chronic people pleasing & are we just choosing to be embarrassed?

It's been a while... while I've been away I've upgraded, evolved, levelled up...  basically I've just been spending all my time healing, working through trauma, started to love myself, been learning accept my self completely. It's been an intense journey, filled with pain, the love I've always dreamed of and shedding a life and a version of myself that had to go. I cant wait to tell you everything, the chaos, the experiences, the wildness that these past few months have been. I've missed this, I hope you've missed me.. we have so much to catch up on xx find me on  instagram @theundecidedgenz and @ally_malcolm  tiktok @theundecidedgenz

why have I always been so unsuccessful on my quest for love?  Recollecting myself after coming out a repeating scenario with my mum, I've been hit with finally acknowledging abandonment wounds and how those wounds have played a role in my behaviours when searching for a relationship and why I have so desperately wanted one. Not going to lie this felt like I was going to therapy with myself as the therapist but when is it not? If you connected, enjoyed or gained something from this episode, please let me know by leaving a rating and review or sharing your thoughts @theundecidedgenz or @ally_malcolm on instagram xx you can anonymously submit anything your heart desires at ----  https://forms.gle/yHED6PKGBZez5qkK7  or click the link in @theundecidedgenz bio 

Having come out of a hard place and putting the work into bettering myself, I feel blessed to share a conversation on all things healing with SOLCHLD. SOLCHLD/Aurora is a Singer, songwriter, poet, actor, a multidisciplinary artist. She is exudes heart and soul into everything she does and you can feel it by just listening to her song ‘Cancer Moon’. Having had similar experiences growing up as Black women in Australia and journey of healing, we thought it would be perfect to just chat and reflect. You can find SOLCHLD on instagram @aurora_solchld and you can find me on instagram @theundecidedgenz

coming off of a emotional breakdown, i talk about the confusion of what to do and who I want to be, the fear of choosing different programming, when is being alone healthy and necessary. really just me talking to myself about myself. If you enjoy please let me know, leave a review or send through a message to @theundecidedgenz or @ally_malcolm stay tuned for the episode where i talk about being fat:)

listen in while I ramble about not existing, shame and are we all fake if we are being so called real? sat in a dark room with the ambient noises of my heater, I open up and get vulnerable. and because i exist off of reassurance please let me know if you enjoyed this… @theundecidedgenz on instagram listening to this episode may raise issues for you and if this is the case I encourage you to reach out to any mental health services in your country the following services are for anyone in Australia Lifeline- 13 11 14 Suicide Call Back Service- 1300 659 467

Ally updates us all on her dating life and discusses whether or not we should give people the chance to grow. She then launches into everything about hating men and proposes a step to it overcome the patriarchy.. easy right? Then to round off the episode Ally discussing some juicy people picks! For extra content follow along on instagram, tiktok and youtube @theundecidedgenz For more Ally find her @ally_malcolm

Ally discusses everything surrounding people pleasing, what are the signs you’re a people pleaser, where does it originate from and in what ways does she it effect her. She then touches on the idea that embarrassment might just be a choice or is it built in us? Following these discussions she rounds off this podcast with some juicy people pick dilemmas! For extra content follow along on instagram, tiktok and youtube @theundecidedgenz For more Ally find her @ally_malcolm

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we have a lot to talk about. hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a future episode of the undecided gen z...  anonymously submit a people pick/dilemma/secret or unpopular opinion for us to discuss on the pod: https://forms.gle/St4aMxKWkDyFXVbz8 our insta: @theundecidedgenz   ally's insta: @ally_malcolm   theo's insta: @theo.mccoy see more of us on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCp1HphuU6aiebdWP8AcdwAQ ...or tiktok: https://tiktok.com/@theundecidedgenz