S9 - Appendices 4: Authenticity

We are back with another appendices, this one on the topic of authenticity. We've had a couple of posts go viral on Facebook and Instagram that we are connected to this idea of living an authentic life. The reaction to those posts suggests that are a lot of people are struggling to be their authentic selves and that has been and continues to a significant source of distress and disconnection for them. It certainly was for Brian.  ttps://www.codependentmind.com/ Thank you for rating and reviewing the podcast and the book. It helps others find us. 

Set boundaries! Respect yourself! Easier said than done. In this episode we discuss our own recent struggle to maintain our boundaries/self-respect while also trying to maintain a friendship. We discuss recognizing guilt, shame, and resentment, setting limits, and choosing to stay or leave when negotiation fails.   https://www.codependentmind.com/ Thank you for rating and reviewing the podcast and the book. It helps others find us.  Use this link to review the book on Amazon - https://amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1

Brian recently read through both our books and did some self-analysis on where he is at on his 'growth journey.' In this episode we discuss some of his findings. If you interested in reading the notes he took while reading, sign up for our newsletter on our website.  https://www.codependentmind.com/

Brian and Stephanie come back for an ad hoc season and start with another discussion of shame. This time they tackle the question of what kind of relationship work shame can do and how it can cause relationship dysfunction (and how it has in their relationship). Brian goes in to more detail about the ways in which shame continues to impact him and how it moves through it when it does.  https://www.codependentmind.com/ Thank you for rating and reviewing the podcast and the book. It helps others find us.  Use this link to review the book on Amazon - https://amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1

The full book in paperback, hard cover and eBook available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC6M5X5M/ The audiobook is available on our website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ It is also on Amazon, Spotify and most other places where audiobooks are sold. We end the book, and this season, with a discussion of gratitude. This chapter and the first chapter of the book will remain available on the podcast indefinitely. The rest of the chapters will be removed. The audiobook is available on most audio platforms and from our website. The paperback and the eBook is available on Amazon. https://www.codependentmind.com/ Thank you for rating and reviewing the podcast and the book. It helps others find us.  Use this link to review the book on Amazon - https://amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1  

The full book in paperback, hard cover and eBook available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC6M5X5M/ The audiobook is available on our website: https://www.codependentmind.com/ It is also on Amazon, Spotify and most other places where audiobooks are sold.   Me, You & Us  Moving Beyond Relational Trauma and Disorder (Anxious/Avoidant Attachment, Codependency, BPD) to Build a Stable, Lasting Relationship As described in this podcast, for years I struggled in romantic relationships—trapped in people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and emotional disconnection. I didn’t know how to set boundaries, communicate honestly, or feel safe being myself. Like many people with a history of codependency or relational trauma, I was stuck in survival mode—longing for intimacy but afraid to be truly seen. This book is both a relationship memoir and a healing guide—an honest, compassionate look at how I learned to show up differently in love. Through personal storytelling and psychological insight, I explore the relationship tools that transformed my life: empathy, vulnerability, boundaries, communication, emotional co-regulation, and more. These are the tools that helped me move from dysfunction to connection—from trauma bonds to the emotionally safe, interdependent marriage I now share with Stephanie. Available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC6M5X5M/ Contact us at: https://www.codependentmind.com/me-you-and-us  

Our new book is available in eBook format: ! You, Me & Us: Moving Beyond Relational Trauma and Disorder (Anxious/Avoidant Attachment, Codependency, BPD) to Build a Stable, Lasting Relationship. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FC6KCKNT In this episode, we revisit the topic of caretaking and how it can be a tool for strengthening the sense of partnership within a relationship. Thank you for following, liking, reviewing - it helps other people find the podcast. And thank you for reading these notes! Very few people do. 

The 5 Love Languages claims to be a "simple and effective" tool for strengthening your connections. We explore that claim.  Thank you for following, liking, reviewing - it helps other people find the podcast. You can reach us at: http://codependentmind.com The audiobook can be purchased from PayHip. Get your Paperback or eBook copy on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYH7TMZ1

For most of his life, Brian believed that his primary challenge in relationships was mastering the tool of "being present." He thought that if he could just fully grasp this skill, everything in his life and relationships would significantly improve. However, regular listeners to this podcast will recognize that this belief was far from accurate. We discuss how he understood the tool of being present in his past relationships and how he uses it now, in the present.  You can reach us at: http://codependentmind.com Get your Paperback or eBook copy on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYH7TMZ1 The full audiobook can be purchased from our website for only $2.99. http://codependentmind.com Thank you for following, liking, reviewing - it helps other people find the podcast.  

In this episode, we building on the Boundaries episode and talk more about Relationship Boundaries in particular. How can you use relationship boundaries do develop a greater sense of partnership? How do we find a balance between protecting the relationship from outside threats and having expansive enough boundaries that the relationship can continue to grow and thrive? 00:02:19 Relationship status 00:03:37 Family boundaries 00:06:35 Relationship work and boundaries 00:10:27 Relationship boundaries and stability 00:14:10 Outside resources 00:17:48 Rules vs boundaries 00:25:53 Inherited boundaries Thank you for following, liking, reviewing - it helps other people find the podcast. You can reach us at: http://codependentmind.com The audiobook can be purchased from PayHip. Get your Paperback or eBook copy on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYH7TMZ1