Ep. 75 The contagion of (dis)regulation

Send us your feedback!How do you show up to sessions with your horse? And how do you manage your stance and state when you get there?Explore how to manage yourself and your horse to establish more effective communication between your body-mind and his. Even in conversation with another human, your words only account for 7% of what you are communicating; your intonation is 38%. The remainder is your stance and state, with the latter influencing your facial expression.Dive into this episode and discover how to use your own body-mind to make more sense to your horse!

Send us your feedback!This picture illustrates one of the many images that this podcast refers to. Energy, a vital but abstract concept, is best illustrated through images and metaphors. Dive into this session to explore the world of energy and discover how to direct yours effectively.

Send us your feedback! Does the regulated rider or handler regulate the disregulated horse, or does the disregulated horse disregulate the regulated rider or handler?Working with horses influences their regulation as well as their body organisation. In addition, horses can help us become more regulated. Through working together, we can lead each other into comfortable regulation.  Dive into this episode and listen to the theory as well as some very relevant stories. 

Send us your feedback!In this episode, I return to the nervous system — and to Stephen Porges’ polyvagal theory, which reshapes our old picture of fight, flight and freeze.Your autonomic nervous system is constantly scanning for safety or threat, and it quietly drives your thoughts, emotions and actions. I explore how trauma fills your “threat bucket,” why hypervigilance is so common in riders as well as horses, and how simple cranial-nerve exercises can start to empty your "threat bucket". You’ll discover six states — from regulation to freeze — and how your state shapes your story, your riding, and your partnership with your horse.

Send us your feedback!Back to Rider Biomechanics! I’ll uncover the effective alternatives to growing tall.The majority of women are hollow-backed, with their front longer than their back, and the majority of men are round-backed. There are different ways and places that people hollow, so let's dive in and explore both the challenges and the solutions! We’ll meet low‑beam headlights, seat‑bone flashlights, and two hinges that click you into neutral spine. 

Send us your feedback!This episode is about how our perspective shapes our experience.So often, we measure ourselves against where we wish we were, living in the “gap” and feeling the distance between where we are and where we think we should be. This episode invites you to turn around and notice your “gains”—the small, real steps you’ve made, even if they feel tiny or hard-won. Through some stories, we’ll explore how shifting focus from what’s missing to what’s growing can change your experience of learning, riding, and even daily life. It’s about celebrating progress, not perfection, and finding satisfaction in the journey itself.

Send us your feedback!Do you want to bring out the best in you and your horse? I certainly do. In this episode, we’re diving into what it takes to bring out the best in both of you—and how to navigate the journey ahead.Every journey needs a map, and I’ll be sharing one that’s robust, reliable, and designed to guide you whether you’re just starting out or looking to refine your skills. This episode is packed with insights to help you unlock hidden potential.

Send us your feedback!I tell the story of a rider with phenomenal talent in another area of life, and ask, how did this affect her riding, and how would it be if we taught riding as if it were a martial art? I discuss what it means for riding that ‘form follows function’, and how this relates to the challenges inherent in riding well, and also to the ‘chicken and egg’ nature of the ways that riders and horses affect each other.  A lot of answers are to be found in the geometry (whether sacred or not) that we have delineated and expounded on through our various exercises. They can have such a good effect our combined fascial net. Please practice them!The issue of social license has recently come more to the fore, and I talk about the truism that "where skill ends, violence begins" by considering the hierarchy of: environment, behaviour, skills and capabilities, beliefs and values, identity, purpose and spirituality. If we fail to acknowledge the layers that lie between behaviour and identity, we will not find answers to the evolving ethics of keeping, breeding, and riding horses. We need those answers not just for the instances that hit the press, but also for smaller transgressions, that can be individual and/or cultural, and that we and the wider world are now questioning.

Send us your feedback!The rider with rebars that connect diagonally through her can use these to pattern her horse in shoulder in, suggesting to him how he could transmit force through his body from his inside hind leg to his outside foreleg. This can make riders feel much more effective! I continue with an exercise that involves resting your back against the back of a chair, whilst moving your skin, muscles and fascia sideways over the underlying bones. This develops the idea of two ‘long narrow triangles’ in your back. Becoming able to find, clarify, and ultimately equalise these triangles is incredibly helpful - though the differences between them, and what it takes to make (and keep) them more equal, may shock you! The distortions in your rib cage are a big factor in your asymmetry, and as you will discover, the distortion of your ribcage remains constant even though your asymmetry may morph from a C curve to an S shape. But you now have a powerful tool to help with this.

Send us your feedback!‘Rebars’ are the dull red metal uprights you see sticking up within the frames used on building sites when pouring concrete pillars. Rebars also have smaller horizontal pieces of metal wrapping around them. Our seated exercise helps you find ‘rebars’ in your own torso-box, defining its corners. They make a huge difference to your stability, and with practice they become really tangible, helping to give you clearer body boundaries. You can connect the rebars on diagonals inside your torso-box, thinking particularly of your underneath, your diaphgram, and the diagonal connecting your back and front armpit tendons. These connections help you find ‘fencing lunge’, which helps you ride turns without pulling on the inside rein.