the law of detachment: why letting go gets you everything you want

Here’s what’s going to happen: you’re going to lock in for the next 4 months, because you deserve to achieve everything you want. It’s just us this week, and I’ve been so inspired by all the “great lock-in” content I’ve been seeing online that I decided to create a guide for us—a roadmap to finish the year strong. We’re talking about how to check in with yourself, realign your goals, and actually make the most of the time we have left in 2025 (with a few neuroscience-backed tips!!!). This is your reset button and I hope you leave the episode feeling as inspired as I did. LOVE YOU. x DM me @unwinedingpod with the word 'BADDIE' and I'll send you this episode's template <3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

256: Would you be your own friend? Why do friendship breakups hurt so much? How do you navigate outgrowing a friend? And what do you do when jealousy shows up in friendship?—just a few of the questions my girl Zayit Bemmel and I get into in this episode. We talk about the messy, complicated, and beautiful parts of female friendship—from the grief of losing someone you thought would be in your life forever, to the moments we’ve had to admit we were the “bad friend,” to learning how to set healthier boundaries and actually show up better for the people we love. If you’ve ever struggled with friendship breakups, growing apart in your 20s or 30s, or dealing with jealousy in your friendships, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone—and that we all go through this. The best reminder? You haven’t met all the people (and friends) you’re going to love yet. EP. 226: you're not asking for too much, you're just asking the wrong person ft. Zayit Bemmel SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to ZAYIT): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@zayitbemmel TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@zvb.beauty (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

255: Things diet culture stole from us—and how we’re getting them back. I’m joined by my friend Danielle Dietzek, Nurse Practitioner and Co-founder of the dating app PlotTwist, to unpack our messy experiences with disordered eating, body dysmorphia, and self-worth. Together, we open up about calorie counting (hi MyFitnessPal), over-exercising, family comments, and the way comparison shaped our twenties. We also talk about recovery, therapy, and what it actually looks like to heal your relationship with food, your body, and yourself. This conversation is raw, vulnerable, and extremely honest—the kind we both wish we heard when we were struggling. If you’ve ever battled negative body image, diet culture, or felt stuck in the cycle of “discipline,” this episode will remind you you’re not alone. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU x TW: This episode contains open and honest conversations about eating disorders, disordered eating, and body image. Please listen with care, and if this subject feels too heavy right now, feel free to skip this episode. If you or someone you love is struggling with an eating disorder, you’re not alone. Visit NEDA or The Alliance for support and resources. SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpodcast⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

254: Two Hispanic b*tches talking about friendships, relationships, and everything in between. This week, we're talking to one of my IG besties, Andrea Lugo—who I finally got to meet IRL in LA a few weeks ago. This episode has three segments: how to date a Latina 101 (and why we’re misunderstood), our favorite dating & relationship hot takes, and the lessons we’ve been learning in our love lives lately. A few questions we answer: + should your partner be your best friend? + does long distance actually work? + do they "always come back?" + does Tinx's Box Theory apply to friendship? + should you have access to your partner's phone? + how long is the honeymoon stage? + is physical chemistry overrated? and so much more. As always, take whatever you need, leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to ANDREA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@theandrealugo TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@theandrealugo (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpodcast⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

253: Class is in session today, and we're mastering the law of detachment to get absolutely everything we want. We're talking what it actually means to detach, why letting go is the secret to attracting what you want, and how to practice it in real life. Whether it’s in dating, friendships, or your career, detachment isn’t about not caring—it’s about caring without clinging. In this episode, I'm giving you the mindset shift I want us ALL to have to be abundant, magical b*tches. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpodcast⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

252: "There will always be another guy but there won't always be another friend." This week, we're unwineding with Emma Paige, host of the Too Much Podcast, and my personal therapist for the next 45+ minutes. We dive deep into the complexities of female friendship, the importance of self-worth, and how our hyper-independence and attachment styles impact our romantic relationships. We explore Emma's 5-box theory, the concept of self-forgiveness, and the moments when we've felt the need to prove ourselves in order to be loved. If you’ve ever struggled with vulnerability, felt the weight of hyper-independence, or needed a reminder that you deserve the relationships you truly want, this episode is for you. SAY HI (to EMMA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifeofemmapaige Too Much Podcast: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@emmastoomuch Episode I mentioned: Raised in a revolving door (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpodcast⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

251: If you've ever wondered if you're settling or asking for too much, this one's for you. This week, I’m joined by best-selling author Amber Rae to talk about her newest memoir, Loveable—available now. In this conversation, we dive into what it really means to settle, why women stay in the wrong relationships (for too long), and the blurry line between feeling like we’re “too much” and “not enough” simultaneously. Amber shares tangible tips for tuning into our intuition and strengthening our ability to differentiate anxiety or fear from inner knowing (which, as an anxious queen, I absolutely loved). I’m so grateful for Amber’s vulnerability, and I can’t wait for you to listen. As always, take whatever you need from this conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x Shop Loveable SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠@unwinedingpodcast⁠⁠ (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/unwineding⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

250: This episode has *big sister* energy all over it. I’m joined by my beautiful friend Laurice Imani to talk dating, self-worth, recovering pick-me behavior, and the invisible ways grief shows up in everyday life. We’re unpacking the difference between dating in our 30s vs. our 20s, feeling lonely inside relationships, the gap between confidence and self-worth, and how losing a parent has completely shifted the way we love. As always, take what you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x CHAPTERS:
 0:00—4:01: hi, intro, NYC trip!
 4:01—10:32: navigating grief + loss 10:32—23:52: dating in your 30s vs. your 20s 23:52—32:11: self-worth & building confidence 32:11—40:17: trust issues, attachment styles 40:17—53:32: the invisible sides of grief 53:32—end: final reflections SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠@unwinedingpodcast⁠ (to LAURICE): IG: ⁠⁠@lauriceimani TikTok: ⁠⁠@lauriceimani (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/unwineding⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

249: POV—three girly pops in Miami talking all things friendship. This week, I'm joined by Kelsey and Emily for a heart-to-heart on what female friendship actually looks like in your 30s. We’re talking friendship breakups, the jealousy and competition no one talks about, and the green & red flags we’re paying way more attention to these days. Whether you're craving deeper friendships or healing from ones that didn’t last, I think you'll love this episode. Watch this episode on Youtube CHAPTERS: 0:00—1:00: hi MIAMI! 1:00–7:32: friendship lessons 7:32—9:30: friendship breakups 9:30—19:49: building meaningful friendships 19:49—26:52: red & green flags in friendship 26:52—30:40: mistakes we’ve made 30:40—36:40: making new friends in your 30’s 36:40—43:45: communication is everything 43:45—48:00: our favorite moments together & wrap-up SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast (to KELSEY): IG: ⁠@kelseylapolla TikTok: ⁠@kelsey_lapolla (to EMILY): TikTok: ⁠⁠@emilyosmow (to OUR EPISODE SPONSORS): BETTERHELP: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give therapy a try at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/UNWINEDING⁠⁠⁠⁠ HUNGRYROOT: Get 40% off your first Hungryroot box + get a free item in every box for life. Go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠hungryroot.com/unwineding⁠⁠⁠⁠ + use code UNWINEDING. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

248: I called you on FaceTime and we talked about: Love Island, body image/body dysmorphia, being too hard on yourself, & best-case-scenario-thinking. As always, I hope there was something in this episode you needed (and please let me know what it was, I'm feeling needy). LOVE YOU. x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices