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👉FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out)  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebookFeeling stuck and unmotivated? In this video, Dr. Cristi Bundukamara shares how past, present, and future thinking shape your ability to change behavior—and why releasing the past is essential for stepping into a more purposeful future.You’ll learn:Why external motivation often failsHow to shift into positive, future-focused thinkingThe key to finding self-motivation that actually lastsHow the Mentally STRONG Method helps you align decisions with what you truly wantIf you’re tired of starting over, this is where your real transformation begins.📘 Want to go deeper? Get your free copy of Pain and Purpose →  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebook🧠💪FREE E-BOOK - How to Be Mentally STRONGhttps://mentallystrong.activehosted.com/f/10#BehaviorChange #SelfMotivation #MentalStrength #PurposeDriven #MindsetShift #DrB #MentallySTRONG  #PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

👉FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out)  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebook🧠💪FREE E-BOOK - How to Be Mentally STRONGhttps://mentallystrong.activehosted.com/f/10You’ve heard it a million times: “Just believe in yourself!”But no one tells you how.In this video, I’m breaking down a real-world guide to building self-belief — not through hype or empty affirmations — but through self-esteem and self-agency.→ If you’ve ever struggled with confidence, second-guessed every decision, or felt stuck waiting to “feel ready,” this video is for you.This isn’t about perfection. It’s about practice.0:00:04 - The Skill of Self-Esteem0:00:19 - Self-Esteem vs. Self-Agency0:00:36 - My Personal Journey Through Loss0:01:16 - What is Believing in Yourself?0:02:30 - The Development of Self-Esteem0:03:29 - Beyond Positive Affirmations0:04:22 - The Uniqueness of Our Inner World0:04:51 - If You're Still Watching...0:05:27 - The Mentally Strong Method0:05:58 - The Power of Self-Agency0:06:13 - When Life Knocks You Down0:07:46 - Self-Esteem vs. Self-Agency: A Deeper Look0:08:14 - The Spiritual Aspect of Self-Agency0:09:49 - Finding Your Own Words and Power1:11:25 - Building Self-Esteem and Self-Agency Together1:12:30 - Listener Question: Imposter Syndrome1:14:18 - Listener Question: Pain and Confidence1:16:08 - Listener Question: Manifestation and Bad Things Happening1:19:22 - Sitting with Pain: Grief vs. Trauma1:19:44 - A Reminder to Believe in Yourself#PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

👉FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out)  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebook🧠💪FREE E-BOOK - How to Be Mentally STRONGhttps://mentallystrong.activehosted.com/f/10Everyone wants to be mentally strong… but most people go about it the wrong way.In this video, I reveal the real secret to becoming mentally strong — and it’s not about suppressing your emotions or pretending to “have it all together.” Mental strength is built through intentional thought, radical self-honesty, and the daily practice of choosing growth over avoidance.I’ll walk you through how to:Understand what true mental strength actually looks likeReframe your pain into purposeBreak through the emotional patterns holding you backUse the Mentally STRONG Method to take control of your thoughts, behaviors, and emotional reactionsThis is more than mindset — this is your roadmap to long-term resilience, confidence, and clarity.If you’re ready to stop coping and start building, this video is your first step.👇 Drop a comment and let me know what part hit home for you — I’d love to hear your story.#MentalStrength #SelfGrowth #MentallySTRONG #EmotionalResilience #DrB #PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

👉FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out)  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebookGrief Intensive👉 http://mentallystrong.com/start-your-grief-journey/You’re strong. You’re successful. You’ve held it together for everyone else. But if you’re honest… this isn’t the life you imagined.In this Episode, I speak directly to the high-achieving, resilient woman who has experienced heartbreak, unexpected loss, or quiet disappointment—and is still showing up every day. You don’t need another motivational pep talk. You need purpose, clarity, and emotional strength that lasts.✅ In this episode, you’ll learn:Why it’s okay to grieve the life you thought you’d haveWhat purpose really looks like in real life (not on a vision board)How to rebuild from a place of intention, not exhaustionThis message is for the woman who’s smart, spiritual, and silently struggling. You’re not lost. You’re being realigned.#PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out) mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebookLosing a child is a crippling and unimaginable pain—one that shakes your ENTIRE world and belief system. In this Episode, I share my raw and personal journey through grief, the difference between grief and trauma, why it's important to separate the two and what truly helped me keep going after loss. If you're struggling to process your own grief or searching for a way forward, you are not alone.You can also watch the unfiltered footage of my early days after losing my third child—where grief was at its rawest. And if you're ready for deeper support, I invite you to join my Grief Intensive course, where I walk alongside you through the hardest parts of this journey.➡️ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLhbzZf3gqt8BzW6rJOr9cyRPtfiZ6v-LY➡️ http://mentallystrong.com/start-your-grief-journey/Grief is overwhelming, but you don’t have to go through it alone.#PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

👉FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out)  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebookGrief Intensive👉 http://mentallystrong.com/start-your-grief-journey/Feeling exhausted, sleepless, or having no appetite? This video focuses on the most common physical symptoms of grief, offering practical tips and self-care strategies to help you cope.#Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

👉FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out)  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebookGrief Intensive👉 http://mentallystrong.com/start-your-grief-journey/Grief isn't just emotional; it takes a physical toll. This video explores the surprising ways grief can manifest in your body, from fatigue and sleep problems to appetite changes and more. We'll discuss the mind-body connection and offer tips for coping.#PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

Grief Intensive👉 http://mentallystrong.com/start-your-grief-journey/If you've ever felt like pain has no purpose, like suffering is just a random part of life, I want you to know you're not alone. I've lost three children and my husband, and I know what it feels like to search for meaning in the midst of heartbreak. But I've also learned that even in the deepest pain, we can find our purpose.In this episode, I share my story and how I found purpose after unimaginable loss. It's not about minimizing your pain, but about empowering you to find your own meaning.👉FREE GIFT – Get Dr. B’s book “Pain and Purpose” (Learn how to build mental strength from the inside out)  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebookTimestamps:0:00 - Introduction: Finding Joy After Loss0:32 - Grit and Resilience: My Story02:26 - My Son Reggie: Finding Purpose in His Life and Death05:30 - Expanding Through Brokenness07:01 - My Son Johnny: Bringing His Sisters to Us08:21 - My Daughter Miah: Love and Spiritual Connection11:44 - Purpose is at the End of the Journey13:16 - My Reason for Sharing14:02 - Turning Your Pain into PurposeIf you're looking for hope, healing, and a path forward, I hope my story encourages you. If you'd like to learn more about my journey and how I can help you find your purpose, check out the links below.Don't forget to subscribe for more videos on grief, loss, and finding strength in difficult times. I'd also love to hear your story in the comments – let's build a community of support and healing.#PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong 

You ever get that weird, anxious feeling when someone you love leaves? Maybe your partner goes on a trip, or a friend doesn’t text back fast enough, and suddenly your brain is spiraling! What if they’re pulling away? What if I can’t handle being alone?That’s separation anxiety, and yeah, it’s not just a kid thing. Adults deal with it too, sometimes in ways we don’t even realize.In this podcast, we’re breaking down what separation anxiety really is, X signs you might have it, and how to start managing it so it doesn’t take over. Let’s get into it.#PersonalGrowth #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #CristiBundukamara #PainandPurpose #MentalStrength #mentallystrong #SeparationAnxiety #AdultAnxiety #AnxietyRelief #MentalHealth #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalWellness #CopingStrategies #MentalHealthTips #anxietymanagement  

Are you wrestling with overwhelming pain and a persistent voice telling you it's your fault? In this powerful episode of The Mentally Strong Podcast, Dr. B, a psychiatric nurse practitioner who has navigated unimaginable loss, offers a deeply empathetic and practical approach to healing. She understands the pervasive self-blame that can accompany tragedy, having personally experienced the loss of three children and her husband.Dr. B challenges the conventional narrative of grief and introduces her "Mentally Strong Method," a framework designed to help you organize the chaos of negative self-talk, process trauma, and embark on a profound spiritual journey. This isn't about simply "getting over it"; it's about acknowledging your pain, separating it from self-blame, and growing around your grief to find contentment and peace.In this episode, you'll discover:Why "It's Not Your Fault" is more than just a saying: Dr. B shares her raw, personal stories of loss, illustrating how even with perceived contributions to an outcome, the ultimate responsibility for tragedy is often not yours.The flawed concept of the "5 Stages of Grief": Learn why this traditional model doesn't apply to complex pain and how to move beyond it.Understanding Trauma beyond the obvious: Discover Dr. B's definition of trauma as anything that changes your perception of reality, and how to identify and address its impact on your healing.The power of a spiritual journey in healing: Explore how connecting with a spiritual context can transform your experience of pain and lead to profound growth.Practical steps for managing negative self-talk: Learn how to rate your belief in negative thoughts and begin to gently dismantle them.When to seek professional help: Crucial advice for recognizing the signs that your pain is heavier than you can manage alone.If you're ready to quiet the voice of self-blame and begin your journey toward lasting healing and contentment, this episode is a must-listen.Topic Highlights:Overcoming Self-Blame in GriefThe Mentally Strong MethodRedefining Trauma & Its ImpactSpiritual Healing & LossChallenging Negative Self-TalkBeyond the 5 Stages of GriefFinding Peace After Profound LossWhen to Seek Professional SupportDon't miss out on this transformative conversation. Listen now and take the first step towards deserving to heal.🔗  Get your FREE copy of “Pain and Purpose”  mentallystrong.ac-page.com/freebook