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ONLY 1 WEEK LEFT TO DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Pastor Marty Machowski to discuss the pressing issue of identity, particularly sexual identity. Marty shares his experiences counseling families whose children are grappling with gender and sexual orientation issues. He highlights the rapid acceleration of these challenges and introduces his book, "God Made Boys and Girls," as a resource for parents. We delve into the impact of public education on children's understanding of identity, the importance of grounding identity in biblical truth, and the need for compassionate, open conversations between parents and children. Marty also shares insights from his support group, "Affirmed," offering hope and practical guidance for families.To learn more about Marty and his resources for parents, visit MartyMachowski.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Identity and sexual orientation struggles in childrenImpact of public education on children's understanding of identityDisconnecting physical reality from emotional and subjective feelingsDiversity within gender categories and its impact on identityTrauma and abuse's impact on individuals struggling with gender identityBiblical perspective on identity and being made in the image of GodImportance of open and honest conversations with children about identity and genderTransitioning from being disciplinarians to influencers in children's livesFacilitating support groups for families dealing with identity and sexual orientation strugglesEncouraging parents to build a foundation of relationship and compassion with their childrenMore Resources:God Made Boys and Girls* by Marty MachowskiCritical Conversations Webinar (Free!)Identity* by John FortRelated Podcasts:God Made Boys and GirlsExposing the Gender LieIdentity and the Goodness of Sexuality*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome back Carol Juergensen Sheets, better known as Carol the Coach, a certified sex addiction therapist. We reminisce about her last appearance in March 2020, where we focused on empathy for husbands. Carol shares her journey since 2007, emphasizing the importance of empathy in all relationships. She introduces her Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), which involves working with both partners from the start to foster post-traumatic growth. Carol explains the role of empathy in healing from infidelity, highlighting the long-term process and the need for genuine understanding. She also provides resources for couples seeking support and offers a hopeful message for those on their healing journey.To learn more about Carol and her resources, visit SexHelpWithCarolTheCoach.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Carol's background and expertise in sex addiction therapyThe importance of empathy in relationshipsDevelopment of the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM)Key elements and focus of ERCEMThe role of empathy within ERCEMChallenges and time required for healing from infidelityCommon misconceptions about empathyProgress and resources available for couples seeking supportMessage of hope and encouragement for couples dealing with infidelityMore Resources:Help Them Heal Couples WorkshopHelp Them Heal bookHelp Them Heal online courseRelated Podcasts:Helping Husbands Learn and Practice Empathy4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageThe Recovery Process for Couples----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I chat with Crystal Renaud Day about the SHE Virtual Recovery Summit, a transformative event for women battling unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction. Crystal shares her personal journey and insights from years of ministry, emphasizing the importance of surrender, accountability, and community in recovery. We discuss the summit's role in providing a safe, supportive space for women and even teens to find healing and resources. Crystal's passion for helping women shines through, and we invite listeners to join the summit and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.To learn more about the SHE Summit and register, visit SheRecovery.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:SHE Virtual Recovery SummitSupport and resources for women struggling with unwanted sexual behaviorsPersonal experiences and insights from Crystal Renaud DayImportance and topics covered during the eventResearch on women's view of pornTraining for women in recoveryMinistry to women dealing with unwanted sexual behaviorsStories of transformation and victoryShe Virtual Recovery Summit as a space for learning, growth, and surrenderThe significance of surrender, confession, accountability, responsibility, and sharing in the recovery processMore Resources:SHE Virtual Recovery Summit (use affiliate code BEBROKEN for a 10% discount!)What Drives Women to Porn? Survey Results90 Days to Wholeness* by Crystal Renaud DayRelated Podcasts:New Research on Why Women View PornTotal Freedom for Women Struggling with PornGod's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional self-awareness, especially for men – and offer a simple test to measure self-awareness. We explore the different levels of self-awareness, from complete unawareness to deep emotional understanding. Stephen shares his inspiration for creating this self-awareness test, aiming to help men gauge their emotional awareness so they can continue toward greater awareness and maturity. We discuss how family history shapes emotional patterns and the importance of recognizing triggers. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of aligning with the Holy Spirit and striving for emotional maturity. For more insight from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional self-awareness and self-awareness test for menDifferent levels of emotional self-awarenessConnection between triggers and emotional responsesImpact of family of origin on emotional patterns and behaviorsDevelopment of a self-awareness test for menChallenges men face in understanding and expressing emotionsImportance of recognizing and acknowledging one's feelingsImpact of family of origin on emotional developmentPhysical and emotional connections, retraining the mind and emotionsAlignment with the Holy Spirit and emotional program, journey of growth and maturityMore Resources:The Men's Emotional Self-Awareness TestGrowth Map* by Stephen CervantesGrace-Based Transformation* by Jonathan DaughertyRelated Podcasts:How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?100 Recovery Rules (with Mark Denison)A 3-Year Roadmap for Recovery and Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional maturity and self-awareness. We explore how childhood experiences shape adult behavior and emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional immaturity. Our conversation highlights the role of grief in self-discovery and the impact of critical parenting on self-criticism. Stephen and I stress the need for honesty, vulnerability, and self-reflection in achieving emotional growth and maturity. We encourage listeners to embrace uncertainty and seek support, underscoring that emotional maturity is a continuous process of growth and understanding.For more insights from Dr. Cervantes, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Emotional maturity and self-awarenessImpact of childhood experiences on adult behaviorRecognizing and addressing emotional immaturityRole of grief in the process of emotional healingImpact of critical parenting on self-criticism and judgmental behaviorShaping oneness in relationshipsGrief and fear in recognizing emotional patterns and transformationImportance of admitting uncertainty and vulnerabilityEmbracing the journey of growth and changeSeeking support and guidance for personal and relational growthMore Resources:49 Days of Growth* by Stephen CervantesGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy* by Stephen CervantesUntangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts: Moving from Being Fear-Driven to Love-DrivenWhy Men Need to Practice SadnessHow Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

In this episode, I welcome back Dan Drake and introduce Janice Caudill, both experts in therapeutic disclosure for marriages affected by sexual betrayal. We dive into the importance of truth in healing relationships, discussing how disclosure helps rebuild trust. In our conversation, Dan and Jaunice walk us through the disclosure process, emphasizing the impact of betrayal, readiness for disclosure, tailored approaches, the “choreography” of disclosure, and the post-disclosure phase that highlights potential obstacles when rebuilding trust. To get access to Dan and Janice’s resources, visit KintsugiRecoveryPartners.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Development of resources for disclosure in marriages affected by sexual betrayalAvailability of resources on Kintsugi Recovery Partners websiteImpact of sexual betrayal on relationshipsDefinition of disclosure and its importance in healingImportance of readiness for disclosureTailored approaches to disclosure based on each couple's unique situationProcess and key elements of disclosureChoreography of the disclosure processSignificance of disclosure in healing and rebuilding trustMore Resources:Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Betrayal*Full Disclosure: Seeking the Truth After Betrayal*Disclosure Guide TrainingRelated Podcasts:Understanding Therapeutic Disclosure in Marriage Affected by Sexual BetrayalConfession and Disclosure for CouplesHow to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In today's episode, I have a heart-to-heart with Stephen Cervantes about the journey of recovery. We dive into how it's more than just getting back on your feet; it's about pausing, finding stability, and reaching out for a helping hand. But that's not the end of the road! Recovery is this beautiful bridge to an exciting phase of self-discovery and growth. Together, we unpack the deeper mission that lies ahead—embracing the love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and getting to know ourselves better. So, if you're curious about turning a new leaf and finding purpose post-recovery, this chat is for you. Join us as we explore these transformative steps to a fuller, love-filled life!For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: Concept of recovery and transition to a new growth missionImportance of stopping and stabilizing in recoverySeeking outside help and community supportRecovery as a bridge to discovery and growthPurpose of new growth mission: learning about love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, understanding oneselfDifferent interpretations of recoveryRole of relationships and community in the recovery processRecovery as a journey toward growth and learningShift in focus from negative behaviors to love and personal understandingEmphasis on community, outside help, and shift in focus towards love and personal understandingMore Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsGrace-Based Transformation* bookRelated Podcasts:For Men Who Want to Finish StrongWhat Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your Story*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

DOUBLE YOUR GIFT!Thanks to a generous donor, we can offer a $75,000 match for gifts given between May 1 through July 31. Every dollar you give, collectively up to $75,000, will be DOUBLED!Give Today and double your impact. Thank you for your support!----------In today’s episode, we have Vern Tompke back with us. Vern is our Canadian pastor and coach who helps other pastors and men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. We talked about the three key stages of recovery, which are: Breaking the habitAddressing the deep-seated issues of the heart and mindRecalibrating sexuality to enjoy the abundant life Christ offersWhether you are just starting your recovery journey or years into it, Vern’s wisdom is a beacon of hope. And we mention lots of really good resources that will help you along the way, which we will include in the show notes. To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care.Topics Covered in This Episode: Three stages of recovery from porn addictionBreaking the habitDealing with underlying issuesRedeeming or recalibrating one's sexualityImportance of practical tools, boundaries, and grace-filled accountabilityAddressing underlying lies, pain, wounds, attachment issues, and unmet needsThe ongoing nature of the recovery journeyEmphasizing the need to move beyond objectification and consumption of beautyEncouraging men to engage in real relationships and build healthy social and coping skillsAdvocating for living in the light, engaging in community, and seeking a fuller understanding of recoveryMore Resources:Willpower Doesn't Work* by Benjamin HardyThe Thing Beneath the Thing* by Steve CarterThe Psychology of Porn* by Andrew BaumanRelated Podcasts:The Stopwatch Acting Out CycleUnderstanding Freedom, Identity, and Creativity in Addiction RecoveryA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

The Selfishness Addiction – Yes, you read that right. We're diving deep into how an addiction to selfishness can shape our behaviors and strain our relationships. We’re peeling back the layers of why we sometimes confuse self-preservation with self-centeredness.Understanding Freedom – We start by exploring the true meaning of freedom. It's not just about breaking free from unwanted behaviors like porn addiction; it's about finding peace, rest, and joy. We're talking about aligning with the soul's fundamental needs, as taught by Jesus himself.From Selfish to Selfless – We've all been there, right? Putting ourselves first, fast, and completely. But here's the kicker: the more we focus on ourselves, the less satisfied we feel. It's a paradox that we unpack with humor, honesty, and a touch of humility.A New Perspective – Imagine realizing that your whole life has been a race to put yourself first, only to end up feeling empty. That's the story of a Christian brother who woke up to his selfishness addiction. It's a powerful moment of vulnerability that might just change the way you see your own life.Growth and Healing – This episode isn't just about identifying the problem; it's about finding the path to healing. We discuss the importance of taking small steps towards giving, towards others, and towards a life filled with genuine connection.So, if you've ever felt caught in the cycle of coping and surviving rather than truly living, this episode is for you. It's time to break free from the chains of selfishness and step into a life of selfless joy.Topics Covered in this Episode:Selfishness addiction and its impact on behavior and relationshipsUnderstanding the difference between healthy self-care and selfishnessSelfishness driven by fear and focus on one's own desires and needsThe concept of freedom and its relation to the deeper needs of individualsThe importance of aligning with the fundamental needs of the soulThe distinction between healthy self-awareness and selfishnessThe detrimental impact of selfishness on individuals and their relationshipsThe immature and wounded nature of selfishness addictionThe natural order of relationships and the importance of learning to be selfless while still caring for oneselfThe insight and honesty of admitting and addressing selfishness addictionMore Resources:Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenDoctorMarriage.orgFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:Self-Care vs. SelfishnessAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsIt's All About Me!----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.

Shawna Meek, founder of Living Stones Coaching, joins us to share her incredible journey through marriage, divorce, and unexpected reconciliation. Shawna opens up about the challenges she faced in her relationship, from communication breakdowns to confronting her husband's infidelity – and learning how his previously undiagnosed neurodiversity impacted his sexual brokenness and their marriage. Shawna then shares about setting boundaries, the importance of individual growth, and how she and her husband both worked on themselves to rebuild trust. Her story is a testament to the complexities of love and the resilience and faith needed to navigate them. As a result of this journey, Shawna turned her personal trials into a passion for coaching and helping others through their own relationship struggles. To learn more about Shawna and her resources, visit LivingStoneCoaching.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Shauna Meek's personal story and experiencesNavigating neurodiversity challenges in relationships and marriageSeeking help and setting boundariesHealing and recovery processIndividual coping strategies and personal growthBuilding trust and safety in a marriageLessons learned about oneself and each otherTransformation and growth in relationshipsOvercoming communication differencesReconciliation and remarriageMore Resources:Determined for More* by Shawna MeekNeurodiverse Coaching and MentoringHope RestoredRelated Podcasts:The Journey to StayConflict Management for Marriages Healing from BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsSubscribe to our YouTube channel.