502. Why You Don't Ask for What You Want (& How to Start to Change It)

Why do we wear makeup, and does it even matter? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener question about makeup and body image. I explain why wearing makeup is a personal choice and often a form of self-expression, not a reflection of whether you have done the inner work to love your body.I also tackle a question about humility and how it can be useful in managing your mind. This episode shows how examining the thoughts behind your choices, about humility, appearance, and social expectations can shift your perspective and reduce unnecessary self-judgment.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/505Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoachingFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:The Socratic Coaching Method CertificationEnrollment for the next cohort is open. This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more. Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong. Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoachingEnroll in The Socratic Coaching Method Certification

This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more.Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong.Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoaching

Joy doesn’t always arrive when you expect it, and sometimes it shows up when life feels the hardest. In this episode, I talk about making space for joy with Kate Bowler, a professor at Duke University, 5x bestselling author, and host of the podcast Everything Happens. We discuss why happiness is overhyped, how microjoys and unexpected moments can interrupt your day, and why cultural narratives often make women feel like they are failing if life isn’t constantly “good.”This conversation is a reminder that joy is not something you can control or manufacture. It shows up when you are paying attention, when you let your guard down, and when you allow yourself to be human. Listening will help you notice the small delights, accept life’s unpredictability, and welcome joy into your day, even when everything else feels messy or uncertain.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/504Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoachingFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Learn more about Kate's work, books, podcast, and more here: https://katebowler.com/Mentioned in this episode:The Socratic Coaching Method CertificationEnrollment for the next cohort is open. This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more. Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong. Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoachingEnroll in The Socratic Coaching Method Certification

Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to a sibling and feeling stuck in resentment and rivalry? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I break down why most of that tension is coming from your own thoughts and judgments, and how noticing those patterns can change the way you relate to your family.I also answer a listener question about parenting a child with a chronic illness. Many parents feel anxious because they believe it is their job to control their child’s health. I break down why the anxiety comes not from the medical reality but from the thoughts you're having. This episode is all about seeing where your reactions really come from, reducing unnecessary stress, and interacting with your family and loved ones with more clarity and ease.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/503Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoachingFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:The Socratic Coaching Method CertificationEnrollment for the next cohort is open. This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more. Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong. Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoachingEnroll in The Socratic Coaching Method Certification

Whether you’re still deciding if coaching is the path for you – or wondering why your sessions don’t feel as powerful as you know they could – this one-hour masterclass gives you the clarity and tools to move forward.JUNE 26, 202612 p.m. – 1p.m. ETClick here to enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/coach-curious-masterclass

When is the last time you actually asked for what you wanted when you were nervous? Not hinted, not hoped someone would notice, not talked yourself out of it. In this episode, I explore why women often suppress desires, needs, and wants in daily life, from small asks like an hour to yourself to bigger moments like negotiating at work or in relationships.You'll hear why thoughts like "I shouldn’t need this" or "it won’t matter" stop you from asking, even when it’s possible to get what you want. I also explain how to start noticing and understanding these patterns in your own life so you can begin to act differently. This episode helps you reconnect with your wants, build confidence in asking for them, and create a life that reflects your real needs and preferences.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/502Watch this episode over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoachingFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:The Socratic Coaching Method CertificationEnrollment for the next cohort is open. This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more. Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong. Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoachingEnroll in The Socratic Coaching Method Certification

Many people assume coaching is only for those who want to run a full-time coaching business, but coaching skills can actually be applied in almost any role. In this bonus episode, I explore three ways you can integrate coaching into other jobs. Whether you’re a manager, team leader, HR professional, or working for another coach, understanding the mental models that drive behavior can transform how you lead, influence, and support others.Even if you never plan to coach professionally, this episode highlights the ways coaching changes how you show up in your own life. By learning to notice the thoughts behind behavior, take responsibility for your own reactions, and approach others with curiosity, you can improve communication, manage reactivity, and build better relationships at work and at home.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/bonus-coaching-other-jobsFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:The Socratic Coaching Method CertificationEnrollment for the next cohort is open. This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more. Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong. Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoachingEnroll in The Socratic Coaching Method Certification

Social media can be a surprisingly powerful tool when it comes to changing how you think about your body. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener question about using intentional visual exposure on social media to improve body image. I explain why deliberately engaging with images that reflect diverse and relatable bodies can help retrain your brain’s perceptions, and why it is important to practice these thoughts in a variety of situations, not just while scrolling social media .Then, I tackle what happens when a partner shuts down during an argument. You'll hear why labeling your partner as sulking or ignoring amplifies your reaction, and why taking responsibility for your feelings is the key to staying grounded and connected. This episode shows how to separate thoughts from circumstances so you can feel less desperate, more in control, and more present in your relationships and your own mind.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/501Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:The Socratic Coaching Method CertificationEnrollment for the next cohort is open. This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more. Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong. Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoachingEnroll in The Socratic Coaching Method Certification

Have you been wondering whether coaching could be a career path for you, or something you bring into the work you're already doing?If you can't stop thinking about that, this episode is for you. What it means to be a coach today is far more varied and interesting than most people assume, and most of you are better suited for it than you realize. I explain who is well-suited for coaching, what it actually entails, and how it can fit into different professional and personal contexts.I also address the misconceptions that tend to stop people before they start, including MLMs, pyramid schemes, and the idea that you can only make money by coaching other coaches. Coaching is a real job, it can be full-time, part-time, or integrated into your current career, and a solid certification makes all the difference in building something sustainable.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/bonus-coaching-careerFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Learn more about Coach Curious Prep School here: unfuckyourbrain.com/curiousMentioned in this episode:The Socratic Coaching Method CertificationEnrollment for the next cohort is open. This 7-month certification program includes intensive training and plenty of space for practice and integration. We've got coach practicum calls, live coaching feedback sessions, and more. Whether you're thinking of starting your own business or side hustle, you want to incorporate coaching into your existing career, or if you're already a coach and want to refine your skills, the Socratic Coaching Method Certification is where you belong. Click here to learn more and enroll: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/socraticcoachingEnroll in The Socratic Coaching Method Certification

Coach-Curious Prep School is a 5-day incubator where you'll learn if coaching is the right career for you, what you need to do to prepare for a successful coaching career, and the next steps to take to begin – or expand – your life as a coach.It's happening June 22-26, 2026.Click here to learn more and register: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/curious