217 The Real Reason You Think You’re Not Fit Enough — Why Social Media Gatekeeping Can F**k All the Way Off

In today’s "small" rant, I’m calling *bullsh*t\* on the social media gatekeepers who make fitness feel exclusive, elite, and totally out of reach for normal women with real lives.Just as you start to feel like you’re making progress, BOOM — another filtered reel, another set of “rules,” and another so-called fitness “standard” that leaves you feeling like you’re not doing enough.From **macro-tracking shame** to **hydration vest speed-policing**, this episode calls out the performative crap that’s ruining what fitness is actually meant to be: something that supports your life, not something that takes it over.We cover:🔥 Why fitness content has become more about aesthetics than health🔥 7 ways gatekeeping shows up (and why it’s total BS)🔥 How to spot content that disempowers you — and scroll on by🔥 The truth about lifting, running, food tracking, and what *actually* counts🔥 A reminder that YOU define what fitness means in your lifeIf you’ve ever thought: “Maybe I’m not doing it right.” “I’ll never look like that so why bother?” “I guess I’m not *really* fit…”Then this episode is your wake-up call. You are not doing it wrong. You’re just surrounded by noise.*** Stay tuned for next week’s episode where we’re flipping the script on body confidence AND I’ll be sharing a **free series** that you are absolutely going to want in your life.

Have you ever felt like you’ve tried everything to reach a goal – new plans, new hacks, more discipline – and yet somehow, you always end up back where you started?In this episode, we'll explore why that happens so often. Spoiler: it’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or bad at sticking to things. It’s usually because you’ve been trying to solve the wrong problem.Today I'm sharing a few stories with you of trying to solve the wrong problem. And I’ll give you three powerful questions you can ask yourself today to find the right problem to solve so that you can finally get different results.Key TakeawaysWhy repeating the same strategies often leads to the same stuck feelingHow focusing on surface-level fixes keeps you from addressing the real issueReal examples of clients who shifted their focus and found lasting changeThe role of self-reflection, compassion, and body awareness in finding better answers3 powerful questions to ask when you feel like nothing’s workingSometimes it’s not about trying harder – it’s about stepping back and asking a better question.Listen in to discover why identifying the real problem can change everything, and how to finally create a path forward that works for you.

You hit your goal. You feel amazing. You think you’ve cracked it… but then the old patterns start creeping back in. Sound familiar?Welcome to The Danger Zone – that sneaky little phase no one really talks about: after the weight comes off, but before your habits have truly changed at a deeper level.In this week’s episode, we’re diving into:Why weight loss success often creates a false sense of safetyThe sneaky ways old habits slide back in when the urgency disappearsHow to stop yo-yoing and start evolvingYou’ll learn why your brain is wired to pull you back to the familiar, and what to do about it. Plus, we’ll unpack the real work of long-term transformation — rewriting your identity, aligning with your values, and creating new emotional coping strategies that last.This episode is for you if:You’ve reached a goal and now feel a bit directionless or “off track”You’ve experienced the cycle of progress… followed by slipping backYou’re ready to break free from “before and after” thinking and create a new normal🎧 COMING SOON: I’ve got something very special brewing that’s going to help you navigate this phase with more clarity, ease, and confidence — stay tuned in the next couple of weeks for all the juicy details!

Autumn is one of the best times of year for a reset. It’s not too dark, not too cold, and it comes with that “fresh start” energy that can help you refocus on what you want before the year ends.In this episode, I’m helping you prepare for a simple but powerful reset by sharing 5 things it’s time to let go of – the hidden drains on your energy and confidence – and 3 things you absolutely should keep (or add) if you want to feel clear, grounded and ready to go this season.These are the foundations of the work I do with clients through my 3Rs framework: reclaiming yourself from all the noise and pressure, reconnecting with your body and energy, and then rising into the habits and routines that actually work for you. Today’s episode is all about those first two steps – simplifying, releasing and starting to feel in control again.Key Takeaways5 things to let go of for more energy and confidence:Overthinking and second-guessing yourselfTracking everything (food, steps, macros) to the point of distrustForcing rigid routines that don’t fit your lifeChasing quick fixes and the next “magic answer”Pushing through instead of listening to what your body needs3 things to keep or add instead:Intention: clarity about what really matters to youNervous system regulation: simple practices that bring you back to centreEmbodiment: living in your body instead of constantly monitoring itEnergy and confidence don’t come from adding more to your plate – they come from letting go of the things that drain you, creating space for what matters, and simplifying.

If you’ve ever found yourself buried in self-help books, podcasts and courses looking for that one secret that will finally make everything click – you’re not alone.Self improvement can be powerful and life-changing. But it also has a shadow side. When we get stuck in constantly chasing the next solution, constantly trying to fix ourselves, it can leave us feeling like we’re never enough, always behind, and never quite able to enjoy the progress we’re making.In this episode, I share my own experience of falling into the self-improvement trap, what it taught me, and how I shifted to a more grounded approach. We’ll talk about the difference between genuine growth and the endless cycle of trying to fix yourself – and how you can start to trust yourself and integrate what you already know instead of always looking for the next answer outside of yourself.Key TakeawaysThe hidden downside of self-improvement when it comes from a place of “I need fixing”How constant learning without integration keeps you stuck in procrastinationSigns you may be outsourcing your self-trust to someone else’s system, book or methodHow to use self-development as a tool for growth rather than a crutchWhy reconnecting to yourself (not just consuming more information) is the missing pieceSelf improvement isn’t bad – but when it becomes a way of constantly proving yourself, it loses its power. This episode will help you step back, slow down, and approach growth from a place of self-trust, not self-criticism.

You start off strong – fired up, full of plans – and then, a few weeks later, motivation has left the building. Sound familiar? It’s one of the most common cycles I see, and it leaves so many women stuck, frustrated and blaming themselves for “not being motivated enough”.Here’s the truth: motivation isn’t the golden ticket we’ve been told it is. It’s fun when it shows up, but it’s unreliable, fleeting and often disappears when you need it most. In this episode, we’re breaking down the real reason motivation keeps vanishing, the sneaky habits and beliefs that kill it, and what you can do to build something more solid in its place.You’ll discover how to create lasting progress by focusing on the process, meaningful goals, and small flexible steps – so that motivation becomes a bonus, not a requirement.Key TakeawaysWhy motivation keeps disappearing (and why that’s not a personal failing)The common mistakes that kill motivation before you’ve even startedHow to set goals that actually last, instead of relying on short bursts of willpowerWhy action – not motivation – is what really gets resultsA simple mindset shift to stop waiting for motivation and start building momentum todayMotivation will always come and go. The good news? You don’t need it to take that first step or to keep moving forward. This episode shows you exactly how to create a system that works – with or without motivation on your side.

What does freedom really look like to you? For years, I thought it meant earning more money, having fewer responsibilities, and creating a perfectly structured life. But here’s the truth: that kind of freedom is an illusion. Over the last few years I’ve been leaning into what I call my “quiet rebellion” — questioning the invisible rules that have kept me trapped, finding small ways to break them, and discovering that true freedom starts with how we think, not with how perfectly we plan.In this episode, I share what that journey has looked like for me, how I’ve created a quieter but far more powerful kind of freedom in my own life and body, and how you can begin to do the same in small, meaningful ways starting today.Key Takeaways:* Why the version of freedom we’ve been sold — more control, more discipline, more success — often keeps us trapped* The small “cracks” that led me to rethink what freedom really meant for me* How my own “quiet rebellion” has helped me create more ease, flexibility and alignment* Practical reflection questions to help you uncover where you might be living by invisible rules* How to start creating a version of freedom that feels real and right for youFreedom doesn’t wait for you to earn it. It’s built in small, daily acts of rebellion — the ones that honour what you truly need instead of what you think you should be doing.

For some reason, the pressure feels as loud as ever right now. Whether it’s online “what I eat in a day” reels, midlife transformation stories, or the subtle (and not-so-subtle) messages about what your body should look like and how you should be living — it’s a lot.In this episode, we’re talking about how to reclaim your body and your life from all the noise. You’ll learn to spot the hidden messages that are keeping you stuck, question the rules you’ve been following, and start building a way of moving, eating, living and being that aligns with YOUR truth — not someone else’s highlight reel.Key Takeaways:What the “noise” really is — and how it subtly undermines your confidence and self-trustHow societal standards, expert advice, and endless comparison steal your clarity and energySigns you’re living by someone else’s rules (and how to start writing your own)Simple, empowering ways to start deconditioning from the “shoulds” and external pressureJournal prompts and questions to reconnect with your values, desires, and truthYou don’t need to change everything about yourself to be “worthy.” You just need to get quiet enough to hear your own wisdom again.

“Consistency is key” — or so we’ve been told. Whether it’s sticking a particular number of workouts each, hitting your macros, waking up at 5am to meditate and journal, it’s become the holy grail of health and wellbeing. But what if that relentless push for consistency is actually quietly sabotaging you?In this episode, we challenge the traditional view of consistency and explore why rigid routines may not be serving you — especially if you’re someone juggling real-life, fluctuating energy, or simply craving more ease. You’ll learn how to redefine consistency on your terms and start creating a way of showing up that works with your life, not against it.If you’re stuck in the all-or-nothing loop or constantly beating yourself up for “failing” to be consistent, this episode is your invitation to let that go — and finally build the kind of flexibility, trust, and rhythm that actually gets results.Key Takeaways:Why the traditional definition of consistency may be sabotaging your wellbeingThe hidden cost of trying to force a rigid routine (and what to do instead)How to work with your real-life rhythms — hormones, energy, work, chaos and allThe difference between short-term perfection and long-term sustainabilityHow redefining consistency can help you feel more successful, motivated, and freeThe truth? You don’t need to be perfectly consistent to succeed. You just need to keep showing up — with compassion, honesty, and a willingness to adapt.

You’re holding it all together. You’re showing up, getting it done. But underneath? You’re tired in a way that sleep doesn’t quite fix. You’re juggling everything and you look like you’re in control of it all, and yet something still feels off.This is what I call hidden burnout — and it’s incredibly common for high-achieving, capable women. In today’s episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what burnout really looks like, why you might not even realise you’re experiencing it, and why the real cause isn’t your busy schedule… but the weight of expectations, stories, and “shoulds” you’ve been carrying for years.Key Takeaways:The often-dismissed signs of burnout that women commonly overlookWhy burnout isn’t just about doing too much — but about how you feel about everything you’re doingThe hidden beliefs, expectations, and old stories keeping you stuck in the burnout loopHow to use the Reclaim phase of the 3Rs Framework to start shifting your internal pressureA new lens for recognising burnout and a compassionate path for coming out of itIf you’ve been telling yourself you’re “fine” while quietly feeling exhausted, this episode is your invitation to stop gaslighting yourself and start reclaiming your energy, your voice, and your version of life.