279 The Quiet Season: Healing, Routine, and "Nothing to Talk About"

The Quiet Season: Healing, Routine, and "Nothing to Talk About" Patricia (she/her) reflects on a quiet, low-drama season of life and how emotional regulation, routine, and healing can create a sense of calm—but also unexpected challenges for creativity and productivity. She shares honest insights about AuDHD, executive functioning struggles, and the difficulty of initiating tasks when life slows down. Patricia also explores her deep connection to animals, the role of caregiving in neurodivergent lives, and how simplicity, routine, and lower expectations are supporting her wellbeing right now. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE ·  Living with less emotional reactivity can feel unfamiliar (and even uncomfortable) ·  A calm, drama-free life may feel "boring"… but it's actually a sign of healing ·  Creativity doesn't always flow when life is stable and predictable ·  Many neurodivergent folks create best from lived experience, not forced topics ·  Lowering expectations can reduce overwhelm and increase peace ·  Routine (like paddling, aquafit, dog walks) provides grounding and stability ·  Executive functioning challenges can show up more when external pressure is low ·  "Nothing getting done" ≠ failure — it may reflect a nervous system shift ·  Caretaking (especially of animals) can feel easier than self-care ·  A strong sense of responsibility can override inertia for others, but not for self ·  Animals provide emotional regulation, connection, and daily structure ·  Grief around pets looks different for different people—and that's valid ·  Neurodivergent people may deeply bond with animals in a way that feels natural and fulfilling ·  Life becoming "smaller" can be a protective, restorative phase ·  It's okay to pause, slow down, or rethink content creation rhythms   SOUND BITES ·  "There just is not a lot of drama going on in my life—and I am deeply, deeply grateful." ·  "It feels like a very simple, quiet time in my life… which I really appreciate." ·  "I do my best recording when something is happening—and right now, things are just calm." ·  "Sometimes it's easier to take care of others than it is to take care of ourselves." ·  "It's okay when there's not a lot going on."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  LINKS  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

The Radical Neurodivergent Act of Stopping Before You're Exhausted Patricia (she/her) shares what it's like when life is actuall calm. Without drama or big stories to tell, she reflects on learning to honor her energy limits. Patricia talks about pacing physical activity, noticing the urge to push past fatigue, and practicing self-compassion when her body needs rest. She also shares everyday moments—from kayaking at sunrise to navigating workouts and dog walks—while exploring what it means for autistic and neurodivergent people to find the "sweet spot" between doing enough and doing too much. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE ·       Sometimes life is peaceful and stable—and that can make content creation surprisingly hard. ·       Many creatives and neurodivergent people are used to generating insight during moments of stress or conflict. ·       Learning to honor calm periods can be a form of nervous system healing. ·       Patricia reflects on getting back into kayaking and being on the water, which brings joy and grounding. ·       Physical energy levels can change over time, especially with chronic illness or post-exertional malaise. ·       Pacing physical activity is an ongoing learning process. ·       The urge to "do just one more thing" can push the body past its limits. ·       Choosing to stop while still feeling okay can prevent a crash later. ·       Post-exertional malaise (PEM) can cause significant fatigue after physical or cognitive exertion. ·       Some autistic and neurodivergent people experience PEM, especially with hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (hEDS) or related conditions. ·       Finding the sweet spot between movement and rest is an ongoing experiment. ·       Overexertion can lead to days of fatigue that disrupt daily functioning. ·       Practicing restraint—doing less than your maximum—can actually support long-term wellbeing. ·       Asking for help, like getting assistance with moving a kayak, is part of sustainable energy management. ·       Even small tasks can become energy-intensive when managing chronic fatigue. ·       Devices and metrics (like watches and headphones) can sometimes create frustration rather than helpful feedback. ·       Everyday moments—like figuring out how to climb out of a pool—can become humorous reflections on aging and energy limits. ·       Patricia shares updates about family, travel plans, and caring for pets while balancing energy. ·       OCD thoughts still pop up, but she practices noticing and naming them rather than getting pulled into them. ·       Life doesn't always need drama to be meaningful—sometimes calm and connection are enough. SOUND BITES · "I create my best content when there's drama—but I don't actually want any drama." · "Everything is going really well right now… and I just don't have a lot to talk about." · "I'm really practicing holding back a little so there's something left in the tank." · "It's that balance—enough stimulation but not too much, enough movement but not too much."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com   LINKS   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review"   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Yes, I Twisted My Ankle. Yes, I Peed a Little Patricia Young (she/her) explores how change— even neutral change — can feel dysregulating, especially for autistic and neurodivergent people. From shifting family schedules and unexpected travel changes to navigating awkward neighbor dynamics and social gray areas, she shares real-life examples of practicing flexibility instead of binary thinking. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE ·       Why neutral change can still feel deeply dysregulating ·       The nervous system impact of shifting routines ·       Family schedule changes and the emotional whiplash that can follow ·       Anticipating the worst when others are gone ·       Grumbly thinking vs. reality when loved ones return ·       The binary autistic brain: all-or-nothing thinking patterns ·       Practicing middle ground instead of rigidity ·       Adjusting dog-walking routines without spiraling ·       Letting your body rest without labeling it as failure ·       Listening to fatigue cues after high-output days ·       Using structure for regulation without becoming trapped by it ·       Creating supportive environments (like curating a digital photo frame) ·       Finding connection through shared routines (AquaFit, food, walking dogs) ·       Traveling compatibility and how that reveals relational ease ·       Learning to self-regulate instead of outsourcing emotional regulation ·       Missing daily co-regulation but recognizing growth ·       Letting go of shame around aging-body moments (the sneeze/cough reality) ·       Neighbor conflict and not over-personalizing hostility ·       Rejection sensitivity and the meaning we attach to social behavior ·       Practicing social gray areas: cordial vs. friend vs. enemy SOUND BITES  · "Change isn't good or bad. But it can still be hard." · "Just because I feel grumbly doesn't mean that's the truth." · "It doesn't have to be all or nothing. There is a middle ground." · "It's not a failure to rest. It's listening to my body."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Insurance Denials, Unexpected Connection Hacks and a Kitten with a Foot Fetish Patricia Young (she/her) shares a "mishmash" of real-time reflections on disappointment, expectations, nervous system shifts, and the everyday emotional intensity of being AuDHD. From insurance frustrations and PDA autonomy struggles to surprising connection hacks like a digital picture frame, Patricia explores what it means to be neurodivergent in a world full of unpredictability. This episode is a gentle reminder that big feelings are valid, connection can show up unexpectedly, and sensitivity is nothing to apologize for. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · The emotional whiplash of going from calm to dysregulated in minutes · How autistic and AuDHD nervous systems respond to sudden disappointment · The impact of insurance denial and loss of autonomy (PDA profile) · Why "doing the next indicated step" can be grounding · The difference between pushing through vs. honoring rest · Patricia's experience as a verbal processor and why venting helps · The autistic struggle of wanting specificity but needing to stay vague · How gifts outside your frame of reference can initially trigger discomfort · A surprising digital picture frame "object permanence" connection hack · The neurodivergent reality of out-of-sight, out-of-mind relationships · Internalized self-judgment about what we "should" value · How accommodations from safe people feel deeply regulating · The joy of being supported without shame or inconvenience · Navigating sensory overwhelm in loud restaurants with Loop earplugs · How trusted relationships can invite novelty without dysregulation · The concept of "burnt toast" moments — when bad things lead to better outcomes · Grief, rage, and relief that can come with late autism diagnosis · The pain of expectations falling flat in relationships · Rejection sensitivity showing up even with pets (hello, Walter the kitten) · The reminder that neurodivergent big feelings are human and shared   SOUND BITES  · "My window of tolerance is increasing. I can just sit with more uncomfortable things." · "Sometimes just doing the next indicated step is how we move through things." · "I wouldn't have asked for a digital picture frame… and it ended up being a great hack for connection." · "I feel so seen and so accommodated — and there's nothing about 'you're too much.'" · "There's nothing wrong with you. You're not alone. We're just wired the way we are."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unbothered, Unmasked, and Still Showing Up: Why Neurodivergent People Do the Hard Things for Others Patricia Young (she/her) explores what it means to show up for others as an AuDHDer. She reflects on value-driven behavior, executive functioning challenges, internalized ableism, grief, rest, and the deep relief of living an "unbothered life." Through personal stories about partnership, support, sensory overwhelm, initiation struggles, and authentic connection, this episode invites listeners to rethink productivity, compassion, and what real belonging looks like when we stop masking and start honoring our nervous systems. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · Why neurodivergent people often do hard things for others but struggle to do the same things for themselves · The difference between preference vs. values (and why values often override sensory limits) · A real-life example of showing up for an important ritual despite overwhelm · How gratitude and being seen can make difficult experiences feel meaningful · The "Soup Jean" metaphor: values-based caregiving and automatic compassion · Why some people are confused by generosity—and how that reflects differing value systems · Letting go of mental noise and choosing an unbothered life · OCD, intrusive thoughts, and giving your brain limited airtime instead of full control · "Not my circus, not my monkeys" as a neurodivergent boundary tool · Executive functioning struggles with task initiation (especially for autistic & ADHD adults) · How supportive partners can initiate without infantilizing · Internalized ableism and the fear of "What if I have to do this alone someday?" · The myth that trying harder fixes ADHD and autistic challenges · Compassion for inconsistent energy, productivity, and capacity · Capitalism, productivity culture, and why rest feels morally loaded · Why systems (homes for objects) matter more than willpower · Everyday executive functioning examples (milk, groceries, unfinished tasks) · When to step in to support vs. letting natural consequences happen · Communicating needs during grief without over-explaining or masking · Redefining intimacy: showing up tired, quiet, grumpy, or grieving—and still belonging   SOUND BITES  · "There are things I struggle to do for myself that I would do without hesitation for people I love—because that's my value system." · "I don't want things taking up space in my head that don't belong to me anymore." · "Just because I can do something one day doesn't mean I can do it the next—and that's not a moral failure." · "Rest isn't laziness. It's information." · "You can't screw up being you."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

The Day My Nervous System Chose Violence (Internally) Patricia Young (she/her) explores what happens when big feelings meet medication changes, OCD spirals, and unmet needs. Through a vulnerable personal story about adjusting OCD medication, asking for support, and reacting more intensely than expected, Patricia reflects on autism, relational OCD, RSD, and trauma responses. She also discusses how to hold grief and joy at the same time, how to create meaning when life is profoundly unfair, and why it's okay to share joy without making yourself smaller. This episode is a compassionate reminder that awareness, baseline tracking, and self-permission are key tools for sensitive and neurodivergent people navigating relationships, mental health, and change. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · Big reactions aren't character flaws — they're often signals, especially for autistic and OCD brains · Medication changes can remove protective buffers, even when life circumstances are stable · Asking for what you want can activate PDA, RSD, and old relational wounds · OCD often pulls in "evidence" and tallying to justify emotional pain · Feeling justified doesn't mean the story is accurate — it means the feelings are loud · You can manage your behavior externally while still experiencing internal emotional chaos · Walking, movement, and problem-solving can help — but they don't erase vulnerability · A "hard day" doesn't mean failure — it means data · Knowing your emotional baseline is critical when adjusting meds · It's okay to decide that you don't want more days like that · You don't have to accept injustice to learn how to live alongside it · Two truths can exist at the same time: devastation and joy · Therapy and coaching work best when clients feel safe giving feedback · Neurodivergent-affirming practitioners change the entire therapeutic experience · You don't have to make yourself small to protect others from discomfort SOUND BITES   · "It wasn't about the coffee — it was about how big everything felt in my body." · "The bigger my feelings got, the more justification my brain wanted." · "This hasn't been my baseline — and that matters." · "I don't think this is something you ever 'accept,' but you can still create meaning." · "I don't want to live a life where I write people off when I'm overwhelmed."   SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. CHAPTERS (PLEASE ALLOW FOR ADDITION OF INTRO) 00:00 Navigating Big Feelings and Reactions 21:13 Creating Meaning Amidst Unfairness 34:21 Embracing Joy and New Experiences PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

The Holidays: A Group Project My Nervous System Didn't Agree To In this New Year's episode, Patricia Young (she/her) explores why the holiday season can be especially challenging for autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD nervous systems. Through personal stories about gift giving, overstimulation, masking, PDA, rejection sensitivity, and the need for sameness and predictability, she unpacks how small changes and social expectations can quietly dysregulate neurodivergent people. The episode also includes updates on her purple hair and tattoo, reflections on attunement and fairness, and a gentle alternative to New Year's resolutions—offering practical categories for reflection that center self-compassion, regulation, and realistic support. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · Why holidays are uniquely overstimulating for neurodivergent nervous systems · How transitions, visitors, and disrupted routines impact regulation · The role of predictability, sameness, and visual memory in autistic well-being · Why gift giving can activate PDA, executive dysfunction, and shame · How attunement in gift giving can feel deeply regulating—and deeply stressful · The pressure to perform gratitude and enthusiasm while masking discomfort · Why opening gifts in front of others can be overwhelming for autistic adults · How fairness, justice sensitivity, and reciprocity complicate holiday dynamics · The emotional labor involved in "doing it right" socially · How body doubling supports assertiveness and nervous system regulation · Why small environmental changes can create disproportionate stress · The difference between order as regulation versus control · How animals, sensory joy, and flexibility can increase tolerance for chaos · Reflections on regret, learning, and doing things differently over time · Why curiosity and problem-solving are often misunderstood in autistic communication · How rejection sensitivity and object permanence affect relationships · A compassionate alternative to New Year's resolutions · Reflective life categories including health, finances, relationships, self-care, creativity, home, and novelty · Why survival mode is sometimes the only valid goal · A reminder that sensitivity is wiring—not a flaw   SOUND BITES ·       "Our nervous systems really do best with sameness, repetition, and predictability." ·       "Masking is all about making other people feel comfortable—and that's a lot of work." ·       "Regret doesn't mean you did something wrong. It means you're learning." ·       "You have a right to be regulated, dysregulated, organized, disorganized, content, or discontent." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. CHAPTERS (PLEASE ALLOW FOR ADDITION OF INTRO) 00:00 Navigating Holiday Challenges 10:06 The Complexity of Gift Giving 20:39 Reflections on Relationships and Expectations 29:26 Looking Ahead: New Year Reflections PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  LINKS  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Bold Moves: Purple Hair, a Tattoo, and No Take-Backs Patricia (she/her) reflects on what it really means to make bold moves—and how we talk to ourselves when those decisions don't land the way we hoped. Through the very real experiences of dyeing her hair purple for the first time and getting a tattoo she isn't sure she likes, she explores autistic decision-making, sensory overwhelm, masking, regret, and self-compassion. This episode is about reframing regret as information, honoring neurodivergent needs in the moment, and learning how to be kinder to ourselves when we take risks and feel unsure afterward. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE ·  End-of-year reflection: How has this year been, and what are we carrying into the next one? · The desire to make bold moves—and the fear that often comes with them · Deciding to dye hair purple for the first time · Letting excitement, doubt, and second-guessing coexist · Experiencing a deeply neurodivergent-affirming salon appointment · The importance of predictability, process explanations, and bodily autonomy · Getting over-hungry, tech issues, and how small barriers can cascade into overwhelm · Allowing a meltdown in a safe space instead of masking through it · Not knowing immediately whether you like something—and the pressure to perform enthusiasm · Scheduling a tattoo the very next day as another bold move · Sensory overload, unexpected pain, and difficulty advocating in the moment · Masking through physical pain and being praised for "doing great" · Immediate tattoo regret and the awareness of permanence · Naming regret without spiraling into shame or self-blame · Reframing regret as data, not a moral failure · Disconnecting from the body temporarily as a coping strategy · How rigid rules around food, ownership, and permission show up in autistic lives · The power of communicating needs instead of carrying silent embarrassment · Challenging the belief that we must always make the "right" decision · Ending with reminders about gentleness, lowered expectations, and honoring sensitivity SOUND BITES · "The goal was to make bold moves—and I did." · "It's okay to have regrets. That doesn't mean I did something wrong." · "I allowed myself to feel what I was feeling instead of masking and falling apart later." · "What we tell ourselves about our experiences matters more than the experience itself." · "Sensitivity is nothing to apologize for. It's how your brain is wired." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  LINKS  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Keeping it Real During the Holidays: p.s. I Love the Grinch! Patricia (she/her) dives into the emotional and sensory whirlwind of navigating change as an AuDHDer during the holiday season. She unpacks the exhaustion that comes from shifting family dynamics, unpredictable routines, kitten chaos, people coming and going, and the desire to show up with more capacity than she actually has. Patricia speaks candidly about shutdowns, resentment, communication misfires and boundary-setting. This episode invites listeners to honor their own wiring, acknowledge their limits, and give themselves permission to navigate change on their own terms—especially when the world is loud, messy, and demanding far too much. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE ·   The emotional weight of constant change during the holidays ·  Why autistic and AuDHD nervous systems struggle with unpredictability ·  How people coming and going can destabilize daily rhythms ·  Sensory overwhelm from decorations, noise, and social expectations ·  The shutdown mode that follows too much "peopling" ·  Resentment that canform when needs aren't communicated directly ·  That awkward dance between wanting to show up and feeling over capacity ·  Kitten chaos as both joy and sensory overload ·  Feeling responsible for everyone's experience (hello, people-pleasing!) ·  The grief of not feeling safe to voice your values or boundaries ·  Family conflict and the ripple effects on your emotional regulation ·  Why inconsistency can be draining for some neurodivergent brains ·  The need for predictability, routines, and familiar sensory anchors ·  Internalized pressure to be "easygoing," especially around holidays ·  The truth-telling wisdom of the body when burnout hits ·  "Harvest feast" (aka Thanksgiving) recovery mode ·  Observing subtle family dynamics that others overlook ·  Using pacing and gentle self-compassion to navigate the season ·  How even positive changes can be dysregulating ·  The reminder that honoring your limits is an act of self-love SOUND BITES ·  "Change really affects me. I overdid it, and now my body is telling the truth." ·  "Even things that you enjoy can be dysregulating and overwhelming." ·  "If someone could respond differently, they would—we're not choosing to have difficulty with change." ·  "Inconsistency is very difficult for me; it's not about the tree, it's about the mismatch." ·  "I think what I call depression is really resentment for not being direct." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Boring Means Stable: Learning to Love Ordinary Days In this honest, meandering, and heart-centered solo episode, Patricia Young (she/her) opens up about feeling "not enough," while navigating overwhelm, managing PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy. From decluttering and kayaking to the quiet comfort of boring days and the challenges of social invitations, Patricia invites listeners into the gentle, nonlinear process of living authentically as an AuDHDer. With humor and tenderness, she explores aging, family connection, holidays, and what it means to find peace amid imperfection. WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE · ·  Warm check-in and reflection on recording after a long pause. ·  Questioning whether to focus on educational autism content vs. personal lived experiences. ·  Feeling conflicted about being "self-centered" but recognizing that stories are teaching. ·  Update on absence of neighborhood drama and emotional regulation progress. ·  Learning to accept being perceived and misunderstood without spiraling into shame. ·  The liberating philosophy of the "We Do Not Care Club" — embracing authenticity and dropping people-pleasing. ·  Honest reflections on living in a chronic state of "not enoughness." ·  Managing overwhelm, task initiation struggles, and executive dysfunction. ·  The surprising victory of small tasks — like finally writing and depositing a check. ·  Adjusting OCD medication and rediscovering emotional depth and aliveness. ·  The tension between stability, boredom, and gratitude. ·  Recognizing that neurotypical spaces often feel flat or alienating, while "your people" bring out your voice. ·  The resistance around novelty and social invitations, even for enjoyable experiences. ·  The humor and vulnerability of sharing internal dialogue with accepting friends. ·  ADHD-fueled hobby cycles, clutter, and the emotional complexity of decluttering as an ND person. ·  Reflections on attachment to objects, trauma, and "don't touch my stuff" energy. ·  Navigating change, potential regret, and the push-pull between freedom and familiarity. ·  Anticipating the kids moving in—balancing excitement, companionship, and uncertainty. ·  Thoughts on the holidays, overstimulation, and why Thanksgiving feels grounding and joyful. ·  PDA flare-ups, avoidance of even beneficial demands, and compassion for executive fatigue. SOUND BITES ·  "I've really been in this era of not enough. Whatever I do just doesn't feel like enough." ·  "People are going to have their own thoughts and judgments about us — and we can't control that." ·  "I'm just trying to appreciate boring days, because boring means stable." ·  "Even when it's something that will help me, if it feels like a demand, my brain just says no." ·  "You are not for everybody, and everyone is not for you." SENSITIVITY IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR; IT'S HOW YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED You are not broken. You were shaped by systems that weren't built for you. You deserve rest, joy, and support exactly as you are. TOPICS COVERED (please adjust for addition of introduction) 00:00 Navigating Personal Updates and Autism Awareness PODCAST HOST Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcasts Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com LINKS  We Do Not Care Club IG-justbeingmelani www.wedonotcareclub.com To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select "listen on Apple Podcasts" chose "open in itunes" choose "ratings and reviews" click to rate the number of starts click "write a review" Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv Unapologetically AuDHD Podcast-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologeticallyaudhd/ e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com