The Hardcore Therapist 104.5- How to Know if You Should Reconcile or Have No Contact with Your Family

Today on the Hardcore Therapist, we’re honored to welcome Steven ‘Steven In Stereo’ Walker,  also known as PositiveSteven , a voice in the YouTube music commentary landscape.  Steven has built a platform where he doesn’t just react to the big hits — he analyzes, dissects, and feels them, often doing full-album takes that bring out structure and subtlety many listeners might miss.What makes him even more compelling is his honesty: he’s spoken openly about living with anxiety and depression, and he uses his platform not just to critique music, but also to advocate for mental wellness. 

* This episode contains discussions of grooming, sexual abuse, and manipulation  particularly how teenage girls have been exploited in the hardcore and DIY music scenes. If that’s triggering for you, please take care of yourself pause, skip sections, or come back later when you’re ready.Today, we’re diving into one of the hardest but most necessary topics we’ve ever talked about: how teenage girls have been groomed within the hardcore scene  and how we can understand, heal, and protect future generations.I’ve been part of this community for decades, and I love it deeply. But love means accountability  and it’s time we name what’s been hidden for too long.

On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I was honored to welcome a very special guest—someone whose journey through music, philosophy, and spiritual practice has inspired generations. Vic DiCara is best known as the guitarist for the legendary hardcore bands 108, Inside Out, and Shelter—all of which helped define the spiritual hardcore movement of the '90s. But Vic is far more than a musician. He’s also a Vedic astrologer, spiritual teacher, and author whose work blends ancient wisdom with a deeply personal quest for truth and meaning. His transition from hardcore stages to the sacred texts of the Bhagavad Gita and Srimad Bhagavatam reflects the kind of inner transformation we explore on this show.

Shame can leave us feeling unworthy, isolated, and stuck. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I unpacks the shame cycle—why it happens, how it affects your life, and practical tools to break free. Learn how to recognize shame, practice self-compassion, challenge shame-based beliefs, and reconnect through vulnerability so you can start feeling worthy again.

Today on The Hardcore Therapist, I’m honored to welcome J. Navarro. If you know anything about the punk and ska scene, you know his name—frontman of The Suicide Machines, Break Anchor, Hellmouth, J. Navarro & The Traitors, Roosevelt's Inaugural Parade, and more. A longtime force in music, Jay has never stopped creating and pushing boundaries. I’ve had the privilege of knowing him for years, and I’m thrilled to finally have him on the show to talk about his journey, his music, and the impact he’s had on the scene and beyond.

Family ties can be powerful—and painful. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I explores how to decide whether reconciliation or no contact is the healthiest path for you. Learn key signs to look for, questions to ask yourself, and steps to protect your well-being as you navigate this tough decision.

Today on The Hardcore Therapist, I spoke to the artist Christoph Jesus.  Christoph Jesus is the electrifying frontman of Crazy & the Brains, the New Jersey-born band known for blending streetwise lyrics, punk aggression, and yes a xylophone. Whether he’s ripping through a live set or channeling emotion into his writing, Christoph brings honesty, grit, and heart to everything he does. 

On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I breaks down one of the most common questions I gets: “What’s the difference between anxiety and panic—and what do I do in the moment?”You’ll learn how to distinguish key symptoms, understand what’s happening in the body, and explore evidence-based tools like grounding, breathing, and cognitive reframing to help yourself or your clients manage these intense experiences.

On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I sit down with bassist Matt Fletcher—known for his work with Shai Hulud, Life Force, and One—for a raw and thoughtful conversation about his journey through music, mental health, and meaning.We talk about what first pulled him into the hardcore scene, growing up in Norman, Oklahoma, and the legendary moment he drove a Camaro across state lines to audition for Shai Hulud. Matt also opens up about his work at Thunderbird Clubhouse, a mental health resource center, and how that experience intersects with his passion for community and touring life.

Conflict in relationships is unavoidable — but what really determines the health and longevity of a partnership isn’t the fight itself, it’s how we come back together afterward. In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist Podcast, we explore why repair after conflict often matters more than the conflict itself.Drawing on the work of John Gottman, Sue Johnson, and Harville Hendrix, we dig into the science of repair attempts, attachment theory, and how conflict can actually become a doorway to deeper intimacy and healing. You’ll learn practical tools for repairing after arguments, from CBT reframes to emotionally focused strategies, and we’ll unpack what happens when couples avoid repair altogether.If you’ve ever worried that conflict means your relationship is failing, this episode will shift your perspective: fights don’t break relationships, disconnection does. Repair is where love, trust, and resilience are built.Mentioned in this episode:The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John GottmanHold Me Tight by Dr. Sue JohnsonGetting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix