131. What Does "Making Gay Your Personality" Mean?

NYC PRIDE is coming in hot! 🌈 Pull up to PRIDEANDFRIENDS.NYC for the Brooklyn Day Party on Saturday, June 28th, 2–9PM. This Week’s Catch-Up:🎬 We’re watching Love Island USA Season 7 — and yes, we have thoughts.📽️ The Travis Scott: Astroworld documentary — heavy stuff.💍 The Ultimatum: Queer Love Season 2 is finally here — two years later, and we’re ready for the drama.Also… we're heading to Bali and Thailand soon! If you’ve been, comment your best tips, hidden gems, or must-avoid mistakes 🙏🏽Family Meeting Time 🧠💔One listener is in a long-distance relationship that began as polyamorous but turned exclusive, or so they thought. After a betrayal involving an ex from the original poly dynamic, they're wondering:“Am I wrong for asking my partner to cut off contact with her ex if we’re going to make this work?”We break it all down:What polyamory actually means (and how it differs from open relationships)Why emotional and physical boundaries still matter after shifting to monogamyWhat to do when trust is broken and accountability is missingThe hard truth: Love isn't enough without respect, clarity, and shared valuesPlus, we highlight a past podcast gem: “The Contract to My Polyamory” ft. Jerrie Johnson — a powerful conversation on redefining relationship structures and setting intentional agreements. (Go queue it up after this!)And if you're curious about how real-life poly families make it work, we’re also talking about the show Polyfamily on HBO Max, messy, beautiful, and so worth discussing.FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Ask us anonymous questions or share stories here!IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/NEWJOJO’S TWITCH ACCOUNT:https://www.twitch.tv/jojosvibe DAYRA’S TWITCH ACCOUNT: https://www.twitch.tv/deardayra 

This week, we’re unpacking A LOT.First up: the ICE raids in LA. We’re spreading the word, sharing where to donate, and why staying informed matters more than ever. (resources below)Then, Fletcher? JoJo Siwa? Billie Eilish? All dating men during Pride Month?! Feels homophobic, honestly.We also give you the rundown on our Philly & DC Pride adventures, queer joy, wild moments, and a few hangovers.And in our Family Meeting, we hear from a listener who’s four years into a relationship and still wildly thirsty for her fine-ass masc girlfriend, but is starting to wonder if the passion is mutual. We’ve got thoughts (and experience 👀).Make a difference during Los Angeles ICE raids.Donate food, hygiene supplies and household goods to Raíces Con Voz to provide to undocumented families. - LINKOperation Healthy Hearts has a slideshow of suggestions for how to provide mutual aid support to undocumented immigrants. - LINKIf you know someone who is arrested at a protestShare the phone number for Jail Support LA: 424-610-3020. The grassroots organization aims to provide support for people who have been arrested — especially protesters — at every step of the legal process. This includes monitoring detentions, bail and paperwork.Jail Support LA is also looking for volunteers to monitor arrests made during LA’s protests against ICE. People can also donate to the organization.You can also donate to Jail Support LA’s bail fundJOJO’S TWITCH ACCOUNT:https://www.twitch.tv/jojosvibe DAYRA’S TWITCH ACCOUNT: https://www.twitch.tv/deardayra FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat 

We’re catching up on all things Pride, from Philly to DC! Join us June 6–7 as we host Havana Nights with TASTE Takeover, celebrate queer Latina joy, and ride the DC Pride float to see Cynthia Erivo headlining!Then we dig into the hot topic: What does it mean to “make being gay your personality”? We unpack why it’s celebrated, why it’s judged, and why authenticity is what really matters.And in this week’s Family Meeting: What if you’re ready to travel the world but your partner isn’t moving with you (literally or financially)? Is that a deal breaker?🎧 Note: We’re now an audio-only podcast going forward!Havana Nights Ticket: https://www.tastetakeover.com/event-details-registration/havana-nights Preciosa Night Tickets:https://www.ticketweb.com/event/preciosa-night-a-woldpride-finale-howard-theatre-tickets/14451363?pl=howardtheatre&refid=site FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat 

We dive into our weekend celebration for Lilly's birthday (who's been on the podcast twice!) We then quickly chat about the encounter at Boston’s Liberty Hotel where a cisgender woman was asked to prove her gender in a bathroom, shedding light on the ongoing challenges of gender identity and public perception. We also dive into the evolving concept of lavender marriages which was once used to hide LGBTQ+ identities and now transforming into modern mixed-orientation relationships. From Hollywood cover-ups to genuine soul connections like Samantha and Jacob’s, we explore why more people are embracing unconventional partnerships, the shifting meaning of gender in relationships, and how love is being redefined beyond labels.& YES, WE ARE STILL GOING TO BALI & THAILAND!! Check the link below for more info.Family Meeting: "I’ve been with my girl for 3 years. It’s been an awesome 3 years. The issue is that she wants to live outside the US for a few years and I don’t see that for me."FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat

We're catching you up on everything going on the past few weeks, life, drama, healing, and a little oversharing (as usual). We then dive into some truly unhinged lesbian stories that will leave you gasping, laughing, and possibly texting your ex (don’t do it). Let’s get unhinged.Family Meeting"My wife asked for a divorce after 10 years together, saying we're no longer compatible and that life feels overwhelming. Now she says we can 'date' after selling the house and moving out."FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat

In this episode, we reference Dr. Lynda, the Lesbian Couples Coach, and explore how love languages can be uniquely expressed in lesbian relationships. From quality time in nature and playful moments to affirming words and cozy cuddles, we dive into what real connection looks like and how to love each other more intentionally.FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat

In this episode, we explore how to go beyond the usual "How's work?" and ask deeper questions like, “What are you learning about yourself right now?” to build more meaningful connections.We also dive into key questions for new relationships, inspired by therapist Jeff Gunther. What counts as cheating? How do we handle privacy, exes, and boundaries? Tune in for insights on fostering communication, trust, and understanding in any relationship.List of Questions:https://www.instagram.com/experienceonsite/p/C3LE9EjLSB9/ QUESTIONS TO ASK SOMEONE AT THE START OF A RELATIONSHIPWhat counts as cheating?Are there certain things we mutually agree to NOT tell eachother? What if an ex texts me? What if my friend doesn’t like you? Do you wanna know or should I handle it privately?Are there things in our relationship that are just for us, is it okay if I share everything with my therapist, family or friends? Where is the line for privacy?Do you need to know if I have hooked up or dated any of my friends? Would you feel weird or upset with meeting someone I had a past with?How do we feel about staying in touch with an ex partner?How do you feel about me being close with the gender or genders I'm attracted to? Does it bother you, do you want to meet them?FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat

In today’s episode, we dive into the latest lesbian dating drama (TikTok Reference LINK with Beeca Moore & Shannon B.) and what it's really like navigating relationships in the queer community. We also talk about our Les Chat NYC meetup! Talking Points:Boundaries with Same-Sex vs. Opposite Sex: Why we tolerate different things from women than from men.Long-Distance Love: Why long-distance is so common in the LGBTQ+ community and how it really works.Besties with Exes: Why it’s a lesbian tradition to stay friends with exes.Nail Lengths & Lesbian Hands: A fun chat on the unspoken rules of nail length in lesbian culture.Lesbian Time: How relationships can feel like they’re moving at lightning speed.The L Word: Why this iconic show is a lesbian must-watch.U-Haul Syndrome: Moving in too fast? Let’s talk about the infamous U-Haul phenomenon.FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat 

In this AUDIO only episode of Les Chat, we’re catching up on everything from the progress of our 75 Soft challenge (46 days to go!) to some exciting updates on our upcoming Thailand and Bali trip (don’t forget, it's the last month to sign up for the payment plan). Plus, we’re thinking about NEW merch drop, with a focus on queer pride gear just in time for Pride Month!We dive into the Doechii controversy (the Grammy-winning bisexual rap artist) From her viral dating red flag comment to the controversy surrounding an old video with her ex.Also, we’re discussing the ongoing issue of “preferences” in dating. Are straight people crashing out over bisexuality, or is there something deeper happening? And what about red flags in relationships, jealousy, disrespect, and love bombing? Family Meeting: we talk about Decision Fatigue. After 5.5 years at her current job, one listener is feeling the stress of decision-making overload. Can you really stop the anxiety from constant choices? We share tips and strategies from Mel Robbins' podcast episode, "Get back on track: 5 evening habits to wake up focused, recharged, and in control".FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat 

In this episode, we talk about the WNBA drama between DiJonai Carrington and NaLyssa Smith, explore what it means to be "heteroflexible," and discuss the complexities of being queer. We dive into why labels matter and how being queer is more than just a choice.LINK TO WNBA PODCAST VIDEO CLIPBEING QUEER IS A CHOICE VIDEOFAMILY MEETING “I’ve been in a 1.5-year relationship, and recently, my partner has been hanging out with her guy friends more often. When I mention it, she says I’m being controlling. She works part-time and has a lot of free time, while I work full-time and take care of the house and pets in my free time. Am I wrong for wanting her to help with the home and pets before hanging out?”FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/ Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat