205. How To Deal With A Defensive Partner

Episode Title: Breaking Free from People Pleasing: A Personal Rant Episode Summary: In this special episode, Becky goes on a passionate rant about people-pleasing advice . Listen for insights that will change how you approach your relationships. Highlights: John Delony's Take: Becky breaks down advice from a renowned expert and shares what she agrees and disagrees with. Personal Stories and Insights: Hear Becky's candid thoughts on how people pleasing affects relationships and what you can do about it. Practical Tips: Discover actionable advice to help stop people-pleasing and become more authentic in your relationships. If you've ever found yourself putting others' needs before your own or struggling to voice your opinions, this episode is for you. Connect with Becky: Let's chat ⁠https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 Instagram: @BeckySmithCoaching Email: [email protected] Subscribe and Share: Don't miss out on future episodes! Subscribe now and share this podcast with friends who could use a dose of real talk about relationships. Tune in and discover how to break free from people-pleasing and create the fulfilling relationships you deserve!

Are you struggling to connect? Kelly & Shalece Fiack are back to share how Two-Way Prayer saved their marriage & can strengthen yours! Get practical tips on: Overcoming resentment & communication roadblocks Deepening emotional connection Creating a daily practice (floors & ceilings!) Plus, a free Two-Way Prayer guide! Resources: ⁠https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf⁠ ⁠https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/04/revelation-for-the-church-revelation-for-our-lives?lang=eng⁠ www.twowayprayer.org [email protected] or [email protected] Let's have a chat to build a happier, resentment-free relationship! ⁠https://calendly.com/believefitness/45⁠

This episode explores two-way prayer, a practice for deepening your connection with the divine. Kelly and Shalece Fiack discuss its history, how it can guide you, and how to incorporate it into your routine. Learn to listen for messages from your higher power and hear how others have benefited. Resources: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/04/revelation-for-the-church-revelation-for-our-lives?lang=eng www.twowayprayer.org [email protected] or [email protected] Let's chat https://calendly.com/believefitness/45

Feeling Burnt Out from People-Pleasing? You're Not Alone. Do you ever feel like you're constantly seeking approval? Exhausted from always trying to fix things? In this episode, Lauren's story will resonate deeply if you've ever struggled with needing everyone to be Okay. Discover how to: Ditch the need for approval and embrace your authentic self. Navigate uncomfortable emotions with self-compassion. Build healthier, resentment-free relationships. Ready to break free and build the connections you deserve? Sign up for a free coaching session... https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships Follow Lauren on Instagram @your.mom.coach

Building a House of Repair: Embracing Mistakes and Growth In this episode, we explore the concept of 'building a house of repair, not perfection,' and how this mindset can transform family dynamics and personal growth.  00:00 Introduction and Summer Greetings 00:13 Introducing the Concept: House of Repair, Not Perfection 01:25 Perfectionism vs. Progress 03:31 Embracing Mistakes and Learning 06:27 Practical Tips for Building a House of Repair 07:34 Final Thoughts and Weekly Challenge

Acknowledging and accepting your partner's feelings without agreeing with them is crucial for building a strong connection. Understanding the difference between validation and agreement, using active listening techniques, managing frustrations without defensiveness, and resolving conflicts constructively is essential. This guide aims to improve relationship dynamics, reduce conflict, and foster a deeper connection with your partner. Let's talk. Sign up now. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships 00:00 Welcome Back & Today's Focus on Validation 00:22 Understanding Validation in Relationships 03:44 Key Points on Validation and Emotional Connection 04:58 Practical Tips for Validating Your Partner 06:46 Real-Life Scenario: Handling Household Chores 09:38 The Impact of Validation in Personal Relationships 10:46 Conclusion: The Journey of Improving Validation

Becky discusses the challenges of dealing with a partner's defensiveness during conflicts, particularly for those who often prioritize others' needs over their own. Click here for a safe space to talk. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships .00:00 Introduction to Navigating Partner Defensiveness 00:45 Lessons from Bear Lake 02:02 Understanding Partner Defensiveness and Conflict 03:01 Strategies for Managing Defensiveness and Conflict 05:33 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care During Conflict1 4:48 Conclusion and Invitation for Further Support

This episode delves into the concept of personal authority Becky discusses the significance of reflecting on our responses, actions, and feelings to own our personal authority. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:04 Exploring Dog Training and Personal Growth 01:29 The Concept of Inner Authority 02:05 Applying Inner Authority in Personal Relationships 04:39 Empowering Yourself Through Inner Authority 06:23 Conclusion and Reflections

In this episode, host Becky delves into the unique experience of re-listening to a book she had read years ago, 'What Alice Forgot' by Liane Moriarty.  Re-experiencing the book offered her new insights, emphasizing how different stages of life can alter one's interpretation of a story. The narrative of Alice, who forgets a decade of her life, serves as a foundation for Becky to explore the significance of perspective in shaping our understanding of ourselves and our relationships. She highlights the positive changes in Alice's interactions when she views her life through the lens of her younger self, noting the decrease in defensiveness and increase in empathy. Becky extends these fictional themes into real-life applications, suggesting introspective questions that encourage curiosity and empathy to improve personal relationships. The episode aims to inspire listeners to consider their past and future selves in navigating current challenges, promoting a mindset of growth and openness. 00:00 Welcome to the Podcast: A Rare Dive into Rereading 01:05 Rediscovering 'What Alice Forgot': A Journey of Perspective 02:11 Exploring the Impact of Perspective Through Alice's Story 03:18 The Power of Perspective: Lessons from Alice's Experience 05:43 Applying Fictional Insights to Real-Life Relationships 08:23 Practical Steps to Embrace Curiosity and Reduce Defensiveness 09:38 Final Thoughts and Encouragement to Explore New Perspectives

Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential of uncovering and empathizing with these hidden dreams for resolving conflicts. The episode emphasizes the significance of thoughtful questioning in revealing underlying aspirations and acknowledges that, although not all conflicts are solvable, their manageability improves with mutual understanding and empathy. Becky encourages listeners to embrace the role of a 'dream catcher' in their own relationships and shares avenues for feedback and further discussion on this vital topic. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Series: Unveiling Hidden Dreams 00:21 Understanding Perpetual Arguments in Relationships 01:32 The Gottmans' Discovery: The Technique of Hidden Dreams 01:56 The Iceberg of Conflict: Uncovering Hidden Dreams and Values 02:58 Judging Desires: The Pitfall of Value Judgments in Relationships 03:57 A Real-Life Example: The Gottmans' Cabin Conflict 05:29 The Power of Understanding and Dialogue 08:33 Practical Steps: Questions to Uncover Hidden Dreams 10:30 The Unsolvable Nature of Some Conflicts and the Value of Empathy 11:24 Applying the Dream Catcher Technique in Your Life1 2:28 Conclusion and Invitation to Share Your Experiences https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships