Why Your Goals Are Making You Miserable

Joe and Tara sat down with our friends at Modern Relationships for a conversation about their relationship—their meet-cute, what happened afterwards, the wisdom they have to share with us, and how they shifted their relationship from abusive to one that you can’t help but want for yourself. Together with Erik Torenberg, they discuss:How to navigate intense triggers and deep emotional challengesThe crucial role of personal growth and transformationPractical strategies for effective communication and conflict resolutionMoving beyond blame and shame to foster genuine mutual understandingEmbracing change and life transitions as opportunities for deeper intimacySend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/exploreThanks to Modern Relationships for hosting this episode. Find more at the links below:SpotifyAppleYouTube

We’re back with a coaching breakdown! In this episode, Joe and Brett dissect a rapid coaching session focused on self-love. They examine the subtle ways our guest has learned to turn away from himself in the presence of others and point out the breadcrumb trail he follows back to self-connection. This offers an opportunity for those of us watching to see ourselves more clearly and turn toward ourselves with love. Watch them explore the barriers and powerful moments of realization that help us move from self-criticism and doubt into genuine self-welcoming and love.Video of this session is available on our YouTube channel: https://youtu.be/n24xPZP1dmQWhat We Cover:Recognizing and dismantling self-critical narrativesPractical steps for cultivating authentic self-loveHow welcoming ourselves can dramatically shift our internal experienceThe role of shame and vulnerability in self-acceptanceWhy genuine self-love is a somatic, experiential practiceSend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

Attunement invites us to listen deeply not only to others but also to ourselves. But what, really, does it mean to attune? How does it work? What happens when you’re attuned? In this episode of The Art of Accomplishment, Tara Howley sits down with Janine Parziale to deep dive into the practice of attunement and discuss:How attunement differs from basic active listeningRecognizing when we are genuinely attuned versus disconnected from ourselves and othersPractical ways attunement can improve communication and relationships in both personal and professional contextsHow attunement can transform conflicts and challenging dynamics into deeper connectionsThe risks and rewards of deep attunementSend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

Brett and Joe uncover the often hidden complexities behind setting and pursuing goals. They reveal how our relationships with goals reflect deeper truths about ourselves and why embracing genuine desires leads not just to accomplishments, but to a richer, more authentic life.They talk about:- Why it's crucial for your goals to reflect what your heart truly wants- How goals reorient us toward creativity and fulfillment- The importance of setting aligned goals- How to use principles and metrics effectively- The importance of celebrating failuresJoin us for a surprising conversation about goal-setting the AOA way.Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudsonBrett on X: @airkistlerAOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore 

Brett and Joe explore how we cope with life’s unpredictability—from global events to personal crises—highlighting why some of us thrive while others falter. In a world of rapid change and unpredictable outcomes, embracing the present moment and adopting clarity in intention can transform uncertainty into a powerful opportunity for growth. They delve into how uncertainty shapes us and how, surprisingly, facing it openly can deepen our relationships and resilience. Join them as they explore:Human tendencies toward control versus adventureCommon pitfalls: optimism, pessimism, and "realism”Practical tools for thriving amid unpredictabilityThe relationship between uncertainty and personal evolutionReal-world stories of navigating uncertaintySend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudsonBrett on X: @airkistlerAOA on X: https://x.com/artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore 

If your relationship with money has ever caused you grief, this glimpse into transformation could point the way to uncovering the root of your own challenges. Bobby Hobert comes to Joe with a question that sounds familiar to many of us: money struggles and how to step into the version of ourselves that feels so close, yet so elusive. What he finds instead is something deeper and messier: the recognition that trying to "get it right" is often the very thing in the way.Together with Joe, Bobby explores:The subtle ways seeking approval can mask as leadershipWhy helping others isn’t always generousThe discomfort (and magic) of not knowing who you areHow stillness can reveal more than striving ever couldSend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudsonBrett on X: @airkistlerAOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore 

When Nathan Baschez saw a tweet from Joe Hudson about how he raised his girls—no punishments, no shame—he had to know more. So when Joe invited him onto the podcast to talk parenting, he jumped at the chance.What unfolds is an honest look at parenting in real time. Joe shares how Hand-in-Hand Parenting shaped his family life, how emotional presence trumps perfection, and how parenting became one of his deepest self-development practices.In this episode, they discuss:The link between emotional connection and behaviorWhat it actually means to "stay with" a child’s emotionsWhy apology and repair are more powerful than being rightAnd how we all inherit emotional patterns — until we choose otherwiseThis is an episode for anyone who’s ever wondered if it’s possible to raise a child without control and whether, in doing so, we might raise ourselves too.Nathan Baschez is a new dad who lives in LA, and the founder of Lex (https://lex.page), a new kind of word processor that uses AI to help you go deeper and have more fun while writing. Before this, he co-founded Every, and was the first employee at Substack.Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

We grow up in a world where seeking approval is assumed, expected. Authority figures (like parents) assume the responsibility of approval or disapproval to teach their offspring how to move through the world. It’s also a kind of currency: it determines who we are, where we belong, what doors open for us. But at some point, some of us begin to wonder—what happens if I stop asking for permission? In this episode, Joe and Brett wrestle with the complexity of approval-seeking and how to break free from it. They explore:The push and pull between belonging and authenticityThe weight of societal norms and expectationThe way doubt and conditioning pull us from our innate wisdomThe necessity of discomfort in the pursuit of true authenticityThe somatic cues that indicate when we are honoring our truth—or avoiding itPractical exercises for cultivating self-approvalSend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudsonBrett on X: @airkistlerAOA on X: @artofaccompVisit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

There is a moment when the body becomes foreign, when the timeline of your life no longer extends indefinitely but narrows into an unpredictable horizon. In this episode, Tara sits down with Michael Nagel, a beloved member of the AOA community, to speak candidly about what it means to love and be loved in the face of his cancer diagnosis. They discuss:The “psychedelic of mortality”—how the nearness of death transforms personal and social dynamicsEmbracing the support of a community while wrestling with the vulnerability of needing helpThe stark cost-benefit analysis of chemotherapyThe dual forces of grief and gratitude, and learning to hold both at onceDenial’s strange and necessary role in maintaining the will to live.The radical act of saying yes to struggle, and what it means to want life even in its hardest momentsJoin us for a conversation that explores what it means to live when death is an ever-present companion.Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore

Generosity is often relegated to a bit part in our lives, an incidental thing we appreciate when we notice it but not something we consider important to driving our happiness or success. What happens when we put generosity at the center?In this episode of The Art of Accomplishment, Brett Kistler and Joe Hudson unpack the ways in which giving—whether of time, resources, or presence—is a direct line to our collective humanity and changes the trajectory of our well-being and sense of wholeness.They touch on:The unspoken generosity of cultures that thrive on givingHow generosity exposes our attachments—our need to be seen, to be in control, to matterThe difference between obligation and true generosityMoments where generosity is a lifeline, a language between people when words failThe ways in which loss, grief, and generosity intersectThe article Brett wrote and referenced in the podcast can be found here: https://open.substack.com/pub/inneradventure/p/welcome-to-iran?r=30w17r&utm_medium=iosSend us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community! Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore