Benefit of the Doubt: Giving People Grace… Or Just Making Excuses?

In this episode, we’re talking all about breakups in your 30s – we feel ya, sis, and we're gonna spend the next 30 or so minutes chatting about it. Whether you’re starting from scratch or just trying to figure out what comes next, we break down how to heal, grow, and move forward in a way that feels right for you.Here’s what we dive into:🎙️ Starting Over in Your 30s: Exploring the initial feelings post-breakup. 🎙️ Being With vs. How To: Sometimes the answer isn't a "fix" or "solution," it's all in the process of being with. 🎙️ Feel It to Heal It: Feelings can be messy, but they’re also how we heal. We talk about why turning toward those tough emotions is pivotal in the healing process. 🎙️ Perpetual Issues vs. Solvable Problems: Taking an honest look at the problems you face in relationship, and if the conflict is "worth it."If you’re going through a breakup or just looking to better understand relationships, this episode is packed with advice, laughs, and a fresh perspective on navigating life’s twists and turns after a breakup. If you loved it, please leave the show a 5-star rating & review! Xo!

Welcome back to Get Psyched, today we unpack the complexities of giving the benefit of the doubt, exploring when it helps and when it harms. We dive into the psychology of trust, expectations, and how we navigate our relationships with others (and ourselves). Here’s what we’ll cover:🎙️ Expectation Hangover: The all-too-familiar feeling of expectation hangover. Why do we build up hopes only to be let down, and how does the benefit of the doubt come into play when those expectations crash?🎙️ Room for Self-Reflection: How can giving people the benefit of the doubt also be an opportunity for self-reflection? 🎙️ When is the Benefit of the Doubt Okay?: Is there a time when giving the benefit of the doubt is genuinely helpful? We discuss the healthy boundaries and situations where believing in the best intentions can foster better relationships and personal growth.🎙️ When Does the Benefit of the Doubt Get Shadowy?: On the flip side, is there a point where benefiting the doubt crosses into denial or just tolerating bad behavior?🎙️ Confirmation Bias: Do you tend to see what you want to see? We dive into confirmation bias, and how it can influence your decision to give the benefit of the doubt, sometimes to your own detriment.🎙️ Building Trust: How does giving someone the benefit of the doubt play into the bigger picture of building trust? 🎙️ Believing in Best Intentions: Finally, we chat about the power of believing in people’s best intentions and how this can lead to more positive interactions—without setting yourself up for disappointment.Whether you're trying to navigate your own expectations or learn how to give others grace, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to better understand the psychology of trust and the benefit of the doubt in their lives. Tune in for insightful tips, personal anecdotes, and a few laughs along the way!Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook a session with LindseySchedule a sesh with Amy

In this episode, we’re diving into the phrase “if he wanted to, he would” — what does it really mean, and why is it so catchy? We’ll unpack the psychology behind it and explore the nuance that gets lost in translation. Buckle up, it’s going to be a fun ride!Today the gals explore:🎙️ What’s the Deal with “If He Wanted To, He Would”?Everyone’s heard it, but what does it really mean? Let’s break it down and talk about why this phrase gets tossed around in relationships.🎙️ Where’s the Nuance?Sure, it sounds simple, but relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all. We’re digging into the gray area that’s often ignored when we lean on this phrase.🎙️ Partners Aren’t Mind Readers!Newsflash: Your partner can’t read your mind (unless they’re a psychic, and even then…). We’re discussing why communication is key and how expecting them to know what you need without saying it might not be the healthiest approach.🎙️ Don’t Fall in Love with Potential (Spoiler: It’s a Trap)Ever fallen for someone’s future self rather than who they actually are now? Yeah, we’ve all been there. Let’s talk about why this can set you up for disappointment.🎙️ What Narratives Are You Defending?We’re all carrying around little stories in our heads, and sometimes we use “if he wanted to, he would” to defend the one we’ve created. Let’s chat about the deeper reasons we cling to these narratives, even when they don’t serve us.🎙️ Behavior = Not Always About YouIf your partner is acting distant, it’s probably more about them than it is about you. We’re diving into why their behaviors can reflect their own stuff, and not necessarily how they feel about you.🎙️ Stop Doing the Most (Seriously, Just Stop)If you’re the one constantly putting in all the effort, it’s time to hit pause. Let’s talk about how doing too much in a relationship can actually make things worse.🎙️ Lindsey hypothesizes Bumble's origin story?A little unhinged way of "dropping the handkerchief."If you loved today's show, please please let us know by giving us a 5-star rating and review, and sharing with someone you think would like laughing along with us too! See you next week!Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook with LindseySchedule a session with Amy

In this episode, we’re talking all about the great debate: to block or not to block? We get into everything from social media strategies to Costco rotisserie chickens (seriously, we're that unhinged today). Here’s what’s on the menu:🎙️ Costco rotisserie chickens?! Why are we starting there? Who knows?🎙️ Spoiler alert: Lindsey has NEVER blocked anyone – find out why!🎙️ The real reason people block others: It’s all about protecting your peace, not changing behavior.🎙️ Setting boundaries without drama: How blocking can be an act of self-care, not conflict.What topic should we explore next? We love hearing from you! Shoot Linds or Amy a DM and maybe your topic will be our next show! Ways to connect below! Xo!Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook a session with LindseySchedule with Amy

The gals are back to tackle messy breakups... we've all been there, they suck. And, today, the girls explore when you know to "just be done." Pulling on personal experience, therapeutic intervention, and our incredible mentors, the ladies share tips and tricks for finding, fostering, and when necessary, leaving love.The two dive into:🎙️Are messy breakups “easier”: Do we unintentionally create a dumpster fire in hopes it's easier to walk away from?🎙️When you know to be done: questions to ask yourself before leaving.🎙️Shared interest: We're not talking core values, but like, do you even really like the same things?🎙️Shared values: Here's the values we were talking about above.🎙️A genuine liking for the person: Stop with the, "they complete me," and tell me what you actually like about them.🎙️The “IT” factor: Spoiler alert, it's different for all of us, but Amy and Linds show you how to determine if it exists.🎙️A desire & capacity to co-create: Future facing questions to ponder.As always, we love hearing from you. If this episode was helpful let us know and have the courage to share it with someone you know. Until next week, enjoy the show!Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook with LindseySchedule a session with Amy

In today's episode of the Get Psyched Podcast, we’re taking a deep dive into What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo, a powerful memoir about living with complex PTSD. As therapists, Amy and Linds share their take on the book and unpack some of the key themes we see in trauma recovery. We’ll chat about things like Pain vs. Suffering, why trauma isn’t something that “happens for you,” and how being present in the moment can help you heal. Plus, we’ll talk about the importance of building strong therapeutic rapport and how trust in the healing process can make all the difference.Today, the girls explore:🎙️ What is Complex PTSD? Understanding the unique aspects of C-PTSD and why it’s different from PTSD.🎙️ Pain vs. Suffering: Let’s talk about how pain is a part of life, but suffering is something we can manage.🎙️ Trauma Doesn’t Happen “For” You: Why it's important to challenge the idea that trauma is a “lesson” or something that has a higher purpose.🎙️ Presence is the Opposite of Trauma: How simply being present and grounded in the moment can be a game-changer when it comes to trauma healing.🎙️ The Power of Therapeutic Rapport: Why the relationship between you and your therapist can be a huge factor in your recovery.Whether you're someone who’s been directly impacted by trauma or just interested in understanding the healing process better, this episode offers insights that can support you on your journey. Remember, healing takes time, and you don’t have to do it alone.Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook a session with LindseySchedule with Amy

In today’s episode of Get Psyched, we’re diving into a topic that we all struggle with—sharing vs. oversharing! How do you know if you’re spilling too much tea, or if you’re just being your authentic self? We’ll talk about how to find that sweet spot between being open and keeping some things for yourself. It’s all about striking the right balance between intimacy, authenticity, and honesty without oversharing and regretting it later.Today, the gals explore:🎙️ How to Spot Oversharing: Ever found yourself telling someone your whole life story before you realized it? We’re breaking down the signs that you might be oversharing and what to do about it!🎙️ Sharing is Still Cool: Just because you’re worried about oversharing doesn’t mean you shouldn’t open up! We talk about why sharing can help you connect, but with boundaries.🎙️ Intimacy, Authenticity, and Honesty: What’s the difference? We’ll help you figure out how to be real with people without crossing into TMI territory.🎙️ WAIT: "Why Am I Talking?": You know that feeling when you’re mid-story and suddenly wonder why you’re saying all this? We’ve all been there! Let’s talk about how to be more mindful of what we share and when.Listen in to learn how to be your true self without saying too much, and why being aware of what you share can actually strengthen your relationships.Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook with LindseySchedule with Amy

In today’s episode, we’re chatting about how to actually cope with anxiety—no fluff, just real talk. If you've ever felt that crazy anxious energy and weren’t sure what to do with it, or found yourself stuck when your usual coping tricks don’t work, you’re not alone! We’re diving into super simple ways to manage big feelings and figure out what’s really triggering your anxiety.Here’s what we’re talking about:🎙️ What to do with all that anxious energy: Spoiler alert, what would happen if you stopped avoiding this?🎙️ When your coping skills suck: Yup, I said it. We’ll talk about why some things just don’t work and what to try instead.🎙️ How to find your anxiety triggers: Getting to the bottom of what’s setting you off.🎙️ What to do when the feeling are BIG: Exploring overwhelm and what to do about it.If you’ve been feeling like anxiety’s been running the show lately, tune in! You're not alone, and we'll share some tools to help you navigate this season. You’ve got this! Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook with LindseySchedule with Amy

After a quick holiday hiatus, the girls are back, and we're diving into all things New Year's resolutions—but with a twist! Forget the usual “new year, new you” spiel. This time, we’re talking about why those lofty goals tend to fall flat and how you can actually make lasting changes without all the pressure.In this episode, the gals explore:🎙️ Lindsey’s honest take on New Year’s resolutions—are they really all they're cracked up to be?🎙️ The big difference between setting resolutions and living by your core values.🎙️ The magic (and mess) of habit change—why it’s harder than we think, and how to actually do it!🎙️ Can you really build momentum that lasts? Spoiler: it’s not as impossible as it sounds.🎙️ Why being one with the season might be the secret sauce to a more grounded, balanced year. So if you’re tired of setting goals you forget by February (we’ve all been there), this episode is for you. Grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let’s unpack how you can actually make this year your most intentional one yet!Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook a session with LindsSchedule with Amy

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the annual craze that is Spotify Wrapped 2024 – yes, it's that time of year again! What songs and artists made your top 5? But it’s not all about playlists and stats—we’re also chatting about Goblincore (yes, you heard that right), what Spotify has dubbed Amy's listening trend.Then, we take a detour into the wild world of social media. Why do people love to hate on stuff? It’s like the internet thrives on drama, and we’re here to unpack that. Plus, we’re comparing coaching vs therapy—because let’s be real, they’re not the same, and there’s a lot of confusion around what each actually does.In this episode, we cover:🎙️ The highs (and lows) of Spotify Wrapped 2024🎙️ What on earth is Goblincore and why does it perfectly describe Amy?🎙️ The love-hate relationship with social media and why it’s so polarizing🎙️ Coaching vs Therapy—the difference between the two🎙️ Why we need more nuance in our online and offline convosWhether you're a Goblincore enthusiast or just here for the Spotify Wrapped tea, we've got something for everyone! If you loved today's show please leave us a 5-star rating and review! Xo!Connect with LindseyFollow AmyBook a session with LindseySchedule with Amy