
EP 280: Either You Co-Regulate or You De-Escalate: An Interview with Chrissy D’Agostino
You've probably heard "a dysregulated adult can't co-regulate a child" a hundred times. But if you've ever been stuck in a store with a screaming kid — or a classroom with 17 screaming kids — and zero bandwidth left, you know how useless that advice can feel in the moment. This episode is a conversation with Chrissy D'Agostino, co-author of the new Early Years Guidebook from the Regulated Classroom, about what to do when you're with a dysregulated child, and you're dysregulated too. You’ll hear practical ideas that are actually helpful for a stressed and tapped-out grown-up.
In this episode, you will learn:
- Why relying so heavily on your voice and your words all day is quietly wearing down your nervous system
- The four practices (connectors, activators, settlers, affirmations) that help widen everyone's window of tolerance, at home or in the classroom
- Why "meet the moment" is a more useful goal than "manage the outcome"
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
- The Regulated Classroom → Regulated Classroom
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/earlyyears
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