Episode 215 - How to Be Present in Moment

This episode is a gentle return to something simple, sacred, and too often forgotten: the present moment. The only moment we ever truly have.  We explore what it means to really be present. True calm arises when we're not lost in yesterday's story or tomorrow's worries but rest in the stillness of the now. JoAnn Fox, a Buddhist teacher of over twenty years, will talk about why presence is the ground of peace, the birthplace of connection, and the secret doorway to joy. Let's take a breath and be here now. They do not grieve over the past, Nor do they yearn for the future; They live only in the present — That is why their face is so calm.   It's from yearning for the future, And from grieving over the past; This is how fools become withered Like a fresh reed that's been hacked down. –Buddha, from the Arañña Sutta (A Face So Calm)   Resources Buddha, translated by Andrew Olendzki, 2006. The Arañña Sutta: A Face So Calm. Retrieved from: https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/sn/sn01/sn01.010.olen.html Find us at the links below:  Get Free Tickets to Live Class July 19, 2025 on Zoom: www.Buddhismforeveryone.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group: Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: @buddhism4everyone X: @Joannfox77 TikTok: @buddhism4everyone To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program Our Dharma Shop on Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/BuddhismForEveryone  

We chase happiness like it’s just around the corner. Could our final destination, “happiness,” be hidden in a new relationship, job title, city, or home? But His Holiness the Dalai Lama, with his childlike laugh and mountain-like presence, has let us in on a little secret: the true source of happiness isn’t getting what we want. It’s cherishing others. It’s being kind.  The Dalai Lama says, “The basic source of all happiness is a sense of kindness and warm-heartedness towards others.” Buddhist teachings remind us again and again that when we shift the spotlight from ourselves, a strange thing happens. Our minds soften. Our hearts open. And we begin to feel...better. Lighter. More connected. Cherishing others means genuinely caring about their happiness and well-being, just like we do for ourselves. And when we practice this, whether by listening with full attention, letting someone go ahead of us in line, or sending a silent wish for a stranger’s joy, we start to feel more joy ourselves. Real joy. The kind that doesn't depend on circumstances. According to the Dalai Lama, “Thinking only about yourself—having a very self-centered attitude—creates a lot of anxiety, loneliness, fear, and anger.” It turns out that the road to lasting happiness isn't paved with self-fulfillment, but with love that stretches beyond the self.  Resources  Dalai Lama. The purpose of life is to be happy. Retrieved from:https://www.dalailama.com/messages/transcripts-and-interviews/the-purpose-of-life-is-to-be-happy Find us at the links below:  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group:Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism.with.joann.fox X: @Joannfox77 TikTok: @buddhism4everyone To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program Our Dharma Shop on Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/BuddhismForEveryone

This episode is about those moments when life doesn't go according to plan: when things go wrong, fall apart, or just feel too heavy to bear. At these times, mental strength becomes our most valuable refuge. But what does it really mean to be mentally strong? How can we cultivate that strength without becoming rigid or emotionally shut down? We'll be exploring one of my favorite quotes from the great Buddhist master Shantideva: "If something can be done, why worry? If nothing can be done, why worry?" This deceptively simple teaching holds the key to freedom from anxiety, overwhelm, and emotional reactivity. In this episode, we explore practical strategies to move through worry and return to peace, even in the middle of life's messiness. 1. If Something Can Be Done, Why Worry? When facing a challenge that has a solution, taking action (even a very small steps) restores our sense of agency. Can you make a call? Write something down? Apologize? Ask for help? Tiny acts of courage move the mind from helplessness to confidence. But often, we don't take action because our own minds get in the way. 2. If Nothing Can Be Done, Why Worry? Sometimes, there's nothing we can do to change a situation. We have no control over a loss, an illness, or someone else's behavior. This is where mental strength blossoms, not from resistance, but from acceptance. Here are a few practices for these moments: Limit your worry window. Give yourself 20–30 minutes to think it through, write it out, or talk it out. Then gently close the door on worry for the day. This boundary creates emotional breathing room. Let other people be who they are. Much of our suffering comes from trying to manage others' choices. We can still love them and maintain boundaries, but we cannot fix or control them. Let them. Don't believe every thought. Especially the ones that say, "This will never get better," or "I can't handle this." Thoughts are not facts. Watch them arise like clouds, but don't let them storm your peace. Mental strength isn't the absence of emotion or difficulty. It's the quiet courage to respond rather than react—to act when we can and let go when we must. So next time something goes wrong, take a breath and ask yourself: "Can something be done?" If yes, begin. If not, release. That's the wisdom of worry-less living.

“Praise and blame, fame and shame, gain and loss, pleasure and pain come and go like the wind. To be happy, rest like a giant tree in the midst of them all.” ― Buddha We're exploring a truth so simple yet profound it almost feels like a secret; every problem we have comes from just one thing, our own mind. Specifically, our problems come from misperceiving reality: we see our worries, fears, and stresses as big, immovable mountains. In reality, they're more like clouds, shifting and changing with the winds of the mind. Nothing is as fixed as it seems. Everything depends on perception (even that thing you're stressing about right now). The mind of worry conjures up what we fear. The worst-case scenario hasn't happened, may not happen, but we let these figments of our imagination torment us. Instead, we're going to practice a beautiful little mind trick: instead of thinking, "What's the worst that could happen?" we'll try asking, "What's the best that could happen?" Perhaps everything will play out in ways that are incredibly healing or positive...there's no way to know for sure. So why not plant seeds of hope instead of fear and watch what grows? This small shift that can open up a whole new way of experiencing your life. To register for two free virtual classes, “Developing Universal Love and Compassion” on Saturday, May 10 and 17, 2025 visit www.BuddhismForEveryone.com References with Links Lama Zopa Rinpoche, 2008. How Things Exist: Teachings on Emptiness. Lama Zopa Rinpoche Edited by Ailsa Cameron. Lama Yeshe Wisdom Archive.  Find us at the links below:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group: Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: @buddhism4everyone or https://www.instagram.com/buddhism4everyone X: @Joannfox77 TikTok: @buddhism4everyone

We're exploring a truth so simple yet profound it almost feels like a secret; every problem we have comes from just one thing--our own mind. Specifically, our problems come from misperceiving reality: we see our worries, fears, and stresses as big, immovable mountains. In reality, they're more like clouds, shifting and changing with the winds of the mind.   Nothing is as fixed as it seems. Everything depends on perception (even that thing you're stressing about right now). Could we change our perception and enjoy whatever arises? Buddhist Teacher, JoAnn Fox, offers two ways to practice this wisdom.   Practice 1 Radical Love "The universe is an example of love. Like a tree. Like the ocean. Like my body. Like my wheelchair. I see the love." "I love every thing in the universe. That's all I do all day." --Ram Dass What if we opened our hearts wide enough to love everything that arises — the sweet, the strange, the inconvenient, and the miraculous? This practice invites us to shift our perception and welcome everything that happens. This practice is not about pretending things don't hurt or denying difficulty—but softening into life so deeply that we stop resisting what arises. What we perceive depends upon the mind that perceives it. For example, the mind of anger perceives irritating or threatening things. Conversely, when the mind is pervaded by love, that mind loves whatever it sees. Could we train our minds to love everything we see? A long line, a loud neighbor, a mistake, a moment of joy, a compliment… each becomes a chance to stay open. Today, try saying, "I love this," no matter what happens. Just see how it feels. Maybe you'll catch a glimpse of the blissful mind that can love it all. Practice 2: What's the best that could happen? The mind of worry conjures up what we fear. The worst-case scenario hasn't happened and may not happen, but we let these figments of our imagination torment us. Instead, we can practice a beautiful little mind trick: instead of thinking, "What's the worst that could happen?" we'll contemplate, "What's the best that could happen?" Perhaps everything will play out in ways that are incredibly healing or positive; there's no way to know for sure. So why not plant hope instead of fear and watch what grows? This small shift can reveal a whole new way of experiencing your life. Whoever Knows [one’s own] former lives, Sees both the heavens and states of woe, Has attained the end of birth, Is a sage, perfected in the higher knowledges, And has perfected all perfections, I call a brahmin. (423) --Buddha, The Dhammapada Verse 423  References with Links Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories, Verses 419 and 420. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma. Retrieved from https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=423 Tsering, Geshe Tashi (2005). The Four Noble Truths: The Foundation of Buddhist Thought Volume 1 (Kindle). Wisdom Publications.   *** To register for two free virtual classes, “Developing Universal Love and Compassion” on Saturday, May 10 and 17, 2025 visit www.BuddhismForEveryone.com   Find us at the links below:  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group:Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism.with.joann.fox X: @Joannfox77 TikTok: @buddhism4everyone  

In this episode, we practice one of the most powerful antidotes to anger and aversion: compassion. I know—when we’re irritated, hurt, or downright fuming, compassion is usually the last thing on our minds. But in Buddhism, compassion isn't weakness—it’s strength. It’s the most powerful way to interrupt the cycle of harm and start creating peace, inside and out.  The Story of Aṅgulimāla The Buddha’s radical teachings on non-violence reveal how to respond rather than react when things get heated. I also share the story of Angulimala—yes, the guy who was literally collecting fingers from those he killed. We look at how Buddha loved and accepted Angulimala and that even someone so far gone was transformed by compassion. Spoiler alert: If Angulimala can change, there’s hope for all of us. Him I call a brahmana, who is fearless like a bull, who is noble and diligent, who is a seeker of high moral virtues and a conqueror (of three Maras), who is free from craving, who has been cleansed of moral defilements and knows the Four Noble Truths. --Buddha, The Dhammapada Verse 422   References with Links Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories, Verses 419 and 420. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma. Retrieved from https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=422   Find us at the links below:  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group:Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism.with.joann.fox X: @Joannfox77 TikTok: @buddhism4everyone To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program

Who—or what—are you, really? If you start peeling back the layers, things get interesting fast. You have a body, but you’re not just your body. You have thoughts, but if you were your thoughts, wouldn’t you have disappeared the last time your mind went blank? And if you were your emotions, who were you before that bad mood showed up? Buddhism teaches that the self we cling to so tightly—this solid, unchanging “me”—is actually empty of independent existence. That doesn’t mean you don’t exist; it means you exist in a far more fluid, interconnected, and expansive way than you ever imagined. In this episode, we’re diving into the profound teaching of no self—not to make you feel like a ghost, but to help you discover the freedom that comes with letting go of that tightly held “I.” We’ll explore the five aggregates—the ever-shifting components that we mistake for a fixed self—and how understanding their emptiness can unlock a sense of limitless potential. When we stop clinging to a rigid identity, we can actually relax, let go of suffering, and open up to the vast, luminous space of possibility. Let’s explore the mystery of who you really are!   Him I call a brahmana, who does not cling to the past, future and present khandha aggregates and who is free from moral defilements and attachment. --Buddha, The Dhammapada Verse 421   References with Links Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories, Verses 419 and 420. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma. Retrieved from https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=419   Tsering, Geshe Tashi (2005). The Four Noble Truths: The Foundation of Buddhist Thought Volume 1 (Kindle). Wisdom Publications.     Find us at the links below:  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group:Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism.with.joann.fox X: @Joannfox77 TikTok: @buddhism4everyone To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program

The Buddha taught that dukkha—suffering and dissatisfaction—doesn't come from the outside world. Our problems don't arise from difficult people or hardships. Our problems come from within our own mind, from the way we react to life. The same is true for happiness.   We spend so much of our lives trying to control the world around us—fixing this, avoiding that, chasing after happiness like it's some rare butterfly. But what if we've been looking in the wrong place? What if the source of both our problems and our joy has been inside us all along? in this episode, we explore how shifting our focus inward can bring real peace and unshakable contentment.   We tend to think, 'If I just had this... If they would just stop doing that... If things were different, then I'd be happy.' But even when we get what we want, happiness is fleeting. Why? Because external conditions are always changing, and more importantly, because our mind is always grasping, craving, and resisting.   The real source of peace isn't out there—it's inside us.    Him I call a brahmana, who knows the death and rebirth of beings in every detail, who is detached, who follows the good practice and knows the Four Noble Truths.   Him I call a brahmana, whose destination the devas or gandhabbas or men do not know who has eradicated moral intoxicants and is an arahat. --Buddha, The Dhammapada Verse 419 and 420 References with Links Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories, Verses 419 and 420. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma. Retrieved from https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=419   Tsering, Geshe Tashi (2005). The Four Noble Truths: The Foundation of Buddhist Thought Volume 1 (Kindle). Wisdom Publications.     Find us at the links below:  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group:Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism.with.joann.fox To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program

Attachment has a sneaky way of making us hold on too tightly—to things, to people, to our own comfort zones. We cling, we grasp, we hesitate to let go, fearing we might lose something essential. But what if the very act of giving could set us free? In this episode, we explore the transformative practice of giving as an antidote to attachment. Discover how generosity can help you break free from the things that hold you back.  Buddhism teaches that generosity is not just a nice thing to do; it is a powerful practice of liberation. From the bodhisattva’s perfection of giving to the four types of generosity, we dive into practical ways to let go of attachment and open your heart. Tune in and find out how giving can be your path to freedom, joy, love, and a feeling of abundance. Whoever, having given up human bondage, Has gone beyond heavenly bondage,  Is unbound from all bondage,  I call a brahmin. (417)   Whoever, having given up liking and disliking,  Has become cooled, without attachments,  A hero overcoming the entire world,  I call a brahmin. (418)* --Buddha, The Dhammapada Verse 417 and 418   References and Links Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma. Retrieved from https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=417 Je Tsongkhapa (2014). Great Treatise on the Stages of the Path to Enlightenment, by Je Tsongkhapa, Volume 2 (Kindle). Translated by the Lamrim Chenmo Translation Committee. Joshua Cutler, Editor-in-Chief, and Guy Newlan, Editor.   Find us at the links below:  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group:Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism.with.joann.fox X: @Joannfox77   To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program  

Giving, or dāna, is one of the most fundamental and beautiful practices in Buddhism. In this episode, we explore how giving is not just an act of generosity—it is a path to freedom, a way to dissolve the tight grip of self-centeredness and open our hearts to others. The Buddha taught that giving benefits both the giver and the receiver, creating the karmic cause for an abundance of whatever we give, be it materially, love, Dharma, or fearlessness. Giving also reduces attachment, and deepens our sense of interconnectedness. Four Ways to Practice Giving: - Materially - Dharma - Fearlessness - Love  Giving Materially The simplest and most immediate form of generosity is offering material support—food, clothing, shelter, or financial aid. The Buddha and his monastic followers relied entirely on the generosity of laypeople for their survival, and even today, supporting others in need is considered a vital Buddhist practice. But material giving is not only about wealth; it is also about sharing whatever we have, no matter how small. Even a single grain of rice, when offered with a pure heart, carries immense merit (good karma).   Giving Dharma We give Dharma by sharing wisdom, offering guidance, and teaching the path to liberation. Giving Dharma is considered the highest form of giving. A single word of wisdom, a book on Buddhist teachings, or even a moment of genuine encouragement can plant the seeds of awakening in another’s heart. Unlike material gifts, which can be used up, the gift of Dharma continues to benefit a person for their entire life and beyond.   Giving Fearlessness To give fearlessness is to offer safety, protection, and freedom from fear to others. This might mean standing up for someone who is vulnerable, comforting a friend in distress, or simply creating a space where people feel safe to be themselves. To give fearlessness can also be saving the lives of insects, animals, or people!   Giving Love At its deepest level, all acts of generosity are rooted in love. Giving love can be through a kind word or simply by listening with undivided attention. It is to offer our presence, our patience, and our open-hearted acceptance. When we give love freely, without expectation, we emulate the boundless compassion of the Buddha.   The Freedom of Letting Go In practicing generosity, we learn one of the greatest lessons of the Dharma: that clinging brings suffering, and letting go brings freedom. And in this giving, we find real joy—not in what we possess, but in what we share.   Him I call a brahmana, who, in this world, has given up craving, and leaving the home-life has become a bhikkhu; who has eradicated craving and has come to the end of existence. --Buddha, The Dhammapada, Verse 416   References and Links Buddha (1986).The Dhammapada: Verses and Stories. Translated by Daw Mya Tin, M.A. (Website). Edited by Editorial Committee, Burma Tipitaka Association Rangoon. Courtesy .of Nibbana.com. For free distribution only, as a gift of dhamma. Retrieved from https://www.tipitaka.net/tipitaka/dhp/verseload.php?verse=416 Je Tsongkhapa (2014). Great Treatise on the Stages of the Path to Enlightenment, by Je Tsongkhapa, Volume 2 (Kindle). Translated by the Lamrim Chenmo Translation Committee. Joshua Cutler, Editor-in-Chief, and Guy Newlan, Editor.   Find us at the links below:  Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Buddhismforeveryone Facebook Group:Join our private group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sanghatalk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism.with.joann.fox X: @Joannfox77   To learn more about virtual classes with JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Study Program