224 When self improvement becomes unconscious self sabotage (and how to break the cycle)

What if your drive for self improvement - and how to be more consistent, disciplined and in control - is actually the very thing holding you back? In this episode, I’m breaking down unconscious self-sabotage: the sneaky ways our best intentions can quietly undermine our wellbeing and how these patterns keep you stuck in the same cycle, no matter how hard you try.You’ll learn how to spot when your self-improvement efforts are coming from fear rather than trust, how to build self compassion and stop being so hard on yourself and how to shift into a softer, more sustainable way of growthKey TakeawaysSelf-sabotage often happens beneath awareness - not from laziness, but from fear.The problem isn’t the goal or strategy, it’s how you’re approaching it.How replacing control with curiosity opens up flexibility, trust and freedom…and improves your self worth and self esteemWhy guilt and perfectionism turn small stumbles into “failures,” and how to stop that cycle.Why real self-improvement requires softness and how you can be your best teacherNEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendListen to next: Episode 158 - Does Self Sabotage Really Exist?RESOURCES:Secret (& Free) Limited Podcast: Confident As F**k (Even When You’re Not There Yet)Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

How many times have you told yourself you just need more consistency and willpower — with workouts, food, or anything else that’s meant to make you feel better? And how many times has that worked… until life got messy, motivation dropped, and you landed back at square one again? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why you’re not failing at how to stay consistent — you’re just building it on the wrong foundation. I’ll show you how to start building consistency that lasts and how to create a consistency mindset.What we’ll talk about:Why willpower doesn’t work for long - great for starting, not for sustaining.Why true consistency isn’t about control; it’s about connection.And that you don’t need to push harder — you need to build systems and environments that fit your life.NEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendListen to next: Ep 209: “Why Allowing Yourself to Be Inconsistent Could Be the Best Thing You Do This Week”RESOURCES:Secret (& Free) Limited Podcast: Confident As F**k (Even When You’re Not There Yet)Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

That “screw it, I’ll start again Monday” moment isn’t a failure - it’s a pattern that has supported you when life feels out of balance. In this episode, we unpack the spiral, why it shows up when life gets busy, and how to create the nervous system regulation to stay consistent, get back on track after losing momentum - and most importantly rebuild self trust.Here’s what we’ll cover:Why the spiral is simply a pattern.How nervous-system regulation (your “window of tolerance”) shapes choices.Early warning signs you’re nearing the spiral (and what to do first).A simple in-the-moment reset: pause, step away, and feel what’s true.How to plan for low-motivation days so you stop “starting over Monday.”✨ Ready to stop the all-or-nothing spiral and build consistency that actually sticks? Join me inside The Body You’ll Love Living In and get my launch bonuses, including the Somatic Soundbites to use in the moment you’re about to spiral. Learn more at lifeeditcoaching.comNEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendListen to next: Episode 212 - The Real Reason Your Motivation Keeps Disappearing (and what to do about it)RESOURCES:Secret (& Free) Limited Podcast: Confident As F**k (Even When You’re Not There Yet)Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

Do you feel like your sugar habit has a hold over you? Does it feel like a sugar detox challenge is the only answer? An in spite of your best intentions are you always left with the question “why do I crave sugar so much?”Then this is the episode for you. Because we’ll be dismantling a couple of myths around “sugar addiction”, addressing the reasons that you can’t seem to help sneaking your kids leftover chocolate (even though it’s not that nice) and showing you how to build a healthier relationship with the sweet stuff, which isn’t about having to constantly control your sugar intake through restriction, guilt or control. What we’ll cover in this episode:Why you’re not addicted to sugar (and why the “sugar is as addictive as cocaine” headline is misleading).The hidden needs sugar is really satisfying (comfort, reward, relief from stress or boredom).Three key questions to ask yourself when cravings strike.Why restriction and detoxing never solve the root issue.How to start building trust with yourself instead of fighting with food.🎧 If you’ve ever felt powerless around sugar, this episode will help you flip the script and create a relationship that feels calm, balanced, and free.Want to break free from the cycle of sugar spirals, guilt, and all-or-nothing eating? Join me inside The Body You’ll Love Living In and get access to my Pattern Interrupt Kit (a launch bonus available right now). Head to lifeeditcoaching.com to find out more.NEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendListen to next: Episode 187 - Emotional Eating vs Diets vs YouRESOURCES:Secret (& Free) Limited Podcast: Confident As F**k (Even When You’re Not There Yet)Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

You know how it can feel like a less stressful week lies just the other side of better time management or more productivity hacks to stop wasting time? That all you need to do is get more done and be more focused so you can keep spinning all the plates?Well what if that’s nothing more than a sticking plaster - it makes you feel accomplished in the moment, but doesn’t actually reduce burnout or stress in the ways you need it to?In this episode I’m pulling back the curtain on why searching for the next “time management technique” is a red herring. And instead, we’ll dive into the part we’re not talking about.Because yes, the to-do list is overflowing and there’s plenty of stuff in our lives that HAS to be done, but the real pressure? It’s coming from somewhere else. And when you learn how to spot that, everything starts to feel lighter.We’ll dive into:✨ Why productivity hacks and daily planners (my personal drug of choice) aren’t the real solution✨ The sneaky ways comparison to an old version of yourself keeps you stuck and feeling like you’re failing before you’ve even begun✨ How small shifts in the way you approach everyday tasks (yes, even replying to emails) can free up more space and calm than you thinkIf you’ve ever thought “slowing down sounds lovely, but it’s just not possible for me,” this one’s for you.NEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendRESOURCES:Secret (& Free) Limited Podcast: Confident As F**k (Even When You’re Not There Yet)Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

SIGN UP TO LISTEN TO THIS LIMITED 5-PART SECRET PODCAST SERIES RIGHT HERE.If you’re tired of chasing the perfect body, trying to stick to routines that don’t stick, or feeling like you're still not where you "should" be — this private podcast series is for you.Introducing…🎧 Confident as F**k (Even When You're Not "There" Yet) — a brand new 5-episode secret podcast series for women who are DONE with the shame, pressure and perfectionism… and are ready to finally feel good in their own skin.You’ll learn how to:✨ Build real confidence — before, during, and beyond your physical transformation✨ Create a healthier relationship with food, fitness, and your body✨ Ditch the all-or-nothing cycle and finally feel like you’ve got this✨ Understand why your past efforts haven’t stuck — and what actually worksThis is NOT a "just love yourself" pep talk or another motivational to-do list. It’s the deeper work that builds long-term transformation — using my signature 3Rs method: Reclaim, Reconnect and Rise.Because confidence doesn’t live at the end of the next diet…It’s available to you right now.All you have to do is sign up here and you'll receive your private podcast feed to access all episodes.

Sign up to listen to my brand new private podcast - Confident as F**k (Even When You're Not There Yet) This week’s episode is a big one — especially if you’ve ever felt torn between wanting to feel good in your body now *and* still having goals you want to reach.So many women see accepting themselves as they are as some kind of surrender. A white flag. A moment where they “give in” and never change again.But what if there’s another way? One where you can:✔️ Feel confident and connected to your body✔️ Drop the constant shame spiral✔️ And still make meaningful, empowered progress?In this episode, we dive into:💥 Why learning to *like yourself now* isn’t a betrayal of your goals💥 How chasing change from shame never delivers long-term results💥 The difference between disconnected and connected motivation💥 Why self-acceptance is actually the start of real, sustainable transformation💥 What it looks like to *reconnect* with your body — and work with it instead of against itIf you've ever thought: “If I accept myself now, I’ll stop trying.” “I can't feel good until I lose the weight.” or “I’m scared to slow down because I might never get there…”Then this is the conversation you didn’t know you needed.**PLUS**: I’m sharing something BRAND NEW with you — a free private podcast series:Confident as F**k (Even When You’re Not There Yet)....to help you feel strong, at ease, and connected in your body *right now,* while still moving powerfully towards the results you want.It’s 5 value-packed episodes based on my 3Rs method to help you:✨ Reclaim your confidence✨ Reconnect with your body✨ Rise into the version of you who doesn’t need permission to feel goodSign up now at 👉 https://www.confidantas.co.uk and start listening today.

If you’ve ever said, “Right, this time I’m getting my sh*t together…” only to find yourself in the same cycle a few weeks later — this episode is for you.Today we’re talking about the seductive little loop that so many smart, capable women get stuck in:You fall “off track”You make a fresh planYou feel hopeful, motivated, energisedLife happensYou fall off againRinse and repeat.But what if I told you that this constant cycle of recommitting might actually be the very thing pulling you further away from what you really want?This episode dives deep into:Why your plans keep falling apart (it’s not what you think)The real reason your nervous system keeps dragging you back to old patternsWhy “consistency” as you’ve been taught it might be sabotaging your successWhat it means to create rhythm instead of rulesHow to finally build a life that supports you — even when things go off script⚡ PLUS — a little teaser for what’s coming next:I’ve been behind the scenes creating something very special — a free private podcast series called Confident as F**k(Even When You’re Not There Yet).It’s landing next week — and it’s going to change how you see yourself, your body, and your goals forever.🌟 You’ll also hear a sneak peek of my full brand relaunch — with new ways to work with me, a new name, and a whole new approach to creating a life that actually feels the way you want it to.

In today’s "small" rant, I’m calling *bullsh*t\* on the social media gatekeepers who make fitness feel exclusive, elite, and totally out of reach for normal women with real lives.Just as you start to feel like you’re making progress, BOOM — another filtered reel, another set of “rules,” and another so-called fitness “standard” that leaves you feeling like you’re not doing enough.From **macro-tracking shame** to **hydration vest speed-policing**, this episode calls out the performative crap that’s ruining what fitness is actually meant to be: something that supports your life, not something that takes it over.We cover:🔥 Why fitness content has become more about aesthetics than health🔥 7 ways gatekeeping shows up (and why it’s total BS)🔥 How to spot content that disempowers you — and scroll on by🔥 The truth about lifting, running, food tracking, and what *actually* counts🔥 A reminder that YOU define what fitness means in your lifeIf you’ve ever thought: “Maybe I’m not doing it right.” “I’ll never look like that so why bother?” “I guess I’m not *really* fit…”Then this episode is your wake-up call. You are not doing it wrong. You’re just surrounded by noise.*** Stay tuned for next week’s episode where we’re flipping the script on body confidence AND I’ll be sharing a **free series** that you are absolutely going to want in your life.

Have you ever felt like you’ve tried everything to reach a goal – new plans, new hacks, more discipline – and yet somehow, you always end up back where you started?In this episode, we'll explore why that happens so often. Spoiler: it’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or bad at sticking to things. It’s usually because you’ve been trying to solve the wrong problem.Today I'm sharing a few stories with you of trying to solve the wrong problem. And I’ll give you three powerful questions you can ask yourself today to find the right problem to solve so that you can finally get different results.Key TakeawaysWhy repeating the same strategies often leads to the same stuck feelingHow focusing on surface-level fixes keeps you from addressing the real issueReal examples of clients who shifted their focus and found lasting changeThe role of self-reflection, compassion, and body awareness in finding better answers3 powerful questions to ask when you feel like nothing’s workingSometimes it’s not about trying harder – it’s about stepping back and asking a better question.Listen in to discover why identifying the real problem can change everything, and how to finally create a path forward that works for you.