional healing[31:12] How BDSM can address and release stored trauma[32:20] The impact of feeling powerless as a child[33:08] How physical expression can help process past pain[34:04] Why talk therapy alone cannot resolve deep trauma[35:10] Jealousy as a common relationship challenge[36:02] How BDSM can be used to work through jealousy[38:00] How playing out jealousy can lessen its intensity[41:08] Why understanding your fears can give you more agency[42:04] How women can shift their perspective on their partner’s attraction to others[45:02] How body shame impacts relationships and intimacy[46:10] How BDSM can help heal body insecurities[47:15] Why body shaming is common in BDSM play[48:02] How men and women experience different types of body shame[49:08] The role of worship and cherishment in healing body shame[50:05] Why aftercare is essential in BDSM scenes[51:10] How physical play can anchor emotional healing[52:02] Why BDSM is not just for “kinky” people[53:08] How scene play can be an effective tool for personal growth[54:12] Why BDSM should not be stigmatized in therapeutic settings[55:05] How this approach can complement traditional therapy[56:02] The importance of embracing taboo topics for healingWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereLearn more about Om Rupani’s School for Dominance & Submission on his website, YouTube channel and Instagram.Listen to the Om Rupani Podcast on Spotify or AppleInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

Ask Kelly your burning questions in our monthly Vital Life Project membership.In this episode, you'll learn how to respond when your partner accuses you of being in victim consciousness or acting too masculine, how to practice self-containment and emotional regulation, how to shift relationship dynamics through behavioural surrender, and why focusing on your own fulfillment can lead to deeper connection.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction  [00:50] Responding to accusations of victim consciousness  [02:13] Why pop psychology phrases can be harmful  [03:16] The role of containment in relationships  [05:37] Self-soothing versus expecting external validation  [06:58] Why men and women both need self-containment  [08:00] When emotional overwhelm becomes unmanageable  [09:10] How a partner can offer grounding and stability  [10:00] The importance of staying in your lane  [11:25] Why focusing on appreciation shifts relationship dynamics  [12:22] The power of choosing whether to stay or leave  [13:07] Avoiding the trap of making your partner wrong  [13:50] Strengthening the relationship instead of breaking it downWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned:The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle | Book or AudiobookOm Rupani’s Relationship Training | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

If you want to feel more empowered in ALL of your relationships, end the cycles of pain in your mother line, and feel more confident as a parent,  join Kelly for Victimless Mothering.In this episode, you'll learn why children owe parents nothing beyond gratitude for life, how micromanaging your child's space can disconnect them from intrinsic motivation, why control-based parenting breeds entitlement, and how shifting to a devotional approach to motherhood creates a deeper connection.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction  [00:30] The mother-child relationship is the deepest form of intimacy[01:15] The habit of micromanaging children's spaces[02:10] How control-based parenting impacts kids[03:05] Teaching kids compliance vs. true cooperation[04:00] Understanding the hidden motives behind parenting rules[05:00] Why children only owe parents gratitude for life[06:10] The natural flow of giving from parent to child[07:05] Recognizing the burden of transactional love[08:00] How unmet childhood needs shape parenting behaviour[09:15] Letting go of expectations for children’s appreciation[10:00] Why it’s okay if children never reciprocate gestures[11:10] The power of giving without expecting anything in return[12:05] How control-based parenting creates entitlement[13:00] Teaching kids intrinsic motivation instead of compliance[14:05] The issue with forcing kids to clean their rooms[15:00] Encouraging kids to take ownership of their space[16:10] How parents project their own discomfort onto their kids[17:00] Shifting from control to true service in parenting[18:00] Recognizing martyrdom and self-pity in motherhood[19:10] Prioritizing motherhood over career and personal goals[20:05] The mindset shift from burden to privilege in parenting[21:00] The importance of truly listening to children[22:00] Letting go of the need to control your child’s choicesWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned:Family Constellation Training | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

If you’re a stretched-thin boss babe, frustrated wife, or “do it all” mamma who just needs a second for yourself, join Kelly’s Free Exhale Masterclass.Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst and author specializing in maternal mental health.  In this episode, you’ll learn why early maternal presence is critical for a child’s emotional well-being, how modern feminism overlooked the developmental needs of children, why feeling bored with your baby may signal deeper psychological issues, the long-term consequences of outsourcing childcare, the link between attachment security and mental health and why prioritizing motherhood in the first three years can change future generations.Erica Komisar, LCSW, is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings.She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Daily News. She is also a contributing editor for The Institute for Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction  [00:30] Why prioritizing motherhood is essential[01:45] The myth of work-life balance for women[03:12] Feminism’s impact on motherhood and career expectations[05:00] The consequences of trying to do it all[06:35] What children really need from mothers[08:20] How attachment security shapes a child's future[10:05] The role of instincts in mother-child bonding[12:10] Why some mothers feel bored with their infants[14:00] The link between postpartum depression and attachment[15:45] How generational trauma affects mothering instincts[17:30] The truth about institutional daycare[19:15] The psychological impact of a mother’s absence[21:00] Why maternal presence is irreplaceable in early years[22:50] How career-driven mothers can prioritize attachment[24:30] The long-term effects of early separation from mothers[26:15] Understanding the biological need for maternal care[28:00] How modern society devalues caretaking[29:45] Why fathers play a different role[31:30] The reality of work-life balance in early motherhood[33:20] How freedom and responsibility shape maternal choices[35:00] The impact of career ambition on mother-child bonding[36:45] Why true fulfillment comes from prioritizing relationships[38:30] How modern parenting expectations have changed[40:15] The importance of choosing motherhood with intention[42:00] Why achievement and career success feel empty[43:45] How to redefine personal success as a mother[45:30] Why self-care needs to be balanced with presence[47:15] The difference between necessary breaks and detachment[49:00] How babies experience absence, no matter the reason[50:45] Why the first 3 years set the foundation for life[52:30] The importance of legacy and emotional healthWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereLearn more about Erica’s work on her website and Instagram.Resources Mentioned:Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters by Erica Komisar | Book or AudiobookChicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety by Erica Komisar | Book or AudiobookEpisode 60 of Reclamation Radio: Choosing Motherhood | Spotify or AppleExhale Masterclass with Kelly Brogan | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

Cassie Gudmundson is a parenting coach who focuses on helping mothers navigate parenting with emotional self-regulation and mindful strategies.In this episode, you're going to learn how to manage toddler tantrums without the power struggles, why focusing on emotional regulation is essential so that toddlers' emotions aren’t suppressed, and how to guide them through feeling their emotions safely. We talk about practical approaches to handling sibling conflicts without creating blame or bad dynamics, how to reduce daily power struggles by letting go of unnecessary controls, and why modelling calm and respectful behaviour is more effective than using punishments or rewards.Cassie is a mama of 3 under 5 years old and a parent coach, specifically for toddler moms. It was a winding path that ended her up there. She previously owned a mindset coaching business — all of her clients were moms too, and she realized they were talking more about motherhood than business! It was obvious that moms were craving a new approach to parenting that allowed them to actually ENJOY these years, instead of just survive through them. With knowledge around Montessori, RIE parenting & in the thick of motherhood herself, she decided to go all in on coaching parenting! A community of 130k+ and nearly 1000 students later, this is definitely the work that was meant to beTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction  [04:11] How triggers from childhood influence parenting[06:08] Recognizing the importance of emotional regulation[08:25] Why punishment is not effective parenting[10:16] How to handle toddler tantrums calmly[12:01] Setting boundaries without power struggles[14:25] Managing public meltdowns[16:05] Role of co-regulation in parenting[18:01] Letting toddlers process emotions[22:28] Helping toddlers communicate emotions[24:35] Handling transitions like leaving the park[26:25] Building respect through honesty[28:22] Balancing parents’ needs with children’s autonomy[30:55] Recognizing toddlers as capable individuals[32:32] How parenting style affects older children[35:00] Shifting from control to connection[37:31] The difference between discipline and punishment[40:14] Encouraging intrinsic motivation in children[42:28] Teaching toddlers emotional regulation through play[45:27] The importance of modelling behaviour for kids[47:21] Neutral approaches to sibling conflicts[50:42] Allowing space for children to resolve conflicts[52:45] Prioritizing self-care as a mom[56:19] Reflections on emotional self-masteryWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereConnect with Cassie through her Instagram, TikTok and website.Resources Mentioned:Alfie Kohn | WebsiteRIE Parenting by Magda Gerber | WebsiteAmerican Montessori Society | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.

Are you an over-achieving under-receiving woman? Watch my free masterclass.In this episode, you'll learn how to spot red flags early in relationships, set clear boundaries to avoid self-betrayal, meet your own emotional needs, and stay grounded while exploring new connections.Timestamps:[01:44] Starting over after a breakup[01:50] Feeling conflicted about new connections[02:23] Recognizing patterns in relationships[02:47] Identifying emotional availability in new partners[03:40] Avoiding the “intoxication” of attraction[04:10] Staying sober to assess new relationships[04:57] Exploring emotional sovereignty[05:42] Meeting your own emotional needs[06:16] Setting boundaries around relationship requirements[06:42] Avoiding self-betrayal in new dynamics[07:16] Communicating needs clearly and directly[08:10] Red flags as indicators of incompatibility[08:51] Managing emotional safety and security[09:11] Defining preferences versus non-negotiable needsWant to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.