How To Find Your Personal Style in 2026 (Without Generic Dated 'Rules')

In this episode, we’re throwing out the tired, generic style advice that’s been making women feel like they’re getting it “wrong” for years. You don’t need another list of “must-haves”, body shape diagrams, or colour rules – you need to start asking one powerful question: “Is this me?” Not: Does this flatter my figure? Is this the right colour for my undertone? Is this on trend for my age? Those questions are rooted in shame, judgment and external rules. This conversation is about coming back to you. In this episode, I talk about: Why generic style rules are failing you (and why they feel so flat and boring) The problem with shame-based advice like “does this flatter me?” Replacing “Is this flattering?” with “Is this me?” as your core style filter How your current wardrobe is already full of clues about your true style What your home, decor and environment reveal about what you’re genuinely drawn to How your upbringing, music, culture and memories quietly shape your taste Why we’ve never been taught to trust our instincts with style – and how to change that A simple process to start decoding your personal style from what you already own You’ll learn: How to spot the pieces you actually love versus the ones you “should” wear How to use your wardrobe, your home and even your Pinterest saves as a style mood board How to stop feeling like you’re “failing” at style and start feeling at home in your clothes Practical questions to ask yourself when you try something on so you know instantly if it’s you Try this after you listen: Go to your wardrobe and pull out the 5 things you wear on repeat Ask: What do these have in common? Shape, colour, fabric, mood? Then walk around your home and notice the same patterns in your decor Start building your outfits from those clues – not from someone else’s rulebook If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your style to strangers on the internet and start trusting your own instincts, this episode is for you.   Sign-up to Substack for more advice here https://lisagillbe.substack.com Here's my Instagram - follow Lisa here: https://www.instagram.com/lisegillbestylist/?hl=en  

Reframe how you think and feel about decluttering your wardrobe—with zero guilt, and a lot more you. In this episode of The Style Stories Podcast, I’m breaking up with the outdated rule: “If you haven’t worn it in a year, get rid of it.” That tiny sentence has caused more anxiety, shame, and decision-paralysis than almost anything else in your wardrobe. Instead, I walk you through a fresh, kinder, more intelligent way to edit your clothes so your wardrobe reflects who you are now—not a past version of you. We dive into: Why you’re not wearing so many of the clothes you own (and it’s not because you’re lazy or bad with style) The TWO key questions to ask yourself instead of “Have I worn this in a year?” How to work out whether something still feels like you today How to spot where your wardrobe is unbalanced (workwear, going-out, occasion pieces, everyday “in-between” outfits) Why chasing a perfect 10-piece capsule can actually block your personal style How to start listening to your gut so getting dressed feels easier, lighter, and more you If you’re ready to stop feeling guilty every time you open your wardrobe and start making calm, confident decisions about what stays and what goes, this episode is for you. Join the FREE Wardrobe Decluttering Challenge If you want to put this into action, you can join my free decluttering challenge inside my Facebook group. You’ll get: Simple daily prompts Support and accountability A chance to share your “keep or let go?” dilemmas And you don’t have to do it alone. Come Into My New Style Community I’ve also launched a brand-new style community on Substack (the newsletter platform)    I'm super excited about this. This is where I can share my styling tips and recommendations from the shops but the BEST part - you can chat to me directly! Plus see what other listeners are asking/struggling with/recommending. Join here. It’s your space to talk to me in real time, get unstuck, and feel supported as you evolve your style. Links: Join the free decluttering challenge (Facebook group) Join the new style community on Substack Hit play, then come and tell me in the group: What’s the first piece you’re finally ready to let go of—and why?   Work with Lisa 1:1 - https://www.lisagillbestyle.com/

Shownotes: This week, I’m diving into a fascinating (and honestly, frustrating) new survey from Age Without Limits, which asked 4,000 people about fashion and ageing. Shockingly, two-thirds said they believe you shouldn’t wear fashionable clothes past a certain age. Why do we keep putting limits on something that should bring us joy? One of the questions I hear most often from my clients is, “Am I too old for this?” — and it always breaks my heart. The real question isn’t “Am I too old?” It’s “Is this me?” In this episode, I’ll explore: The myth of being “too old” for fashion Why a great outfit has nothing to do with age and everything to do with self-expression Style muses who prove timeless fashion has no expiry date How to build a wardrobe that makes you feel like you — confident, current, and completely authentic It’s time to forget the “shoulds,” wear what feels good, and rediscover the freedom that comes from dressing for yourself. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter where I share more thoughts on this topic, plus outfit recommendations and style inspiration to help you feel amazing at every age.   Lisa's website - all style services are listed here: https://www.lisagillbestyle.com/     Book a style session with the wonderful Suzannah Stella Styling here: https://www.instagram.com/style.with.susannah.stella/   #personalstyle   

What this episode is about This week on The Style Stories Podcast, Lisa joins us fresh off last week’s Super Styling Workshop to unpack the real‑life style problems we all secretly share—and the surprisingly simple fixes that can change everything. From not knowing what goes with what, to feeling lost, stuck in a style rut, bored of your clothes, or just plain confused, Lisa breaks down exactly why these struggles happen and how to move past them. This is the episode to play when you’re staring into your wardrobe thinking “I have nothing to wear”… again. What you’ll learn Why so many of us feel stuck in the same style traps, even when we “have loads of clothes.” How to spot the difference between a wardrobe problem and a confidence problem—and why that matters. Practical decluttering tips that don’t feel like a chore, so you can actually see what you own and what works. Where to shop (and what to buy) so your next purchase actually adds value, not clutter. How to build a wardrobe that feels like you at your best, not like a confusing collection of “almost‑right” pieces. Why this episode matters Style struggles are universal, but they’re also fixable. In this episode, Lisa shares honest, relatable stories from the Super Styling Workshop plus gold‑dust solutions that you can start using immediately—no overhaul, no stress, no guilt. If you’ve ever felt bored of your clothes, overwhelmed by choice, or unsure how to put outfits together, this is a must‑listen. It’s like having a trusted stylist sit down with you and say: “Here’s exactly what to do next.” Perfect for you if… You feel stuck in a style rut and don’t know where to start. You’re tired of buying things that never get worn. You want to declutter your wardrobe without throwing half your life away. You’d like to know where to shop and what to buy so your next shopping trip actually pays off. Tune in now Grab your headphones, a coffee, and your most “meh” outfit, and press play. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clearer, calmer, more confident relationship with your clothes—and a plan for what to do next. This is The Style Stories Podcast: where style feels less like a problem and more like a conversation.   SUBSCRIBE TO LISA'S SUBSTACK HERE: https://lisagillbe.substack.com/ All Lisa's styling services can be found here: https://www.lisagillbestyle.com/ Contact Lisa - [email protected]   Please follow the podcast if you enjoy it!  

Episode Overview In this episode, Lisa tackles the #1 wardrobe frustration: How to look 'pulled together' Not knowing what to buy, how to mix pieces, or style them confidently means your wardrobe can feel uninspiring. Drawing from her work with top professionals, she shares an actionable guide to an elevated smart casual wardrobe – perfect for meetings, workshops, weekends, and London life. Tune in for tips on silhouettes, neutrals, separates, shoes, accessories, and the dark academia trend. What You'll Learn Shopping Clarity: Focus on neutrals + anchors to avoid overwhelm. Mixing Formulas: Real-life combos for work/weekends. Body-Positive Fits: Barrel/wide-legs for apple/long-waisted shapes. Trend Integration: Dark academia made wearable. Key Topics & Timestamps 00:00 - Intro: Welcome + the "nothing to wear" problem solved. 02:15 - Tip 1: Accessories Elevate Everything Layer necklaces, stack rings/bangles, oversized 70s glasses (cat-eye/aviators), structured bags, silk scarves over jumpers/tees. 07:40 - Tip 2: Master Silhouettes Modern jeans/trousers (barrel leg, high-waisted wide leg); fitted top + loose bottom for balance (e.g., cream tee + wide-legs + bangles). 12:20 - Tip 3: Neutrals for Endless Mixes Core palette: camel, charcoal, cream, navy; head-to-toe tonal chic; 70% neutrals shopping rule. 16:55 - Tip 4: Strong Separates as Anchors Must-haves: blazer, high-rise jeans, trench, wool coat; jackets create outfits (e.g., blazer + jeans + scarf). 21:10 - Tip 5: Shoes for Polish Ditch dated combos; go ballet flats, Mary Janes, faux pony loafers, sleek loafers (e.g., wide-legs + pony loafers). 24:30 - Trend: Dark Academia Miu Miu/Prada/Chanel inspo: pleated midi skirts, argyle knits, layered tanks, oversized glasses; chocolate/tweed palette. 27:15 - Outro: Start with 10-12 pieces; book workshops at lisagillbestyle.com. Call to Action Please take a minute to Subscribe & Rate 5 Stars on your platform – help us stay #1 worldwide! Read Lisa's Style Blog and Shop her Ideas here: https://www.lisagillbestyle.com/blog Follow Lisa on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lisegillbestylist/?hl=en

Setting Style Intentions for the Year A stylish wardrobe isn’t random - it’s rules + rebellion, opposites that attract. Today, Lisa shares how great dressers master both: structure from body shape/colour knowledge + the confidence to break free with your style vibe. In today's show Your 3 style words: Define your vibe (e.g., "crisp, bold, fluid") – game changer for shopping, decluttering, feeling you. Rules as guardrails: Body lines, best colours = fewer mistakes, more confidence. Rebellion with knowledge: When/how to bend trends, dress codes, play with edge. Style Intention Framework Audit 2025: What lit you up? What drained you? Narrow to 3 words that feel like home. Build 2026 around them – ruthless declutter, joyful buys. Announcements ✨ New Substack launched – deeper dives, style psychology, free resources. [Subscribe here] 🎟️ Super Styling Workshop – 5 tickets left (Jan 31st, Arding Rooms). Rules + magic live. [Grab tickets] here (use discount ARDING50 at checkout to get £50 off).   Follow Lise on Instagram here   Click timestamps to jump: 0:00 – Why opposites attract in style 3:45 – Your 3 style words exercise 12:20 – Rules that actually work 18:40 – Rebellion done right 25:15 – 2026 intention setting 32:10 – Substack + workshop news Hosted by Lisa Gillbe, London personal stylist (15+ years). New episodes weekly.   #fashionpodcast 

Style Stories Podcast: Final Episode Shownotes – 2025 Wrap-Up In this heartfelt finale for 2025, dive into the real reason behind The Style Stories podcast and why style transcends mere clothing—it's about embracing your authentic self through wardrobe choices that spark joy. The essence of this podcast The host shares the passion driving Style Stories: empowering listeners to move beyond superficial fashion advice toward a deeper connection with personal style. Style isn't just outfits; it's a reflection of who you are, amplified when you honor what you truly love instead of societal "shoulds." Ditching rigid expectations unlocks instincts that make every day feel more vibrant and true to yourself. Ditching the Myths A major bugbear? Those "one-size-fits-all" capsule wardrobes and generic style guides peddled online—they ignore our unique nuances as individuals. True style thrives on personalization, not cookie-cutter rules that leave everyone looking the same. Your Best Wardrobe Move Pay attention to what lights you up, release the pressure to dress a certain way, and trust your gut. Authenticity in your clothes elevates everything—from confidence to connections. January Style Workshop Shoutout Kick off 2026 transformed! Join the exclusive Style Workshop in January—spots are limited. Grab tickets now with code Arding50 for £50 off (exclusive to newsletter subscribers and podcast listeners). Link here or below —see you there!   https://mailchi.mp/lisagillbestyle/super-styling-workshop Payment link for tickets here - use code Arding50 to get £50 off ✨   Follow Lisa on Instagram here

(This is the reposted - CORRECT episode and it's a good'un!) In this episode, Lisa kicks things off by shouting out some of the brilliant listeners who’ve left reviews recently (thank you!) and responds to two specific requests for an episode on “elevated casual.” Those messages sparked today’s chat on how to look pulled‑together over the festive season and when you’re WFH – because how you show up at home still affects how you feel and how you work. You’ll hear loads of ideas for elevating casual looks, from jeans‑and‑a‑nice‑top (the forever hero outfit formula) to easy ways to smarten your everyday knits, denim and flats so you feel stylish but not “done.” Lisa also talks about what she’s actually wearing this Christmas, with party outfit ideas that work whether you’re heading to a house party (no heel dents in someone’s wooden floors, please), a cosy drinks night or something a bit more glam. Jeans and a nice top still absolutely earns its place, but you’ll also hear about the hottest trend for 2025/26: underwear as outerwear – think slip dresses, lingerie‑inspired pieces and “nightie but make it out‑out” styling, for those who dare.​ You can also shop the pod: use the link in the show notes to see Lisa’s curated edit and shop her recommendations directly – from elevated casual staples to party‑ready pieces that actually work in real life. Finally, Lisa shares why now is the moment to grab your ticket for the Super Styling Event: The Winning Wardrobe Formula in January. If you’ve got lots of clothes but never feel like you have outfits, feel a bit lost with your style, or don’t know where to shop and what to buy next, this one‑day event is designed to change that. You’ll walk away with your 3 style words, a clear way to declutter, practical styling tips and outfit ideas mapped out for your real life – and there are only a few spaces left, making it a brilliant Christmas present to yourself. Links mentioned: Shop the pod: Lisa’s elevated casual and party edit​ Super Styling Event: The Winning Wardrobe Formula – January tickets (limited places) Lisa's website: https://www.lisagillbestyle.com/ Lisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisegillbestylist/?hl=en   Chapters 00:00 Festive Fashion Introduction 09:04 Elevated Basics for Home and Work 09:32 Party Season Style Tips 19:52 The Importance of Fashion in Personal Identity

In this episode, Lisa kicks things off by shouting out some of the brilliant listeners who’ve left reviews recently (thank you!) and responds to two specific requests for an episode on “elevated casual.” Those messages sparked today’s chat on how to look pulled‑together over the festive season and when you’re WFH – because how you show up at home still affects how you feel and how you work. You’ll hear loads of ideas for elevating casual looks, from jeans‑and‑a‑nice‑top (the forever hero outfit formula) to easy ways to smarten your everyday knits, denim and flats so you feel stylish but not “done.” Lisa also talks about what she’s actually wearing this Christmas, with party outfit ideas that work whether you’re heading to a house party (no heel dents in someone’s wooden floors, please), a cosy drinks night or something a bit more glam. Jeans and a nice top still absolutely earns its place, but you’ll also hear about the hottest trend for 2025/26: underwear as outerwear – think slip dresses, lingerie‑inspired pieces and “nightie but make it out‑out” styling, for those who dare.​ You can also shop the pod: use the link in the show notes to see Lisa’s curated edit and shop her recommendations directly – from elevated casual staples to party‑ready pieces that actually work in real life. Finally, Lisa shares why now is the moment to grab your ticket for the Super Styling Event: The Winning Wardrobe Formula in January. If you’ve got lots of clothes but never feel like you have outfits, feel a bit lost with your style, or don’t know where to shop and what to buy next, this one‑day event is designed to change that. You’ll walk away with your 3 style words, a clear way to declutter, practical styling tips and outfit ideas mapped out for your real life – and there are only a few spaces left, making it a brilliant Christmas present to yourself. Links mentioned: Shop the pod: Lisa’s elevated casual and party edit​ Super Styling Event: The Winning Wardrobe Formula – January tickets (limited places) Lisa's website: https://www.lisagillbestyle.com/ Lisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisegillbestylist/?hl=en   Chapters 00:00 Festive Fashion Introduction 09:04 Elevated Basics for Home and Work 09:32 Party Season Style Tips 19:52 The Importance of Fashion in Personal Identity

Welcome to The Style Stories Podcast! In this episode, Lisa Gillbe (top London stylist with 15+ years' experience) breaks down the 3 Pillars of Style – the essential framework to decode your true style essence, end wardrobe confusion, and dress with effortless confidence. Plus, an exclusive rundown of the Super Styling Event returning Jan 31st – your chance to experience these pillars live. What You'll Learn: The 3 Pillars of Style Pillar 1: Clarity – Discover your personal 3 style words (what you truly love & why it works) to make every outfit decision intuitive. No more staring at unworn trends or "should-wear" ruts. Pillar 2: Colours – Unlock your seasonal colour palette via expert analysis – shop smarter, avoid costly mistakes (worth £150+ alone; full courses cost £1,530!). Pillar 3: Instinct – Bust one-size-fits-all capsule myths. Build endless outfits from what you own using practical tools for decluttering, mixing, and trusting your gut.​ Why These Pillars Transform Your Wardrobe Common struggles like overbuying, cluttered closets, and decision fatigue? They vanish when you know your pillars. You'll leave with fewer clothes, more outfits, and joy in getting dressed – just like past attendees. Super Styling Event: Live Pillars Experience (Jan 31st) Back by demand! (our last event sold out fast) join us - 10am-4pm, The Arding Rooms, Clapham Junction: Breakfast welcome + networking Direct access to Lisa decoding your 3 style words Guest stylists for personal colour analysis Live demos, fashion pop-ups, catwalk Teresa Klasener's mindset sessions Lunch + all-day tea/coffee/cake​ What you leave with: Your 3 style words, colour palette, declutter plan, + confidence tools. Rave reviews: "Girls you smashed it... excited about decluttering!" – Catherine, Project Manager "Now I know my 3 style words... feeling so excited!" – Natasha, Exec PA. £149 Early Bird ends Sun 30th – massive value! Bring a friend. Book: TICKET LINK Listen, apply the pillars, then join us live. Follow for more style stories! Hosted by: Lisa Gillbe, Lisa Gillbe Style   TICKETS to our live styling event HERE