Episode 084: We're Back

9 years in the marriage game. Seems like just yesterday we were bombarded with marriage pessimism. The "oh you just wait til the honeymoon phase is over". Marriage is hard at times, but hard in the way that anything worth having is hard. Everyone says the first few years are the hardest, yet Travis and I are facing the hardest years yet. The hard times don't come with arbitrary dates. They come with experience, life changes, and unpredictably. Why is taking out the trash such a common martial problem? Why does Travis hate cooking? lol . We hope you enjoy this catch up.

A little bit of this, a little bit of that, and some sex stuff cause y’all love it. This week Stephanie and Travis discuss getting the “ick” and how couples should approach feelings of “unattractiveness”. Stephanie finds some more evolutionary gems relating to the average age between your children and our ancestral and now non-existent “community”. How are you actively breaking unwanted cycles? Have you taken the type to notice them at all? Travis and Stephanie realize gentle parenting isn't for the weak. In an “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” submission, a listener expresses her resentment for her partner's employee. Are there some jobs that make outside of work superior-subordinate friendships okay? If you would like to add “sexting” as a way to spice things up in your relationship, listen to some of the things our listeners sext. Some are funny, some are straight to the point, and some are SPICY!

Wow, has it really been a month since the last episode? Well Stephanie and Travis are back this week and you might wanna buckle up. Stephanie vents about a lazy performance by Busta Rhymes, compares Missy Elliot to Beyonce and discusses Eli’s first concert performance experience with Young Miko. Travis is very proud of an intimate moment they shared, let’s just say it was kinda queer. This was a moment Travis’ humor was appreciated, but that’s not always the case. Oh So Y’all Can Relate is BACK with a TRIPLE HITTER. Yes 3 back to back submissions. First, a woman questions if her long-term relationship is holding her back, despite her boyfriend ‘trying’ to improve. Another listener is worn out from constantly seeking emotional support from a partner who doesn’t seem to notice her needs. Lastly, an engaged woman feels the pressure of societal expectations and wonders how to balance giving and receiving in her relationship. Of course Travis and Stephanie do their best to advise and encourage them, they might not always agree, but in the end give unified consult.

Hey everyone! Stephanie and Travis are back, still podcasting and sharing their journey. It’s been a busy summer, and the We Still Like Each Other family is proud to embrace their new identity as a "neurospicy" family. In this episode, they dive into a recent diagnosis that has brought much-needed clarity. They also explore how femininity and masculinity shape their hustle and daily lives. Stephanie sheds light on some common misconceptions about postpartum depression, while Travis takes a moment to apologize for the ways he fell short in supporting her through it.

Welcome back to a random drop! In this episode Stephanie and Travis discuss the passing of a loved one, failing a fitness challenge, selfishness, and vasectomies. Sometimes success is found within your failures and sometimes motivation comes from grief. Most of us will denounce being “selfish”, but sometimes selfishness doesn't look obviously selfish. Stephanie and Travis tip toe around a “conversation” that is still too fresh.

Hey! Surprise episode. We talk about Steph's birth story and reflect on 8 years of marriage. Enjoy!

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how hectic things have been in recent weeks. Are we as a culture addicted to the grind? It always feels like after we complete a task we will finally rest only to start a new unexpected task. Is being busy our norm even if we complain about it all the time? Cause if i ain't one thing it's another right? Stephanie discusses walking the line  between celebrating this pregnancy and doing too much influenced by others. Creating life is always worth celebrating, but how do we stop ourselves from celebrating in ways that aren't authentic to who we are? Stephanie and Travis share an amazing gift from a special friend that has allowed them to celebrate this pregnancy in a special way. Although everyone is sick of talking about Will and Jada, the latest revelation that they have been separated since 2016 was worth discussing. So much life happens in 8 years, keeping up false narratives during that amount of time must have been exhausting. Lastly, they talk a little more in depth about perfect attendance awards in childhood and how they impact our worklife in adulthood. What things do you consider before taking a sick day at work? Has our society’s increased awareness of mental health made it easier for working people to take time to take care of themselves or is it just a facade?

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how her views on gifts as a long language may have changed. How should we address our partner when a personal need is not being met in a relationship without discrediting all the other ways your partner shows up for the relationship. Travis actually has a fact based “Did You Know”. When did the color pink become exclusive to girls? F*ck them kids, we revisit this saying from Episode 006. How has our perspective changed on putting your relationship before your kids?

This week Travis and Stephanie dive into a little love in the media and discuss Brittany Renner’s body count and the new season of Love is Blind. Is 35 “bodies” at the age of 31 a lot when you do the math? Lydia is easy to hate, but is Uchee the true villain? This week Travis brings back “Did You Know”, well sorta. Stephanie and him are sort of conflicted on this segment. However, it led to a great discussion on how we start to mimic our partners personality traits. What do you think Stephanie has picked up from Travis' personality and vice versa? Stephanie discusses how she was disappointed in herself for how she spoke about certain things last episode. She recently read “The Mastery of Self” by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. and realized she totally forgot about a major lesson she learned from that book. Stephanie also discusses the chapter “The Role of Family and Friends in Shaping your Habits” from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. Can our evolutionary habit of doing what our friends and family do hold us back from doing what we truly want? Lastly, their discussion about the negative comments they received about having a girl last week blew up on tiktok. It opened their eyes to other deeply rooted issues we have towards baby girls and baby boys. From commenting on weight, neglect, and reinforcing gender norms. If you are in the tri-state area we encourage you to book a mini-fall photo shoot session with Tab Fields who has openings on October 8th and 14th in the New York CIty area. Please inquire with her at Tabfieldsphotography.com/contact This is a great opportunity to get great family photos, couples photos, maternity photos, etc.

We’re back! Did you suspect something was majorly wrong that we took such a long break? Well we break down exactly why we took a break and catch you up with what we’ve been up to. We reveal our baby girl's name. Stephanie gets a little heated talking about how we as a culture need to stop projecting our fears onto others. Why we decided to homeschool and how it's going. What are your thoughts on scheduling sex? We talk about our thoughts on this seemingly cringe tactic. Perhaps there’s something to it. Check out our website as we have added a video and audio option for submitting questions, stories, etc via the contact page.