E9 Jenni | Shame & Money: The Struggle of Wants & Needs

Have you ever struggled in believing you are of value? Julie invites us into her internal bind, vulnerably identifying her fear & shame of accepting payment from clients who purchase her services because she believes she has no value. We discover that this internalized truth was a lie she received from childhood that plagues her as an adult. Topics discussed: the impact a narcissistic parent has on a child's identify & self worth, how highly sensitive children can be overly stimulated, & eating disorders.  

Jenni shares an internal struggle of spending money on wants vs needs - She's uses the example of a rug (a want) vs a winter coat (a need). In our exploration, we learn Jenni, born in China, experienced profound loss as a young child. Find out how those childhood losses are impacting how she spends her money as an adult and the role shame has played in hiding her pain and preventing her from healing. 

Heather wants to crawl under a blanket when her husband asks her to have a conversation about saving money for emergencies. Her palms get sweaty and her chest feels tight. Heather's visceral reaction to her husbands request has her stuck and confused. Join us as we engage the possibility that her body is projecting onto money a deep, unprocessed loss from childhood. 

Two lovey ladies, Alex and Jess, share that they constantly feel tension  around money in their relationship. One of them feels overly responsible for planning for their future, while the other lives in the moment. Join us as we explore why both ladies are inherently relating to money from places of very old wounds in their childhood & how this knowledge breaks the gridlock between them and invites both to know themselves and each other more intimately. 

Jennifer, married and a new mother, realizes she is experiencing hesitancy in asking her husband to help pay for her daughter's daycare. What is the resistance about and what old wound might she be operating out of? Jennifer brings her most vulnerable, authentic self and together we uncover what is happening below the surface, exploring not only the family she grew up in, but also societal messages that can create internal conflict. 

Up until recently, Sam has avoided finances and believes "everything will all work out fine," but he's married to Diane, who fears there will never be enough. What happens when these two worlds collide? Find out on this week's episode of The Psychology of Money. 

Maggie is in early forties and newly separated (with a strong possibility of divorce). Her parents never talked about money. This pattern was carried into her marriage, as her and her husband also never talked about financial matters. Now, for the first time in her life, she's needing take the reigns of her monthly finances.

Peter and Rachael are aware how they handle money in their marriage creates distance between them. Rachael believes she is not worthy of love if she does not produce an income. Peter believes buying material possessions will fill a hole in his heart. They both seek greater understanding of what is occurring below the surface in order to grow more intimate and strengthen their marriage. 

Ben and Emily confess they have spent their entire marriage avoiding talking about money with each other. They learn why this was established early in their relationship and how to not pass down the avoidance of engaging issues around money to their children. 

Matters of money are difficult in relationships. Tamasin Thomas combines the world of psychology and money to illuminate what's happening below the surface and explore why fights about money are rarely about money.