Why you avoid your spouse often comes down to fight or flight. If you find reasons to be anywhere but home alone with them, your nervous system may be running your marriage. I'm Kelly DuPee, a Christian marriage coach and police chaplain, and in this video I'll show you why you avoid your spouse, what is happening in your body, and five steps to be present again.------------------------------------------------In this video you will learn:- Five signs you might be avoiding your spouse, even when you're in the same house- What the fight or flight response is, and why a traumatized nervous system can start treating the person you love like a threat- The pull-away cycle that keeps one spouse hiding and the other feeling lonely, and how to break it- Five steps to be present again: slow the alarm, face your fear with faith, take small steps, show up and serve, and own your mistakes without feeling like a failure- How to help your spouse feel safe if you're the one left waiting, and how to improve communication in marriage when emotions run highIf you've ever sat in the car a few extra minutes before walking in the door, this video is for you.------------------------------------------------Scriptures referenced: Ephesians 5:25, Ephesians 5:33, 2 Timothy 1:7, Luke 9:23, Galatians 5:13, Proverbs 24:16, James 1:19, Proverbs 15:1------------------------------------------------For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call, visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callGet your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up, How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWatch my video on why you avoid conflict in your marriage: https://youtu.be/gkDqkpPAioQ------------------------------------------------ABOUT KELLYKelly DuPee is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so that they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology, a combination that allows him to offer both biblically grounded and research-based solutions to marriage challenges. After 35 years serving as an associate pastor at a megachurch, Kelly stepped into full-time Christian marriage coaching while continuing his ministry as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain serving his local department and community. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples and individuals process traumatic experiences, de-escalate conflict, communicate more effectively, and grieve loss. Married to his wife Carrie for almost 39 years, Kelly has coached hundreds of couples from across the United States and internationally. His approach is practical, faith-based, and built on nearly four decades of walking with real people through real marriage struggles.------------------------------------------------#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #marriagehelp #marriagecommunication #biblicalmarriage #christiancouple #relationshipadvice #marriagetips #christianliving#fightorflight #avoidingyourspouse #emotionallydistant #christianmarriageadvice
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