The Woman Of Your Dreams: You Won't See Her Coming - SFTS 137

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===What happens when someone asks you to envision the "woman of your dreams"? Well, you likely have a mental picture almost immediately. She's exactly your type and/or what society projects as the "perfect woman". But here's the thing: when the  woman who really "does it for you" shows up in real life, she might not be who you envisioned. What's up with that? Are you settling? The surprising answer is actually the most normal, natural one...and nearly everyone can relate to it. And by the way, the same principle has massive ramifications on how we understand women's stereotypical "preferences" for the man they say they want. Can we all get over ourselves, stop over-analyzing and let authentic attraction happen? Visit the newly refreshed site and take the quick Reality Check Survey to get clear on where you really are and what to do about it next:  https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Scotte Burns (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/scotte) My first-time guest Scotte Burns and his wife have spent nearly a decade and more than 100,000 miles on Harleys asking one question: What is love...especially in a language like English which infamously only has one word to cover the whole concept? They got many answers along the way, but which one changed Scotte the most?  I mean, what makes a man spend ten years and a hundred thousand miles asking what love is? What were some of the most memorable or transformative encounters they had on the road? What did men they talked to say about love? How did it differ from what women told them? What do most people get wrong about love? And how about marriage on the road? Ten years in close quarters with his wife. How did that work? Scotte says love is not merely an emotion, but something more fundamental. What does he mean by that? And what does it actually mean to love yourself first? (i.e. not a mere platitude) At what point did his search for the meaning of love become a deeper inquiry into consciousness itself? And here's a good question: How does love really relate to masculinity and femininity? Why do men struggle more with articulating what love is? How are love and attraction actually related (contrary to conventional wisdom), and is attraction is a prerequisite for love or merely a distraction? Catch up on all the previous episodes you've missed on masculinity and being better with women: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===Oh man, it's the most frustrating thing ever, isn't it? Getting banished to the dreaded "Just Be Friends" Zone is bad enough. But what if she is spending time with you, but at the same time it's crystal clear that things are going nowhere with her? Either way, we're talking about a woman who doesn't have a romantic interest in you. So what's the difference that makes the difference as to whether you get hit with the "JBF Talk" or just don't get talked to at all? The truth will surprise you. And wait...all of this sucks, so how can we make sure to never have to sort through any of this madness with women ever again? Take the quick Reality Check Survey to get clear on where you really are and what to do about it next:  https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Robbie Kramer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kramer) My returning guest Robbie Kramer joins me for this wide-ranging episode on the journey from PUA-era men's coach to husband and father. What's more, Robbie is a "girl dad"...just a month and a half in. So what, if anything, changes in us as men once we get married, and especially when we become a parent? And what are the specific mind shifts and wake-up calls that happen when we become "girl dads"? So-called conventional wisdom says that the more we "play the field" as single men, the harder it is to commit to one woman long-term and the family life that goes with it. Find out why both Robbie and I believe the opposite is true. So was Robbie ready to be a dad? What happened for both he and I when our respective first-born kiddos came along? What's the unexpected (and by far the most irrefutable) argument for choosing a hot wife? What keeps a good marriage and parenthood from feeling like a trap? What kind of true freedom and therefore real autonomy unexpectedly comes with being a family man? What are the marketing shenanigans that some former PUAs are up to nowadays...now that they've actually become husbands and dads themselves? (Hint: No, you're not a "simp" for wanting to be a father and actually live with your own kids.) When it comes down to it, the healthiest and most powerful evolution from player to parent is to consciously and intentionally create the life you REALLY want with the partner you REALLY want (yes, including physical attractiveness) and raise your kids the way you REALLY want. The problem, is most men either don't realize these options are available, or else they just fail to deploy. Get the free report "Flip The Switch: 5 Things You Can Do Right Now To Get Better With Women" when you go to: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===Have you been hit with the term "Divorce Glow-Up" yet? Basically, a bunch of divorced women are going around on social media bragging (or is that perpetrating) how they're hotter, healthier and even happier after a divorce. Sure, women are going to flex some "girl power" with each other once in a while. But is there a deeper and more troubling message here? And how does it matter to us as men? Take the quick Reality Check Survey to get clear on where you really are and what to do about it next:  https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Dr. Kyle Hulsebus (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/40over40) My first-time guest Dr. Kyle Hulsebus is a health and human potential specialist, author, and third-generation chiropractor. All of that has focused his attention on a theory that should be of extreme interest for any man who wants to be at his best when relating to women. Indeed, his 40over40 longevity series claims sex after 40 is a health signal. Kyle's work redefines health as an internal mind/body state where purpose, relationships, work, and physical well-being function together. He argues that most midlife decline starts with a loss of direction, long before a lab test catches it. Although there is definitely both a spiritual and a metaphysical side to it all, Kyle's approach is 100% practical. No scripts, no supplements pitch, just what actually keeps a body working past 40.Tip #20 out of his 40 is "make love". Kyle explains it's less about sex for sex's sake and more about connection, honest communication, and what happens in the body when people stop hiding their desires. He raises a real question: are people talking openly with their partners about desire, or carrying it privately, or unpacking it anonymously somewhere else entirely? So, why is making love after 40 is part of your health, not an optional extra? Why are so many over 40 are in silent health decline? (hint: it's not testosterone) Why is it some people can connect almost immediately, but others can go years with no connection at all? Get the FREE special report "Flip The Switch: 5 Ways To Get Better With Women Right Now" when you subscribe to my daily newsletter at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===For millennia men and women have been trying to figure each other out. But the ironic part is both genders think they're easy to figure out. What's actually going on there? Well, that's the part nobody ever stops to think about...until now. As it turns out, when we stop thinking of the other gender as from some other planet, or even as some other species, that's when the picture becomes crystal clear. The ramifications of figuring this out are massive for not only how attractive you are to women, but how successful your relationships with them will be (and vice-versa, of course!) Take the Reality Check Inventory quiz for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Mike Basevic (https://mountaintoppodcat.com/nolimits) Mike Basevic had it all, and then lost it all. As I read his story, I realized it sounded a lot like mine. That's no coincidence, as it happens to a lot of men. We go through lives holding it all together and looking good on the outside, but inside we're falling apart. How do we "man up" in those circumstances and get real? In our culture, it sounds like an oxymoron to even think like that. But high performing men in particular are the most likely ones to look like they have it all, but be empty inside...privately battling anxiety, stress, overwhelm and yes...imposter syndrome. Could this be why so many "well put together" men aren't finding the right woman? According to Mike, "Everything you want in life is on the other side of your resistance." So why is it that the "country club set" are so often the most miserable people inside? What is the real reason most men won't even seek help when they're at a low point? How does being "perfectly imperfect" apply to us as men in a good way? There are basically two camps of people in Western culture. Which one you're in will greatly affect how much you struggle in private. Most men refuse to forgive themselves for past failures, whether that's in their career, their family, or even with women. Why is that? One thing is for sure: Unless and until your authentic side is ready to show up and show out, you will continue to struggle with women. Get your hands on the new FREE report "Flip The Switch: 5 Ways To Get Better With Women Immediately" when you go to https://mountainotppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===We've been told not to give attractive women straight answers, and to avoid looking "needy" at all costs. But what's the collateral damage when we completely retreat from telling a woman our real intentions? Too many of us as men are sick and tired of getting lukewarm answers from women who we're never sure are really interested in us. But here's the good news: Your leadership as a man is the difference that makes the difference. As always in any social situation, especially with women, reading the room matters. Tune in to this brief episode for practical steps, backed by a solid example from the TV show Heroes. Take the Reality Check Inventory quiz for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Regan Archibald (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ageless) None of us are getting any younger, although the truth is we don't necessarily have to look or feel old, either. It seems obvious when said out loud that everyone--including us as men--would love to be attractive to women for as many years as we can, and feel great physically for as long as possible too. My first-time guest is Dr. Regan Archibald, who is the founder of the very successful Ageless Future practice. Whatever age you are now, it's never too early--or too late--to set this life-changing info into motion. To kick the show off, we dispel some of the myths men have about looking good as we mature, including that study that claims women find men attractive up to age 55. Next, we talk about the fascinating concept of identifying as someone who is younger, and how to do that authentically instead of looking weird or pathetic. How much more timely is this topic now that the promise of expanding the human lifespan is becoming reality? How true is it that many guys let themselves get (and feel) "old" because it gives them an excuse? What are the subtle ways the company we keep affects our long-term health? What is the interesting complaint about men that we hear most often from women 55 and older? One of Regan's quotes is, "Many ambitious professionals unknowingly trade decades of long term health for a few years of professional success." How can we achieve better balance in our lives in that regard? Finally, what if you're a guy who's showing signs of slowing down and looking and/or feeling old? What can you do right now to turn that ship around? Get the free report "Flip The Switch: 5 Things You Can Do Right Now To Get Better With Women" when you visit: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.