Secrets, Screens, and the Struggle for Real Connection - with Reese | Ep. 161

The doors to Doing It Together are open for the Oct/Nov round! In this episode, Janna goes over the program details, what couples can expect to learn, and how you can decide if Doing It Together is the right fit for your marriage.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In Part 2 of Reese’s episode, he opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of trying for children, including multiple rounds of IVF and the strain it placed on intimacy in his marriage. Disconnected from his feelings, he carried a lot of anger and tension, making everything feel heavy and difficult.After reaching a breaking point, Reese stumbled across Janna’s podcast during a late-night search. For the first time, he heard other men share their struggles with intimacy in marriage, and their stories resonated deeply. He recognized how his screen addiction was impacting his relationship and explains how he’s now working to rebuild a healthier space for his wife, his family, and himself to thrive.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Reese learned at a young age that secrets stay safe behind locked doors. When he discovered adult images online, what started as curiosity quickly turned into a regular habit—and soon, a strong screen addiction took hold.Over time, the influence of these images began shaping how he viewed relationships with women. He became fixated on unrealistic performance expectations, while true emotional connection slipped further and further out of reach.Caught in a cycle of shame and pressure, Reese had no idea what was driving his struggles—until he came across Janna’s work.Listen to Part 1 of Reese’s story now, and stay tuned for Part 2 next week.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In Part 2 of David’s story, he opens up about the early days of his marriage and the life event that triggered a sharp decline in their sex life. He remembers feeling lonely but not fully understanding why. Although he and his wife had many conversations about what she was experiencing, her perspective never quite clicked for him.That changed when she began listening to Janna’s podcast and finally found the words to explain what she was feeling. Once David started listening to other people’s stories, the pieces began to fall into place. He realized he had carried negative patterns into their marriage—patterns that blocked true intimacy and emotional safety. In this episode, David reflects on what he learned, not only as a therapist but also as a husband.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

David, a Mexican American, grew up navigating the influence of two cultures—his Hispanic, Catholic upbringing and the American, white culture around him. He describes his Hispanic roots as warm, physical, and affectionate, yet completely silent when it came to conversations about sex. While his parents assured him he could talk to them about anything, the unspoken rule was clear: sex was a taboo topic.At just eight years old, David discovered his father’s hidden pornography stash. That early exposure deeply shaped his perceptions of women and his ideas about what relationships should look like. Years later, when he met his wife in college, the hidden pressures and distorted beliefs he carried began to strain their intimacy. It wasn’t until he joined Janna’s program that David finally began to recognize—and untangle—the negative effects of those early experiences.Tune in next week to hear Part 2 of David's story. Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

When Natalie met her husband, they clicked instantly. After marriage, their sex life was good at first, but over time her desire began to fade. Things worsened after having kids—she describes her husband’s advances as “feeling like another need to fill.” He urged her to “fix” her low libido, but deep down, she knew it wasn’t her hormones that needed repairing. Something felt off, though she couldn’t quite pinpoint it—she just knew his advances left her feeling gross and cringy.Around this time, Natalie discovered Janna’s podcast and immediately recognized what had been missing in her relationship: safety. Through the Doing It Together program, she felt validated and reassured that her instincts had been right all along. As her trust in her intuition grew, she and her husband uncovered behaviours that had been off-base. Now, they’re working together to create a safer, healthier space for both of them.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In Part 2 of John’s story, he shares how he met his wife online and how quickly their relationship progressed. They moved in together almost immediately, and he describes their sex life early on as “frequent, enjoyable, and exciting.” But over time, the honeymoon phase faded. Their sexual connection began to feel like something they should do, rather than something they wanted to do.Even though they shared a deep emotional bond, John started questioning whether he was in the right relationship. He made efforts to reignite the spark—planning date nights, giving massages, even trying to schedule intimacy—but the distance between them only grew as he gradually pulled away.Sensing the shift, his wife suggested they listen to some of Janna’s podcasts together. That led them to join Doing It Together, and for John, it was eye-opening. He began to recognize how deeply cultural conditioning had shaped both of their experiences. He now understands that “fixing” their sex life isn’t just about physical connection—it’s about healing and growing together on multiple levels.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

As a teenager, John felt uneasy about the new sensations of arousal in his changing body. He wasn’t sure how to handle them, which led to persistent discomfort, performance anxiety, and awkward early attempts at intimacy with girls.During his university years, John moved past some of his self-doubt—but his behavior in relationships took a troubling turn. He describes feeling like he was “trying to make up for lost time,” and admits he didn’t treat his girlfriends with the respect they deserved. Even though it felt awful, he found himself cheating and sabotaging his relationships.In this episode, Janna and John unpack those complicated feelings and explore what was really driving his actions.Tune in next week for Part 2 of John’s story.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

When Andrea met her husband, they shared an instant connection. She describes their early intimacy as “fun, easy, and pressure-free.” But after they got married, things began to shift. Sex became complicated, and Andrea started to wonder if something was wrong with her. She found herself checking the calendar, counting the days, and feeling her anxiety grow.On the outside, their relationship looked perfect—but behind closed doors, the tension was building. They tried individual counseling, couples therapy, and Andrea read endlessly about low libido in women, searching for answers. But nothing changed… until she found Janna.For the first time, Andrea was introduced to a different perspective—one where intimacy could look and feel entirely new. Hear what she discovered, and why she calls Janna’s Doing It Together program truly life-changing.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Andrea, now 37, grew up in the 1990s, shaped by the influence of pop icons like Britney Spears and the Spice Girls. Back then, “girl power” looked like tube tops, perfect hair, and using every ounce of energy to grab—and most importantly, keep—the attention of boys.As a teenager, Andrea poured her focus into chasing male approval. But when the attention finally came, and kissing or more was expected to maintain it, the magic disappeared. The chase felt exhausting, and the physical side of things felt more like a performance than pleasure. Deep down, she wasn’t enjoying any of it. Confused and disappointed, Andrea started to wonder if something was wrong with her.Tune in next week for Part 2 of Andrea’s story—where things start to shift.Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.