Lessons in Perfectionism, Growth, and the Value of Coaching

Stay in touch by joing the mailing list HERE Curated episodes of One Percent Better HERE Interested in coaching? Episode 300 My conversation with friend of John Wooden & Jackie Robinson,  Fred Claire Unreasonable Hospitality with Will Guidara Underrated secrets of communication with Tim Pollard The best storytelling teacher of all time, Matthew Dicks My second favorite restaurateur, Dan Simons Savannah Bananas Head Coach Tyler Gillum A conversation with My Father Connect with me on LinkedIn Email me [email protected]  Send me the Sneaky Episode --Joe 

The average podcast survives seven episodes. This is Episode 300.  Thanks to each and every one of you who have made the One Percent Better community what it is! I would love your feedback [email protected]  If you are interested in coaching, head HERE In the meantime, a few special links: Joey's 1st Appearance Episode 150 w/ my dad Episode 1 Joey's Culinary Institute Scholarship Fund : )   Venmo @Jferraro22 As always, thank you for listening! Cheers to many more damn good conversations, --Joe 

Thank you for being a part of the One Percent Better Community! Here are some links mentioned in today's episode: Inquire about coaching with me HERE Hear what some of my amazing clients have said about working with me Ask about the Damn Good Questions Masterclass HERE Listen to my guest appearance on 90 Feet Away Find organized categories of back episodes HERE Ask me to refer an executive coach to you HERE As always, you can email me [email protected] I read and respond to every email.  Thank you for listening to One Percent Better! Episode 300 coming soon! --Joe 

Welcome to Episode 299! Say congrats HERE : )  In this damn good conversation, acclaimed food writer and chef Michael Ruhlman joins me to explore the beauty of ratios in cooking and living a creative life. With over 30 books to his name, Michael shares insights on creativity, curiosity, and the joy of continuous learning. Don't Miss: • How understanding ratios can liberate you in the kitchen and life • The importance of being present and engaged in a world of constant information • Why Michael believes we don't have books inside us waiting to come out • The value of writing about what you don't know to fuel learning and growth • Michael's thoughts on the role of alcohol in enhancing life (when used responsibly) • His recommendations for must-watch food films Visit the new & improved damngoodconversations.com Key Takeaways: • Ratios reveal the essential elements of cooking, allowing for improvisation and creativity • Curiosity and engagement are crucial for personal growth and creative output • Writing generates material itself - it's not about transcribing pre-existing thoughts • Confidence comes from doing things you're afraid of and shattering self-doubt • The importance of sharp knives, proper cutting boards, and understanding salt in cooking Michael encourages all of us to: • Stay curious and engaged with the world around us • Write to learn and discover, not just to share what we already know • Find joy in the small pleasures of life, like a well-crafted cocktail or a good conversation • Continuously improve our skills, even if it's just 1% better each day Ready to dive deeper into the world of food writing and culinary exploration? Subscribe to Michael's Newsletter at ruhlman.substack.com for twice-monthly newsletters packed with insights, recommendations, and more. As always, thanks for listening to this episode of One Percent Better! --Joe PS: Our next milestone, Episode 300, is just around the corner! Stay tuned for something special.

Have you visited DamnGoodConversations.com lately? I have updated it to feature the work of some of my amazing recent clients.  Might you be next?  In this powerful episode of the One Percent Better, I reunite with Brian Kight, a return guest from Episode 17 in October 2017, for a deep dive into the fascinating world of confidence. Our conversation explores the origins, myths, and practical strategies for cultivating unshakeable confidence in our lives. I would love to hear your feedback on this episode HERE Key Takeaways According to BK:  • Confidence is a belief, not a fact. It's about projecting into the future and envisioning positive outcomes. • We are all "delusional" to some degree, as we constantly make assumptions and projections about the future that may or may not be grounded in reality. • Courage is not the absence of fear, but the willingness to act in spite of it. Confidence and courage are two distinct yet interconnected qualities. • Confidence is built on five core beliefs: knowing what to do, knowing how to do it, believing in our capability, expecting good results, and trusting that we'll be okay even if things don't go as planned. • Doubt arises when we lack belief in one or more of these five areas. By pinpointing the source of our doubt, we can take targeted action to build confidence. • Confidence is not about perfection or guaranteed success; it's about the quality of our effort and our willingness to embrace uncertainty. • As educators and mentors, we can help students build confidence by influencing their self-beliefs and providing a supportive, empowering environment. No Secret Dreams with Ryan Lavarnway Powerful Quotes: (share one of these on Social Media)  "Confidence is a belief. It's always projecting into the future, and as long as we're projecting something into the future, the reality is we don't actually know." - Brian Kight "Courage can only exist in the absence of confidence. If confidence is full, courage has no role, because courage's entire role is to fill the gap where we feel fear with something stronger than the fear." - Brian Kight "Once we detach confidence and doubt from reality, and we stop asking it to be truth, and we start recognizing it for what it is – it's just a belief – we recognize that people are already believing in all kinds of things from a doubt perspective that are untrue, all kinds of things for a confidence perspective that are untrue, but those beliefs have consequences in the actions that they drive within us." - Brian Kight Practical Applications: • Audit your own confidence regularly. Identify areas where you feel doubt and use the five belief framework to pinpoint the source of that doubt. • Embrace discomfort and take action in the face of fear. Confidence is built through courageous action, not just positive thinking. • As a leader or mentor, help others identify and change limiting self-beliefs. Create an environment that nurtures confidence and encourages people to step outside their comfort zones. • Remember that confidence is a choice, not a perfect reflection of reality. Choose to believe in yourself and your abilities, even in the face of uncertainty. This thought-provoking conversation with Brian Kight challenges us to rethink our assumptions about confidence and offers a powerful framework for cultivating unshakeable self-belief in our lives and the lives of those we lead and mentor. As always, thanks for listening to Episode 298! --Joe  PS: Here's the best link to text to a friend Handpicked Episodes

Head HERE to book a free call about how I can help you have unforgettable conversations.  In this episode, we explore the concept of the ".5 question" – a personalized, rapport-building opener that sets the stage for a memorable, engaging conversation.  I dive into real-life examples from One Percent Better breaking down the key characteristics that make these questions so effective: - Personalization: Referencing specific details unique to the person you're speaking with - Variety: Covering a range of topics, from personal to professional interests - Engagement: Inviting your conversation partner to share their perspective - Rapport-building: Finding common ground and shared experiences - Specificity: Demonstrating genuine interest and thorough research - Lightheartedness: Setting a friendly, informal tone with playful or humorous details  - Storytelling potential: Referencing specific moments that hint at larger stories or experiences I also share tips for crafting your own unforgettable .5 questions, whether you're a podcaster, networker, or simply looking to have more meaningful conversations.  Whether you're looking to uplevel your interview skills, build authentic relationships, or create more engaging conversations, this episode is packed with actionable insights. Tune in and discover how one small question can make a big impact. Want to become a master at crafting .5 questions and having damn good conversations?  - Sign up for a 1:1 coaching session where we'll work together to sharpen your skills and tailor the technique to your unique goals. - Bring this engaging workshop to your organization to help your team level up their communication and build stronger relationships with each other and your clients. Head HERE to learn more about how to get started on your journey to 1% better conversations! As always, thanks for listening to Episode 297! --Joe  PS: Here are some links mentioned in today's episode: James Clear & Me Seth Godin & Me Kai Correa & Me Garrett & Colin Unsold Mindset  

3 High-impact Links •Check out April's Jewelry at http://elizabethlassing.com/ •Interested in Hosting a Flip the Script Episode?  Head HERE and tell me why • HERE is the best link to share the podcast Today I give the microphone to my former 8th grade student turned lifelong friend and mentee, April. I hope this conversation shows the profound impact a teacher can have on a student's life through genuine human connection, being present, and leaving the door open.  It also demonstrates how vital ONE student can be in sustaining a educator's career.  Key Moments: • April shares the story of how Joe's presence and open door policy as her 8th grade teacher changed the trajectory of her life when she was feeling lost and disconnected • We discuss the importance of treating students as human beings, not just kids of a certain age, in order to truly connect with them  • We explore how passion and love for an activity, like making art as a child, can fade as people get older and more self-conscious, and what educators can do to keep that spark alive • April opens up about overcoming depression by choosing to look for beauty in life each day, even amidst challenges and setbacks  • I share an impactful classroom exercise about intentionally looking for something beautiful or ugly, and finding whatever you look for • We explore the paradox many teachers face - wanting to profoundly impact every student, while accepting that not every student will overtly demonstrate that impact • April offers the insight that teachers can open the door for connection and impact, without pressuring the student to walk through it Powerful Quotes: "When you're present with people, it doesn't matter how old they are or really what their backgrounds are. If you are one human being to another human being, and you are open to that, and you're open to life, it is incredible what is going to come into your life." - April "Leaving the door open - that's what you did with me. You didn't try so hard. You just said the door is open for you. And I was the one who took the initiative to come back and talk to you." - April   "If I can give myself the self-talk and the mindset to leave the door open...I'm going to leave the door open with no pressure for you to walk in through it." - Joe Ferraro This heartfelt conversation is for anyone who wants to have a positive impact on others. It's a reminder of the power of human connection and the ripple effects that can occur when we choose to be present and leave the door open. As always, thanks for listening to Episode 296! --Joe  PS: Check out the entire podcast catalog HERE

The 2nd place finisher for this week's episode title was: Getting Cut 26 Times: How Ryan Lavarnway Refused to Quit on His MLB Dream  That should give you an idea of how powerful this episode is. Imagine what you can learn about Mindset, Language, & Behavior from today's Damn Good Conversation I would hit play right now if I were you, but if you are the kind of person who craves details, here is a ton more: Email me [email protected] if I can be of help Former MLB player Ryan Lavarnway joins me to share powerful lessons on chasing big dreams, overcoming obstacles, and finding success through relentless perseverance. Ryan's journey holds wisdom for anyone looking to achieve more in sports, business and life. Don't Miss: • Ryan's experience of playing in the Big Leagues and how it exceeded even his highest expectations • The power of setting audacious goals and not being afraid to lean into "delusion" • Why you need to get really good at not quitting on the things you believe in • The key difference between "great" and "elite" is ________________.  • How leaders like Terry Francona and Buck Showalter get the best out of their people • Ryan's mission to make an impact by encouraging others to pursue their dreams Ryan encourages all of us to:  • Share your dreams with everyone - you never know what opportunities will arise • Realize the best leaders support their people no matter what • Use failure and obstacles as opportunities to learn and get better Ready to dare greatly and pursue your dreams with no excuses? Follow Ryan's journey on his website (ryanlavarnway.com), LinkedIn and Instagram (@rlavarnway). And if this conversation resonated with you, share it with a friend or teammate who could use some inspiration to aim higher.   As always, thanks for listening to Episode 295! --Joe PS: Here's the best link to share your secret dream with me SHARE HERE  

Quick Links Not To Be Missed: Join the No Spam Mailing List Coaching Opportunites  Josh Spector's Spectacular Newsletter Buy the Macho Man Book Seth Godin's 1st Appearance on One Percent Better Josh Spector's Episode On this episode, I share: - A personal story of cobbling together a powerful poetry podcast for my high school seniors in under 3 hours - Reflections on how to measure the impact of creative work, even if audience reactions are unclear - Liberating mindset shifts around ideal audience size from guests like Seth Godin, Josh Spector and Jon Finkel - Practical tips on building an audience that truly looks forward to your work Key Takeaways: - You don't need a huge audience to make an impact. Focus on delighting a small group first. - Reframe creative projects as worthwhile even if no one sees them, for the value they provide you. - Aim for 10 people who would "cross the street" for your work as a starting point. - Pick one "keyboard" - newsletter, podcast, blog - and consistently create value for a specific audience. I also mention a special offer to review your work and provide feedback. Hit reply to any email to take me up on it. If you've been holding back on a creative project because you don't have an audience yet, this episode will inspire you to start anyway. Remember, it's a privilege to share your gifts with the world, regardless of audience size. Don't forget to check out these links: Join the No Spam Mailing List Coaching Opportunites  Thanks for listening to Episode 294! --Joe P.S. This LINK is the best way to share the podcast with a new listener

Quick Links:  Join the Mailing List Coaching Opportunities Start Here: Organized Back Episodes My guest today is Topaz Adizes, founder of The Skin Deep. Together we dive into the art of making space, asking deep questions and creating intimate conversations. Drawing from Topaz's experience facilitating question-based games and my background in education, we explore the power of well-constructed questions and mutual respect in fostering deeper connections. Key Takeaways: Creating Space for Connection: Topaz emphasizes the importance of creating a safe and open space for meaningful conversations to unfold. He highlights how simple games or structured question sets, like those found in his book 12 Questions for Love can provide the necessary framework for people to open up and share authentically.    Sequence and Timing: The sequence and timing of questions play a crucial role in the depth of conversation. We discuss the architecture behind the sequence of questions in his book, designed to gradually build trust, explore conflicts, express gratitude, and reflect on deeper emotions. Navigating Discomfort: Topaz and I acknowledge the discomfort that may arise from asking and answering probing questions. We get into the value of leaning into discomfort as a means of growth and strengthening relationships. Crafting Questions: You know my love of asking questions. Topaz shares his insights into the process of crafting them, drawing from his experience in facilitating thousands of intimate conversations. He highlights the importance of intentionality and sometimes making grammatically incorrect questions to encourage authentic responses. Creating Synergy: I reflect on my own experience with creating question-based games in my Public Speaking class, highlighting how such activities can build trust and break patterns, leading to unexpected moments of connection. 1% Better Takeawy: Asking meaningful questions and creating space for authentic dialogue can lead to deeper connections and insights. By understanding the art of asking questions and navigating discomfort, individuals can foster stronger relationships and personal growth. Don't forget: Join the Mailing List Coaching Opportunities Start Here: Organized Back Episodes As always, thanks for listening to Episode 293! --Joe