Intimacy Avoidance in Men (with Dr. Matt Burton)

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dig into why we react so quickly with anger during conflict. We explore how fear often hides beneath our anger — fear of being seen as weak, invisible, or unworthy. Stephen shares practical tools for building self-awareness, like pausing to ask yourself, "What am I really afraid of?" or explore the reasons that certain emotions arise when particular triggers are present.We also talk about finding peace in God's unconditional love, so we don't need others' approval to feel worthy. This is a truly eye-opening conversation about emotional growth and healthier relationships! To get more thoughts and insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional growth in relationshipsHandling conflict and angerThe role of fear in emotional responsesSelf-awareness and its importance in managing emotionsUnderstanding personal triggers and emotional patternsThe impact of past experiences on current reactionsThe significance of patience and dialogue in emotional transformationThe relationship between anger and care for othersThe value of seeking support from counselors or spiritual guidesEncouragement to explore feelings and foster curiosity about emotional responsesMore Resources: Do You Fight (And Argue)? (blog post from DoctorMarriage.org)Untangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithDealing with Conflict Podcast BundleRelated Podcasts:How to Turn Emotional Triggers Into Opportunities for GrowthThe Harms of Negative TalkingAssumptions vs. Communication: The Battle for Relational Harmony*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I continue our three-part series "A Parent's Response Matters" with Family Care Director Norma, exploring three powerful letters from the RESPOND acronym. We dive into Sincerity over Silence, encouraging parents to stay honest and engaged even without all the answers. Then we explore Patience over Punitive, reminding us that calm correction builds stronger connections. Finally, Opportunity over Obstacle challenges parents to reframe difficult moments as God-given chances to teach and grow. Norma's practical wisdom makes these principles feel totally achievable, and her challenge to try just one shift this week is something every parent can do!*Family Time episodes are short, practical conversations to help parents feel more confident and competent in raising kids according to God’s design, even in a sex-saturated culture.Topics Covered in this Episode: Navigating the sexualized culture from a Christian perspectiveThe acronym RESPOND as a framework for parental engagementSincerity over Silence in communication with childrenThe importance of being honest and open about not having all the answersPatience over Punitive responses when addressing children's mistakesThe role of calmness and empathy in correctionOpportunity over Obstacle for teaching and relationship-buildingThe significance of reframing interruptions as moments for growthPractical tools for parents to engage sincerely and patientlyThe broader application of these principles in all relationships, not just parentingResources for Next Steps: Critical Conversations Online CourseProcessing Exposure with Teens Online CourseJust Between Us Parent-Child Journal*RESPOND VS. REACT REMINDERSR - Respond over ReactE - Engage over EvadeS - Sincerity over SilenceP - Patience over PunitiveO - Opportunity over ObstacleN - Nearness over NeglectD - Divine Perspective over Diluting TruthThis episode (Part 1) covers R-E, Part 2 covers S-P-O, and Part 3 covers N-DDownload a FREE 1-page PDF with the RESPOND infographicFor more parenting podcasts, go to Bebroken.org/tp-pods and scroll to Family Bundles.*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I sit down to have an honest conversation about something we all face: temptation. We tackle the myth that some people are beyond it and share practical, emotional, and spiritual tools to help resist it. From asking sobering reality-check questions to speaking powerful affirmations out loud, we explore how small daily choices shape our lives. We also dive into integrity, discipline, grace, and the pursuit of genuine peace over secret shame — walking alongside our listeners on this ongoing journey toward freedom and wholeness in Christ.To get more daily insights from Stephen Cervantes, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Universal experience of temptation and its impact on individuals.Strategies for resisting temptation, including practical, emotional, and spiritual approaches.Importance of integrity and making choices aligned with personal values and faith.Reflective questions to consider during moments of temptation.Consequences of secret sins on relationships and personal integrity.The fleeting nature of pleasure from temptation versus long-term pain.The role of discipline in achieving freedom and a fulfilling life.The significance of envisioning future impacts of present choices.The concept of grace and ongoing personal growth in the face of temptation.The pursuit of peace, rest, and joy over a life marked by shame and secrecy.More Resources:Everyone Gets Tempted (blog post on DoctorMarriage.org)Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenHow to Resist Temptation: 7 Practical IdeasRelated Podcasts:Dealing with Temptation Podcast BundleBreaking Free with Russell WillinghamPure in Heart - So Much More than Just Saying No----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I have back on the program Melissa Macomber to explore the often-overlooked impact of parental infidelity on adult children. Melissa shares her personal journey of discovering her parents' affair as a teenager and how it shaped her into adulthood. Together, we discuss how secrecy, family roles, and betrayal affect trust, relationships, and self-expression later in life. Melissa also introduces her online program, Authenticity After Family Betrayal, offering hope and community to adult children still carrying this hidden pain. Her message is clear: healing is possible, and you are not alone.To learn more about Melissa and her online program, visit MelissaMacomber.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: The impact of parental infidelity on adult children.Personal experiences of discovering parental infidelity and its long-term effects.The reasons parents may choose to withhold information about infidelity from their children.Emotional and relational challenges faced by adult children of parents who have cheated.The role of secrecy and denial in family dynamics and its effects on trust.Common coping mechanisms and family roles adopted by children in response to infidelity.Differences in sibling reactions to parental infidelity and its impact on their relationships.The connection between childhood experiences of infidelity and adult relationship patterns.Strategies for adult children to establish healthy boundaries with their parents.Support programs and resources available for adult children dealing with the aftermath of parental betrayal.More Resources: Authenticity After Family Betrayal (online group starting September 8, 2026)How Keeping Secrets About Your Parent's Infidelity Stresses Your BrainMelissa's Research on Parent Infidelity and Its Effect on Adult ChildrenRelated Podcasts: Understanding the Impact of Parent's Infidelity on Adult ChildrenWhy Do We Cheat?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Matt Burton to explore intimacy avoidance (IA) in men and its impact on relationships. Dr. Burton breaks down what IA really means — a subconscious self-protective pattern creating emotional distance — and shares key behaviors like lack of empathy, stonewalling, and blame-shifting. We discuss root causes, including childhood trauma and attachment issues, and Dr. Burton outlines a holistic path to healing. He also shares hope for men feeling overwhelmed, emphasizing that real change is possible. To learn more about Matt and Laura and their resources for men, wives, and couples, visit BecomingWellInstitute.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Definition and explanation of intimacy avoidance (IA) in men.Common patterns and behaviors associated with intimacy avoidant men.The impact of lack of empathy on relationships.Differences between sympathy and empathy.Underlying causes of intimacy avoidance, including family trauma and attachment issues.The emotional experience of intimacy avoidant men and their capacity for love.The role of maladaptive coping strategies in intimacy avoidance.Strategies for partners of intimacy avoidant men to maintain emotional health.The process of treatment and recovery for intimacy avoidance.Importance of relational recovery and the involvement of partners in the healing process.More Resources:Men's Intimacy Avoidance RecoveryGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveThe 12 Steps to Becoming Well from Intimacy Avoidance for Christians*Related Podcasts:4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsKeys to Emotional Intimacy*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Brad and Heidi Mitchell, a couple with an incredible story of restoration after 43 years of marriage. They openly share how they overcame Brad's adultery and rebuilt their relationship through faith and prayer. We dive deep into why so few couples — even Christians — pray together regularly, exploring the fears and barriers that hold them back. Brad and Heidi also walk us through their book, Build Your Marriage With Prayer, a powerful 40-day journey designed to help couples develop a meaningful, lasting prayer life together. No matter the state of your marriage, this conversation can help you catch a vision for a pathway to a deeper, richer connection with your spouse. To learn more about Brad and Heidi and their resources, visit BuildYourMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of prayer in marriage, particularly praying together as a couple.Personal journey of the speakers, including challenges faced in their 43-year marriage.Impact of past adultery on their marriage and family.Role of faith and prayer in restoring their marriage.Common barriers and fears couples face when trying to pray together.Statistics on the correlation between couples who pray together and lower divorce rates.Development of a meaningful prayer life as a couple after experiencing a crisis.Insights from their book "Build Your Marriage With Prayer" and its 40-day journey.Transformation stories of other couples through prayer.Encouragement for couples to start praying together, including practical tips.More Resources: Build Your Marriage with Prayer*Ruined to Recovery: Help When the Affair is Discovered*40 Days to OnenessRelated Podcasts: Let's PrayLord Be Near: Finding Hope in Suffering Through PrayerThe Immanuel Approach in Recovery*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode of Family Time*, I sit down with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care Director, in the first of a 3-part series to explore how parents can RESPOND thoughtfully rather than react impulsively to their children. Norma shares practical tools like pausing, naming emotions, and shifting to shame-free language. We also dig into the difference between engaging and evading difficult conversations, reminding parents that connection always comes before correction. Whether you're navigating spilled juice or tough questions about sexuality, this episode offers real, grace-filled guidance to help you build stronger, more trusting relationships with your kids.*Family Time episodes are short, practical conversations to help parents feel more confident and competent in raising kids according to God’s design, even in a sex-saturated culture.Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of thoughtful responses to children's questions and behaviorsDistinction between reacting impulsively and responding thoughtfullyBuilding strong parent-child bonds through connection before correctionPractical tools for parents: pausing, counting, and naming feelingsThe impact of language on children's emotional responsesEngaging in difficult conversations rather than evading themThe significance of showing interest in children's lives and activitiesStrategies for effective engagement and communication with childrenThe role of humility in repairing relationships with childrenEncouragement for parents to view challenging moments as growth opportunitiesResources for Next Steps:God's Design CurriculumCritical Conversations Online CourseJust Between Us Parent-Child Journal*RESPOND VS. REACT REMINDERSR - Respond over ReactE - Engage over EvadeS - Sincerity over SilenceP - Patience over PunitiveO - Opportunity over ObstacleN - Nearness over NeglectD - Divine Perspective over Diluting TruthThis episode (Part 1) covers R-E, Part 2 covers S-P-O, and Part 3 covers N-DDownload a FREE 1-page PDF with the RESPOND infographicFor more parenting podcasts, go to Bebroken.org/tp-pods and scroll to Family Bundles.*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Linda Stewart and Linda Noble, affectionately known as "the Lindas," who share their passion for helping parents navigate conversations about sexuality through the theology of the body. We explore how parental shame can block open dialogue with children and why humility and curiosity are essential tools for healing. The Lindas remind us it's never too late to start these conversations and share practical resources, including their book Before the Sex Talk, to help families build a foundation rooted in God's beautiful design.To learn more about The Lindas and their resources for parents, visit TheConversationWorkshop.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Understanding God's design for sexuality and the human body.The impact of parental shame on discussions about sex with children.Encouraging open and healthy conversations between parents and children.The importance of humility in parenting and discussing sensitive topics.The role of curiosity in overcoming shame and fostering dialogue.The significance of parents sharing their own stories appropriately.Practical steps for parents to start conversations about sexuality.The value of building a foundation of trust and openness in family relationships.Resources available for parents to guide discussions on sexuality.The idea that it's never too late to engage in conversations about sexuality with older children.More Resources:Before the Sex Talk: A Theology of the Body Approach for Parents and Mentors*Critical Conversations (FREE Online Course)7 Tips to Help You Address Sexual Issues with Your KidsRelated Podcasts:Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused WorldHelping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityHow Parents Can Leverage Their Story of Brokenness to Help Their Kids Pursue Integrity*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Troy Snyder, a colleague and counseling expert from Restoration Counseling of Atlanta, to explore early couple recovery after sexual betrayal. Troy breaks down what those first six months after discovery really look like, emphasizing stability and safety over quick fixes. We dig into the concept of "reality abuse," the critical role of humility for the betraying spouse, and why individual healing must work in harmony with relational work. Troy also shares practical boundary-setting strategies and reminds couples that restoration is possible — it's simply a long, faithful journey worth taking.To learn more about Troy and his resources, visit RestorationCounselingATL.com and RedeemingLife.net.Topics Covered in this Episode:Early couple recovery following sexual betrayal in marriage.The concept of "reality abuse" and its impact on shared reality.The necessity of individual work for both partners in the recovery process.The importance of humility, patience, and long-term commitment from the betraying partner.Establishing and respecting healthy boundaries to ensure safety for the betrayed spouse.The significance of creating stability and safety in the early recovery phase.The role of professional support and community in the recovery journey.The process of honesty and full disclosure as foundational for rebuilding trust.The need for couples to avoid rushing into relational work before individual healing.The long-term vision for recovery and the importance of perseverance and hope.More Resources:Restoration Counseling of AtlantaGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenOnline Care Groups for Wives (betrayal trauma healing)Related Podcasts:Early Recovery Couples Empathy ModelThe Three Phases of Couples RecoveryHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Andrea Rogers, a Board Certified Life Coach specializing in intimate partner betrayal trauma. Andrea shares her powerful personal story of discovering her husband's double life after 14 years of marriage, which eventually led her into coaching work. We explore what intimate partner betrayal truly means, its devastating emotional and physical impacts—including PTSD-like symptoms—and why it's so isolating. Andrea also shares about the Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day, observed annually on August 4th. This is a growing movement to bring visibility and community to those affected. To learn more about Andrea and her resources, visit FullyAliveCoachingLLC.com and IPBAwareness.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal experience with intimate partner betrayal and its impact on relationships.Definition and understanding of intimate partner betrayal and betrayal trauma.Emotional and psychological effects of betrayal trauma, including symptoms similar to PTSD.The isolating nature of betrayal and societal misconceptions surrounding it.The establishment and significance of Intimate Partner Betrayal Awareness Day.Misconceptions about preventing betrayal and the need for specialized support.The importance of community and support systems for healing from betrayal trauma.Distinction between betrayal trauma and other forms of relational conflict.Strategies for healing and first steps for those experiencing betrayal.The role of friends and family in supporting individuals dealing with betrayal trauma.More Resources:An Ember of Light by Andrea AminahWives Care Groups (Online)40 Days of Healing for Wives (online course)Related Podcasts: Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal? Online Care Groups for Wives Facing Betrayal TraumaHealing from Sexual Trauma and Coercive Control in Relationships----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.