Something Needs To Change

Do you think, surely, they must see that I need help? But they don't seem to notice. If you're doing so much at home or at work, and hoping against hope that somebody will spot you're struggling, this pod shot is for you.In this episode I look at what happens when we wait for somebody to notice, and why it's actually leaving both of you guessing. I'm a Transformation Mentor for women over 40, and this is the silent situation I see over and over, women choosing others over themselves without realising it.I'll share the two very different things people see when they look at you, and the one change that takes the guessing out of it. There's a question for you at the end too.Under five minutes. Press play, and then come and find me in the Facebook group.Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationshipsSubstack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

Fireworks season means some of us stay in. We don't go out in the evening at this time of year unless we can take Buster with us, and I know thousands of people make the same choice for their animals and for the people they love.In this episode I carry on Wednesday's conversation about Bonfire Night and how it affects people, and I talk about what we actually do with those evenings, instead of sitting there hating the noise.I share how we plan for it every year, what we tell our visitors, what's on our TV this weekend, and the one question I'd like you to ask yourself before the displays start tonight.Have a listen, and if you are going to a display, please enjoy it.Find me at https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or https://lizo173.substack.com/

Bonfire Night isn't just one night any more, is it? Round here the fireworks started a week last Monday, the night after the clocks went back, and they're far louder than they ever were when I was young.In this episode I tell you why I have a foot in both camps. I love a good celebration myself, and I'll happily stand and watch a display. But I've lived with the other side of it too, and I share some personal reasons, to do with a dog and my sister's birthday, that explain why I can't come down on one side.I finish with a small ask of anybody letting fireworks off this week, and a few things you can put in place for yourself if you dread them.Press play, and have a safe few days.Find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready To Rise In Life And Relationships, https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack at https://lizo173.substack.com/

Who decided that was your job? The job of remembering, arranging and sorting everything out for everybody, at home and at work. And when was that decided? Was it ever actually decided at all?In this episode I look at the jobs that have become ours through habit. You stepped in once, you kept on doing it, and now everybody expects you to carry on. Nobody stops to ask whether the arrangement still works, and most of us don't ask ourselves either.I talk about being honest about what that job takes from you, how to start the conversation about changing it, and I leave you with one question to journal on. It's a simple one, and it's something we don't often sit and think about.Press play, grab a pen, and take it one bite at a time.Come and find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready To Rise In Life And Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

Do you need a reason to enjoy yourself? When did doing something because you enjoy it stop being a good enough reason?In this pod shot I'm talking about the things you love doing just for you, whether that's music, a walk in the countryside, making something or seeing a friend, and why they keep slipping behind the jobs you've got to do and everybody else's plans. I've had to do this one myself, because I'm going to college at the moment to do something I love.I'll ask you to notice what you automatically put first, why a little time still counts, and I'll give you a small task to take into this weekend.Press play, then leave me a comment to tell me what you chose. Follow so you know when episodes drop, every Monday, Wednesday and Friday.Join me in Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or find me on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

When is the right time, to do something you keep putting off? You keep saying you'll do it when the time is right, but what does that actually look like? When do we know? In this pod shot I ask you to name one thing. A conversation, a new hobby, a decision you've been sitting on. Then we look honestly at what you're waiting for, because some of those reasons are very real, and others have become a way of putting things off in our life. I share the small steps I'd take, one bite at a time, the first question to ask yourself, and the one thing I want you to put in your diary so it never gets left hanging. Press play, name your one thing, and take the first bite with me. Find me at https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or https://lizo173.substack.com/

Can you take a compliment? Think about the last time somebody paid you one. Did you say thank you, or did you straight away react? In this pod shot I share a true story from a call on a Thursday morning, when a lovely lady told me I don't look sixty-five. I'll tell you exactly what came out of my mouth, and it wasn't thank you very much. Then we look at why we do that, whether it's about our age, a jumper or something we've done, and what it says about the person who paid the compliment in the first place. There's a feeling that comes up when you're noticed, and it tells you something about the conversation you're having with yourself. I'll leave you with a small task for the next time it happens. It's five minutes. Press play. Come and find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

Did you say yes before you'd even thought about it? We can all do that, and we've all done it. Then you're left wondering why you said yes, when you didn't have the time, or didn't want to do it in the first place.In this episode of Something Needs To Change I share one idea to try before you say yes again, and we go through it one bite at a time. I'm a Transformation Mentor for Women over 40, and this is something I see again and again in the women I work with: a situation that's been going on for a long time, where they've been choosing other people over themselves without noticing.I give you one question to ask yourself in the moment someone asks, a few more to help you see what made you say yes, a simple way to give yourself room to choose, and what you can do if you've already agreed. And I leave you with a small task for the week.Press play, it's only a few minutes, and then have a think about your yeses versus your no’s.Come and join my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships

Hello and welcome to my next episode. And today it's what do you want now? And that now is really important because you can probably tell me what you want less of, but what would you like in its place? Knowing what you'd like less of is a great starting point, but what do you want - now Interesting one. So what would you like less of?, that's easy. It's what most of us can just tell you what you want less of. It's what you want more of or what you want now, which we find harder. What would you like less of? Maybe less running around after everybody, , less arguments about certain things, when you get home and you've got a list of jobs to do instead of resting after a hard day's work , because no one is helping you out around the house. , what is it that you're carrying was it something I just mentioned or do?Always say yes when you actually mean no. What would you like instead? Maybe it's an evening to yourself, a full evening with nobody around, Wouldn't that be bliss with nobody asking you any questions, nobody asking you to do anything for them? Maybe you would actually like to sit down and have that conversation Maybe it's something you've always wanted to try, a new hobby. Maybe that's what you want now. So does the now matter? Well, I think it does, because what usually happens is what I've seen happen is that you have a routine that has been going on a long, long time, maybe for many years. But the thing is that when you started that routine things have changed. For No. 1, you've changed the people around you have changed. The children have grown up. The school run has changed, if there's a school run at all. Maybe the children are old enough to start doing jobs around the house to ease things for you that you're doing automatically and not even thinking about that. So sometimes what we do on a daily basis and we've always done, because we've always done, it needs to have a review.You need to take another look at it. Look honestly at the parts that you're happy with and look at the ones that you would like to change and that you don't want right now in your life. You want something better, maybe some ease in your life and let some others do some jobs for you. As I've already mentioned, you can value your life and still want at least one thing to change and you're entitled to that. Remember, so if someone else is involved in this one thing that you would like now, then you can decide what you're going to say and why you want it and the why is very important, but you can't decide how somebody else is going to respond. So consider what you need to say and ask for what you want now.

Hello and welcome to our next episode of Something Needs to Change. We are actually talking about change today, love it or hate it, change is part of our lives. And in the last podshot we spoke about choices which leads us to the changes. So change can be massive or it can be understated, but it must never be underestimated because change can take us into so many different directions and into so many other situations. But some changes are just small tweaks, so they don't actually change our lives on a bigger level. Changes are made from choices and maybe you're working on something to change because it's not working for you, whatever that is, whether it's changing your role your job, changing the direction of your business, changing the dynamics within the family with you standing up and being counted.Oh, now that is a big one. How would it feel for you to take charge? How would it feel for you to be more consistent and approachable? How would it feel if someone else took the strain, so to speak? And how would it feel if you viewed the changes you want to make differently, and how you could bring them in whilst keeping your family, your role, your job, and your business? Not all change is leaving, it's cutting ties.It's not that sometimes it's staying and changing the narrative and circumstances around that change that you want to make. But most of all, change is stopping. It's stopping something that isn't working for you into something that does. Change can be just a simple of stop reacting and responding. It's very hard to do because we are humans and we react, and before we even know it, that stuff comes flying out of your mouth before you've even processed it. Because somebody's triggered something within you. Now that can bring about a change you weren't even thinking about just in a conversation. But change can be for the better, and the changes that follows turns into something even better.And when I change turns into something even better, the, the new sword, that's wonderful, but sometimes the change that follows isn't exactly what we expected, even when it's something that we may have needed. Sometimes change is a fresh start, [ change is a new perspective, change is a new way of being. So don't underestimate change, whether it's buying that cheaper tin of beans or the more expensive one [...1.0s] is still a change that you've tried thinking about making changes in your direction, in your career, say, through a takeover, that can really bring up some things for us, because we don't even know what's gonna happen. The changes have been taken out of our hands. You don't know until the company taking over actually tells you whether you've got a job, and that can change your thoughts and feelings, and in that short time, you'll be thinking about your choices because they go hand in hand.And even when the company comes through, a lot of the time, you have to re interview for the job that you're doing,] and there's no guarantee you're gonna get it. That's a massive change.So there are fears and uncertainty around change, and that has to be factored in to any choices that you're thinking of making that have a knock on effect, any changes that you want to make, that's worth thinking about before you take any steps. Make sure you've gone through all your choices and gone through each one in turn to what change may or may not happen if you take those choices.So here's a tip for you today. If you choose to accept it, of course, next time you feel you're going to react to what someone is saying, take a pause, then respondand see how much changes the conversation. Also, I'd like you to think about a time when you reacted instead of responding and how that worked out for you or not. So take care. Now think about those changes you want to make carefully, but don't put them off if, you know, in your heart of hearts, they need to be done. Thank you so much for listening, and I'll see you on the next one. Now if you'd like to send me a message via the web, you can actually go to my website which is being repurposed because it's very out of date. But it is w w w dot 4, which is the number four life choices.com. And send me a message through the contact page. Take care now, and have a great day.