What does it mean to be submissive?

This is not your traditional Christmas theme, this is more of an end of year look at some of the top episodes of The Weekly Hot Spot. We owe our growth and success to you, our listeners, so this episode is also a personal thank you to each of you for joining us on our kinky journey of BDSM education, sissy training, sex work and general naughtiness.Mistress Olivia talks about the number of downloads in the past year. Apparently, the numbers put us in the top 10% of podcasts - not just sex podcasts or BDSM kink podcasts – but all podcasts. That boggles our minds when we think about it.What category is number one? Sissy training and feminization shows rule the top podcast episodes. The number one download is from January of this year: Should All Sissies Learn to Masturbate Like A Woman? Today your Femdom hosts talk about sissygasms, sex while feminized, and more.The second largest category is cock control. Now, we know that cock control can mean everything from JOI, guided masturbation, tease and delay, tease and denial all the way to total orgasm control with chastity. There are so many options and we’re really glad to see this category is extremely popular.Other popular podcast episodes feature conversations about: cock sucking, cuckolding, strapon play or pegging and more. The ladies have a great time doing the podcast and this one is full of laughter, sidetracks called going on safari, and general shenanigans.Thank you for joining us for this kinky journey! We’re so glad you’re here with us!Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy 

We listen and we hear you. Many of our feminization friends talk about needing structure, support and practical tips. In fact, we have so many requests that we’ve created something special just for you!This episode is all about a year long feminization calendar from your favorite sexy podcast hosts. Don’t feel alone! Use the calendar as a way to stay on track with your feminization and find inspiration to go to the next level.This feminization training calendar is a budget friendly way to bridge the gap between feeling all alone and being under strict, personalized guidance from a Femdom Mistress.52 weeks of feminization Fun assignmentsSexy training Feminine affirmationsPractical adviceAnd so much more.Are you ready to begin?Here’s the link to the Year of Feminization by Mistress Erika and Mistress Olivia.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

There is an art to tease and denial games. It makes sense to think that the woman is the leader of T&D and that’s true but, there is also the relationship between Mistress and her submissive. Today’s episode asks the question: Do you have what it takes to be a Tease Toy for a Femdom Mistress?First, the ladies talk about tease toys. Who are they, what does this phrase mean?The ladies share insights into what they both appreciate about someone who is a tease toy. You’ll hear what turns them on about YOU!The ladies, of course, find the control thrilling.You'll hear conversation about power exchange and energy.Both really adore the sounds a man makes when being teased - moaning, gasping, and pleading.Do you love to be teased?Are you a fan of edging and orgasm delay?Ms Erika mentions chastity and teasing.Is there a difference between being a tease toy or a submissive man?Do you have to be submissive or into BDSM to be a tease pet?What are some of the teasing techniques?How does a Mistress push your boundaries, come up with creative ideas and guide you to some of the most explosive orgasms ever?How does distance domination work when doing tease and denial?What does a Mistress look for in a tease toy?What will happen if you come to each woman for teasing?The answers might surprise you!Mistress Erika’s personal blog:  Intelligent Phone FantasyMistress Olivia’s personal blog:  Experienced Mistress

In this episode we continue our conversation with the Chastity Queen and explore using chastity for sissy training and feminization. Now, just because we’re talking about putting a sissy in chastity, much of the conversation about chastity will apply to many people who are curious about this form of submission to a Dominant Woman.Chastity Queen has a live-in sissy submissive named Bunny. The ladies start off asking for a reality check about being a full-time, live-in sub to a Femdom. Some of these answers will likely surprise folks who have a fantasy about being a live-in sub or slave to a Domme.What does it mean when the Chastity Queen says, “Chastity is freedom.” This can include:The chastity cage focuses the attention of a submissiveBeing locked promotes devotion to MistressThe cage is a constant reminder that they have a higher purposeThe chaste sub is freed from mindless masturbation“There is nothing more feminizing than to not have a cock available.”  That’s a great comment about using chastity for sissy training and feminization.Chastity cages that mimic a vaginaBeing caged increases feminine feelings The role of humiliation in BDSM and chastity playUsing small chastity cages to shrink the clitty of a sissyCrossdresser purging and cycles of interest in feminizationYou’ll hear personal stories, suggestions and ideas as well as tips for interactions with a Mistress. Even if you have no interest in chastity, this episode will give you a peek inside the interior worlds of three Femdoms.Chastity Queen Linktree Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Today’s guest, the Chastity Queen, talks about her personal experiences being a Domme and so much more. This is your chance to listen in as 3 Dominant Women talk about life, love and power.Topics include:The role of women in society and the trad wife phenomenonHow men treat wives versus DommesThe dynamics of power and what power exchange really looks likeHow serving a Femdom can make a man a better husband to his wifeCommunication, kink, and intimacyTeaching men how to serve womenWhy treating women well actually benefits the manThe value of having a BDSM kink communityHow people learn kinky skillsWhy experience and knowledge is so important with BDSM (and life!)This is a wide ranging conversation that gives you a peek into the minds of these Dommes. Chastity Queen Linktree Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

A listener asks about political changes in the US and asks how to stay safe.The specific question involves feminization and crossdressing but it applies to all of us in these various communities:LGBTQ+Kinksters and crossdressersPro Dommes and sex workersAdult entertainment creatorsAnd all of those who are participants in or consumers of adult entertainment.(basically all of us)The Femdom hosts talk about:Current laws blocking pornhubOnline safety - in general and specifically for kinkstersPrivacy online - in general and for those looking for pornSafety tips when being en femme in publicWe hope these tips are useful. If you have other suggestions, please get in touch and pass them on.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMsOlivia on BlueSkyMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyErikaEnchantrix on BlueSkyEnchantrix Empire - free adult social networking site run by LDW / Enchantrix

Every Femdom hears this: “Mistress I want to serve you.” What does that mean? There are many ways for a sub to serve a Mistress. There is no arbitrary ‘right’ way to have a D/s relationship. Part of BDSM negotiation means making sure that each person is in agreement about roles, expectations, activities, etc. Topics in this podcast episode include:The difference between fantasy BDSM roleplay and lifestyle kink relationships.A discussion of some things that help different people to feel submissive.The role of chastity, orgasm denial and/or suffering for your Mistress.Does a service submissive automatically mean sexual service?What are some non-sexual things that a service sub provides?Since your podcast hosts do Distance Domination, the role of a service sub is a little different but the fundamentals are the same as an in person play partner. What can someone do for their Goddess? The ladies have some specific suggestions:Visit our blogs and stay on the blog for at least 3 minutes, click on several pages, staying on each page for several minutes.Write comments on our blogsFollow us on social media; comment on and share our posts.What does the sub get out of serving a Mistress?Hear what other submissives say about being a service sub.Have you ever wanted to be a real service sub? What does that phrase mean to you?Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

We hear all your secrets and sexual fantasies. A lot of our callers fantasize about sex with a transwoman. Today’s episode explores this.Topics include:How popular is the sex with a transwoman fantasy?Many men ask, am I straight if I want to suck the cock of a transwoman?To start off, a quick overview of names for transwomen and how to be respectful with the terms you use to talk about these people. For example, some of the outdated and terms are:She maleTrannyTransvestiteT girlTranssexualThis conversation covers:Gender identity, sexual orientation, sexual desiresWhat to call genitalia? What is cis gender?BDSM, erotic humiliation and submission.The role of a Femdom or Dominant woman who says, you will suck her cock for me.You’ll hear quotes from men who want to suck the cock of a transwoman, a transwoman who experienced her first sexual experience with another transwoman, and so much more.Do YOU have a fantasy of being with a transwoman?What is your fantasy?Have you done this in person? What happened?We want to hear everything!Mistress Oliviai’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyOur free adult social networking site: Enchantrix Empire

This episode is inspired by a blog post written by our friend and fellow Mistress, Ms Demi.Listen in as three Pro Domme’s talk about the submissives in our lives. What do Femdoms have to say about power exchange and those who need to submit to powerful, dominant women?Mistress Olivia kicks off the conversation with a quote by Mistress Demi:“Submission isn’t merely about obeying orders or bending to another’s will. It’s a profound journey into the depths of one’s own desires. Learning to trust, to yield, and to find freedom in the embrace of another’s dominance.”Topics include:BDSM and trust between the Dominant and the submissive.The difference between a fantasy roleplay BDSM scene and wanting to be a lifestyle submissive.The importance of BDSM communication.How to do BDSM negotiation of needs, desires, and limits.What are the five words that you should never say to a Femdom?The answer might really surprise you.The ladies dispel the myth that submissives are weak or damaged. Submissives must have power in order for there to be power exchange.Is submission a gift to the Domme?What do these women think of those who submit?Lots of insight into the submissive journey from the perspective of three Femdoms (who are always, of course, right about everything LOL).Mistress Demi’s blog: Sensual Cock TeaseMs Demi’s blog post that inspired this episode: What Does It Mean To Be Submissive?Mistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress

Today’s episode is inspired by a listener who wants help talking with a partner about feminization desires. Anita wants us to say something that will change the minds of wives or girlfriends who don’t like feminization with their partner. We don’t know that we can change minds, but this episode covers topics like:What do cisgender, heterosexual women think about crossdressers or sissies?What might be going on in the minds of the cis female partners?Here are some of the questions female partners of crossdressers might have:My boyfriend wears lingerie, what does that mean?Does wearing women’s clothes mean he is gay or bi?If I encourage him to explore his femme side, will he leave me?What does this desire to be a submissive sissy mean for us as a couple?How does a woman attracted to men feel about a partner who wants to dress as a woman?Other topics include:The difference between Drag Queens, crossdressers and sissies.Why do both of your Femdom hosts like crossdressers, sissies and men in panties?How to have conversations about erotic desires, boundaries and intimacy.Have you tried to talk with your female partner about feminization?What happened? If you haven’t had that kind of talk but you want to then this episode will hopefully help you have that conversation.Mistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy