A Year of Ruined Orgasms

Question: How much do YOU think about your penis? Ms Erika realized we haven’t done an episode ON da dick – oh sure, we talk a lot about what we (and you) DO with a penis but not the organ itself. So, today’s episode is all about your cock.DOES PENIS SIZE REALLY MATTER?Hear the Femdom answer to questions about penis size. Our comments might surprise you.Other questions we answer include:Will she like my cock?Am I big enough for her?Will I last long enough to please a woman?Am I a disappointment in bed?Since we do have a lot of experiences with all sorts of cocks, we talk about ways to increase or decrease penis sensitivity and how we use these techniques in Distance Domination. Some chastity pets love the idea of permanent chastity. Is that a real thing? We’ll answer that question and several questions from sissy subs who want to know about clitty shrinkage from extreme chastity training.Whether you have big dick energy, a more modest offering, or a cute little clitty tucked away, this episode is your masterclass in pensis 101.DISCORD:  LDWErika and [email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Imagine surrendering your pleasure completely—not through denial, but through a ruined orgasm. Now, imagine a full year of this feeling. That’s what happened to a treasured submissive and you’ll hear all about Maxxie in this episode.Mistress Erika decided she wanted to try out a year of ruined orgasms and volunteered her treasured pet Maxxie Petunia. In this episode you’ll find out:What a ruined orgasm is and how it differs from a full orgasm.The difference between orgasm denail and a ruined orgasm.Role of chastity in this adventureYou’ll hear how Ms Erika used ruined orgasms not as punishment, but as a tool for transformation, leaving an indelible mark on Maxxie’s sexuality. We discuss the psychology behind this practice—is it chastity with a twist, or something entirely different when the body learns to leak instead of explode? After all, Maxxie’s journey wasn’t just about physical frustration; it was about leaning into her feminine journey: girly masturbation, embracing chastity discipline, and discovering an automatic instinct to ruin her own pleasure even when restrictions were lifted. This type of Dominant/submissive edge play is intense and not for everyone. It requires a foundation of trust and connection that developed over years of Distance Domination. Ms Erika shares what surprised her most about Maxxie’s behavior and how this experiment actually strengthened their bond.Are you curious about whether ruined orgasms could rewire your own desires? Wondering if you could handle the psychological challenge of trading explosive pleasure for lingering submission?Join us to find out what happens when you trust a Mistress to change your body’s most basic instincts.What would a year of ruined orgasms do to your mind?Get in touch:DISCORD: LDWOlivia and [email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Are kinky people genuinely happier than their vanilla counterparts? It’s a provocative question we’re diving into on this week’s episode.Recent research suggests that practitioners of consensual BDSM often report higher emotional stability and relationship satisfaction than the general population. But here’s the fascinating nuance we explore: is this correlation or causation? Are we drawn to power exchange because we’re already resilient, or does the lifestyle actively create that resilience? Could the structured vulnerability of kink conversations be the cause?You hear a lot about “authenticity” but what is it really? What does it mean when you stop performing and start being? Your Femdom hosts tell stories from our personal lives and we highlight the experiences of several treasured pets:    Slut Pie: Ms Olivia’s birthday celebration with slut pie and Ms Erika.    Maxie: a full year of ruined orgasmssub C on his journey from “kinda kinky” to full surrender. There is a reason BDSM dungeons are called play spaces - that combination of curiosity without judgment that creates the unique combination of safety and excitement.Then there’s the Paradox of Freedom — that delicious counterintuitive truth where submission creates liberation. When you enter subspace, you narrow your focus; the endless, anxiety-inducing options of modern life dissolve into one clear directive. You give up agency and gain purpose. For many submissives, this controlled release becomes a form of self-care.Perhaps most importantly, we examine how kink forces us to become expert communicators. When you must articulate what you want and don’t want that's a learned skill. The Femdom and sub talk about hard limits, aftercare needs, deepest desires, life and more you develop emotional intelligence that translates far beyond the dungeon. It’s learned behavior — and yes, we’ll absolutely tell you if you’re not communicating well, because transformation happens in that ability to communicate honesty.So, are kinky people happier? The research — and our years guiding countless journeys through Distance Domination — suggests yes. Not because the whips and chains are magic, but because kink demands we show up fully, speak truthfully, and accept ourselves completely.When was the last time you gave yourself permission to be that authentic?Get in touch!DISCORD: LDWOlivia and [email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

What if the most powerful collar you’ll ever wear is the one no one else can see? In this episode, we introduce you to something we call the invisible collar. While this episode is primarily aimed at sissies and those into feminization, some of the concepts work for anyone who is submissive and yearning to keep in touch with that side.Topics include:What is an invisible collar?Do you have to be a collared sissy to use these concepts?Are you nervous that your transformation will require a complete life overhaul and you’re not ready for that? How habit stacking can keep you in touch with your submissive and/or sissy feelings.We give specific examples of ways to anchor your submission to an automatic daily ritual that you already do. That’s the invisible collar in action. We give examples of how small, sustainable acts—a swipe of vanilla lip balm, typing emails in a girly font, or the secret swish of panties under your suit—are a reminder of your identity that keeps your feminine self “just under the surface” rather than buried and forgotten.But does it actually work? Can these micro-moments truly rewrite your neural pathways?Absolutely. We share real-world examples (yes, including that time we tracked Jasmine’s progress through spreadsheets until life exploded, forcing us to retool with grace). You’ll learn why accountability matters, and why praise is perhaps the most underrated tool in a Mistress’s arsenal for building sissy confidence.We also tackle the sticky reality of resistance. When routine becomes white noise, how do you keep the spark alive? The answer lies in curated unpredictability: mixing secure structure with creative “homework” like AI-enhanced image play or persona exploration that pushes boundaries while respecting your vanilla commitments.Whether you’re a curious beginner terrified of imbalance or a seasoned sissy craving deeper integration, this conversation offers a roadmap for wearing your collar 24/7—even if only we can see it.Get in touch:DISCORD: LDWOlivia and [email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy

We answer YOUR questions today focusing on your questions about us - as a Femdom Mistress, sex worker, Pro Domme, woman, and human. Here are the questions:"Do you really like all the kinks you engage in?""What kind of session is challenging for you?""What have we coerced people into IRL vs phone?”“Do Dominants ever keep parts of their personal lives or personalities separate from their dominant persona? Why?“What is something about you as a Femdom that most people would find shocking?”“Do Dominants ever feel vulnerable with their submissives?”“Have you ever said no to a session? Why?”“Is there anything we know about men by doing this that other women may not?”This is real talk from real women about sex, BDSM and kink, being a sex worker and what we think about YOU as we do:Humiliation sessions, cum eating training and Giantess scenes.Talk with you about BDSM terms SSC and RACK. SSC is safe, sane and consensual. RACK is risk aware consensual kink.How we feel if a session goes sideways or wrong in a session. And, how often men masturbate.Get in touch!DISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErikahttps://intelligentphonefantasy.com/[email protected] [email protected] Phone Fantasy

This episode is for kinky people looking for face-to-face romantic connection with a Dominant Woman. Our conversation with our guest, Goddess Demi, was inspired by a question from a sissy but we think anyone looking for power exchange can find this useful.Have you tried to find kinky dating connections and gotten very discouraged? You’re not alone. We’re here to remind you that the work and growth you put in will pay off but it will likely take longer than you think or want. We offer specific suggestions where to find Dominant Women:BDSM Munch: casual environment to meet people that belong to a local BDSM group.Volunteer in the community - be of service before you have a partner, we all notice who does this.Queer spaces, drag shows and burlesque events.You might be deep into feminization or simply a submissive man yearning for a Female-led relationship, we want you to succeed. It’s important that you are happy and fulfilled so we try to use our experience to help you find what you’re looking for.Get in touch!DISCORD: LDWDemi, LDWErika, and LDWOliviaGoddess [email protected] Demi’s blog:  Sensual Cock TeaseMistress [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyMistress [email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced Mistress

Navigating dating is challenging. It can be even more difficult if someone is kinky. Today’s episode is inspired by a sissy dating question brought to us by Goddess Demi. Ms Demi, joins the podcast to explore this and add her advice.Here’s the inspiration and the question from a sissy who just got out of a long term marriage. Sissy has met a wonderful woman who is willing to explore being with a submissive sissy. NOW WHAT? Today’s topics include:The full background from Goddess Demi.What does TRY really mean?What if one person wants monogamy and the other does not?How does a submissive sissy express desires without topping from the bottom?Is it possible for a woman who says she is not naturally dominant to learn to be a Femdom?What is power exchange?What are some Femdom relationship power dynamics?When is a good time to disclose kinky desires with a new partner?What does emotional safety and vulnerability mean in the context of exploring kink?Goddess Demi, Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika all have experiences dating while kinky so while the sissy sent the question that inspired this episode, many of the comments can apply to others navigating kink and dating.Are YOU struggling with when to disclose your kink?Are you a sissy who is trying to find a partner?This episode is for you – and we want to hear about your experiences.DISCORD:  LDWDemi, LDWErika and LDWOliviaGoddess [email protected] Demi’s blog: Sensual Cock TeaseMistress [email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced MistressMistress [email protected] Erika’s blog:  Intelligent Phone Fantasy

Today we discuss some of the most common questions about female-led relationships. What is FLR? How do you help your partner to embrace being dominant? Where do you find women that might want to be in charge? As Femdoms, both hosts embrace FLR personally and give solid suggestions for submissive men that want to move from fantasy to daily reality.Topics include:Defining FLR - what it is, what it isn’t and why the myth might be attractive but unattainable.Four levels of control and what that means in a relationship.How to decide if you should bring up FLR to your vanilla partner.What to say to begin the conversation about wanting her to be in charge.How to figure out what sort of submissive you are - sexual sub, service sub, something else?You’ll hear personal stories from the private lives of Mistress Olivia and Mistress Erika as well as examples from people they coach on phone or text sessions.Remember, if you’re interested in private sessions - FLR coaching or other kinky sessions - both ladies are available for one-on-one conversations where our advice is tailored specifically to you and your needs.Get in touch:[email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone FantasyDISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErika

Despite the huge snowstorm on the east coast, spring will be here eventually and we want you to Spring into Submission with our limited-time sissy sale and feminization intensive.For years, we’ve heard from listeners who’ve explored feminization fantasies in private but felt unsure about taking the next step. You want to do something, yet private sessions feel too intense or you don’t have privacy. We understand! That’s why we’re announcing this sale.Our entire sissy and femme catalog is on sale at 10-20% off exclusively at Phone Sex Assignments.New to structured sissy training? Start with the Sissy Quiz and In-Depth Probe package. We get to know you through guided questions and a series of intimate emails. It’s low pressure but high-impact.If you’re craving accountability, our 30-day Feminization Challenge (available in both sissy and general feminization tracks) offers daily structure with an optional Trance Affirmations audios.Check out How To Masturbate Like A Girl: Pillow Humping—a technique that doubles as behavioral conditioning, ensuring you don’t revert to "boy habits" while pursuing that elusive sissygasm.One of the most colorful and fun items: Your Ultimate Sissy Slut Resume, now featuring Goddess Demi in a collaborative package where you see your skills, sluttiest achievements and more.Finally the 2025 Feminization Calendar will be 50% off and after this sale it will disappear from the store. SALE DATES:   March 1 - April 1Products with 20% discount30 Day Feminization Challenge from Ms Erika and Ms Olivia30 Day Feminization Challenge Bundle from Ms Erika and Ms Olivia30 Day Sissy Challenge from Ms Erika and Ms Olivia30 Day Sissy Challenge Bundle from Ms Erika and Ms OliviaHow To Masturbate Like A Girl: Pillow Humping by Mistresses Olivia and ErikaSissy Quiz & In-Depth Probe Package with Mistresses Erika and OliviaAudios:Sissy Trance Affirmation from Ms Erika and Ms OliviaFeminization Trance Affirmation from Ms Erika and Ms OliviaProducts 10% OffYour Ultimate Sissy Slut ResumeSpecial Pricing and Removal2025 Feminization Calendar Clearance price is 55.00.Get in [email protected]@EnchantrixEmpire.comDISCORD: LDWOlivia and LDWErika

What kind of cuckold are you? Take the Cuckold Quiz to find out what your answers say about you. Both Mistress Olivia and Mistress Erika are experienced in all kinds of cuckold fantasies, including their lived experience. In this episode, they explore everything from the Visual Voyeur with the hotwife to the Sissy Cuckold husband … and everything in between. There are 12 questions to the quiz, and they go over each question and the multiple-choice answers.They don’t tell you the 7 archetypes of cuckolds, but you might infer some of the types by the quiz questions. Both ladies know that every cuckold relationship is unique with nuances that might not apply to other couples, but there are some broad categories. When you take the cuckold quiz, you email your answers. You’ll get exciting emails from both Mistresses, and then you’ll receive your quiz results. But wait, there’s more! You’ll also receive an explicit 2 Mistress audio about your cuckold personality and why this is so hot for the woman involved with you.Imagine listening invas two women who love cuckolding get inside your head and whisper precisely what makes you tick. Then, of course, tease you with it so your cock throbs with excitement.Are you ready to explore?Here’s where you can get our Cuckold Quiz!DISCORD: LDWOlivia and [email protected] Olivia’s blog: Experienced [email protected] Erika’s blog: Intelligent Phone Fantasy