The Weekly Hot Spot

We hear from a lot of subs who are worried about topping from the bottom.That’s a BDSM term that means a submissive who flips the power dynamic in a way that is disrespectful, rude or otherwise irritating to the Dominant. Some subs hear that and worry that they are topping from the bottom if they make ANY requests of the Domme. We don’t want you to worry so this episode is all about how to communicate your needs to your Femdom Mistress.This is inspired by someone who wants to know how to request a Pro Domme to be creative without acting like he is trying to be “in charge” of the session.  Topics include: What is topping from the bottom?Some relationship dynamics and other issues to consider when deciding what is bad BDSM behavior from a submissive.Insight into the role of vulnerability and trust in BDSM power exchange relationships.How to communicate with a Dominatrix or Femdom MistressDifferences in communication with a Pro Domme versus an unpaid kink player that you meet in BDSM circles.Differences between fantasy submission and power exchange.Your Femdom hosts give examples of how to communicate your desires in appropriate ways.Remember communication, trust and honesty about what you need are the most important aspects of any BDSM relationship. This podcast will give you some of the tools to feel confident that you are not topping from the bottom.Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy

We continue our conversation with author Jane Boon. Jane’s first novel Edge Play is about an investment banker who becomes a Pro Domme via her Pro Domme friend Erika … and this second book focuses on Erika. Both books show women coming into their own personal power. Jane Boon tells a lively, interesting story and even without our favorite Femdom and BDSM themes, this is a very fun read. This interview episode focuses on the themes of: lust, power and money.Why does a smart, capable woman become a Femdom?What attracts someone to BDSM and kink power exchange situations?For the submissive, why would someone want to be on the receiving end of BDSM play?How can a submissive service his Femdom outside of the kink?What is submissive service?Can BDSM be a kind of therapy for some people?What does it mean to call Femdom scenes, performance art?This is a conversation about extremes of emotions interspersed with personal experiences of three very smart women.  Enjoy! And, get the book! Here’s the Amazon Author page for Jane Boon.Jane Boon’s websiteMistress Olivia’s website Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s website Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Money, power and sex … specifically kinky sex … are the themes of today’s episode with author Jane Boon. Jane is the author of the Femdom themed novel Edge Play and today she’s here to talk about her newest novel Bold Strokes.We highly recommend both of Jane's books. In fact, if you’re submissive, here’s your order: “Read Edge Play and Bold Strokes by Jane Boon and report back.” Even if you’re not submissive, do yourself a favor and read them. You’re welcome.Edge Play is a novel about Amy, an investment banker turned Dominatrix. The novel is set amongst the greed and arrogance of Wall Street elites and the 2008 financial crash. One of the main themes is a young woman coming into her own power after being mentored by her best friend who is an Art Gallery owner and Pro Domme.  In the new novel, Bold Strokes, the settings of the art world, high finance and even higher intensity BDSM scenes lets the reader get to know Erika, the gallery owner / Pro Domme. How did she become who she is and what happened to her during the same timeframe as the first book told from Amy's perspective.Some of the themes are:How does a woman become a Femdom?What is the mindset of someone who is a Dominatrix?Who are some of the men that love to be tormented by the power, beauty and cruelty of a Dominant woman?Negotiation and consent in BDSM relationshipsSex work, sex workers and the inherent imbalance of power between powerful men and young women.This is a wonderful novel and the kink makes it even more fun. Bold Strokes is an exciting read with unforgettable characters. Here’s the Amazon Author page for Jane Boon.Jane Boon’s websiteMistress Olivia’s website Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s website Intelligent Phone Fantasy

This episode is inspired by a question from a crossdresser but we hear many people in the kink community talk about the impulse to throw away sex toys and other kinky things. Why? Well, anyone who is into things that aren’t considered ‘mainstream’ can feel the wrong kind of shame or fear of being discovered by family, friends or work associates.The Femdom hosts will share personal stories of self-acceptance as kinky dominant women and how this podcast started as a way to dispel myths about BDSM, kink, and feminization.This includes conversations about how crossdressing can give someone access to feelings or behavior that aren’t accepted when in guy mode.This episode covers emotional or psychological questions like:Why does someone who loves women want to crossdress or act like a woman?Does throwing out everything related to your feminization or kink ever work?Will a decision to stop being a sissy ever last long term?Why does the urge to crossdress come back even stronger after purging?Is there a way to process the guilt or come to terms with the wrong kind of shame associated with something that is a huge part of your psyche?For those into sissy play and feminization, the binge and purge cycle can run into thousands of dollars and causes endless frustration. How to avoid the urge to purge?Practical tips include:Understanding why you want to dress in women’s lingerie or women’s clothes.How to identify when societal teaching is needlessly holding you back.Learning when and why you want to dress in order to identify where you are in your cycle.How to find a community that will accept and support you.How to put away rather than throw away - ie get a storage locker!If you’ve ever felt alone in your desires, this episode is for you. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy and we get it!Ms Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMs Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone FantasyFree adult social networking site Enchantrix Empire

This episode is inspired by Sissy Brenda who sent us this question:  “I would love to hear a podcast with lingerie shopping tips for those gurls who might be nervous about buying in person. What stores and products would you recommend?”Great suggestion Sissy Brenda!  Here you go!The ladies begin with real talk about some of the risks of public humiliation and share safety considerations.. There are also ethical issues with consent and BDSM or kink play in public.  All that said, these Femdoms are skilled at feminization and in person lingerie shopping can be fabulous for sissy training, etc.Suggestion for shopping in person include:MindsetWhat to wearHow to present yourselfAnd moreSissy Brenda also asks about thongs which inspires a conversation about panty styles including thongs. The ladies recommend some specific brands.Hanky Panky thongsCalvin Klein invisiblesSkims: up to 4X !AerieFinally, even though this episode is about lingerie shopping in person, there are specific suggestion about how to order online and make sure that your purchases are private and discrete.We sent an email letting Sissy Brenda know that this episode posts today and she wrote back:"Hello Mistress:I found success with the Hanky Panky thongs you suggested. Surprisingly comfortable and so many colors and prints! I also tried and liked the Victoria's Secret seamless thongs. Also very comfortable and great with leggings. Never pictured myself a thong gurl but you may have converted me! I look forward to the podcast!All the best,Sissy Brenda"Happy shopping ladies!Ms Olivia’s blog:  Experienced Mistress Ms Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy   

We love it when other smart ladies come up with great ideas. Be sure to send a thank you to Mistress Demi for her idea to use X Spaces (Twitter Spaces) to connect with our friends and even make some new friends.Ms Demi joins us to talk about Spaces. The ladies talk with her about how the Femdoms at Enchantrix Empire are using spaces. For example, every Friday at 7pm eastern various Mistresses gather in the Space for Femdom Friday's.Each week has a different Mistress host who will lead the conversation. There will be a topic or activity like naughty Mad Libs and other games.People can listen on Twitter X but the Mistresses are the only ones who will be speakers. Everyone else can join in by going to the Community Kink chatroom and typing while you listen.When Ms Erika heard Ms Demi’s idea - Ms Erika set up Spaces for The Weekly Hot Spot podcast. We’ll be live every Thursday at 1pm eastern time -- talking about this kink BDSM podcast, episode ideas, answering questions and, well, basically having a great time shooting the shiznit with each other and all of you. You’ll hear some of those random thoughts in this episode!Join us on Twitter X:Ms Demi:  @DommeDemi    Ms Olivia:  @MistressOlivia1       Ms Erika:   @ErikaEnchantrix   Demi’s space for Femdom Friday Sept 6, 2024Community kink chat roomLook for The Weekly Hot Spot space every Thursday at 1 pm eastern. Cum have lunch with us.Mistress Demi’s blog: Sensual Cock Tease    Mistress Olivia’s blog:  Experienced Mistress  Mistress Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy   

Miss Cassie returns to talk about self-bondage and rope play.Ms Erika starts off the conversation with a question about how Distance Domination Femdoms can incorporate self bondage into BDSM sessions over the phone.  Miss Cassie points out that a long distance Mistress can talk someone through a tie or use other things to create the feelings of being bound, tied, restrained or otherwise controlled by her.The ladies discuss how vivid descriptions can combine with some simple physical actions to create the feelings, emotions, and sensations of a bondage scene. Miss Cassie points out that descriptions are important even during in-person sessions in a Dominatrix Dungeon.Things to consider:What is your self bondage safety plan?Importance of a safe word in BDSM play in person on onlineHigh protocol versus freely speaking during a sceneIdeas and questions from listeners:Using remote controlled sex toys during online domination sessionsUsing a timed lock box for keys similar to a lock box used for chastity keysPredicament play safetyEdge play and special issues involved in BDSM negotiationKeeping safety scissors nearby just in case you need themSpecial considerations for submissive men who are in a relationship with a vanilla woman:How to avoid leaving marksWhat causes marks and how long various marks last, for example, tying up the cock and balls (CBT) can leave small broken capillaries.Marks will depend on the scene, the tie of the ropes and the physical fitness of the submissive.What can someone use for self bondage? Examples include:Sweatband, headband or scrunchieShoe laces¼ inch diameter rope Paracord Zone mummification with plastic wrapOf course, you’ll hear stories from this elite Pro Domme and personal stories from all three Femdoms. Miss Cassie’s website:  Miss Cassie Loves RopeMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Today’s guest is rope bondage expert Miss Cassie. This is the first part of a 2 part interview with one of the best riggers in BDSM today. This lifestyle Femdom has insights into lots of aspects of BDSM, kink play, leather history and so much more.You’ll hear:** Miss Cassie’s personal kink journey - from submissive to Femdom** Leather tradition in BDSM** Lineage in BDSM leather family traditionMistress Olivia takes us on safari with a question about polyamory, cheating and sexual or emotional partners. BDSM education continues with:** training involved in BDSM ** psychology of kink** what a practiced Dominant will ask a prospective play partner** BDSM negotiations, safe words and edge play** safety and kink** sub drop and aftercare** Differences between Eastern Shibari and Western bondage techniques** Cultural history of Shibari in Japan as a prison capture system** How to avoid or deal with circulatory issues in rope bondage** Dealing with expectations and the difference between fantasy and realityThis is a lively conversation with three strong, powerful women. Enjoy and check out all the websites:Miss Cassie’s website:  Miss Cassie Loves RopeMistress Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyLeather Archives and Museum

The podcast episode about the secret sissy that asks if you feel alone in your feminization really hit a nerve. Many of our listeners say that they do wish they could share their femme self with a partner, friends or family. This episode is a sissy success story from someone who is sharing her authentic self and finding her community.Meet our new Irish friend, Shauna with a special shout out to her, her wife and her ladies in Ireland. We see you and we’re sending lipstick kisses to you!Many people tell us about the challenges of striking a balance between their femme self and their other life responsibilities. Is it possible to be authentic and accepted? . In this episode you’ll hear your Femdom hosts discuss:** Coming out about crossdressing desires** How to talk with your partner about wanting to wear feminine lingerie** How to talk calmly about concerns, limits and boundaries** Things to consider with family and other life circumstances.** How to find places and people who will cherish your authentic self** Sexual experiences when en femme. Do you want to be with a man?Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika have lots of comments and other tips for crossdressers, sissies and transwomen.This episode centers on people who identify as engaging in some sort of feminization but much of the content also applies to anyone who is kinky and struggling to find people who understand and support you.Mistress Olivia’s blog Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Going to a kink event in person can be daunting, especially if it’s your first time or you haven’t been to a play party in years. Today’s episode features Wicked Peanut from Studio 58 with a wealth of BDSM knowledge and tips for going to in person BDSM play parties like the one called Naughty Knowledge. You’ll hear conversation about:** Flying solo: is it okay to show up at a fetish event alone?** What can I expect when I arrive at Naughty Knowledge?** How do I behave? What is proper BDSM and kink etiquette?** What is consent in kink and how do you handle this at a fetish event?** Pick up play: what is it, how do you get it and what not to do.** How to do BDSM negotiations and why communication is so important in kink play.** Are there really BDSM classes?** What do people wear or not wear?** What are some of the themed parties?** The difference between a BDSM play space and a 24 hour sex room.** What Studio 58 does to help people find pick up play partners.** How to volunteer and why this is a great way to make friends in the BDSM scene.Are you curious about the kink lifestyle and want to know more?Studio 58 Events and Naughty Knowledge in August are great opportunities to have a safe space to explore BDSM, meet other kinky people and have a lot of sexy fun!Naughty Knowledge August 15 - 18, 2024Studio 58FetlifeYou’ll need to join Fetlife to look up the home page. Just do a search for Studio 58 on FetlifeMistress Olivia’s blog, Experienced MistressMistress Erika’s blog, Intelligent Phone FantasyWhen:  August 15 - 18, 2024Where: Private Hotel Takeover & Event in Gettysburg PA.Who: Produced by Studio 58. Designed for newcomers, swinks, swingers, experienced kinksters and even brand-new folks who may be kinky in the bedroom but want to know more about safe and consensual BDSM. What:  3 day event with BDSM and kink education, skill sharing, demonstrations, pick up play opportunities, full BDSM dungeon play space and so much more.Registration and more information on the Studio 58 website in the Naughty Knowledge section.