Capacity, self-kindness and finding what works for you
What if looking after ourselves isn't always about finding more time, motivation or discipline, but recognising what we actually have the capacity for?
In this episode of The Kindness We Forget, Kim is joined by Dr Chloe Bedford, counselling psychologist and the voice behind The Running Psychologist, for an honest, relatable conversation about the gap between what we knowsupports our wellbeing and what actually feels possible in everyday life.
Drawing on her professional experience and her own journey navigating motherhood, work and running, Chloe shares how her relationship with wellbeing has evolved and why pushing harder isn't always the answer.
Together, they explore:
· Why a lack of capacity can easily be mistaken for a lack of discipline.
· How motherhood and changing circumstances can shift our priorities, energy and expectations.
· The influence of social media and the comparisons we make without seeing the full picture.
· How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help us navigate difficult thoughts and feelings.
· Why compassionate self-talk can help us keep going when things get tough.
· How finding what works for you, rather than what you think you should be doing, can make wellbeing more sustainable.
· What Chloe discovered about her own relationship with self-kindness through the Self-Kindness Matrix™.
From marathon training to kitchen discos, this conversation is full of honesty, humour and practical insights that go far beyond running.
Because self-kindness isn't about giving up on what matters. Sometimes it's about finding a different way forward.
Connect with Dr Chloe Bedford
- Instagram: @the.running.psychologist
- Website: www.marathonpsychology.com
Connect with Kindness For Success
- website: www.kindnessforsuccess.co.uk
- Linked In: Kim Stokes and Lucy Hughes
About The Kindness We Forget and #24forKindness
Conversations about sustainable self-kindness, because akinder future starts with you.
The Kindness We Forget grew from #24forKindness, a 24-hour fundraising challenge in support of Mind during Mental Health Awareness Week in May 2026. Season One revisits conversations from that event, exploring the role of sustainable self-kindness in how we live, work, lead and care for ourselves and others.
You will hear references to watching live or donating duringthis conversation. These relate to the original event and are not part of a current fundraising campaign.
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To learn more about Mind and the support they provide, visithttps://www.mind.org.uk.
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