The Kindness We Forget

Motherhood guilt, worthiness & the pressure to put everyone elsefirst.In this episode of The Kindness We Forget, Kim is joined by Zoe Blaskey, Founder & Host of Motherkind and Sunday Times Bestselling Author.Together, they explore why modern motherhood can feel so overwhelming, how unrealistic expectations and guilt can leave women questioning themselves, and why lookingafter our own needs isn't something we should have to justify.Zoe shares her thoughts on the pressures facing mothers today, from the loss of community support and endless parenting advice to social comparison and working practicesthat haven't kept pace with modern family life.They also explore matrescence; the profound transition into motherhood and why understanding it can help women make sense of changes to their identity, priorities andrelationships.And, importantly, Zoe offers some wonderfully practical ways to bring more self-kindness into everyday life.In this conversation, you'll hear about:Why asking "If I believed I was worthy, what would I do?" can change the actions we take.Why motherhood can feel harder than ever, and why that doesn't mean we're doing something wrong.How the expectation that good mothers should sacrifice themselves affects women and the example we set for our children.Zoe's simple "one for me, one for you" approach to including ourselves in the care we give others.What matrescence means and why becoming a mother is a transition, not an overnight transformation.How asking "What would I say to a friend in this situation?" can help us respond to ourselves with greater compassion.This conversation is a reminder that our needs and dreams matter too. Self-kindness isn't about caring less for others. It's about remembering to include ourselves.Connect with ZoeExplore Zoe's work through Motherkind, including her podcast, book and Instagram community.LISTEN! To Motherkind on:Motherkind - Podcast - Apple Podcastshttps://open.spotify.com/show/38SHvE9JBV9mfCRKzSjYENhttps://www.youtube.com/@Zoe-Blaskey Follow Zoe on:·      Linked In: Zoe Blaskey·      Instagram: Zoe BlaskeyConnect with Kindness For SuccessWebsite: ⁠https://www.kindnessforsuccess.co.uk⁠Instagram: ⁠kindness.for.success⁠LinkedIn: ⁠Kim Stokes⁠ and ⁠Lucy Hughes⁠About The Kindness We Forget and #24forKindnessConversations about sustainable self-kindness, because akinder future starts with you.The Kindness We Forget grew from #24forKindness, a 24-hour fundraising challenge in support of Mind during Mental Health Awareness Week in May 2026. Season One revisits conversations from that event, exploring the role of sustainable self-kindness in how we live, work, lead and care for ourselves and others.You will hear references to watching live or donating duringthis conversation. These relate to the original event and are not part of a current fundraising campaign.Collectively, #24forKindness raised enough to enable Mind toprovide 182 people with a 1:1 call at a time of need; support that otherwise wouldn’t have been funded.If you enjoyed this episode, we'd love you to follow thepodcast and share it with someone who might enjoy the conversation too.To learn more about Mind and the support they provide, visit⁠https://www.mind.org.uk⁠.

Capacity, self-kindness and finding what works for youWhat if looking after ourselves isn't always about finding more time, motivation or discipline, but recognising what we actually have the capacity for?In this episode of The Kindness We Forget, Kim is joined by Dr Chloe Bedford, counselling psychologist and the voice behind The Running Psychologist, for an honest, relatable conversation about the gap between what we knowsupports our wellbeing and what actually feels possible in everyday life.Drawing on her professional experience and her own journey navigating motherhood, work and running, Chloe shares how her relationship with wellbeing has evolved and why pushing harder isn't always the answer.Together, they explore:·      Why a lack of capacity can easily be mistaken for a lack of discipline.·      How motherhood and changing circumstances can shift our priorities, energy and expectations.·      The influence of social media and the comparisons we make without seeing the full picture.·      How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help us navigate difficult thoughts and feelings.·      Why compassionate self-talk can help us keep going when things get tough.·      How finding what works for you, rather than what you think you should be doing, can make wellbeing more sustainable.·     What Chloe discovered about her own relationship with self-kindness through the Self-Kindness Matrix™.From marathon training to kitchen discos, this conversation is full of honesty, humour and practical insights that go far beyond running.Because self-kindness isn't about giving up on what matters. Sometimes it's about finding a different way forward.Connect with Dr Chloe BedfordInstagram: @the.running.psychologistWebsite: www.marathonpsychology.comConnect with Kindness For Success website: www.kindnessforsuccess.co.ukinstagram: Kim | SELF-Kindness Coach | Support you live YOUR all (@kindness.for.success) • Instagram photos and videosLinked In: Kim Stokes and Lucy Hughes About The Kindness We Forget and #24forKindnessConversations about sustainable self-kindness, because akinder future starts with you.The Kindness We Forget grew from #24forKindness, a 24-hour fundraising challenge in support of Mind during Mental Health Awareness Week in May 2026. Season One revisits conversations from that event, exploring the role of sustainable self-kindness in how we live, work, lead and care for ourselves and others.You will hear references to watching live or donating duringthis conversation. These relate to the original event and are not part of a current fundraising campaign.If you enjoyed this episode, we'd love you to follow thepodcast and share it with someone who might enjoy the conversation too.To learn more about Mind and the support they provide, visit⁠https://www.mind.org.uk⁠. 

Can you be ambitious without abandoning yourself? Confidence, conditioning and rewriting the rules of success.What if the pressure to be more confident, more visible and more successful isn't actually helping women thrive, but making them feel they have even more to prove?In this episode of The Kindness We Forget, Kim Stokes is joined by Nicky Denson-Elliott, professional feminist, founder of The Wilder Collective and host of the Women's Business podcast, for a thought-provoking conversation about ambition, confidence and the expectations women have been conditioned to live up to.Together, they explore why visibility can feel genuinely risky for women, how societal expectations shape our confidence and why success shouldn't have to come at the expense of our wellbeing.Nicky also shares her own experience of redefining success, challenging the language and systems that hold women back, and learning to build a life and business that work for her, rather than the other way around.In this conversation, we explore:Why confidence isn't a fixed personality trait  and why understanding our conditioning matters.The hidden pressures behind being visible, speaking up and putting ourselves out there.Why Nicky challenges the idea that women need to be 'empowered'.How our definitions of ambition and success can change throughout our lives.The importance of recognising systemic barriers rather than treating every challenge as an individual failing.Why modelling self-kindness, rest and boundaries matters for the next generation.At its heart, this conversation is a reminder that we don't have to choose between being ambitious and being kind to ourselves. Perhaps it's time to question whose rules we've been following and start defining success on our own terms.Why not begin by taking a listen and then taking our Self-Kindness Profile?Connect with Nick Denson-Elliott:Website:The Wilder CollectiveInstagram: ⁠Instagram⁠ Linked in: ⁠Nicky Denson-Elliott | LinkedIn⁠Connect with Kindness For SuccessWebsite: ⁠https://www.kindnessforsuccess.co.uk⁠Curious about your own relationship with Self-Kindness? Take The Self-Kindness Profile Instagram: ⁠kindness.for.success⁠LinkedIn: ⁠Kim Stokes⁠ and ⁠Lucy Hughes⁠About The Kindness We Forget and #24forKindnessConversations about sustainable self-kindness, because a kinder future starts with you.The Kindness We Forget grew from #24forKindness, a 24-hour fundraising challenge in support of Mind during Mental Health Awareness Week in May 2026. Season One revisits conversations from that event, exploring the role of sustainable self-kindness in how we live, work, lead and care for ourselves and others.You will hear references to watching live or donating during this conversation. These relate to the original event and are not part of a current fundraising campaign.Collectively, #24forKindness raised enough to enable Mind to provide 182 people with a 1:1 call at a time of need; support that otherwise wouldn’t have been funded.If you enjoyed this episode, we'd love you to follow the podcast and share it with someone who might enjoy the conversation too.To learn more about Mind and the support they provide, visit ⁠https://www.mind.org.uk⁠.

Why do we so often wait until we're running on empty beforegiving ourselves the kindness we readily offer others?In this episode of The Kindness We Forget, I'm joinedby Rosie Nixon, bestselling author, former Editor-in-Chief of HELLO! magazine, coach and founder of Rosie's Reinvention Retreats.Despite having written a book about kindness, Rosie shareshow she found herself approaching burnout and needing to rethink what success, fulfilment and self-kindness really meant to her.We explore what it takes to move from knowing self-kindnessmatters to actually practising it, not just when life becomes overwhelming, but on an ordinary Tuesday.From morning rituals and scheduling Thrive Time toreconnecting with our values and recognising when it's time for change, Rosie shares practical ways to build self-kindness into everyday life.We also explore why reinvention doesn't mean starting again,how our definition of success evolves, and why being busy isn't necessarily the same as being stressed.In this conversation, we explore:Why knowing about self-kindness doesn't always mean we're practising it.What sustainable self-kindness looks like on an ordinary Tuesday.Rosie's personal rituals, non-negotiables and the importance of Thrive Time.How reconnecting with our values can help us make kinder decisions.Why reinvention can be an act of self-kindness, rather than a crisis.Rosie's practical PRO approach: Pause, Reflect, Organise.Why self-kindness is something we're all continually learning to practise.Connect with Rosie Nixon:Website: https://www.rosienixon.co.ukInstagram: Instagram rosiejnixonLinked in: Rosie Nixon | LinkedIn💝 Discover Rosie's books, coaching and Reinvention Retreatsthrough her website. Rosie’s book PRO that she talks about within this session is a fabulous read and out there to buy now HERE and across other book shops and on-line outlets.Connect with Kindness For SuccessWebsite: https://www.kindnessforsuccess.co.ukInstagram: kindness.for.successLinkedIn: Kim Stokes and Lucy HughesAbout The Kindness We Forget and #24forKindnessConversations about sustainable self-kindness, because a kinder future starts with you.The Kindness We Forget grew from #24forKindness, a 24-hour fundraising challenge in support of Mind during Mental Health Awareness Week in May 2026. Season One revisits conversations from that event, exploring the role of sustainable self-kindness in how we live, work, lead and care for ourselves and others.You will hear references to watching live or donating during this conversation. These relate to the original event and are not part of a current fundraising campaign.Collectively, #24forKindness raised enough to enable Mind to provide 182 people with a 1:1 call at a time of need; support that otherwise wouldn’t have been funded.If you enjoyed this episode, we'd love you to follow the podcast and share it with someone who might enjoy the conversation too.To learn more about Mind and the support they provide, visit https://www.mind.org.uk.

What happens when we keep pushing through the signs that something isn’t quite right? In this episode, I’m joined by Nicky Lowe, Founder of Wisdom For Working Mums, award-winning master-level Executive Coach and Leadership Consultant, and host of the Wisdom For Working Mums podcast. After experiencing burnout following the birth of her first child, Nicky reimagined her own approach to work and motherhood. Today, she supports career-driven women to combine work and family life more successfully and sustainably, without sacrificing their sanity or wellbeing. Together, we explore the early signs of burnout we so often miss or dismiss, the patterns that keep us pushing, and what it might look like to respond to ourselves differently before we reach breaking point. We also talk about the role of self-kindness, why psychologically safe workplaces matter, and what can change when we start noticing what we need a little sooner. Because perhaps we don’t need to wait until we break to give ourselves permission to stop. Find out more about Nicky Lowe Website: Luminate Group | Leadership and Executive Coach | Nicky Lowe  Podcast:Wisdom For Working Mums - The Podcasts - luminate-group.co.uk  LinkedIn: Nicky Lowe | LinkedIn Instagram: nickyloweleadership Connect with Kindness For Success Website: https://www.kindnessforsuccess.co.uk Instagram: kindness.for.success LinkedIn: Kim Stokes  and Lucy HughesAbout The Kindness We Forget and #24forKindness Conversations about sustainable self-kindness, because a kinder future starts with you. The Kindness We Forget grew from #24forKindness, a 24-hour fundraising challenge in support of Mind during Mental Health Awareness Week in May 2026. Season One revisits conversations from that event, exploring the role of sustainable self-kindness in how we live, work, lead and care for ourselves and others. You will hear references to watching live or donating during this conversation. These relate to the original event and are not part of a current fundraising campaign. Collectively, #24forKindness raised enough to enable Mind to provide 182 people with a 1:1 call at a time of need;  support that otherwise wouldn’t have been funded. If you enjoyed this episode, we'd love you to follow the podcast and share it with someone who might enjoy the conversation too. To learn more about Mind and the support they provide, visit https://www.mind.org.uk.

The Kindness We Forget is a podcast exploring sustainable self-kindness and the ways it shapes how we live, work and lead. Born from #24forKindness, a 24-hour live fundraising event in support of Mind, Season One brings together conversations with experts in wellbeing, leadership, parenting and mental health. Together, we explore burnout, ambition, motherhood, mental load, capacity, pressure, leadership and what sustainable self-kindness actually looks like in real life.  This trailer features short excerpts from conversations with Lynn Blades and Zoe Blaskey. Launching on World Mental Health Day, 10 October 2026, our first episode features Nicky Lowe in a powerful conversation about burnout, recognising the warning signs and why we don't need to wait until breaking point to show ourselves kindness.The Kindness We Forget. Conversations about sustainable self-kindness, because a kinder future starts with you. Created by Kindness For SuccessWebsite: https://www.kindnessforsuccess.co.ukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kindness.for.success/