S3. Ep4. Part Two: The Fear of Abandonment & Self-Sabotage in Relationships

In this episode, I explore the impact of toxic relationships on your self-image and emotional well-being. I share personal insights, discuss warning signs, and offer practical tips to empower you to break free from toxic dynamics. Discover how to reclaim your self-worth and happiness as we navigate the path to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.   Here are some key takeaways from the episode: 🌟Identifying unsafe people in your life who may hold unrealistic expectations, use guilt and shame, criticize, stonewall, lie, gaslight, maintain a negative outlook, show apathy, or display erratic behavior. 🌟Recognizing the inconsistency and confusion that often characterizes toxic relationships, and how it can mirror unresolved childhood experiences. 🌟The importance of understanding your feelings and beliefs about yourself within your relationships. 🌟Taking responsibility for your choices and realizing that you can choose to exit toxic relationships to create a healthier life for yourself. Please ensure you read all disclaimers inclusive of T&C’s on katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this channel. For the masterclass on RELATIONSHIPS, go to the following webpage: https://katieodonoghue.com/masterclasses For Crisis Support Lines: 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 National Domestic Family & Sexual Violence Counselling Service https://1800respect.org.au   Lifeline, AU Tel: 13 11 14 https://www.lifeline.org.au   Beyond Blue, AU Tel: 1300 22 4636 https://www.beyondblue.org.au   Samaritans, UK & IRE Tel: 116 123 https://www.samaritans.org   Pieta House, IRE Tel: 1800 247 247 or text HELP to 51444 https://www.pieta.ie

Are you ready for a new perspective on relationships? Join me in this thought-provoking episode as I explore the impact of saying "my other half" or "my better half." If you’re someone who has become accustomed to using these phrases in your relationship, it's time to rethink your choices. In this episode, we'll cover: 🤔 The impact of language on how you see yourself and your partner. 🔄 Unpacking the hidden messages behind these commonly used phrases. 🌟 Embracing the idea that you are whole and complete on your own. 🚀 Empowering yourself to change the way you think about your relationship. ❌ Letting go of toxic beliefs that lead to dependency and low self-worth.   Please ensure you read all disclaimers inclusive of T&C’s on katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this channel. For the masterclass on RELATIONSHIPS, go to the following webpage: https://katieodonoghue.com/masterclasses

Outward love isn't always readily available - you won't always have people giving you the reassurance you crave or the nurturance you need during times of stress. So, what then?!  The truth is...only YOU can take care of yourself and give yourself the love that you truly desire anytime.anywhere. But it's hard for many people to do because people don't actively learn how to love themselves and there are very few role models out there showing us what to do, or how to do it. In this episode I speak with Nardia who is the founder of NardiaJoy - a transformational leadership company that teaches founders and leaders in start-ups how to lead authentically, in a way that brings out the best in them and their teams. She transforms the way that leaders think and feel and supports them to gain a deep understanding of why they do what they do and assists them to become self-aware and how to take ownership of their impact. Nardia is also radicalising self-love through her community Love Queens, as she believes that self-love is the single most important lesson that we need to learn. When we know how to truly love ourselves, just as we are, then we can live the life we desire. Love is always the answer. Tune in to hear about Nardia's journey talking all about domestic violence, motherhood, narcissism and finding love within! Find Nardia on the following: https://www.nardiajoy.com/   Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.

Healthy relationships are built on safety, acceptance and trust. So, what do you do when you find out your partner has been watching porn? And how much is "too much"? Moreover, what should you do if you feel like it has been affecting your sex life? In this episode I speak with Dimitri Douchin, PhD who is a psychotherapist specialised in recovery from sexual addictions and trauma reprocessing. Dimitri’s training was first in science. After obtaining his PhD, he left academia and started working as a psychosexual therapist. Meanwhile Dimitri battled his addictions until, after 17 years, he overcame his own addictions to sex and pornography. Focusing on releasing trauma and repressed emotions with inner child work, Dimitri has been helping thousands of men working on their sexuality and emotional wounds - a mission that he embodies today in his new platform dedicated to a holistic psychological treatment of pornography addiction, www.unhooked.care . Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.

There's a lot of talk about "Toxic exes", "Toxic bosses", or "Toxic people" in general these days but can we really say people are toxic? Or is it just that they have toxic patterns of relating deeply ingrained within them? Toxic patterns that have been passed down from one generation to the next... In this episode, I talk about 6 of the most toxic patterns that people can have within them. Toxic patterns that create dysfunctional, disconnected and sometimes, dangerous relationships. If you want to start your coaching journey today, visit the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/11-coaching Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.

How many times have you told someone "I'm okay" when your reality has been the opposite? How many times have you told others that "Things are going great" when really, your life was falling apart? Maybe...you've done neither?  Maybe, you're someone who minimises? Maybe, you're someone who tells yourself "Things aren't that bad! I need to grow up and get over it"?! Everyone has lied at some point in their life - to themselves, or to other people. But why do we do it? And what is the cost when we choose not to be honest? In this episode, I walk you through the different lies we tend to fall into and how to start flexing your honesty muscle today with some key steps so grab a journal and pen - this one is a juicy one! If you want to start your coaching journey today, visit the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/11-coaching Or submit an enquiry for bookings on: https://katieodonoghue.com/contact Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.

There are many things that will affect your healing journey but how much of it might actually come down to your beliefs, your self-talk, or your attachment style? In this episode I talk about my personal resistances to doing the work and what my journey looked like at the start, reasons as to why you may self-sabotage on your journey and becoming aware of some unhelpful patterns that will keep you stuck, plus things to be mindful of when seeking out a practitioner be it a counsellor, a coach, a psychologist or other. *Please note this episode contains a trigger warning. If you want to start your coaching journey today, visit the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/11-coaching Or submit an enquiry for bookings on: https://katieodonoghue.com/contact Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.

We all make assumptions in our relationships. We naturally fill in the gaps where we are missing pieces of information so we can make sense of our world - and of our relationship. But whenever we make an assumption, we have an impact on our experience and on someone else's. And the trouble truly arises when our assumptions are predominantly negative, creating conflict and disconnection, fuelling blame and doubt. In this episode, I'm talking about assumptions - what they are, how they may show up, what they teach you about yourself and how to start taking some key steps to stop assumption making in your relationship today! If you want to start your coaching journey today, visit the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/11-coaching Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.

Sometimes, all people want is for someone to finally "choose them". In other words, they want someone to stick around and be with them instead of what they fear: being abandoned, or forgotten about. Many people want to feel lovable, desirable and like they're "worth" being with...yet, the reality is that people can feel the opposite when, at times, they are left ghosted, in silence, alone, or simply not chosen by their love interest (and in some cases, their life long partner when things like an infidelity or relationship breakdown occurs). In this final part of a three part series, I'm talking about the desire to be chosen and what it truly means - and why waiting for someone to choose you is detrimental to your happiness, and to your sense of self. *Insights from work refers to a mix of sources such as personal experience, research & studies primarily - experiences talked about in any of the episodes are usually generalised & likely to be a common experience for the many, rather than one individuals experience.  BONUS: if you're someone who currently struggles with anxiety, or those typical "what if" thoughts in your relationship with self or romantic partners, then you may want to consider grabbing yourself a FREE 27 page ebook on the link below: https://katieodonoghue.com/transform-your-relationship-with-anxiety If you want to start your coaching journey today, visit the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/11-coaching Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.

Following on from the last episode, I'm diving into how The Fear Of Abandonment shows up in your love life including how it can cause you to self-sabotage your most intimate relationships. In this episode you can expect: - To hear about the patterns in another that may activate or trigger this fear & guidance on how to spot your own during emotionally challenging moments. - Anxiety & how it can be an indication that your fear is currently present. - Past relationship trauma & how that informs your present relationship. - Forms of self-sabotage & what is needed during emotionally overwhelming moments. ...plus journaling prompts to help you understand yourself that bit more. Be sure to hit the 'subscribe' or 'follow' button so you don't miss another episode.  BONUS: if you're someone who currently struggles with anxiety, or those typical "what if" thoughts in your relationship with self or romantic partners, then you may want to consider grabbing yourself a FREE 27 page ebook on the link below: https://katieodonoghue.com/transform-your-relationship-with-anxiety If you want to start your coaching journey today, visit the following link: https://katieodonoghue.com/11-coaching Please read all disclaimers, terms and conditions on https://katieodonoghue.com when consuming content from this platform, or other social media channels that are connected.