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📞 Book your free 30-minute strategy call: turnitup.coach or by by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call📘 Get a free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up — How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75📩For my free Couples Communication Guide go to https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideIf you're struggling to forgive your spouse, or you keep a running list of their mistakes, this marriage advice is for you. I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I'll show you how to forgive your spouse, give grace and a second chance, and why forgiveness in marriage is mandatory but reconciliation is optional.------------------------------------------------In this video you will learn:- How to forgive your spouse and stop keeping a record of wrongs, based on 1 Corinthians 13:5- The difference between an error and a foul, why not every mistake deserves a penalty, and what a World Series rookie can teach us about second chances- How God's grace toward us shows us how to give grace in marriage- Four steps to forgive your spouse: call it an error, choose forgiveness, give grace and the second chance out loud, and receive God's grace so you have some to give- Why forgiveness is mandatory but reconciliation is optional, how trust gets rebuilt, and what to do if you feel unsafeIf you've been holding onto something your spouse did, this video will help you let it go without being naive.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: 1 Corinthians 13:5, Colossians 2:14, Psalm 103:10, Psalm 103:12, Colossians 3:13, Ephesians 4:32, Ephesians 2:8, Romans 5:8, Lamentations 3:22-23, Matthew 18, John 21, Proverbs 19:11, Proverbs 17:9, Matthew 6:14-15, Proverbs 22:3Watch my video, How to Cultivate a Grace-Filled Marriage: ------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both Biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife Carrie for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#howtoforgive #forgiveyourspouse #forgivenessinmarriage #secondchance

If you want to know how to save your marriage from divorce when you feel ready to give up, this recording is for you. I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and I'll give you two questions to ask yourself before you walk away and five Biblical steps to take instead.------------------------------------------------In this recording you will learn:- Two questions to ask yourself before you walk away from your marriage- Why feeling like giving up usually means you're exhausted and hurting, not that your marriage is over- Five Biblical steps to save your marriage and prevent divorce: get help, change yourself, learn the skills, accept what you can't change, and act like you love your spouse- How faith and patience (Hebrews 6:12) keep you going when marriage help takes longer than you hoped- How to love your spouse even when the feelings are gone, and what to do if you feel unsafeIf you've lain awake at night running the same thoughts, or typed the word divorce into your computer and quietly erased it, this video is for you. And if you sense your spouse is close to walking out, stay with me.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Matthew 19:6, Matthew 19:26, Hebrews 6:12, Proverbs 15:22, Matthew 7:5, Psalm 139:23, Proverbs 18:15, Romans 12:18, 1 John 3:18------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch my video on why you get defensive when your wife points something out: https://youtu.be/c0-iWIG9-IQ------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife Carrie for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#howtosaveyourmarriage #saveyourmarriagefromdivorce #preventdivorce #dontgiveuponyourmarriage

Why you avoid your spouse often comes down to fight or flight. If you find reasons to be anywhere but home alone with them, your nervous system may be running your marriage. I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I'll show you why you avoid your spouse, what is happening in your body, and five steps to be present again.------------------------------------------------In this video you will learn:- Five signs you might be avoiding your spouse, even when you're in the same house- What the fight or flight response is, and why a traumatized nervous system can start treating the person you love like a threat- The pull-away cycle that keeps one spouse hiding and the other feeling lonely, and how to break it- Five steps to be present again: slow the alarm, face your fear with faith, take small steps, show up and serve, and own your mistakes without feeling like a failure- How to help your spouse feel safe if you're the one left waiting, and how to improve communication in marriage when emotions run highIf you've ever sat in the car a few extra minutes before walking in the door, this video is for you.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 5:33, 2 Timothy 1:7, Luke 9:23, Galatians 5:13, Proverbs 24:16, James 1:19, Proverbs 15:1------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch my video on why you avoid conflict in your marriage: https://youtu.be/gkDqkpPAioQ------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife Carrie for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#fightorflight #avoidingyourspouse #emotionallydistant #christianmarriageadvice

Conflict avoidance in marriage quietly does more damage than an honest argument ever would. I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I'll show you why you avoid hard conversations (and sometimes even avoid your spouse), where that habit came from, and five Biblical steps to finally break it.------------------------------------------------In this recording you will learn:- What conflict avoidance looks like in a marriage, and why it feels like peace when it's really building distance- Why your spouse hears "you're not worth it" when you go silent, even when what you feel is fear- Why avoidance is often a survival skill you learned as a child, and how to stop letting it run your marriage today- Five steps to better communication in marriage: face your fear with faith, ask God for courage, script what you want to say, get support from a friend, and know when to get professional help- The difference between a healthy time-out and avoidance, and how to help a spouse who keeps slipping awayIf you've ever felt your stomach tighten at the thought of a hard conversation and put it off one more day, this video is for you.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Genesis 3:9, 2 Timothy 1:7, 1 John 4:18, Joshua 1:9, James 1:5, Ephesians 4:15, Proverbs 15:22, Galatians 6:2, Proverbs 11:14, Proverbs 15:1------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch my video on why you get defensive when your wife points something out: https://youtu.be/c0-iWIG9-IQ------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife Carrie for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#conflictavoidance #conflictresolutioninmarriage #communicationinmarriage #christianmarriageadvice

Little lies are one of the fastest ways to create broken trust in marriage, and most couples don't even realize they're doing it. In this video, Christian marriage coach and police chaplain Kelly DuPee breaks down why white lies do so much damage to your marriage, and gives you five practical steps to finally stop telling them.------------------------------------------------In this video you will learn:- Why "harmless" white lies actually create broken trust in marriage over time- The real fear underneath most lying (hint: it's not what you think)- Five practical steps to stop lying to your spouse for good- How to confess a mistake before you're caught, and why it matters- How to respond when your spouse tells you the truth, so they keep telling you the truthIf honesty has become a struggle in your marriage, this marriage advice will give you a practical, Biblical path back to trust.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Ephesians 4:25, Proverbs 12:22, Proverbs 28:13, John 8:32, Ephesians 4:15, James 5:16, Proverbs 15:1, Ephesians 4:26------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call. Visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch my video on building an honest marriage, How to Create an Atmosphere of Honesty in Your Marriage: https://youtu.be/5K4Lg_COrpo------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both Biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife for 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#brokentrust #honesty #lyingtoyourspouse #trustinmarriage

Trying to control your anger before it damages your marriage? I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I break down Ephesians 4:26-27 and give you ten practical, Biblical ways to overcome an anger problem before it hurts the people you love most.------------------------------------------------In this video you will learn:- What Ephesians 4:26-27 actually means by "be angry and do not sin," and why anger itself isn't the problem- Why unresolved anger gives the enemy a foothold in your marriage, and why the timing matters- How to notice the early warning signs of anger in your own body before you're already out of control- Ten Biblical, practical steps to control your anger, from surrendering it to Jesus to calmly confronting the real issue with an "I" statement- How to tell the difference between reacting out of anger and responding with self-controlIf you've ever said something in anger you wish you could take back, or you're tired of anger quietly wearing down your marriage, this video will show you a better way forward.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Ephesians 4:26-27, John 10:10, Luke 9:23, Proverbs 29:11------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch my video, How to Respond to an Angry Person, for the bucket of gasoline vs. bucket of water idea mentioned in this video: https://youtu.be/REJ3kJ_Tk9A------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both Biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#angermanagement #howtocontrolanger #ephesians4 #controlyouranger

Are you struggling with stonewalling in your marriage because your husband goes silent and won't respond, even when you ask him directly? I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I'll show you what's really behind his silence and the five-step tool that finally gets him to respond.------------------------------------------------In this video you will learn:- The four patterns that leave a wife feeling unheard: getting flooded, shutting down to avoid failing, hijacking the conversation, and going completely silent- Why silence and stonewalling in marriage can look like peace and still be avoidance- How to identify what's actually driving your silence, whether it's fear of rejection, verbal abuse, or shame- A five-step tool for finally responding instead of going silent, starting with a simple prayer for boldness- The five R's of a real apology: repeat, take responsibility, express remorse, repent, and request forgivenessIf your husband takes notes and says "no, I'm good" instead of responding, this video will show you both what's underneath that and how to change it.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Ecclesiastes 3:7, James 1:19, Proverbs 15:23, 2 Timothy 1:7------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch the other videos in this series on why wives don't feel heard and husbands shut down: He Shuts Down, She Gives Up - how to break this cycle: https://youtu.be/qIzXtakEKfgWhy Your Husband Shuts Down When He Can't Fix It: https://youtu.be/P8-G0whTlwwHow to Stop your Husband from Hijacking the conversation: https://youtu.be/JIchEvZOXZA------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#stonewalling #silenttreatment #christianmarriageadvice #howtoapologize

Struggling with communication in marriage because your husband turns every hard conversation into one about him? I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I'll show you why he does it and the simple tool that stops it.------------------------------------------------In this video you will learn:- The three patterns that shut down real communication in marriage: getting defensive, going silent, and taking over the conversation- Why your husband hijacks the moment you pause to take a breath, and what's actually driving it- Why listening isn't something you do while waiting for your turn, it's how your spouse actually feels understood- The talking stick: a simple, practical tool for finally being heard without interrupting each other- Four steps to use the talking stick the next time you feel the pull to take over- The three types of listeners (empathetic, problem-solving, and hijacker) and how to ask your spouse for what you needIf you've ever felt like you can't finish a sentence before it becomes about him, this video will change how you talk to each other.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Proverbs 18:13, Philippians 2:3-4, James 1:19, Proverbs 20:5, Matthew 7:12------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch the other videos in this series on why wives don't feel heard and husbands shut down: He Shuts Down, She Gives Up - how to break this cycle: https://youtu.be/qIzXtakEKfgWhy Your Husband Shuts Down When He Can't Fix It: https://youtu.be/P8-G0whTlww------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#communicationinmarriage #activelistening #christianmarriageadvice #howtolisten

This is Christian marriage advice for the moment your husband goes silent because he can't fix what's hurting you. I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I'll show you why so many husbands shut down when they can't fix your problem, and what they can do instead.In this video you will learn:The two things every one of us reaches for when someone we love is hurting: a wrench or a blanket.Why husbands understand wrenches but were never taught what a blanket is for.Why listening isn't something you do while you wait to actually help her. Listening is helping.The "Ministry of Presence" I learned as a police chaplain, and how it applies to your marriage.Five practical steps for the next time your spouse brings you something you can't fixIf you've ever gone quiet because you didn't know what to say, this video will change how you show up for your spouse.Scriptures referenced: Proverbs 29:20, Romans 12:15, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, James 1:19, Proverbs 20:5, Galatians 6:2, Matthew 5:4For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call Get your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75 Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide Watch my video on how to improve your listening: https://youtu.be/6j_LXfKKLCU

He goes quiet. You push him to keep talking, and somehow that turns into a fight. You finally give up, exhausted, still never having said what was really on your heart. Sound familiar? In this video, Christian marriage coach Kelly DuPée breaks down why husbands emotionally shut down during hard conversations, why trying to push through it only escalates things, and gives you a practical, biblically grounded tool to break the cycle, the "pause and return."This isn't about excusing shutdown or silent treatment in marriage. It's about understanding what's happening underneath it (emotional flooding, not indifference) and giving both spouses a way to stay engaged, him without disappearing, her without losing her voice.If you're dealing with stonewalling in your relationship, a husband who won't open up, or you feel like every hard conversation turns into a fight you can't win, this video is for you.In this video you'll learn: ✅ Why husbands flood and shut down during emotional conversations, and why pushing back turns it into a fight ✅ The exact script to call a healthy pause without it becoming avoidance ✅ How to set a return time that actually rebuilds trust ✅ Why you should both be praying during the pause, not just calming down ✅ Why internal processors (who need quiet to think) and external processors (who talk to think) clash during hard conversations — and how to work with it instead of against it ✅ How to lead with one clear thing instead of a flood of words, so your husband can actually hear you ✅ A simple challenge to practice this tool in your marriage this week.📞 Book your free 30-minute strategy call: turnitup.coach or by by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call📘 Get a free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up — How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75📩 Type GUIDE in the comments for my free Couples Communication Guide or go to https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide🎥 Related video — Fight or Flight? Here's a Better Way: https://youtu.be/tjUE0sOHhbU📖 Scriptures referenced in this video (NIV, unless noted): Proverbs 18:13, James 1:19, 2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV), Proverbs 20:3, Ecclesiastes 5:5, Matthew 5:37, Psalm 46:1, Proverbs 31:26, Ecclesiastes 5:2, 1 Peter 3:7I'm Kelly DuPée — ordained pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach with a Master's in Theology and a Bachelor's in Psychology. After 35 years as an associate pastor, I now coach couples across the U.S. and internationally, helping them avoid the pain of divorce and build the marriage God wants them to have. I'm the author of Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want, and I've been married to my wife Carrie for almost 39 years.🔔 Subscribe for weekly marriage tips and tools like this one.#ChristianMarriage #MarriageAdvice #StonewallingInRelationships #EmotionalFlooding #MarriageCoach #ChristianCouples #RelationshipAdvice #marriagecommunication