Welcome to "Resentment-Free Relationships," where we get real about fixing relationships without the drama. If you're tired of feeling constantly drained and weighed down by resentment, this is where you can stop pretending. Regain your sense of self, learn to set boundaries, and create the meaningful relationships you've always craved.
192. Back To Basics
16:17Welcome to "Resentment Free Relationships" with your host, Becky. In this episode, she celebrates the podcast's nearly five-year journey, expressing gratitude to listeners. She dives into the Self-Coaching model by Brooke Castillo, a key tool in her life coaching practice. Becky guides you through its five elements: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. She also introduces the Law of Creation model by Brooke Snow, offering a different perspective. Both models aim to raise awareness in thoughts, feelings, and actions, as foundational tools for self-improvement. 00:00 Intro and Podcast Journey 00:51 Consistency Matters 01:28 Back to Basics: Life Coaching Tools 02:31 Understanding the Self-Coaching Model 04:45 Applying the Model: An Example 07:39 Power of Perception: Thoughts Shape Feelings 09:10 Introducing the Law of Creation Model 11:27 Comparing Both Models 11:55 The Power of Awareness in Self-Improvement 13:46 Recap and What's Next 15:14 Closing Remarks --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
191. Overcoming Self-Abandonment
15:04Becky talks about self-abandonment and its impact on relationships, particularly close family relationships. You will learn to identify five self-abandonment signs: fear of rejection, misunderstanding self-worth, avoiding negative emotions, reliance on external validation, and lack of boundaries. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdote 00:39 The Importance of Close Relationships 01:45 Understanding People Pleasing and Codependency 03:03 The Concept of Self-Abandonment 03:30 A Real-Life Example: The Tire Pressure Incident 05:33 Recognizing Self-Abandonment in Relationships 08:42 Five Warning Signs of Self-Abandonment 13:51 Conclusion and Final Thoughts --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
190. What's in it for you?
6:23Resentment Free Relationships: How to Improve Your Close Family Connections in 2024 In the January 2024 episode of the Resentment Free Relationships podcast, the host outlines the purpose, which is to assist listeners in improving their relationships, particularly close family ones. She aims to teach listeners how to stop seeking approval and feeling overly responsible for others' feelings while building their self-confidence and authenticity. Encouraging self-discovery, knowledge acquisition, and personal growth. Emphasizing understanding personal identity, setting boundaries without fear, and effectively dealing with conflict and emotions. The upcoming year promises to be a period of learning and self-awareness, contributing to a peaceful and harmonious personal life. 00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast 00:39 The Ultimate Goal: Fixing Your Relationships 01:12 Learning to Stop Bending Over Backwards 02:08 Overcoming Guilt and Shame 02:23 Building Trust and Authenticity in Relationships 03:08 Learning to Set Boundaries and Say No 03:42 Overcoming Fear of Anger and Conflict 04:01 What to Expect in the Coming Year 04:12 Invitation to Tune in Weekly 04:37 Gratitude and Closing Remarks --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
189. A Year-End Audit -Wins and Wisdom
15:00Year-End Review and Reflections: Wisdom and Wins of 2023 Becky reflects on the triumphs and lessons of 2023. She recounts personal experiences ranging from getting her bachelor's degree and becoming a certified life coach, to family projects and real estate ventures. She discusses embracing the challenges and changes that come with shifting stages of life, specifically in menopause and body acceptance. Becky also explores professional achievements in her coaching business, discussing topics she's tackled with clients. The aim is to encourage you to reflect on your victories and lessons of the year. 00:00 Introduction and Christmas Experience 01:28 Year in Review: Personal Achievements 06:50 Year in Review: Business and Career Milestones 10:03 Year in Review: Health and Fitness Journey 13:17 Conclusion and Encouragement for Listeners --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
188. Resentment-Free Holidays
12:43Click on the link https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 and sign up for a free session where we will chat. about where you feel stuck, and where that negative emotion, which can turn into resentment, is bubbling up for you. So if you're feeling a lot of that resentment or feeling stuck click on the link, find me on Instagram, send me a DM, and let's chat. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
187. How to Break Self Deception
10:03In this episode, we discuss the importance of being honest with ourselves and how self-deception can manifest in various aspects of our lives. Through thought-provoking questions, we aim to bring awareness to these hidden patterns without the weight of self-judgment. Key Questions Explored: What am I pretending not to know, or what am I pretending to not know is true? What is the thing I keep avoiding or not wanting to deal with in my relationships? What am I afraid to admit to myself, and how does it affect my choices and actions? What am I avoiding in my life, consciously or unconsciously? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
186. Secret Contracts
13:50Welcome to "Resentment-Free Relationships" with Becky Smith! In this episode, we explore the concept of "Secret Contracts" inspired by Kim and Penn Holderness. These silent agreements in relationships, formed through routine, can be both efficient and potential sources of dysfunction. We discuss common triggers like unequal household chores, drawing from personal experiences and reflections. Becky shares her own journey of renegotiating responsibilities, emphasizing open communication. As relationships evolve, she encourages non-judgmental discussions for adapting roles. This week's challenge: identify and discuss your secret contracts. For a helpful guide, visit BeckySmithCoaching.com and grab the freebie on "How to Get Along with Your Mother-in-Law." Thanks for tuning in – see you next time! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
184. Becky's Guide to Ditching People-Pleasing on 'LDS and Loving It'
35:32Becky joins Jordana Theissen as a featured guest on the "LDS and Loving It" podcast. Getting into some real talk about kicking those people-pleasing habits to the curb and building relationships without the baggage of resentment. Becky shares her story, shining a light on how high-functioning codependency can mess with your vibe and why self-awareness is Key. She's all about swapping out those "shoulds" for what you truly want, putting you back in the driver's seat of your decisions. Chatting about the nasty side of resentment, with some practical tips, allowing everyone to spot their patterns without piling on the shame. Ultimately, she's cheering on self-compassion, being true to yourself, and building real connections. It's like a heart-to-heart chat with your besties but with some seriously good advice! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
183. Making Sense of Trauma with Denita Bremer
36:43Special guest Denita Bremer, LCS certified trauma coach , shares her story and insights into trauma healing. Learn how to identify and understand trauma, explore the role of the nervous system, and discover practical tools to navigate fear and build safety in relationships. Instagram @Denitabremer https://denitabremer.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message
182. Resentment-Free Housework with Sabrina de Jong
34:07Hey there! 🎙️ Join us for a cozy chat with the fabulous Sabrina de Jong as we unpack the mysteries of household life. Ever found yourself drowning in resentment? Fear not! We're turning that negativity into pure empowerment, drawing lessons from the amazing "Both Things Are True." Sabrina spills the beans on navigating the wild world of housework, sharing tips that might just change your daily grind. And guess what? Housework isn't just chores—it's a legit learning lab! Inspired by the brilliant essays of Kate Holbrook, we're diving deep into the unexpected lessons hidden in the mundane. Don't miss out on this heartwarming convo that'll make you see your to-do list in a whole new light! 🌟✨ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message