当我撑不下去的那一年，人生开始转弯｜回忆录第十五集｜EP.1854

You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.你不会成为你想要的那个人，而是会成为你真正相信自己可以成为的那个人。有些人生的转折，不是因为我们准备好了，而是因为——我们已经没有退路。从在台北麦当劳打工、为生活精打细算，到同时拥有三份工作、开启第一个职涯转折，这一集，我想和你分享： 当环境没有选择时，如何为自己创造机会 从低薪到收入翻倍的关键突破 那些看似偶然，却改变人生的转机如果你现在也正卡在金钱、工作或未来的迷雾中，也许这一集，会给你一点点方向。�️ 订阅《Fly with Lily学英语环游世界》，把这一集分享给正在努力生活的朋友。� 也欢迎留言告诉我：你人生第一份让你意识到“赚钱不容易”的工作是什么？有些故事，说出口的那一刻，就已经开始疗愈了。现在就到我的官网flywithlily.com下载《离开舒适圈30日挑战》打开妳与世界的无限机遇～

从麦当劳到多重兼职：我的职涯转折点After I started earning my own money, I truly understood how hard it was to make a living.I worked 20 hours a week at McDonald’s—even more time than I spent in school—yet I could only earn 1,440 NT dollars (≈ US$ 45.6 / ≈ ¥315) a week. Living in a big city like Taipei was really not easy.开始自己赚钱后，我才真正体会到赚钱的辛苦。每周在麦当劳工作 20 小时，甚至比在学校上课的时间还多，却只能赚 1440 元 (≈ 美金 45.6 / 人民币 315)，在台北这样的大城市生活，实在不容易。At that time, I had a boyfriend in Taipei.I liked dressing up nicely for our dates—buying clothes and cosmetics—to show my best self.However, he was serving in the military and insisted on splitting the bill every time, which made me really upset.Several times at the end of the month, I was completely broke. I had no choice but to call my parents and ask them to transfer 2,000 NT dollars (≈ US$63 / ≈ RMB ¥438)so I could survive a little longer.当时，我有一个在台北的男朋友。我喜欢打扮得漂漂亮亮去约会，买衣服、化妆品，想要展现自己最好的一面。然而，他正在当兵，每次约会都坚持 AA 制，让我气得不行。有好几次，月底实在捉襟见肘，我只能硬着头皮打电话向家里求救，请爸妈汇 2000 元（约美金 63 元／人民币 438 元），才能暂时喘口气。During this financially difficult period, my “salary destiny” at McDonald’s took an unexpected turn.Looking back now, it really feels unbelievable.就在这段经济拮据的时期，我的“薪资命运”在麦当劳迎来了转变。现在回想起来，真的有点不可思议！Promotion to Lobby Hostess: My First Career Advancement升职为接待员：人生的第一个晋升After working at McDonald’s for almost a year, I was surprisingly promoted.I finally got the position I had dreamed of—McDonald’s lobby hostess.My hourly wage increased from 72 NT dollars (≈ US$2.28 / ≈ ¥15.8) to 85 NT dollars (≈ US$2.69 / ≈ ¥18.6), and I could even freely choose staff meals.在麦当劳工作快满一年时，我竟然升职了！我拿到了梦寐以求的“麦当劳接待员”职位，时薪从 72 元(≈ 美金 2.28 / 人民币 15.8) 直接调升到 85 元(≈ 美金 2.69 / 人民币 18.6)，还能随意点员工餐！When I was a regular crew member, I could only order basic set meals.But after becoming a hostess, I could finally order my favorites—spicy chicken burgers and chicken nuggets.We usually called lobby hostesses “Aunties.” Their job was to wear a red vest and a slim skirt, walk around the floor, refill coffee for customers, host children’s birthday parties, and sometimes help at the cashier.For me, it was not just a job—it was a sense of identity upgrade.从前当服务员时，我只能点普通套餐；但当上接待员后，我终于能点自己最爱的劲辣鸡腿堡和鸡块！我们都习惯称接待员为“阿姨”，工作内容包括穿着红色背心与窄裙巡视楼层、帮客人续杯咖啡、主持儿童生日派对，有时也协助收银。这对当时的我来说，不仅是一份工作，更是一种身份的提升。However, not long after my promotion, I faced the first major challenge of my career—the outbreak of SARS.然而，升职没多久，我就遇到了职场生涯的第一个重大挑战——SARS 来袭！Trying Entrepreneurship During SARS: Turning Crisis into OpportunitySARS 期间的创业尝试：危机变转机After the SARS outbreak, Taipei gradually became a high-risk area, and the restaurant business was heavily affected.I was assigned to stand at the entrance to take customers’ temperatures.As the weather got hotter, I stood there all day, sweating nonstop. It was boring, and I felt like a “thermometer robot.”SARS 疫情爆发后，台北逐渐进入高风险区，餐厅业务大受影响。我被安排站在门口为顾客量体温。天气渐渐变热，我整天站在大门口汗流浃背，不仅无聊，还觉得自己像个“温度计机器人”。With no children’s parties to host and fewer customers coming in, I decided to do something different.I started setting up a small stall at the entrance, selling handmade crafts I made myself—plaster McDonald’s fries models, painted artworks, and small toys.Although it was only a small experiment, it taught me an important lesson: when the environment is bad, you must create opportunities proactively.没有儿童派对可主持，餐厅人流也减少了，我决定做点不一样的事。我开始利用门口空间摆摊，贩售自己制作的手工艺品——麦当劳薯条石膏模型、彩绘作品和小玩具。虽然只是小小的尝试，却让我学到一件事：当大环境不景气时，更要主动创造机会！This proactive attitude unexpectedly led me to discover a much higher-paying part-time job.而这样的主动精神，也让我无意间发现了更高薪的兼职机会。Children’s English Cram School: Discovering a Fourfold Salary儿童美语补习班：发现薪资 4 倍的机会！One day, while chatting with a younger schoolmate at the cashier, she told me she had started working as a teacher at a children’s English cram school.I casually asked, “How much is the hourly pay?”“320 NT dollars,” she replied calmly.I was completely shocked.That was four times my current salary.某天，我在收银台和一位学妹聊天，她也是辅大学生，最近开始在儿童美语补习班教书。我随口问了一句：“那里的时薪是多少？”“320 元，”她轻描淡写地回答。我顿时惊呆了——这是我当时薪水的 4 倍！Thinking about how I hadn’t practiced English properly for a long time due to my busy life, a thought sparked in my mind: maybe I could try it too.A few days later, I gathered my courage and applied to an English cram school near my campus.The interview went surprisingly well. After a few simple English tests, I was accepted.That was how I started my journey as a part-time English teacher.想到自己因为生活忙碌，已经很久没有好好练习英语，我心中燃起了一个念头：我也可以试试看！几天后，我鼓起勇气到学校附近的美语补习班应征。面试过程出乎意料地顺利，几个简单的英语口试后，我竟然录取了。就这样，我开启了兼职英语老师的人生。The Joy of Doubled Income: Falling in Love with Teaching收入翻倍的成就感，让我爱上了教学As my teaching hours increased, I received my first paycheck of over 20,000 NT dollars (≈ US$633 / ≈ ¥4,380)..When I looked at my pay slip, I felt an overwhelming sense of achievement—I felt capable and powerful.随着补习班工作时数增加，我第一次领到超过 2 万元 (≈ 美金 633 / 人民币 4,380) 的薪水。当我看着薪资条的那一刻，心里涌上一股巨大的成就感，觉得自己好棒、好强大。At that time, I was both a McDonald’s lobby hostess and a children’s English teacher.Little did I know that another opportunity was waiting for me at McDonald’s—this time, from the financial industry.当时的我，同时身兼麦当劳接待员与儿童美语老师。没想到，在麦当劳工作时，另一个机缘正在等着我——而且，竟然来自金融业。A Chance Encounter During Floor Patrol: Entering the Insurance Industry楼层巡视的意外转弯：踏入保险业One day, while refilling coffee for customers, I met a woman named Qingxia.After chatting for a while, she asked me, “Have you ever considered savings insurance?”Although I knew nothing about financial planning, I bought a basic policy because I wanted to save money.After several meetings, she unexpectedly encouraged me to join her insurance team.有一天，我在楼层帮客人续杯咖啡时，遇到一位叫“青霞”的女顾客。聊了一会儿后，她问我：“你有考虑过储蓄险吗？”当时的我对理财一无所知，但因为想存钱，就买了一份最低保额的储蓄险。没想到，几次见面后，她竟然鼓励我加入她的保险团队！So at that time, besides being a Fu Jen University student, a McDonald’s hostess, and an English teacher, I gained yet another identity—an insurance agent.My life became busy but fulfilling.From barely surviving on a low salary, I now held three part-time jobs with significantly increased income.Soon after, fate presented me with a decision I could not avoid—one that ultimately led me to let go of all other jobs and fully commit to the insurance industry.于是，当时的我，除了是辅大学生、麦当劳接待员、英语老师之外，又多了一个身份：保险业务员。那段日子忙碌却充实，从原本只能靠微薄薪水生活，到同时拥有三份兼职，收入大幅提升。然而，命运很快给了我一个无法逃避的选择——这个选择，让我最终决定放下其他工作，全力投入保险业。（To be continued…）（未完待续……）

如果有一段时间，你觉得人生有点失去方向——关系结束、朋友离开，连自己也不知道要往哪里走。就在那个时候，我的电脑坏掉了。我被迫停下来，也意外打开了一段新的相遇。这一集，我想和你分享在拜县发生的故事：关于失去与流动、关于短暂却深刻的连结，还有那些看似偶然、却刚刚好发生的安排。有些相遇，也许真的不是意外。《离开舒适圈挑战》在 flywithlily.com 可以下载喔！

《本日格言》Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. 你的价值，不会因为别人看不见而减少在 Pai 的这一周，我第一次在一段关系里，同时感受到自由与安全。这一集，我分享——爱里的界线、成熟不是压抑，以及为什么不是所有关系，都需要被修复。如果你正在爱里探索，却不想失去自己，这一集，给你。— Lily �� Vocabulary 单词学习（中英）• Value｜价值• Boundary｜界线• Freedom｜自由• Overwhelmed｜不知所措、压力过大• Recognized｜被肯定的• Belong｜属于如果这一集有陪到你，欢迎追踪《Fly with Lily》，或把这一集分享给那个正在爱里迷路、却不想失去自己的人。我的《云雀实验室》专为想要圆环球梦想的女性设计，也欢迎你到我的官网 flywithlily.com来找我。我们下一集见 �

中文版是上一集你不是不够好，只是还没在对的位置Hey, this is Lily。在这一集里，我想和你分享我 18 岁时的两份兼职工作故事——一次被否定、一次被看见，也让我第一次真正明白“适不适合，和价值无关”。我曾被说“没有餐饮业的活力”，也曾因为一个对的环境，拿到最佳服务员、找到真正适合自己的位置。如果你也曾被评价、被否定，甚至开始怀疑自己，这一集，想陪你走一小段。 Quote“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”“你的价值，不会因为别人看不见而减少。”� 听完如果有共鸣，记得订阅《Fly with Lily》，也欢迎分享给正在找位置的那个人。云雀实验室活动相关请上官网 flywithlily.com

你不是不够好，只是还没在对的位置Hey, this is Lily在这一集里，我想和你分享我 18 岁时的两份兼职工作故事——一次被否定、一次被看见，也让我第一次真正明白“适不适合，和价值无关”。我曾被说“没有餐饮业的活力”，也曾因为一个对的环境，拿到最佳服务员、找到真正适合自己的位置。如果你也曾被评价、被否定，甚至开始怀疑自己，这一集，想陪你走一小段。 Quote“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”“你的价值，不会因为别人看不见而减少。”� 听完如果有共鸣，记得订阅《Fly with Lily 学英语环游世界》，也欢迎分享给正在找位置的那个人。参与《云雀实验室》会员活动 请至官网flywithlily.com

有时候，人生会在你还没准备好的时候，突然把你熟悉的一切拿走。在这一集中，我在 Pai 邀请了一位我很喜欢的声音与灵魂——Dominique，一起聊聊他在旅行中、在失去工作之后，重新找回“活在当下”的那一刻。这不是一个励志的成功故事，而是一段很真实、很人性的分享——关于害怕、迷惘、与未知共处，也关于在自然里、在人与人的相遇里，慢慢记起：我们的价值，从来不只来自于工作。In this episode,we talk about loss, presence, and the quiet beauty of living in the moment.如果你最近也走在一段不确定的路上，希望这一集，可以陪你一下。想要预约2/26-3/1的拜县粉丝见面会（Retreat）请写信[email protected]

“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” — Oprah Winfrey “你能踏上的最大冒险，就是活出你梦想中的人生。”—— 欧普拉在这一集，我想带你走进我在泰国 Pai 的两天心情日记——那是一段 关于情绪、自我觉察、灵魂伴侣讯号、还有宇宙回应的故事。你会听到： 我如何把低落情绪转化成灵魂的讯息 朋友之间的能量张力与“我先照顾好自己”的 reminder 一场意外的 spiritual conversation 如何像心灵按摩 那个正在约会的男生突然的讯息与宇宙同步性 在马戏团表演里感受到被爱、被看见、被支持的神奇时刻Pai 是一个魔法之地，每天都在轻轻告诉我：“You belong. You are supported. Keep following your soul.”在节目最后，我也会带你一起复习 回忆录第 13 集(EP. 1848) 的单字精选，适合正在练习英语、也正在练习活出灵魂版本的你。如果你正在寻找一个全新的开始——一种能够边旅行、边成长、边打造自由事业的生活方式——你一定要加入我将在 1 月 18 日 开启的 迷你退休营 Mini-Retirement Retreat。� 线上＋线下并行� 你可以选择跟我一起在泰国旅行� 打造不受时间与地点限制的事业� 重建你的能量、使命与灵魂方向现在就预约你的 20 分钟免费谘询：� flywithlily.com/20让我陪你共同设计，你下一段人生的篇章。Are you ready to fly? 单词记忆strict（严格的）My father grew up in a very strict household.upbringing（成长环境）My adventurous upbringing shaped who I am today.humiliating（屈辱的）It was such a humiliating experience that he almost lost hope.adapt（适应）Constant moving taught me to adapt and appreciate every new beginning.bankrupt（破产）At the time, my father’s company went bankrupt.independence（独立）My parents believed those challenges taught me independence.environment（环境）I didn’t grow up in a stable environment, but it made me stronger.motivation（动力）Perhaps their free parenting nurtured my curiosity and motivation.

“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” — Oprah Winfrey“你能踏上的最大冒险，就是活出你梦想中的人生。”—— 欧普拉Childhood memories never really feel far away.Even though my body has changed and the years have passed, the soul that carries everything is still the same “me.” As I grow older, every stage of life brings new challenges that widen and deepen my understanding of the world. After I began my ten-year global journey, people often asked me, “Was your childhood full of changes too? Did it shape the way you live now?”That question made me pause, look back, and reflect on my path of growing up.童年的记忆其实从未走远。虽然身形变了、年纪增长了，但承载这一切的灵魂依然是那个“我”。随着年岁增长，每个阶段的挑战拓宽了我的认知。在我展开横跨十年的环球旅程后，许多人问我：“你的童年是不是也充满变动？这会不会影响你成年后的生活方式？”这个问题让我开始回望、反思自己的成长旅程。My Father’s Influence — From Strict Upbringing to FreedomMy father grew up in a very strict household. He often told me how tough my Japanese-educated grandfather was, and how he once hung him on a tree and beat him for being too carefree. It was such a humiliating moment that he even thought about ending his life. But instead, he made a vow: “When I have children of my own, I will make sure they grow up happy.”爸爸的影响——从严苛的祖父到自由的教育爸爸从小在一个非常严格的家庭里长大。他常提起受日式教育的爷爷对他管教有多严厉，甚至曾因他的随性，把他吊在树上打屁股。那次羞辱让他一度萌生轻生念头。然而，他对天发誓：“如果我有自己的孩子，一定要让他们快快乐乐长大。”But life challenged him even more.His first wife passed away, leaving behind two young children. Heartbroken and unable to care for them alone, he left them with their grandparents. Because of his damaged relationship with his father, he eventually chose not to return — creating a distance that continued into our generation.After I was born, I was never close to my grandparents or my older siblings. Every time I visited that serious, suffocating house, all I wanted was to escape.然而，命运却给了他更多挑战。他的第一任妻子病逝，留下两个孩子。他悲痛又无力，只能把孩子交给爷爷奶奶照顾。因与爷爷关系恶劣，他最终选择不再回家，也造成了我们这一代的疏离。我出生后与爷爷奶奶、哥哥姐姐都不亲，每次回到那个严肃压抑的家中，我都只想逃离。A Childhood of Adventure — Constant Moving & Early IndependenceIf childhood is a journey, my parents definitely arranged an adventurous one for me.When I was little, I spent most of my time with my mother. She dressed me up, took me to Wendy’s, and while she enjoyed the salad bar, I loved the baked potatoes. I would spend entire afternoons playing in the ball pit.In contrast, my father was fiery, often out drinking for work. My parents’ relationship was unstable — sometimes tense, sometimes peaceful.童年的冒险——变动中的家与独立的开始如果童年是一场旅程，我的父母确实替我安排了一段充满冒险的旅程。幼年时，我和妈妈相处较多。她细心帮我打扮、带我去温蒂汉堡，她吃沙拉吧，而我最爱烤马铃薯。我常在球池玩一整个下午。相较之下，爸爸的个性火爆，常在外应酬，爸妈之间的气氛时而紧张、时而轻松。After entering elementary school, my parents became even busier.I began walking to and from school alone — an early taste of freedom, but also a doorway to danger. I encountered bad people and frightening situations more than once. Still, my parents believed it was “training,” a way to learn independence.Those experiences sharpened my instincts. Although I was scared at the time, I now feel grateful — they taught me how to protect myself.上小学后，父母更忙了。我开始自己上下学──那既是自由，也是危险的大门。我在路上遇过坏人和变态，吓得魂不附体。但爸妈认为这是一种“训练”，让我更独立。这些经验让我更快成长。虽然当时害怕，如今回想，我反而感谢这些磨练。Life wasn’t smooth. One night changed everything.Once, my mom accidentally spent the money reserved for rent. At the same time, my father’s company went bankrupt. That very night, we had to move out immediately.Just like that, we began living in other people’s homes.I changed schools five times. Every time I finally made friends, it was time to leave again.It was painful then — but those constant changes taught me to adapt, to enjoy every new beginning.生活并不一帆风顺。有一晚改变了一切。有一次妈妈不小心花掉预缴房租的钱，刚好爸爸公司又倒闭，我们当晚被迫连夜搬家。从那天开始，我们寄人篱下地生活。我小学转了五次学。每次好不容易熟悉的新环境，下学期又要告别。虽然辛苦，却也让我习惯了变动，甚至开始享受新的开始。

在这一集里，我想带你回到我生命的起点——那个充满变动、不安定、却也充满奇迹与韧性的童年。搬家、破产、转学、家庭紧张……听起来像是混乱的成长环境，但回望这一切，我才明白：那些经历正在悄悄塑造我、训练我、准备我。没有一段经历是白费的。我今天能背着背包走向世界、能在未知中感到自在、能追逐我想要的人生——其实都从童年开始。正如 Oprah 说的：“The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.” — Oprah Winfrey“你能踏上的最大冒险，就是活出你梦想中的人生。”—— 欧普拉愿这一集，陪你重新理解自己的起点，也让你看见：你的故事，永远值得被珍惜。如果你正在寻找一个全新的开始——一种能边旅行、边成长、边打造自由事业的生活方式——那你一定不能错过我 1 月 18 日开启的 Mini-Retirement Retreat 迷你退休营。这一次，我们将线上与线下结合，你可以选择和我一起在泰国旅行，体验真正的生活方式设计、深度心灵觉醒，以及那个你一直渴望、却还没允许自己活出的冒险精神。现在，你可以到� flywithlily.com/20预约 20 分钟免费谘询，让我陪你一起设计下一个人生篇章。Are you ready to fly?