Tinsel Not Tears

Christmas isn't here yet, but are you already thinking about who might fall out? We do the same thing every year at Christmas, and we tend to get the same results.In this pod shot I'm talking about Tinsel Not Tears. You may be really confident at work, you've got work off pat, but when it comes to home, and especially Christmas, you may not be quite on top of it, shall we say. I know it can be a very fraught time of year, and I know that sometimes, just sometimes, we would like it to be different.I share the one thing I'd like you to do now, while there's still time to change this Christmas, and the question I'd like you to ask yourself before you make any plan at all.Tinsel Not Tears is on Monday 30th November @7pm (not 7:30pm)Free Advent Calendar available. All socials Liz Oakley or Elizabeth OakleyPress play, grab your notebook, and come and find me:https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationshipshttps://lizo173.substack.com/

Has something really, really important ever been postponed on you, right when you'd been waiting for it? That's today's pod shot: Mercury retrograde, Friday the 13th and a call I personally wasn't ready for.In this episode I tell you about a call I really needed, the form that came up blank an hour before, the website that locked me out for thirty minutes, and the reset code I asked for three times that never came. Then the phone rang at quarter past nine, and it wasn't who I was expecting.I share what the gentleman on the other end told me, what was going on in the world that day, and why I'm taking the whole thing as a win. Then there's a little task for you, if you choose to accept it.Press play and have a listen. Then come and find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships, or on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

Why do I pause on Remembrance Day? Because I joined the Army at seventeen, so yes, I'm a veteran, and the people I met back then are still family to me.This is a short pod shot for the eleventh of November, from somebody who was serving while Northern Ireland and the Falklands were going on. It's me, at eleven o'clock, stopping for the people who went and didn't return, and for the loved ones waiting today to hear if theirs will come home.In this episode I share what I take from my time in the Army, what I'm thinking about when I stop at eleven, and one small thing I'm asking you to do today, whether you have a personal connection or not.Press play, and take a moment with me.Find me at https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or https://lizo173.substack.com/

Do you think, surely, they must see that I need help? But they don't seem to notice. If you're doing so much at home or at work, and hoping against hope that somebody will spot you're struggling, this pod shot is for you.In this episode I look at what happens when we wait for somebody to notice, and why it's actually leaving both of you guessing. I'm a Transformation Mentor for women over 40, and this is the silent situation I see over and over, women choosing others over themselves without realising it.I'll share the two very different things people see when they look at you, and the one change that takes the guessing out of it. There's a question for you at the end too.Under five minutes. Press play, and then come and find me in the Facebook group.Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationshipsSubstack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

Fireworks season means some of us stay in. We don't go out in the evening at this time of year unless we can take Buster with us, and I know thousands of people make the same choice for their animals and for the people they love.In this episode I carry on Wednesday's conversation about Bonfire Night and how it affects people, and I talk about what we actually do with those evenings, instead of sitting there hating the noise.I share how we plan for it every year, what we tell our visitors, what's on our TV this weekend, and the one question I'd like you to ask yourself before the displays start tonight.Have a listen, and if you are going to a display, please enjoy it.Find me at https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or https://lizo173.substack.com/

Bonfire Night isn't just one night any more, is it? Round here the fireworks started a week last Monday, the night after the clocks went back, and they're far louder than they ever were when I was young.In this episode I tell you why I have a foot in both camps. I love a good celebration myself, and I'll happily stand and watch a display. But I've lived with the other side of it too, and I share some personal reasons, to do with a dog and my sister's birthday, that explain why I can't come down on one side.I finish with a small ask of anybody letting fireworks off this week, and a few things you can put in place for yourself if you dread them.Press play, and have a safe few days.Find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready To Rise In Life And Relationships, https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack at https://lizo173.substack.com/

Who decided that was your job? The job of remembering, arranging and sorting everything out for everybody, at home and at work. And when was that decided? Was it ever actually decided at all?In this episode I look at the jobs that have become ours through habit. You stepped in once, you kept on doing it, and now everybody expects you to carry on. Nobody stops to ask whether the arrangement still works, and most of us don't ask ourselves either.I talk about being honest about what that job takes from you, how to start the conversation about changing it, and I leave you with one question to journal on. It's a simple one, and it's something we don't often sit and think about.Press play, grab a pen, and take it one bite at a time.Come and find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready To Rise In Life And Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

Do you need a reason to enjoy yourself? When did doing something because you enjoy it stop being a good enough reason?In this pod shot I'm talking about the things you love doing just for you, whether that's music, a walk in the countryside, making something or seeing a friend, and why they keep slipping behind the jobs you've got to do and everybody else's plans. I've had to do this one myself, because I'm going to college at the moment to do something I love.I'll ask you to notice what you automatically put first, why a little time still counts, and I'll give you a small task to take into this weekend.Press play, then leave me a comment to tell me what you chose. Follow so you know when episodes drop, every Monday, Wednesday and Friday.Join me in Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or find me on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

When is the right time, to do something you keep putting off? You keep saying you'll do it when the time is right, but what does that actually look like? When do we know? In this pod shot I ask you to name one thing. A conversation, a new hobby, a decision you've been sitting on. Then we look honestly at what you're waiting for, because some of those reasons are very real, and others have become a way of putting things off in our life. I share the small steps I'd take, one bite at a time, the first question to ask yourself, and the one thing I want you to put in your diary so it never gets left hanging. Press play, name your one thing, and take the first bite with me. Find me at https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or https://lizo173.substack.com/

Can you take a compliment? Think about the last time somebody paid you one. Did you say thank you, or did you straight away react? In this pod shot I share a true story from a call on a Thursday morning, when a lovely lady told me I don't look sixty-five. I'll tell you exactly what came out of my mouth, and it wasn't thank you very much. Then we look at why we do that, whether it's about our age, a jumper or something we've done, and what it says about the person who paid the compliment in the first place. There's a feeling that comes up when you're noticed, and it tells you something about the conversation you're having with yourself. I'll leave you with a small task for the next time it happens. It's five minutes. Press play. Come and find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/